u/oftenlostandconfused

Part vent, part what do I do now?

I recently took on a department lead role at a startup. Standard startup package... high expectations, a bit underpaid, and with a 5 day in-office mandate. It made sense for life logistics reasons (I can walk home over lunch to see my dog and basically don't need a car any more). Counting the public holiday and starting on a Tuesday, I am 13 working days in.

In that glorious time I have somehow managed to rack up two separate performance meetings and a formal written "letter of concern" today. Mind you, I’m deep inside my probation/notice period so if they wanted me gone, they could literally just wave me goodbye today with a week's gardeners leave. Why the drama?

The rap sheet against me:

• “Near-constant phone use.” An actual quote. I’ve checked my screen time during business hours and it barely registers. I pick up my phone maybe once every two hours to reply to a text, but apparently I’m being tracked (open office I guess).
• “Failure to submit a plan.” I have literally written a plan, presented it, and emailed/shared it with my manager and the leadership team. It is sitting right there in their share drives.
• “Being a distraction.” I’m new, I’m trying to build rapport, and I like to think I’m a friendly guy. Crucially, I’ve also shipped a ton of work in these 13 days, but apparently chatting while delivering results is a bridge too far.

I’m torn on whether it’s even worth responding to the letter. I could easily draft a professional, itemised list of everything I’ve delivered so far with some light pushback, but what’s the point beyond setting up a paper paper trail war? I’m so fresh here that a PIP isn’t even legally necessary.

Financially, I need the pay right now, so quitting on the spot isn't an option. Guess I’ll keep my head down, update the CV, and start interviewing elsewhere immediately.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Do I bother formally replying to the letter or just quietly ride it out?

Hey everyone,

Unlike a lot of people here I actually don't hate the dating apps, but I figure you miss every shot you don't take. Looking to put myself out there to meet someone down-to-earth, genuine, and looking to build a real connection.

About Me:

• Lifestyle: High energy (ambivert type) and active. Heavy lifter, sporty person, but definitely prone to lazing around too.
• Location: Northern Beaches living and work in the CBD, but don't hate a drive to anywhere in Sydney really. Love exploring new suburbs because I've only lived here 5 years.
• Work: Ambitious corporate/tech background, but I place a huge value on keeping a work life balance.
• Things I like: Passionate about quality coffee, a solid Sunday roast, gin, rugby, politics (left leaning, open minded), a board game (competitive, in a silly way), dogs (mine takes up like 30% of my time), cooking, and science fiction (books or screen).
• Stats: 5'10, gym build.

What I’m Looking For:

• Someone who values a a mix of active weekend adventures and low key nights in, loves exploring great food/drink spots, and has their own drive (not an office job but just a woman on a mission).
• Emotionally mature, values communication, and has a good sense of humor (sarcastic and dark, but in a nice way).
• Age, ethnic background, height, and where you live in Sydney are not big drivers, but maybe same height or shorter and older than mid 20s would be nice.

If any of this resonates, send a DM. As a bloke I don't really expect much of a response but this is low risk and free. If you want a starter, let me know what your ideal Monday night looks like.

So, question in the title but let me give some context.

I had a fourth and final round interview yesterday. Just before my second round (fast moving process) they relisted the role with different language around AI strategy and I saved it for added context. Wasn't pressed about this as it's not uncommon.

2 hours ago I received a LinkedIn notification saying "A hiring manager thinks you're qualified and would like you to apply for a job at XXX". I was wondering how that is triggered on their end?

If the hiring manager is going through and sending a push notifications the day after my final interview that's obviously a bad thing, but if it's an auto notification it's not necessarily a bad thing. I've never received a notification like this before.

Curious to know what's happening.

New to the Ninja Creami game. There's a few accounts I follow for meal prep but I'd love to hear about your fave ones for high protein, low cal recipes. Thanks.

Lost 35kg/77lbs. Women used to return a polite smile in the street, now they look away. Curious what’s behind it.

So, strange question. I need a clip from a movie people will know that the character is being genuinely tough and authoritative. Maybe strutting down the street.

The only example I can think of is 50 Cent in Den of thieves but it's not a very good or well known movie.

I want it for a presentation.

Any suggestions? Thanks!

So, strange question. I need a clip from a movie people will know that the character is being genuinely tough and authoritative. Maybe strutting down the street.

The only example I can think of is 50 Cent in Den of thieves (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Lz36kLYid0) but it's not a very good or well known movie.

I want it for a presentation.

Any suggestions? Thanks!

On episode 8 of season 5 and I'm really confused as to what's happening. Were they in an open relationship, he was getting frisky, and that hurt her feelings? Or was he cheating / breaking their rules? The language used really confuses me.

Hi all, I see a few subs for men's fashion. I'm a heavier guy, a fair bit of bench press and a few too many burgers haha.

There's a few instagrams for this but they're of a very specific aesthetic. I was wondering if there was a sub along these lines. Thanks!

Hey all, I live in a big city and I’m 90% sure I’d get more matches that are more to my liking if I set my location as 15-20 minutes away. This is based on where I’ve lived previously. I’m happy to drive for dates and wouldn’t lie in conversations. Others seem to do this, but not sure the reasoning.

Question: Is there an issue with telling a white lie in this way in your opinion?

Further context: I’m a 34m in Sydney who gets 3-5 matches a week. Dating seriously. I live in a city where people live in geographic bubbles for whatever reason (bodies of water, toll roads, cultural elitism). My bubble is older and less diverse. Across a bridge there’s the younger areas where there’s more people worth meeting. For those that know, I live Lower North Shore Sydney and the younger areas are Inner East, Inner West and Inner Sydney. I’d probably just set my location as Sydney.