u/marsii_8

Hello,

I’m an 18F daughter of immigrant Indian parents who have financially and socially restricted me.

They will not let me get a job that’s 30-60mins away, they have saved up $0 for tuition which lead to me rejecting the top third university in Canada, and will not pay for driving lessons.

What they have saved up for is my little brothers soccer game and money for my fathers alcoholism. They’re also renovating a house that’s located in their home country.

I will be starting post secondary in the fall of 2026 and need a summer job or a job in general. I recently got a serving interview at restaurant from a place that’s an hour bus ride and my mother made me reject it even though I have no plans for the summer and have 3k to my name. I have a $3,000 Entrance Award Scholarships for my first year but either way I need money.

I wouldn’t say I’m the perfect daughter but I get good grades, got into all universities I applied to, actually want to work, volunteer in the community, take care of my little brother, etc. I want a life and am trying to clearly build towards one.

I feel like i’ve been infantilized and socially isolated for me to move on and experience life as a young adult with actual needs. I don’t expect the to pay for my tuition, we’re taking a loan but I have to pay back that loan so it’s up to me.

Another recent example is when I was getting my nails done for the first time. My cousin drove me and her phone blew up and was yelled at for not going inside the nail tech shop with me. In case I had questions or concerns and didn’t know what to do.

I don’t know psychologically what my parents and my dynamic is or how to break out of it. They never let go as far as go for a friends birthday party in elementary but will let my brother go.

How do I become more independent? There’s obviously more examples but I need money and they make me feel bad about job applications - “Fine apply/accept it then”.

Hello,

I’m an 18F and my parents have financially and socially restricted me.

They will not let me get a job that’s 30-60mins away, they have saved up $0 for tuition which lead to me rejecting the top third university in Canada, and will not pay for driving lessons.

What they have saved up for is my little brothers soccer game and money for my fathers alcoholism. They’re also renovating a house that’s located in their home country.

I will be starting post secondary in the fall of 2026 and need a summer job or a job in general. I recently got a serving interview at restaurant from a place that’s an hour bus ride and my mother made me reject it even though I have no plans for the summer and have 3k to my name. I have a $3,000 Entrance Award Scholarships for my first year but either way I need money.

I feel like i’ve been infantilized and socially isolated for me to move on and experience life as a young adult with actual needs. I don’t expect the to pay for my tuition, we’re taking a loan but I have to pay back that loan so it’s up to me.

Another recent example is when I was getting my nails done for the first time. My cousin drove me and her phone blew up and was yelled at for not going inside the nail tech shop with me. In case I had questions or concerns and didn’t know what to do.

I don’t know psychologically what my parents and my dynamic is or how to break out of it. How do I become more independent? There’s obviously more examples but I need money and they make me feel bad about job applications - “Fine apply/accept it then”. She doesn’t want me serving at restaurants when I have had restaurant industry experience. Instead a nursing home serving position…she works t a nursing home. Hello? I don’t want to work with you mom.

Hi all!

I’m a senior HS student and will be finished school mid June and am wondering if there are any restaurant adjacent jobs in Vancouver I could apply to?

I have worked at BP as a hostess and dont mind serving. I am super desperate as I need to save up money for post secondary, my parents will help as much as they can but I need a job. I don’t want my mom working a second job.

While I am stating restaurant, I don’t mind working in any other field other than the food industry. It’s hard for youth and i’m desperate.

Please let me know!

Hi i’m trying to accept my seat at Douglas for the 2026-2027 academic year. My program is an Arts Associates and i’m a domestic student for context.

The Douglas FAQ website states that it’s $350 but i’m not sure if that applies for my program and just want to maw sure before I send any money.

I’m wondering if anyone knows and if there are any future first year students who have already done so?

I have already contact Student Enrolment Services about this but they don’t always give a direct response. Someone’s please let me know! I might just have to call them. I want to start looking at my classes that I want to register for in advance and get my time ticket.

I’m from Canada and I see so many people worried about their GPA in like gr9-10 so I was just wondering if y’all’s GPA starts as soon as you start HS?

I assume it might be different per states curriculum but in Canada ours start in gr11-12 and we don’t have GPAs, we just average our grades out.

I got into the top third university in Canada, University of British Columbia, with an 87% average - what would by GPA be?

It just seems like it’s a lot more stricter in America or I could be totally wrong lol I’m just curious!

Also don’t y’all have to write college essays? I only wrote a “college is essay” (it’s called a Personal Profile) for my UBC application.

I’m starting as a volunteer at a small law firm very soon. I’m super nervous and i’ve never really volunteered for anything like this.

For context, i’m a HS senior and most of my work will be administrative - mainly invoices, photocopy, closing files, etc. Super easy, though the concept of invoices stress me out.

I’ll only be there for less than 2hrs and will bring a notebook for notes if needed. I’m very eager to learn but don’t want to seem stupid

Any advice would be nice - How was your first time working/volunteering at a law firm? What would you have done differently?

My main goal is to ask more questions and not let myself figure things out on my own.

I’m starting as a volunteer at a small law firm very soon. I’m super nervous and i’ve never really volunteered for anything like this.

For context, i’m a HS senior and most of my work will be administrative - mainly invoices, photocopy, closing files, etc. Super easy, though the concept of invoices stress me out.

I’ll only be there for less than 2hrs and will bring a notebook for notes if needed. I’m very eager to learn but don’t want to seem stupid

Any advice would be nice - How was your first time working/volunteering at a law firm? What would you have done differently?

My main goal is to ask more questions and not let myself figure things out on my own.

I start as a volunteer at a law firm soon and was told that other than basic admin tasks, I would mainly be doing invoicing.

I am a HS senior and am going to be honest, I’m not good at math. Sure I can keep track of numbers and assuring that numbers will not be messed up but still i’m nervous.

They will teach me how to do everything which is great but I just wanted to ask if invoicing is hard? I’m truly all new to this and am going to be watching youtube videos to learn more!

Will I have to do actual calculations lol or just make sure the numbers given aren’t messed up and are documented as needed?

I’m not getting paid for this it’s really about learning and I do want to learn and not mess up. While it’s a small firm it’s a big step for me.

Also wanted any advise to if it’s a smart move to bring a notebook to write all the things I learn about while volunteering. Any other advice for a new law firm volunteer?

Hi all!

I am a high school senior who recently got an interview scheduled at a Law Boutique. The position is for volunteering. The firm is a family law firm. I had a cousin who worked there before.

The interview is tomorrow. I am wondering what questions to look out for? I’m really awkward at interviews and i’ve never been in this type of setting! Also, what should I wear? I’m a girl for reference. I have dress pants.

The lawyer of the firm will conducting the conversation, I was informed through the call that it was a discussion about my availability but I don’t think they’d just call me in to ask for my availability if it’s not an interview.

I did a dual credit legal admin course at a university, restaurant work experience, and president of my social justice club.

I have always wanted to work in law and think this is a huge jump to it considering i’m soon to graduate. I’d love to help my community, gain experience, and learn the round about me of a legal environment. I’m also going to be doing a Political Science undergrad in the fall.

Hi all!

I am a high school senior who recently got an interview scheduled at a Law Boutique. The position is for volunteering. The firm is a family law firm. I had a cousin who worked there before.

The interview is tomorrow. I am wondering what questions to look out for? I’m really awkward at interviews and i’ve never been in this type of setting! Also, what should I wear? I’m a girl for reference. I have dress pants.

The lawyer of the firm will conducting the conversation, I was informed through the call that it was a discussion about my availability but I don’t think they’d just call me in to ask for my availability if it’s not an interview.

I did a dual credit legal admin course at a university, restaurant work experience, and president of my social justice club.

I have always wanted to work in law and think this is a huge jump to it considering i’m soon to graduate. I’d love to help my community, gain experience, and learn the round about me of a legal environment. I’m also going to be doing a Political Science undergrad in the fall.

I’m high school senior in BC who rejected my UBCV Arts offer to attend and accept my Douglas Arts Associates program.

Well I didn’t actually press decline because I was too sad to let it go that I just let it go past the deadline and let it expire lol.

My plan is to transfer to UBC after my two years associates. My long term plan is Law School at Allard!

I feel like I made the right decision but am sad that I can’t attend UBCV right now. Financially my family and I can’t afford it right now and the commute is 1.30hrs away.

How was peoples experience as a transfer student? My counsellor said the BC transfer system/UBC are easier on transfer applicants.

When I start at Douglas what range should my GPA be at or what should my end goal be?

I just don’t want UBC to be my “the one that got away” situation where I rejected the offer thinking i’d get into UBC as a transfer and then not get in.

I’m too scared to decline my UBCV offer and the deadline is tomorrow. If I don’t decline it myself will it automatically decline for me?

I got accepted into the top third university in Canada - UBCV - as a first gen daughter of immigrant parents.

In Canada we have something called an A Registered Education Savings Plan (RESP). This is is an interest free Canadian tax-sheltered investment account designed to save for post-secondary education, including tuition, rent, and books. Payed for my the gov and parents, you can get up to 25k+ since you’re parents can start it between 1-18 years old from when you’re born.

My parents have saved up nothing. They say to not worry because we’ll get a loan. I don’t think they realize I have to pay the loan through my pay checks for the rest of my life. Especially since I want to become a lawyer.

I told my mother today I have to decline my offer today because the deadline is May 1st and she told me to think about it again. If I really want to go I should.

The commute is 1hr but my father refuses to get me driving lessons, I’ve had my Learners for 1 year now without ever being in the front seat of a car.

I have $0 in education funds.

They make me feel bad for blaming them. I’m going to have to decline my offer today but at the cost of my hard work to even get to the top.

Should I even be blaming them? Or are they shitty parents for not saving up? They refuse to set ho an RESP for my little brother either, I think they’re just too lazy.

I’m going to have to go to a college, work hard again for a good GPA, and then apply to UBCV again.

I got accepted into the top third university in Canada - UBCV - as a first gen daughter of immigrant parents.

In Canada we have something called an A Registered Education Savings Plan (RESP). This is is an interest free Canadian tax-sheltered investment account designed to save for post-secondary education, including tuition, rent, and books. Payed for my the gov and parents, you can get up to 25k+ since you’re parents can start it between 1-18 years old from when you’re born.

My parents have saved up nothing. They say to not worry because we’ll get a loan. I don’t think they realize I have to pay the loan through my pay checks for the rest of my life. Especially since I want to become a lawyer.

I told my mother today I have to decline my offer today because the deadline is May 1st and she told me to think about it again. If I really want to go I should.

The commute is 1hr but my father refuses to get me driving lessons, I’ve had my Learners for 1 year now without ever being in the front seat of a car.

I have $0 in education funds.

They make me feel bad for blaming them. I’m going to have to decline my offer today but at the cost of my hard work to even get to the top.

Should I even be blaming them? Or are they shitty parents for not saving up? They refuse to set ho an RESP for my little brother either, I think they’re just too lazy.

I’m going to have to go to a college, work hard again for a good GPA, and then apply to UBCV again.

Hi all!

I am a senior HS student graduating this June.

I got into UBCV but it’s too far of a commute and expensive. I'm going into Political Science (Arts degree).

But i’m failing Fom12 with a 30% and we’re halfway through the course. I’ve never been a good at math, I got a 62% in Fom11.

My counsellor said I didn’t need Fom12 since I took it last year and it not a requirement. While she cant drop me out of it now, shes allowed me to take tests/quiz’s in the LST room.

I’m probably not going to UBCV, instead Douglas for an associates and then transfer to UBCV.

Since I don’t need a math12 anyways, should I not improve and fail so it doesn’t show up on my transcript? The benefits will not dropping my average too.

Would Douglas care if I don’t have a FOM12 grade? I’m pretty sure they care about English more. I had a 95% in EFP last and this year.

I got into UBCV but it’s too far of a commute and expensive. I'm going into Political Science (Arts degree).

But i’m failing Fom12 with a 30% and we’re halfway through the course. I’ve never been a good at math, I got a 62% in Fom11.

My counsellor said I didn’t need Fom12 since I took it last year and it not a requirement. While she cant drop me out of it now, shes allowed me to take tests/quiz’s in the LST room.

I’m probably not going to UBCV, instead Douglas for an associates and then transfer to UBCV.

Since I don’t need a math12 anyways, should I not improve and fail so it doesn’t show up on my transcript? The benefits will not dropping my average too.

Would Douglas care if I don’t have a FOM12 grade? I’m pretty sure they care about English more. I had a 95% in EFP last and this year.