u/littletato96

Hello, I’m married for two year. I have known my husband for almost 4 years. With this said that’s also how long I’ve known my in-laws. It’s been a very rocky relationship especially after I became a mom. I’ve also realized a lot after becoming a mom. I want to move on from all these things but I am struggling a lot. I am hurt. I am upset. I am disappointed. I am frustrated.

- while engaged they scolded me for not correcting my friend over her “rude” behavior towards a family member during my bridal shower. My friend claims she was never rude. Either way I got scolded for not correcting her and having her apologize after.

- three days before my wedding they sat me down and told me they had fears I was taking their son away and they would never see him. A very wrong assumption of me since I consistently tell my husband to see them since married. A very wrong view of me and it hurt a lot they saw me like that.

- they treat me like I’m a orphan and it’s all about their side of the family. They forget we have to divide time with my family.

- after the baby was born I really thought my MIL would be more present and supportive. Instead she was absent. Never checked up on me. Never contacted me to see how the baby was. To this day she doesn’t contact me. If she want to know how I am or the baby she contacts my husband.

-first Mother’s Day she was very dismissive towards it being my first and made it all about her. She didn’t tell me happy Mother’s Day or anything. My husband told me she was probably having a hard day. I don’t understand why I deserve that.

- with the previous two bullet I have realized she doesn’t want a relationship with me. I really wished she wanted one because I do/did. My husband recently told me that I should stop trying because we clash a lot and maybe she doesn’t want a relationship with me.

With that said I know I can’t change or control anyone. As a Christian I am struggling a lot with everything that has happened (there’s a lot I didn’t mentioned). I’m holding on to these things and I want to stop. They hurt a lot and every time something happens everything I’ve been through comes back. It’s holding me down. It’s constantly disappointing me. It’s constantly upsetting me and sometimes it just really makes me cry that I ended up in these situations. I want to just be free and move on and not care. I don’t know how. I don’t know how to not let these things affect me. I’m in therapy but I don’t think it’s really helping me. I’m still stuck and just hurt.

I grew up with American girl and am excited to share that experience with my daughter. Would the bitty baby be an appropriate baby to give to my daughter for the first time or would a full soft baby plushie be better?

I had planned to give her a baby doll for her first birthday but a lot of people are telling me she’s too young and won’t pay attention to it. Should I wait for Christmas when she’s 18 months?

My daughter is turning 1 in two months and I really want to get her a baby doll. When would be the right time? For her birthday or when she’s older like for Christmas?

My first color reading device and I’m in love with the screen. It now makes me want to update my kindle paperwhite to the colorsoft as well 😩 but at the same time I don’t really read anything with pictures 😩

But anyway does anyone recommend a case? Amazons own cases seem a bit hefty on the price. Is it even worth it or is there something better and more budget friendly?

I had a rough postpartum after my emergency C-section. It’s took me almost 10 months to start feeling like myself and wanting to be intimate. Most of the time during my postpartum I had waves of feeling gross about myself, low self esteem, hated my body, felt uncomfortable to sexual touch and sometimes even flirty touch, was mentally drained and emotionally unstable as in sensitive and waves of sadness. I was so glad that in March my period came and around April I was starting to feel much better and myself. I told my husband I would love to this time plan our child next year and he immediately said no because I didn’t desire him for a long time and he didn’t want to go through that.

End of April I found out he had been watching and masturbating to porn right next to me as I slept for a month. He even tried to lie to me telling me he wasn’t doing annoying. This completely broke me and has hurt me more than I thought. I can’t even look at him the same. One min he’s telling me he loves me the next min he’s doing something behind my back and will lie to my face about it.

This completely shattered me and hurt me and it led to a huge argument. How can he argue that I have a choice to desire him when I’m going through postpartum and then he also does this to me. How can I choose to desire him when I feel so betrayed. I was hoping May would be the start of us getting better and finally being husband and wife but now I feel like I have more work to do to heal from his porn addiction. I feel like I’m never going to be able to have another child now and honestly I feel like he’s being completely unfair to me and disrespectful towards what I went through and what he put me through now.

I had a rough postpartum after my emergency C-section. It’s took me almost 10 months to start feeling like myself and wanting to be intimate. Most of the time during my postpartum I had waves of feeling gross about myself, low self esteem, hated my body, felt uncomfortable to sexual touch and sometimes even flirty touch, was mentally drained and emotionally unstable as in sensitive and waves of sadness. I was so glad that in March my period came and around April I was starting to feel much better and myself. I told my husband I would love to this time plan our child next year and he immediately said no because I didn’t desire him for a long time and he didn’t want to go through that.

End of April I found out he had been watching and masturbating to porn right next to me as I slept for a month. He even tried to lie to me telling me he wasn’t doing annoying. This completely broke me and has hurt me more than I thought. I can’t even look at him the same. One min he’s telling me he loves me the next min he’s doing something behind my back and will lie to my face about it.

This completely shattered me and hurt me and it led to a huge argument. How can he argue that I have a choice to desire him when I’m going through postpartum and then he also does this to me. How can I choose to desire him when I feel so betrayed. I was hoping May would be the start of us getting better and finally being husband and wife but now I feel like I have more work to do to heal from his porn addiction. I feel like I’m never going to be able to have another child now and honestly I feel like he’s being completely unfair to me and disrespectful towards what I went through and what he put me through now.

Is it worth it? I want it for work not taking and to do lists, reading, and Bible studying. I have the kindle paper white for reading.

Just want to vent because I feel a bit hurt by it but I also know she is not my mom. It’s my first Mother’s Day and my mil did not say happy Mother’s Day to me when we went to see her until we left. Not only that she didn’t even give me a card or flowers. Nothing. We gave her flowers and two gifts. Only reason this stands out to me is because on our way out we bumped into my husbands aunt and she brought me flowers and actually acknowledged it was my first Mother’s Day. I’ve had a hunch she doesn’t like me fully and this just adds to it.

Just want to vent because I feel a bit hurt by it but I also know she is not my mom. It’s my first Mother’s Day and my mil did not say happy Mother’s Day to me when we went to see her until we left. Not only that she didn’t even give me a card or flowers. Nothing. We gave her flowers and two gifts. Only reason this stands out to me is because on our way out we bumped into my husbands aunt and she brought me flowers and actually acknowledged it was my first Mother’s Day.

I’ve had a hunch she doesn’t like me fully and this just adds to it.

My baby is 10 months and weighs around 20-22 pounds. Since she was born I have used Essembly diaper and Nora diapers however once she couldn’t fit in Essembly size 1 diapers I fully switched to Nora’s since they were cheaper. What bothers me is that Nora’s diapers are mostly polyester and that doesn’t sit well with me. What I love about Essembly is that they are fully cotton. I am thinking of fully transitioning to size 2 Essembly diapers but I’m not sure if it’s worth it due to her age. I want to start potty training her before she’s 18 months also.

My question is if i still have a lot of time left to fully take advantage of the size 2 diapers.

It’s my first Mother’s Day and I was looking forward to it so much. I had planned us matching outfits for pictures. And I wanted to just fully spend time with my husband and daughter. Something I always imagined myself doing growing up. My husband told me he had made dinner reservations for us as a surprise and wanted to give me the Sunday just to me since it’s my first time. We had plans to attend church then take pictures just like I wanted and have dinner together. We planned to celebrate with my mom first with breakfast Saturday since she lives two hours away and on the evening stop by my MIL to take her to dinner. It sounded great but I knew we had some hurdles to get through first.

I told my mom first knowing there was a 50/50 chance the conversation would go good or completely bad. To be honest I was very anxious and nervous to tell her. I was worried it would ruin my Mother’s Day and it definitely did. She got extremely angry of the idea of celebrating Mother’s Day with her Saturday morning. She wanted Sunday for her. She spoke extremely bad about me. Told me what a horrible daughter I am. Made me the villain. It was a huge fight. I come to find out when my husband told my in-laws they also fought with him. Although I don’t know what was said all he said to me was that it was a very heated fight. I’ve seen how his parents are and man can they get extremely angry.

In addition to that last week I found out my husband had been doing something behind my back for a month. Something that would truly hurt me so I also have that going on.

I just don’t know how to feel anymore. I honestly feel like everything is ruined. All this stress and chaos has created tension between my husband and I as well. At this point I don’t really feel like doing anything because of all the stress I have. I feel like some bad person for choosing myself. Yet alone I don’t understand how each side wants us to fully devote Mother’s Day to them knowing I’m also a mom and we have to be fair.

This extremely sucks.

Update: turns out both my mom and mil are throwing the same fit. Both told us that if we don’t plan to celebrate with them then they don’t want to see us. My MIL went a little farther by even crying. Of course my husband is more of the type to want to make everyone happy so he has completely changed everything. Plan is now to give me all Saturday and Sunday for dinner (this is okay with me). Plan is after church to stop by my mil for a quick visit and then go to my mom’s for the same thing. I’m not sure how he will make this possible because my mom lives two hours away and I know her very well. This will not be good enough for her as well. She wants to be completely pampered. She will talk bad about it and complain later to others about me. I’m not going to get in the way of his plans. He can communicate with my mom and hopefully she is more respectful with him because if I update her I know she will give me another fight. To be honest I don’t want to communicate with her because of everything she told me. I also know she doesn’t want to communicate with me either based on her actions (we have a family group chat where i sent pictures of the baby which she didn’t respond to but always has before). Unfortunately in my heart celebrating with her even the slightest doesn’t feel right and authentic. Im broken and hurt inside. Im just doing it to just get her off my back and fortunately it will be short.

It’s my first Mother’s Day and I was looking forward to it so much. I had planned us matching outfits for pictures. And I wanted to just fully spend time with my husband and daughter. Something I always imagined myself doing growing up. My husband told me he had made dinner reservations for us as a surprise and wanted to give me the Sunday just to me since it’s my first time. We had plans to attend church then take pictures just like I wanted and have dinner together. We planned to celebrate with my mom first with breakfast Saturday since she lives two hours away and on the evening stop by my MIL to take her to dinner. It sounded great but I knew we had some hurdles to get through first.

I told my mom first knowing there was a 50/50 chance the conversation would go good or completely bad. To be honest I was very anxious and nervous to tell her. I was worried it would ruin my Mother’s Day and it definitely did. She got extremely angry of the idea of celebrating Mother’s Day with her Saturday morning. She wanted Sunday for her. She spoke extremely bad about me. Told me what a horrible daughter I am. Made me the villain. It was a huge fight. I come to find out when my husband told my in-laws they also fought with him. Although I don’t know what was said all he said to me was that it was a very heated fight. I’ve seen how his parents are and man can they get extremely angry.

In addition to that last week I found out my husband had been doing something behind my back for a month. Something that would truly hurt me so I also have that going on.

I just don’t know how to feel anymore. I honestly feel like everything is ruined. All this stress and chaos has created tension between my husband and I as well. At this point I don’t really feel like doing anything because of all the stress I have. I feel like some bad person for choosing myself. Yet alone I don’t understand how each side wants us to fully devote Mother’s Day to them knowing I’m also a mom and we have to be fair.

This extremely sucks.

The hooga facial wand was brought to my attention by my husband. He has offered to get it for me and also the Hooga HG300 red light panel (for when I work, read, or get ready for bed). We are newbies in this but have heard and red how much red light is recommended. The wand caught my attention for its portability and size. Would both be recommended or can the wand be skipped out on?

Is the brand Wolly a nontoxic brand? Are there other nontoxic brands in Amazon where I can buy activewear.

Looking at their activewear specially for Pilates. Any recommendation of other brands as well that are in Amazon?

It has come to my attention that cotton produce bags excise. I am wondering how well they work with produce such as lettuce, veggies, fruits etc to store in the fridge. Does anyone have any idea how to store everything in a nontoxic way and at the same time make it last?

Hello, my husband and I want to purchase a camera but we are unsure which best fits our needs. We have had a few cameras before but this will be our first Leica. Our main camera we use is a Fuji Xt5. We also use a Sony A7v for video. We want a Leica for daily use and travel. Mainly for landscape and family pictures. We’re not professional photographers but personally I would want something that I can use to develop my skills more. We want something that will stay with us for a long time and last us for many years.

Thank you :)