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Been in this game since March of 2025, so about 1.5 years. The first 9 months or so I was applying to 15-20 jobs per week at least, closer to 30-40 when I was unemployed

Ive been underemployed since last July, working part time in hospitality. Not my chosen career field at all. I had to take a 3 month break from applying because I was so burnt out. Came back in April but still can’t muster up the energy to apply to the same number of jobs I used to. I’m averaging 2-4 per week now.

Part of it is that I’m just so tired from this all. I can’t put in the effort I used to. But also, it feels like there’s less quality jobs than there was this time last year. I’m hard pressed to find more than 5 or 6 jobs a week that I’m qualified for and pay enough that I could afford all my bills (55k, so not a super high bar). A lot of these jobs are either part time, pay $18-$20 an hour, or require qualifications I don’t have.

How are you all doing?

I graduated May of 2025 and started searching March of 2025. I work in arts admin and have a stacked resume but getting a job has been hopeless and the places I interned have all suffered from hiring freezes and lay offs due to federal budget cuts so it’s a dead end there.

I work in food service now and I’m absolutely miserable. I’m working 9-12 hours on my feet, I’m in constant pain, and there is nothing meaningful about the job to me. I want to escape so badly but can’t find any way out. I haven’t even gotten and interview since February and the last three interviews I’ve had I’ve been asked why I’m looking for a “career change” and when i try and explain it’s not a career change and that I’ve been working food service because I have no choice (I put it more eloquently, obviously) I can see exactly what is running through their minds…”this guy hasn’t been able to get a job in a year and a half so there must be something wrong with him”

I don’t know what to do anymore and any advice is appreciated. I’m thinking about grad school but don’t know what difference that would make

I’m in NYC, so basically the kingdom of cruising and sex parties. I’ve been on a fitness journey and am starting to feel more confident in my body, and want to try cruising. The problem is…I’m absolutely terrified. I am 5’9 and 100% cis passing, so I don’t think most guys would assume or guess that I’m trans if they were perusing me. So I think…how am I supposed to tell a guy? When? What happens if he rejects me? I just cringe thinking about it. Would love some insight from guys who have more experience with this

Surgery planned for next summer. Right now I live alone but am considering moving in with roommates because I’ve discovered living alone is really not good for my mental health. My surgeon is in the same city as me and my plan was to have my caretaker (family member) come and stay with me. I’m unsure how this would work with roommates. Have any of you guys did it? Did you stay at a hotel for a bit? How long?

I’m 10 weeks on a GLP 1 and I’ve lost 18.5 pounds so far, which is about 7.8% of my body weight. Logically I know that’s good progress, but honestly I haven’t really noticed a difference in how I look. My jeans fit a little bit looser maybe, but I tried on some pants a size down and they still don’t fit. And I don’t think I really look any different. I almost feel like somehow my scale has broken and I haven’t actually lost any weight, lol.

When did you all notice a difference? I know number of pounds is probably not the best metric since everyone is a different height. So, I guess, what percent of your body weight did you lose before you saw a noticeable difference?

Yes, I know, this is a long shot. I currently live in Sunset Park and pay $1200 a month for a studio. I’ve lived here for about a year and a half and am thinking about moving. This is why:

1. almost all of my friends live on the UWS, West Harlem, or above. It takes me 90 minutes to get to them which makes me feel extremely disconnected

2. I’m extremely far away from most entertainment options. I’m an AMC member but the closest theatre takes me almost an hour to get to. MSG? An hour away. Broadway theaters? An hour away. There’s some stuff in downtown Brooklyn but it feels like almost everything is a day trip and it makes it hard for me to get out of the house when going to see a movie means I’ll be gone for 4-5 hours. Everything is a full day event.

3. the transit is terrible. My closest stop is a 15 minute walk and the train headways are terrible. On a good day it takes me 25-30 minutes before I’m even on the express train to manhattan.

So, yeah, I’m sort of at my wits end. I work in downtown Manhattan so my commute to work would be the same either way. I’m not in a rush to move as my lease is month to month. I’m mostly trying to figure out if working with a broker is worth it as I know a lot of these cheaper units are off market. Has anyone had a good experience with this?

Hi all. I’ve lived in Sunset Park for about a year now (was in queens before that) but was majorly broke for a while. Now that I’m a bit more financially stable I want to try out some new restaurants. Does anyone have any good recs?

I’m considering applying for next spring. I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in theatre in May of 2025. I originally planned to minor in arts admin but my school froze the program right before I began my freshman year. Anyway, I do have experience in arts admin specifically in arts education. I had an internship at a theatre education org and also worked as a contractor for two summers at the same company. I also worked with a theatre for social change organization as a volunteer, and I was a teaching assistant my senior year. All of this said I’ve had a very difficult time finding a job. I work in hospitality right now and am considering getting my masters part time and this program seems perfect for that. With that said I want to make sure this program will actually help me as it’s obviously a pretty big commitment time wise and financially.

Oh, and no benefits offered besides PTO. No 401k, no health insurance, nothing. Degree and 4-6 years of experience required located in person in New York City. wtf are we doing.

First of all, networking is not just something you do for the sake of doing it (in most cases). Your network if your mentors, former coworkers, former bosses, former teachers, former classmates etc. people talk about networking like it’s just something you do as easily as you apply to a job and that’s not realistic. Everyone has a network, but if yours doesn’t include anyone that knows of any open positions they can help you get youre shit out of luck. I’m so fucking tired of LinkedIn “influencers” saying “just network, that’s how I got my job” meanwhile their entire network is CEOs, recruiters, and director level employees. Like no shit of course they were able to help you.

If “networking” were that easy everyone would be doing it. The reality is that it’s just luck. It’s another word for nepotism. Know the right people and ask at the right time.

EDIT: just going to clarify that I understand the networking is necessary. I’m not trying to claim that it’s not. However, networking is something that you do slowly over years. It’s not something you go out and do instantaneously whenever you need a job. Furthermore, it’s possible to have a strong network and still struggle to find a job because unless someone in your network just happens to be hiring (or know someone who is hiring) for a job you’re qualified for at the exact right moment then your network it’s not going to help much. The point I’m trying to make is I’m tired of “just network” being presented as if it’s a simple, easy, quick way to get a job when it’s not. If it were, everyone would be getting a job that way.

I applied to a job a week ago which I would consider to basically be my dream job. It’s an admin job in the department that my major was in. I have TA experience and am a published researcher (among other related experience) so would consider myself a pretty strong candidate for the job. I know that things move slow in academia and graduation is also happening so I’m wondering how long I should wait to follow up if at all? Glassdoor reviews I read say it was one week and two weeks before HR reached out to schedule an interview, respectively. Their graduation is next Wednesday so wondering if I should follow up the Friday after if I haven’t heard by then, but would love to know everyone’s thoughts.

I checked my own report and it’s extremely inaccurate. Here are the issues:

- most recent employer is listed incorrectly and my job title is inaccurate (they outsource through a third party HR so I think this is why)

- two of my jobs aren’t listed. I think it’s because they were contract roles.

- I had an unpaid internship which isn’t listed either

Combined with these issues there are also other jobs listed on my record which I don’t have on my resume as they are irrelevant (part time jobs during high school and college). I’m afraid they will think I am completely lying about my work history, but I’m not.

Is this something I should bring up to recruiters? If so, when? Do I just not say anything? I’m afraid bringing it up too early will look suspicious but I’m afraid if I don’t say anything they’ll reject me without an explanation. I do have references that can prove I worked at these places, plus a W2 for the most recent job (I can’t show anything for the contract jobs as I was not provided any forms by my employer and reported it as self employment income)

I’m 23 and honestly sick of the hookup culture and the apps. But it feels like most matchmaking services and dating events are targeted to people 30+. I would prefer to date someone around my age (23-28). Anyone know of anything that is targeted to a younger crowd?

I am low income (salary under 30k) but do not receive public assistance. Wondering what low cost vet care and vaccines are available to me. I have one cat and she is due for vaccines in June. I adopted her a little less than a year ago and hit financial hardship this year, and I’m not sure I can afford a standard visit without taking on debt

I don’t really have much dysphoria anymore as my transition is mostly complete other than phallo which I’m getting next year. But this is the one thing tbh at still really bothers me.

I don’t know if this is a thing about all (most) men or just the ones I attract. But I notice in my relationships I feel like I’m always way more emotionally needy than they are. Like I want to do the holidays, the romantic gestures, have conversations about our feelings and all that stuff. They don’t, and I end up feeling like I’m begging for attention. Then I get told I’m taking things too personally or being dramatic.

Then I feel awful because I feel like I’m the dramatic, emotional, “woman” in the relationship. Obviously I understand that’s just a stereotype but I can’t help but feel that way. I can’t help but wonder if I were a cis man would things be different? Would I be less emotional? I feel like, even though I pas fully and am transitioned, there’s always this unspoken dynamic that I’ll never be rid of.

I’ve thought about T4T but I’ve tried it before and I had a whole host of other issues with that relationship and honestly, it’s hard for me to find other trans guys that are my type as I’m attracted exclusively to guys who are taller than me and very masculine. Which, not that trans guys can’t be, but it’s not as easy to find

I am very pro limiting car use and building better transit and micro mobility options. I’m not asking this to start a fight or use it as a “got ya” just genuinely curious.

I feel like a lot of people on this sub speak as if it’s cyclists and pedestrians vs drivers, specifically when it comes to safety. I just don’t really understand that thought process. In all of my time living in NYC I have never been run over by a car. I have, however, been hit by cyclists speeding through red lights and even riding on sidewalks. I’m constantly dodging electric scooters and mopeds.

I see people on this sub calling for lower speed limits for cars while also getting upset about lower speed limits for bikes. Why? Shouldn’t lower speed limits be enforced for all types of vehicles? And why do so many seem to be against mandating insurance and/or registration for cyclists? Obviously they aren’t as dangerous as cars but you can still get seriously injured by a bike going 30 mph especially when young children are involved.

I’m about 6 weeks on a GLP 1 and have lost about 12 pounds so far. My goal is to lose 70-80 pounds total and even then my BMI will be about 25 so needless to say 12 pounds doesn’t make a big dent. I haven’t seen any physical changes yet but…

Over the past couple weeks I’ve noticed my jeans fitting looser, and that I can buckle my belt two extra step now. So, obviously I’ve lost some inches on tn wait even if I can’t notice it. Anyway, I haven’t seen any this other pair of jeans I ordered but they don’t fit correctly (correct size, but they run small). Whe I bought them I couldn’t even get the pants to button. Today I was able to button and zip. Yay! I was still squeezing into them lol, but it was good to see some tangible evidence that this is working

I’ve been on the med for a little under three months but it’s something I’ve noticed. I lose a few pounds, then gain them back, then gain 2-3 more pounds, then one day I step on the scale and I’ve dropped 5-7 pounds. Then I steadily lose another pound or so and the cycle repeats.

For example:

I weighed in at 231.5. Then 231. Then 230. Then 233. Then bam, I dropped down to 227.5.

I’ve noticed this cycle repeat itself three times now since starting. Does this happen to anyone else? Anyone know why?

I live in Sunset Park and work in the UWS. The commute is awful. My walk to the train alone is 15 minutes, then I have 1-2 transfers depending on the route I take. Leaving early enough to account for delays my commute ends up being about 90 minutes door to door. Honestly I’m sick of it.

I want to move but it’s hard to justify. Right now I live alone and pay well, WELL below market value. in order to significantly cut my commute I’d have to live with roommates and probably still increase my rent by $200-$300. Not sure if it’s worth it but I’m honestly torn here