u/l_london

I am really worried about my baby’s social development. She is 4 months old and hates to be held. This is not a new development, it is something I have noticed since she came out of the sleepy newborn stage. She will fuss and cry until you put her down (not all the time but she does have her limit on how long you can hold her). She is much more content it seems doing her own thing on the floor or in her crib. She also is terrible at making eye contact when you hold her. She will actively look away.

She smiles and laughs frequently and I think makes eye contact when you speak to her while she is in her crib and she is really into her physical milestones - maybe a bit advanced physically for her age. She makes a variety of sounds, however rarely in response to when she’s spoken to.

My baby was born full term at the 83rd percentile and was very slow to gain weight. Fast forward to now at 4 months old she has now “found her curve” (since she turned 2 months - she has been on her curve now for in total 2 months) but she is now at the 8th percentile and we are fortifying her feeds as recommended by her pediatrician. I’m terrified something is wrong however doctor is following “wait and see” approach since she is now on her curve and generally meeting milestones.

Curious if this could be “catch down growth”? Any parents been in a similar situation and saw the other side?

I am really worried about my baby’s social development. She is 4 months old and hates to be held. This is not a new development, it is something I have noticed since she came out of the sleepy newborn stage. She will fuss and cry until you put her down. She is much more content it seems doing her own thing on the floor or in her crib. She also is terrible at making eye contact when you hold her. She will actively look away.

She smiles and laughs frequently and I think makes eye contact when you speak to her while she is in her crib and she is really into her physical milestones - maybe a bit advanced physically for her age. She makes a variety of sounds, however rarely in response to when she’s spoken to.

I am looking for stories from other parents who have experienced something similar with their children.

My baby is mostly quiet when content, and I try to get her to coo / babble with me but she doesn’t seem interested. She does seem to do it when she’s mad / upset though. Is this normal?

My baby was cooing a bunch at 2.5 months and has now gone quiet. She just turned 3 months. She can already roll back to tummy, brings hands to mouth, can reach and grasp things and socially smiles. She still makes noises but no more back and forth conversations. I try all day to get her to have conversations with me with no luck.

I know skills come in waves as they learn new skills, but I am worried that the cooing has disappeared. Looking for stories / guidance on when other babies stopped / started cooing.

My baby was born full term but was not gaining weight appropriately since birth and kept dropping percentiles. We are fortifying to 26 cals, and he gained weight appropriately his last 2 appointments but I am a nervous wreck for what this means for his future and why he isn’t taking in large volumes like other babies. He is currently 4 months old and is meeting milestones for his age.

Not looking for medical advice as we are working with a pediatrician, just looking for success stories from parents of babies who were the same situation.

I know this sounds silly but I feel like my baby doesn’t care if my husband or I (or anyone) is there. She is 12 weeks old and has been this way since she was a newborn. Perfectly ok being alone in her crib and she also gets mad if you hold her too long. Can tolerate it if you’re walking around with her but has her limits. If I want to hold her for long periods I have to be sure to have a soother or else she gets mad also will not do skin to skin unless she is asleep.