Can grieving cause behavioral problems to intensify? How to help?

My stepdaughter just went back to another state to live with her mother for the school year. Our boy bear is distraught, panting at her bedroom door and whining . Its been 4 days and he won't let up. He has also fallen back into his demand barking, destroying things and resource guarding behaviors he had been getting better at. Just yesterday I walked by him and he bit me for seemingly no reason. (I said "not nice" and sent him to his place for 5 min but maybe I might of pressed a boundary I wast aware of) I let him into her room a couple times and hed pace around sniffing but ultimately leave again and keep looking through the house for her. Is there a way I could aid him while he recovers? I tried giving him one of her dirty blankets but he started eating it. Should I work extra on training the resource guarding or just let it go for a week or so? He also started burying all his toys and has never done so before, would it be mean to unearth them ? (Btw its 68 in here the panting is anxiety) thank you in advance I know this is kinda a book.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 8 hours ago
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Upgraded inclosure

I moved my lepord slug from their 15 litter tub (3rd picture) to a 20 gallon (1st two) hopefully he will be happier. There is a network of pvc under the substrate beginning beneath the skull. (Will he eat the strawberry plant?)

u/joshlikesbettafish — 1 day ago
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Anything wrong here?

I found an invasive lepord slug in my backyard maybe 20 min ago. I know im supposed to euth them but I cant kill anything, I threw this together verry fast after 5 min of reaserch. I plan to do alot more in the morning. Is there anything wrong with this overnight enclosure that could be immediately dangerous in the next coming days before he can get a bigger bin? Thank you, I dont know if this is the right thing to do but I cant bear to harm the little guy.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 9 days ago

Found dog tag

Found outside the middle school. Both numbers on the back are inactive, if this is your tag and you want me to mail it to you please reach out. If you lost your dog i can tell you what street it dropped off at

u/joshlikesbettafish — 10 days ago

Would yall trust this for a 10 gallon ?

Partner and I are disagreeing. I say its too wobbly, they think its sturdy enough. Need an experts input on if ittl hold 100 pounds well enough. Im 150 and it holds me but will wobble if hit with enoughforce. The 10 gallon tank is full of aquatic isopods.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 11 days ago

Eating mud? Vet shrugged

My boy loves to eat anything that fits in his mouth. He especially likes to take bites out of the ground while running and eat chunks of soil. Today he was digging in a puddle and dunking his head in the muddy water to eat mouthfuls of the mud at the bottom. I asked his vet about this previously and they shrugged and said "eeehhh I mean its not...dangerous, but im not really sure if its okay. I havent heard of that one" im not socially fluent but what does this mean? Discourage it, only allow small amounts occasionally, let him? Im to nervous to call back and ask for clarification.

Thank you for any input.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 17 days ago

Please share your Home made dog treat recipes

Im trying to get my dog to gain weight, greek yogurt , blueberry and pumpkin smoothies spread on a lick mat as well as beef, oat, and shredded veggie meatballs have been a go to. He also likes when i make him bowls out of of ice with vegtables frozen into it .What dog treat recipes do you all use?

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u/joshlikesbettafish — 26 days ago
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Met life pet insurance

My 2 year old 150 pound neutered rottweiler has displayed all the following symptoms sence i got him (wobble walk similar to my childhood dog with hip dysplasia, bunny hop running, muscle mass in shoulders decreased muscle tone in back legs , hip pain) this will be his first apointment with health insurance. Should i mention his symptoms in his first apointment or the second one so it isnt considered pre existing and his treatment is not covered? He is going beacuse his front elbow is bigger than the other front elbow and some of his toes are upside down, and he has no dewclaw last owner said he was always like that.

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u/joshlikesbettafish — 29 days ago

New to being a step parent, im so confused .

My partner recently got custody of our 8 year old daughter and is gone 36hours back for 12 where he sleeps and leaves for work again. They are unreachable by phone during this time to ask for advice. I dont know a thing about children but Im doing all the parenting shenanigans, throwing fake parties, doing crafts, taking her to all the parks she wants to go and am so confused Ive been checking out parenting books from the library but they are all so conflicting. And none prepare me for things like her refusing to listen to me as a parent beacuse she thinks im a kid too. (Ive tried to explain 18 years is when you are an adult) Or her hitting and refusing when I ask her to stop doing somthing dangerous . Anger spells where when i try to confort her it makes it worse. anyone know any good books or websites to learn about how to gently parent a child who is not gentle and cant communicate well ? Or just general good information on how to help them regulate emotions? She wont tell me what has caused her to become upset, she just starts acting out seemingly out of nowhere. Im sorry if this is me being ridiculous I just feel way over my head and I dont want to cause a delay in her growth and learning beacuse i am uneducated. And im super worried beacuse she probably feels scared being with someone she dosnt know in a new place . Just in typing this she has come in here 6 times to throw somthing or kick me but won't say what's upsetting her or accept any solutions I offer to help her feel better . I feel like im failing her as an awful caregiver, I cant get her to eat anything but grilled cheese either, or get her to shower even with bribery or a compromise, this is borderline neglect and im trying my hardest. Im trying to access the rest of the wiki pages of this group now but im so confused. Sorry for the book, I just need some sort of guidance on how to help her. Please remove if not allowed.

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u/joshlikesbettafish — 29 days ago

He keeps eating the tape mesure :(

Im trying to mesure him for his muzzle and have taken over 100 videos trying to pause and get a good image. Ive tried desensitizing him for the past 3 days with treats but now he is just more hyper to see it and makes it more difficult. For those of you with dogs who think everything is a snack, how did you distract them to get mesurments? I tried a lick mat and he resource gaurded it so I couldn't approach his face. Also will his scavange gaurd make him unable to sniff things?

u/joshlikesbettafish — 1 month ago

A better way to communicate pronouns?

I use he/they pronouns , and my partner was aware of this when we began dating 2 years ago. I also have autism so its extremely difficult to word what i want to say and have it come out as i mean it to be interpreted. My partner has gotten less and less supportive and keeps making comments that make me feel gross in my body. It really makes me sad when they misgender me or uses my legal name when we are around other people. Even people we are passing in the grocery store that we will never see again, they refer to me as she Or my family. Ive told them that its hurtful and they continue to brush it off/ make excuses. How would you approach the subject that they are making you upset in this situation? Saying "im not a she and it really hurts that you see me that way. please stop pointing it out " is what I said last time . Im not trying to be rude or talk bad about them, im just unsure how to approach the subject in a way that dosnt sound like an attack but let's them know im serious. If it was a stranger id let it go but this person means alot to me and it matters to me what they say.

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u/joshlikesbettafish — 1 month ago

Grow lights?

My plants have been experiencing alot of etiolation and lower leaf loss, especially the succulents . Ive been using the same 15 watt grow lights the past 10 years and the one finaly burnt out. What grow light do you guys recommend/ use?

Im having a hard time doing all the comparisons when one measures in lumens, the next ppf, and then the heat of the red and blue wavelengths. Im just looking for something useful for succulent plants as a hobby not a career or anything crazy, preferably energy efficient. Covers about a 4 feet wide range , My budget is capped at roughly 150. Any recommendations or advice is appreciated

u/joshlikesbettafish — 2 months ago

Cave birds?

I found this nest while cave diving , it was maybe 500 ft from the entrance crack under some stalagmites. The nest was mainly composed of moss and cobwebs, and there was no light that far back. Found in Pennsylvania. I understand if id is not possible at this age im just curious. (I left them be of corse)

u/joshlikesbettafish — 2 months ago

Feeder cultures trouble with daphnia

In terms of food cultures for my puffers the snails, blackworms, isopods, scuds, and shrimp are doing well but I just cant get the daphnia to reproduce. I have 4 cultures going that I feed with the greenwater culture. I do regular water changes . One has a bubler without a stone, 3 dont. They live but their population won't grow. And tips on getting the population to grow? I keep them in slightly hard water with a few plants and no substrate. The cultures are each 1-3 gallons. Any advice is appreciated.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 2 months ago

Big snoof nose to neak measuring

My boy has a iguana like neak with extra floppy bits at the top. All collars i put on him slide down even when tight due to his neak being bigger near his head and getting smaller as it goes down. When im trying to mesure for a standard size its not adding up being that his nose to the base of his ear is 9.75 and his nose to neak flaps is 3.25 in. Should I count his neak folds when sizing or go to where i can feel his trachea and tuck the neak folds into the basket or stop measuring where his neak begins to slope down from his jaw? Green is where his neak skin starts green is where I can feel muscle . Thank you in advance.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 2 months ago

Pa- aquatic larvae

These aquatic larvae appeared in my scud culture last month and seem to be rapidly multiplying. Im trying to get an id to see if i can feed them to my pufferfish. Thank you for any suggestions. I will likley comment more photos beacuse I do not know how to add a video and a photograph.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 3 months ago

Best way clean your slow feeders?

Ive been using hot water, a sponge, dawn and a bottle brush but it seems there is always little bits in the corners . How do you all clean your slow feeders/lickmats? Thank you in advance for any awnsers.

u/joshlikesbettafish — 3 months ago

Rust spot disease?

One of my little dudes has some new darkening on the sides of his exoskeliton along his gills but the gills themselves look normal. Before I move forward with treatment can anyone confirm, is this rust spot disease? All the reaserch points to it i just want to be sure. Thank you in advance

u/joshlikesbettafish — 3 months ago