u/maybenej

my fiance and i do not want to have a registry but since my parents are paying for most of the wedding and the bridal shower, my mom is basically forcing me to make one. she said its extremely rude to not have one and that the guests at the shower and wedding should be my main consideration. i said okay i'll put a few things that can be replaced in our current home on the registry, some upgrades, etc. and a link where people can contribute to our honeymoon. she said thats incredibly rude and that no one is going to contribute and they need to buy us physical gifts. thats really annoying because we just moved into a new place within the last 6 months and we purchased basically everything new so we don't need anything else, let alone have the space to store anything else. my mom and i disagree on a lot of things for this wedding which has been a struggle but this is just another thing that i don't want to deal with. is she correct? is it rude to not have a registry and is it rude to include a spot where people can contribute to the honeymoon?

i’m driving to my doctor for a regular appointment and i realized i hadn’t left my house in almost 2 weeks and now im having a massive anxiety attack. my throat is tight and gaggy, i have to poop, i’m shaking, my heart is racing, my chest feels extremely tight. im so scared to throw up i have the AC blasting in my face. i haven’t taken hydroxizine in 4 months and im about to relapse IM SO SCARED help me please

is it still safe to drink? it was left on the counter at around 69° in the bottle just with no cork or anything. it was never refrigerated. it’s half a bottle i’d hate to waste but just not sure if it’s safe to drink

i’ve had a really stressful night as my cat has a stubborn hairball and has been coughing and gagging trying to get it out so i’m worried about him and then i had to catch up on work so i can take a sick day today because ive been up all night with the cat and while i was working i got overheated under the blanket and all the garlic i ate at dinner caught up to me while laying down and i got heartburn and also started panicking at the same time. i just took a poop because i got anxious and it needed to come out and now im sitting on the couch with an ice pack on my chest, shaking from adrenaline and nerves just waiting for this to pass completely. i’m not asking for reassurance because i know im fine but can anyone just comfort me a little bit? my fiance is sleeping and i dont have anyone to talk to about this rn

i went out to dinner tonight for my bday and my parents left and my fiance is sleeping and i’m all alone and scared. i’ve had gas all night and since i took a zofran yesterday im also kind of constipated. i was sitting at my desk and felt nauseous for like 15 seconds and then it went away and hasn’t come back but i had like crampy gas pain around my left rib. i’ve been trying to get rid of it but im just scared now that ill be sick because i felt nauseous for that split second. i have another thing for my bday tmrw night with all my friends and im scared that ill get sick and have to cancel :( im sad and scared and alone and i hate feeling like this because even when i feel nothing physically wrong my brain still tells me ill be sick and i hate it its torture

my manager is a huge micromanager. like will text my personal phone if i’m away on teams for 5 minutes and will practically beg me to turn my camera on in meetings, even 1:1 meetings. i have 2 offices i can work out of, one where i live and one in the next city over. he works out of the farther one so naturally he requires me to be there for our in office days.

now yesterday i was in office and we had a team meeting at like 10am, then some more calls and then a team lunch from like 12-130. after that i had nothing to do until 3 so i went to grab a matcha and moved my stuff to one of the alternative seating areas for my next call.

i truly hate sitting at a desk all day, i have a lot of nervous energy and being in office makes me anxious as it is so keeping myself comfortable improves my productivity a lot. and besides there are multiple different seating areas that you can work out of so it’s not like i actually can’t use them if i want to.

anyway he wasn’t at his desk when i decided to move so i sent him a message saying id be moving to the couches on our floor and not to be alarmed that my stuff was missing. he was like “are you okay? is everything okay?” and i said yep just wanted a change of scenery for the last call of the day. he said “okay as long as you’re okay and participating i’m happy.”

he was not happy. he gets home last night and sets up a 9am call wayyyy after work hours ended. i join the call this morning and he says “i just have a problem with you getting up and sitting somewhere else. coming to the office isn’t just checking the box, it’s about bonding with the team and interacting and communicating with others while you’re here. you need to be integrated.”

i’m so fed up with his comments and demands (he also makes creepy comments to me and knows things about me that i haven’t told him before), so i said “you know honestly? that’s a crazy demand. i’m meeting the in office requirement by being in the office. the requirement is not to have water cooler chats all day long and to sit next to each other in a tight knit circle, it’s about coming in for visibility and participation and i’m doing that.” and i guess he didn’t expect that response out of me so he said okay well i’ll think about that, thanks for sharing. LIKE

NO LOL THERES NOTHING TO THINK ABOUT!!! im so sick of this guy, he’s a weirdo and a creep and he also thinks he can police and babysit me all day long. not sure how to handle this situation because im relatively new to the company and while i have a lot of expertise in my field i think im definitely still expendable and dont wanna fuck up but man i can’t take this treatment anymore.