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La mayoría de agresiones homófobas son de hombres (normalmente hetero) hacia otros hombres. Sin embargo, no significa que las mujeres sean realmente tan tolerantes como muchas veces se cree.

Simplemente las mujeres no pelean ni agreden tanto, son menos violentas, pero he conocido a mujeres que han defendido a hombres acusados de agresiones homófobas. Mujeres que tienen novios homófobos y que los encubren. También he visto casos de madres que ningunean a sus hijos varones cuando estos no demuestran ser lo bastante heterosexuales.

Y si nos vamos a un nivel internacional, flipas (mas allá de Occidente me refiero...). En paises musulmanes, africanos, Europa del este, en gran parte de Asia... las mujeres suelen despreciar a los gays tanto como los hombres hetero.

Y finalmente, decir que muchas feministas, incluyendo feministas no heterosexuales, usan lenguaje homofobo para avergonzar a los hombres, y además tienden a creer que los gays tienen aun menos derecho a ser misoginos que los hetero, como si los gays les debieran algo...

Pues eso, que culpar a los hombres hetero de toda la homofobia que hay en este mundo es un error. A veces las mujeres les dan coraje a sus novios e hijos a ser así, pueden ser complices.

Me intriga saber como es Huelva, Andalucía. He visto fotos y me parece bastante guay, de lo más bonito que hay en España, pero claro no pregunto por las vistas sino por otras cosas como: precios (en comparación con otras provincias de España), temperatura/clima, calidad de vida, costumbres, tradiciones...

He viajado muy poco en mi vida, solo he estado en Granada, Alicante, Valencia, Barcelona y varias zonas de Murcia (de esa provincia soy). De todos modos ahora mismo la pregunta no es por viajar a corto plazo sino por curiosidad.

I used to use "warlock" as an online nickname when I was a teen. I was fascinated with witchcraft, demons, zodiac, and related stuff. Nowadays (I'm 28) I regret. I'm not religious but, I'm spiritual, and I think magic itself is an evil thing. Because it is a powerful thing, and humans are easily corrupted by power. To the point I don't even enjoy the fantasy genre anymore.

I've noticed plenty of LGBT people are into magic, witchcraft, high fantasy, etc. Despite I'm not part of that tendency anymore I admit I was. So, I was wondering why... Why are we so attracted to magical powers stuff?

I can't judge all gays because I don't know all of them, but my experience in the gay scene is very negative. I'm a bisexual man (28 years old) and all the gays I've met have behaved like shit with me. Some of them objetified me to the point of stalking (this was mostly men above 40 years old, sometimed guys that are barely 20...), while the rest either ignored me in all senses or mocked me for not being attractive to their eyes.

I'm not an attractive man. I'm ridiculously average looking, very masculine presenting though. Some gays were attracted to me, but they became very mean and demanding so I had to leave. Other gays (the "fabulous ones") find me hideous. But I'm wondering... can't we be just friends? I apparently can't find gays that tolerate me as a friend.

I don't think they love me just because they fuck with me. Love and sex can be mutually exclusive. And I've only met the type of gays that just fuck with men, but don't love men at all. I'd even say they actually hate men, because they treat them very badly.

I know there can be different gays in other places, but this is my experience. I feel lonely.

I want yaoi animes that display the typical tropes from harem and ecchi. I'm personally very into harem genre with male lead (being School Days and Overflow's visual novels my favourite lore), but all tend to be very heterosexual. I don't have a problem with that, in fact I enjoy it, but I was wondering if there's some guy-on-guy.

According to wikipedia, harems with same-sex pairing are less common, but they exist, though I only see yuri cases.

I dislike how corny yaoi romance tend to be, because it's surreal and very influenced by female gaze. I want more fanservice, love polygon (most of yaoi are very focused on monogamous couples), and jokes.

Is there something like that?

When I (28M) was a kid I used to read a lot, my reading skills were precocious and I was very curious about a lot of things. At age 9 my IQ got tested and the results were: 111 (above average).

However, I finished high school with very mediocre grades. I've never been in college, I had to choose vocational training instead and I basically failed most of the post-obligatory courses I tried. And, I feel very miserable these days because I'm more focused about my social reputation than I am with any kind of intellectual curiosity.

Not to mention my psychiatrists have been trying a lot of meds on me. From antipsychotics to antidepressants. I think they are destroying my brain. I can't focus at all, I feel very lost and dumb.

contexto: soy un hombre de 28 años, bisexual (aunque en la practica soy gay, porque nunca he tenido novia), con aficiones tipicamente masculinas, sin pluma. No tengo amigos que sean heterosexuales, los pocos con los que puedo ser yo mismo son gays o bisexuales como yo.

Aunque no tengo pluma, he notado que los hombres hetero se echan para atras cuando notan que rompo sus limites emocionales. Es como que entre ellos si pueden hacer lo que normalmente se denomina "bromance" pero cuando viene uno que no es hetero no hay la misma confianza. Yo soy muy cercano y me gusta ayudar a los demas, y es como que eso les da a entender que quiero rollo con ellos. Es mi impresion, no lo tengo claro por eso pregunto.

Se supone que las cosas estan cambiando y que ahora los hombres son mas intimos entre ellos y mas abiertos entre ellos pero, eh, a los gays y a los bisexuales los mandan con las mujeres. Yo no quiero estar con mujeres, echo en falta amigos de mi mismo sexo porque no los tengo desde que era adolescente.

i (28M) am taking lorazepam since 2020 due to my psychiatrist. I do have ASD level 1 and cluster B mixed personality disorder. Even though I suffer from anxiety and ocasional insomnia, I think lorazepam is harming me. I've noticed I eat way much more since I started lorazepam and it's driving me insane because I have body image issues.

i (28M) am taking lorazepam since 2020 due to my psychiatrist. I do have ASD level 1 and cluster B mixed personality disorder. Even though I suffer from anxiety and ocasional insomnia, I think lorazepam is harming me. I've noticed I eat way much more since I started lorazepam and it's driving me insane because I have body image issues.

El feminismo no puede ganarse el apoyo universal porque niega la existencia de la misandria por parte de las mujeres. Para el feminismo, solo existe la misoginia por parte de hombres y mujeres, pero niega que tanto mujeres como hombres puedan manifestar misandria. De hecho, no ven que a lo largo de la historia la misandria ha existido.

La división de roles y de poderes en base al sexo, no implica ni que todos los hombres hayan sido privilegiados (ni mucho menos). Más bien se puede decir que la gran mayoría de hombres han sido siempre inferiores a los hombres de alto estatus. El feminismo retrata al hombre como un ser que siempre ha sido "venerado" y "elogiado" cuando no es cierto. Los hombres solo eran elogiados si cumplían con las expectativas sociales. Y vendrán las feministas a decir que esas expectativas fueron fundadas por hombres cuando no es cierto, negar que las mujeres han sido escuchadas es anecdótico, la realidad es que las mujeres siempre contribuyeron a la idea de "que es un hombre de verdad y que no".

Vamos que lo que ahora llamamos masculinidad tóxica existe por culpa de ambos sexos, no del "patriarcado". No niego el machismo ni la violencia hacia las mujeres pero, el feminismo fracasará mientras ellas hablen como si todo fuese culpa de los hombres. Porque no es de sentido común.

A ver, me explico. Noto que el discurso de figuras neofascistas como Ivan Rico Olivares (Nucleo Nacional) es un poco "buenista" respecto a los homosexuales, él dijo en una entrevista que considera ser homosexual como el resultado de una enfermedad de la madre (según él, la madre trastorna los cromosomas del hijo, haciendo que sea "hombre por fuera pero mujer por dentro"). Aunque añadió que hay que respetar al homosexual como persona.

En su discurso vi problemas típicos: solo se refería a los gays (las lesbianas y bisexuales a lo mejor no existen para él...). Y por supuesto, su explicación del origen de la homosexualidad es falsa 100%.

Dicho esto, percibo que grupos como Nucleo Nacional son mucho más tranquilos acerca del colectivo LGBT de lo que son hacia las minorías raciales, y que eso es muy diferente a como los antiguos neonazis se manifestaban contra la homosexualidad.

Aun así, mi intuición me dice que, como ya son partido político, buscan votos de homosexuales para ganar poder e influencia pero que con el tiempo (en caso de poder hacerlo) reducirán derechos a montones. Más o menos como Vox, o mucho peor. ¿que opinais?

P.D: soy parte del colectivo (hombre bi), y llevo tiempo pendiente de figuras como Isabel Peralta, Pugilato y compañía.

I (28M) do believe I can't use my "above average intelligence" to become succesful. It is something I find impossible, and not interesting at all anyway. I don't want to be "somebody" in this life, I hate status quo. What I want is to overcome my lethargy. I'm lethargic 24/7, I feel dead from the outside and tormented from the inside.

That's why I feel better not taking care of my health. I'm self destructive by nature and I tend to think about drugs a lot, but I feel like I can't try because I don't want to ruin my family. I'm currently taking a lot of meds due to an allergic reaction. I'd take the meds with no control just to see what happens. I'm simply sick of taking care of myself. I don't even want to have a long lifespam, I'd rather dying after reaching 50 or 40. Because I don't think raising a family is something I want, I fear living too much years.

I know I can't promote drugs here and I won't try drugs by now, I guess the sentiment appears when I'm reaching the bottom. But the conclusion is that I don't want to be "the intellectual guy" anymore and I want to feel alive, even if it kills me.

Estoy escribiendo esto desde mi portatil, ya no uso el smartphone hasta que no me sea imprescindible. Pasé la tarjeta SIM de mi smartphone a un móvil de teclas que tenía por mi casa guardado. ¿El motivo? Mi salud mental.

Los medios sociales me estaban arruinando la cabeza: tiktok, instagram, X, facebook, whatsapp, etc....

Sobre todo en lo que respecta a la sobreestimulación y la tendencia a la cosificación, las redes me han jodido pero bien. Sigo usando internet en el portatil, por lo demás he vuelto a vivir como en los 2000. Llevo así 2 meses y sumando, de puta madre me siento. Ojala no tener que volver a usar un smartphone jamás.

Aun así, hay quien me dice que soy un exagerado y que no hacía falta tomar una decisión tan radical.

I (28M) am definitely gay. However I feel like I'm not like the average gay because I'm not into men physically. I mean I value hygiene, but that's all. Otherwise, I've felt very into guys that are not conventionally attractive at all. I used to mistake anxiety with attraction when it comes to muscular men in the gym. I'm not attracted to muscular men at all, that's not my preference. I simply feel like they're better than me because muscular men are usually praised by society and common standars.

What I actually love is when a guy is moody, sensitive, intense, reflective, and yeah kinda emo. I love that stuff, and I guess that's because I want a man that understand me. I'm not emo, but I was on my teens. It's a part of me I can't get out of me.

I can't feel attraction that easily if a man is attractive but doesn't have a vibe I find interesting. Does it mean I'm demisexual? I'm asking because I don't relate to the men I've met on gay spaces, they say I have a terrible taste on men...

no todos en España escuchan regueton o flamenco pop, lo sé. Ya sé que hay gente que escucha música mas alternativa y tal, pero por alguna razón siempre he sentido que mis gustos musicales son rechazados por los demás. No es por sonar rollo intenso ni "emo", pero es la realidad.

Vivo en Murcia y estoy rodeado de gente que no tolera música melancólica ni lo más mínimo. Ya no es que solo escuchen regueton, no es eso. Conozco gente que por ejemplo gusta de rock y metal pero eso se resume a bandas como Queen y Green Day (me gusta Green Day pero no me apasionan), es decir, que pegan o pegaron fuerte en la radio y que tienden a tener canciones mas positivas. Yo soy muy de música oscurilla y alternativa, por poner ejemplo mis grupos favoritos son Cold y Never Easy.

Puedo tolerar lo urbano y fiestero cuando el contexto lo requiere (ej: en una fiesta) pero en casa me gusta oir lo que a mi me va: voces melancólicas, medios tiempos, guitarras electricas, batería, ese rollo. La gente tiene muy mal concepto de mí, que "si no me reciclo, que si soy un llorón, que si transmito negatividad, que tengo que follar muy poco con ese estilo" etc... Yo que sé, me harta un poco.

Mi pregunta es: ¿debería forzarme a escuchar lo que escuchan los demás y dejar lo contracultural para que la gente pueda sentirse más comoda conmigo?

Me parecería muy dificil hacerlo así pero de verdad que estaría dispuesto.

I (28M) I was born in 1998. Here's how I'd rate (0 to 10) my life divided on years.

-From 1998 to 2002: I can't rate because I have some random memories, but I wasn't aware for the most part. Some issues were running on my family (like my parents divorcing) but I was too young to care...

-2003: This was the year I started to retain memories. I was a precocious kid, very good at reading and speaking. Everything was funny to me back then: Kindergarten, Cartoon Network and Fox Kids binges, playing most of the time. My life wasn't perfect but I was very happy. 8/10

-2004: This year was even better, it was the year I started to collect DVD movies and I remember watching a lot of cool movies at the cinema (Catwoman, Scooby Doo 2, Van Helsing, Spiderman 2...). I started elementary school back then but what was relevant for me is the amount of cool movies and TV shows I binged. 9/10

-2005 to 2006: Worse than before, I started to be a victim of bullying at school, and was the years I started to go to therapy. I received my asperger diagnosis back then. One of my cousins died in a motorbike accident which affected all my family. My siblings were born in 2005, and my stepdad was very aggresive to me. Bleak years, TV and movies were the best part. 4/10

-2007: I attended a new school. Change was for the better because my new classmates were very nice. Was a funny year, but not perfect because I had to stand my mom and my stepdad arguing in my home. I loved going to school... 6/10

-2008 to 2010: Terrible years. I got overweight because of risperdal. My mom had to sue my stepdad in 2008. My grades droppes in 2009, and I stopped feeling at the new school in 2010. 2/10

-2011 and 2012: Well, I was a 13-14 teen. It was the cool thing, I had the first crush in my life, I and I developed an interest in alternative music. I also got in a better shape. Bad things were: my grades. 5/10

-2013 to 2018: Awful. From 2013 to 2014 I got great grades, but I had to deal with bullying again. I stopped going out for a long period due to social anxiety. In 2016 I lost all my friends forever. 1/10

-2019: Good year because I stopped taking meds so I got very skinny, which made me feel more confortable with my body. I overcame my social anxiety and I could hang out again. But I was unemployed and not studying. 6/10

-2020 to 2023: Terrifying. I got institutionalized in 2020 due to a mental breakdown. Also in 2021 and 2022. I was violent and I got arrested many times. I regret nowadays but I guess it was my mental illness' fault. 2023 was the year I had to recover slowly. 1/10

-2024: Was a bit sad, but better than before. I was fully recovered and I could study again, I started a telecommunications vocational training course, I met cool classmates and everything felt a bit more chill. 6/10

-2025: I left vocational training because I got my first job ever (CNA). Which made me feel very useful and I earned money. Felt like a very stable year. 7/10.

Sorry for making this post so long xddd. If you wanna try it yourself I swear I'll read you all :)

I (28M) used to be very energetic when I was a young boy. As a kid I was very enthusiastic, very curious and open about everything. I lived at full and I can't complain about my childhood. It was during my teens when I became lethargic forever. Always tired, with dead eyes, always giving sad vibes... I've noticed many people on the spectrum is lethargic too, but in my case it started on my teens, otherwise I was a very lively before my teens.

That's why I refuse to believe it's due to autism. Do you relate?

I'm autistic. I experienced brief psychotic disorder in 2020 and got institutionalized. I've been three times in mental institutions. I have had sleep issues since I was a boy...

Since 2020 to these days I've been experiencing moments where I loose my grip. I turn angry because of my internal brainstorm, and I start to act aggressive. I start to think obsessively and I express by violence. I don't know if that can be called a mood swing, a personality disturbance... however, I've come to the conclusion that it could be psychosis. I'm not psychotic 24/7 but almost everyday I experience a moment where I became another person, and it tends to last less than 30 minutes.

I'm also prone to verbal suicidal thoughts, and I have a lot of self-doubt. Ex: I experience a lot of love toward god, and when I stop feeling "euphoric" I became a total atheist because everything sucks for me....

P.S: I'm not taking the pills since 2023 because I don't want to get chubby

Mirad soy un hombre de 28 años, bisexual aunque solo he tenido relaciones con hombres. Siempre ligo por internet, nunca en la calle ya que soy un poco raro, me gusta conocer gente poco sociable. La cosa es que ya no aguanto a los tios (gays) de mi edad porque tienen estandares muy altos, así que prefiero comocer hombres mayores que yo. Hoy he conocido a un tio que tiene 46, es bombero y es gay. Yo le he gustado y es reciproco.

Vive en un municipio que está al lado del mío (a unos km) y digamos que estoy dispuesto a conocerle aunque solo sea por hacer lo mas basico (no quiero dar detalles). Lo que pueda surgir mas tarde estaría por ver...

Pero reconozco que soy muy impulsivo y que en el pasado me he visto en situaciones turbias. Entonces, ¿el conocer a gente por internet lo desaconsejáis? ¿la diferencia de edad es preocupante?

A mi personalmente lo que mas me preocupa es lo que pueda pensar mi familia si se enteran (ellos nisiquiera saben que soy parte del colectivo)