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What are some opinions of Luna from people on here that have vitiligo?

I have a family member with vitiligo who thinks Luna's vitiligo is offensive because they made it so neat and pretty. I think it'd be interesting to hear from others with the condition.

I like Luna and I think the stylistic choice to make her vitiligo patterned on theme is cool, but, I don't have vitiligo myself.

I'm the only woman in my office in a male dominated field. We're a small company, we have 5 different locations with about 50ish shared employees total.

I am in charge of filming and posting advertisements to our company's social media accounts. Everyone else at the company refuses to be filmed because they don't want to be posted online. They just stop working and stare at me whenever I approach with a camera so it's very hard to get anything to film but I do my best.

I am also refusing to film myself online management is saying that I need to start filming myself. They're saying our videos are "boring without a pretty girl to look at" and that I don't *have* to be in the videos but it'd significantly boost engagement. They said I "don't have to do anything revealing if I don't want to" (gee thanks) but that just my presence will get us much more attention and much more business.

I told them I also don't want to be posted online, that I don't even have any social media (they don't know about Reddit). The only reason I have instagram on my phone is for the company's account.

Then they told me that if I don't want to be on the company's instagram page that I should "just" make myself a personal account where I do a day in the life vlog and link it to the company's instagram page because it'd boost engagement that much more since it's so rare for a "pretty girl" to be in the industry.

It's not like I disagree with them on the fact that a human in the social media posts would boost the algorithm, and having a woman on would probably boost a lot more, but at this point it's just the principle of it.

I asked my boss "why does it have to be a woman? I'll film you talking and that'll do the same thing for the algorithm since it will recognize a human face" and he said "it won't and you know why."

I don't want to be looked at. I want to be left alone.

I'm looking for a new job but it's hard to get a foot in the door anywhere. I don't know if it's really that deep and I should just give in and make an appearance on the company page, or if I should continue to say no. I don't think management is stupid enough to fire me over it, I think they'd be rightfully scared I'd sue them if they fired me over anything.

LOCATION: California

When I turned 18 my family members decided to buy a house and made me sign documents for the loan with them. I know ignorance is not an excuse, I was told that signing the documents would be for my own protection and that it would help my family out and that they would refinance in a few years when the economy was better. I didn't realize this would be a problem at the time, It has been a few years since this and I'm trying to get my life together.

There was domestic violence going on at home directed at me and my mom for a few years before she and I were illegally evicted; the other family member changed the locks on us and told us via text we had no rights of tenancy or ownership since there was no rental agreement between us and that family member, and that basically tough luck starting today you both are on the street.

Police refused to help at the time since they said this was a civil matter and they don't even offer civil standby anymore; CA legal aid at the time said they couldn't help because it was a police matter since there was domestic violence and it's a crime to change the locks on someone without 30 days notice especially since I am one of the property owners.

It's been a couple years since the eviction and I realize my name is on the mortgage even though that family member said they signed my name on a quit claim deed. I checked with the county, there's no record of a quit claim deed being filed but even if they did that still doesn't remove my name from the mortgage.

I tried disputing the mortgage on my credit and found out that didn't work.

I tried contacting the mortgage company and they said they couldn't help because the family member would need to agree to refinance the mortgage. That family member won't talk to me due to their issues with my mom, and won't consider refinancing anyway since it was a low interest COVID loan.

I don't like using it as an excuse for anything, but I also tried showing the mortgage company that I've been diagnosed autistic since I was in elementary school as a last resort long shot to get my name off, along with proof of the domestic violence to try to show I was coerced into signing the documents. They of course as expected said that there is nothing that can be done.

This mortgage is seriously affecting my ability to go on in life since I can't get a school loan, car loan, or even attempt to buy my own house with my fiance.

I don't know where to go from here. I know I need a lawyer but every lawyer I try to book a consultation with says that they can't help me and refuses the consultation.

I feel like there has to be a way around this seeing as people get divorced all the time and there has to be a way to settle property matters in that regard, so I feel like there has to be a way for me to get my name off even though this isn't a divorce situation.

I don't know if I need to worry about the deed either. My mom and I were paying rent to the family member to live in the house with them since it was supposed to be a rent-to-own and we have receipts for that as well, but there's no contract stating it was a rent-to-own or a rental contract either. My mom thinks that I'm entitled to equity in the house for the years we were living there and paying rent before being evicted, but even if I am not entitled to that I want to be rid of the situation be rid of that family member and move on with my life.

If it matters the loan is written with my 1/3 as tenant in common and my family member and their spouse as joint tenants for the other 2/3.

EDIT: Since it wasn't clear in the text for some reason

-I am on the deed and mortgage. Family member says they signed my name to and filed a quit claim deed but there's no record of this with the county.
-I am a homeowner. My mom was renting to own. I was put on the mortgage and deed "to help my mom and the family member" in the sense that it "protected my mom" and also helped my family member qualify for the mortgage.
-I want a lawyer, I've been looking for a lawyer, every lawyer I've called for a consultation won't book me because they say they can't help me. I don't know where to turn now. Legal Aid won't help either.

I was denied a PCOS diagnosis at 18 because I had no cysts despite having all the other symptoms.

I'm 26 now and my doctor diagnosed me with PCOS before deciding to quit the clinic I go to and transfer to another hospital.

The clinic I go to is the best one in my area that accepts medicaid. The doctor I'm assigned to won't treat PCOS, and won't refer me to a gynecologist because she says nexplanon is an appropriate treatment for PCOS. I can't get in to see any gynecologists without a referral.

I got onto a healthcare app that is supposed to be a PCOS specialist. The doctor there prescribed me metformin because she said that if I get my weight down it'll fix everything. I'm 190 and 5'4.

I asked her if there's anything we can do for the fact that I've been spotting every day since around the end of May, maybe a temporary round of birth control, and she said no. I asked her if we could do anything about my facial hair that I have to pluck daily, she said no. Just metformin for weight loss and maybe she'll start a GLP-1. I told her medicaid doesn't cover a GLP-1, and she said she didn't believe that.

I tried taking 800mg of ibuprofen 3x a day for a week since I read online that that might help. It didnt. I told the new doctor I tried that and that it didnt work and that I'm bleeding constantly and she said "ibuprofen is only for cramps."

I feel so stuck.

Mixed feelings because the following interaction with a customer was funny/validating in itself but lead to other thoughts as well. Light advice welcome for like emotional things but not seeking advice on how to change anything about myself or my life.

Had a repeat customer in our store the other day and he was telling me that last time he was in he didn't get to see me or the owner but that he was talking to one of the other employees and that that was nice but he missed us.

I told him why I was out that day and that the owner was out because the owner's daughter (my cousin) was graduating from kindergarten. I mentioned it was a big deal for her to graduate kindergarten because she's like me and has autism, so while she's pretty smart she struggles socially and that the first year of school was really rough for her.

The customer said "wait what? the owner doesn't have autism, he has no signs of it that I can see."

I was thinking "oh, here we go.." and told him "oh, you're right, the owner doesn't have autism. It's the owners daughter and I."

Then he nodded his head and went "oh okay, yes that makes sense then" and we continued on discussing business.

On one hand it's super validating that nobody disagrees I'm autistic. On the other hand it makes me feel like an outsider amongst other level one autistics or autistic women in general that I never have to "defend" my diagnosis, that it's so visible to everyone that I don't struggle with having to "defend" it.

I know i shouldn't compare myself to other people but the fact that I can't mask makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong since I see a lot of memes on instagram about how "haha, nobody knows I'm autistic except other autistic people." It makes me worried I'll never get another job because I didn't finish college (not for academic reasons) and I've never been able to pass an interview at anywhere else that's hiring.

I also know I'm not a failure and know that having support needs isn't bad, but, it feels bad to know I'll never be able to like have my own apartment away from parents even if I wanted to (I don't) because there's so many things I can't do. It's confusing to feel badly about not being able to do things you don't necessarily want but feel like you "should" be able to do.

I know it doesn't even make sense and that all of this is something I should just talk a deep breath and move on about because it's really not a problem.

Just venting. Not really seeking advice but I'm not opposed to it either. I'd like seeing other people's opinions and experiences. I'm not going to change my mind about AI though.

Went to the doctor to get my guanfacine refilled. My old doctor left the clinic so I had to see a new doctor today. The vibes were off the begin with since the staff treated me like a 100% new patient but oh well, that's protocol.

The doctor came in and the doctor said hello and then said "before we begin, I just need to get your consent to use AI transcription and assistance apps on my phone."

I said "no."

The doctor looked shocked and asked if it was a privacy issue. I said yes, it is a privacy issue as well as I don't believe in the use of AI, it makes things up as well as is terrible for the environment.

He said that he can't work without the use of his AI apps because "I have to see 24 patients in a day" and "if I can't use the AI it makes my job much harder."

I asked him, "what did you do before Covid?" and he said "I struggled!"

I told him that if me not consenting to AI use is a burder for him then I will need a new doctor, and I got up and walked out of the room.

The doctor started following me down the hallway and told me that I need to tell the front desk that I cancelled my appointment. I told him I will not be doing that because I am not canceling my appointment, I am being refused to be seen.

I told the front desk, with the doctor behind me, that I need a new doctor. The receptionist asked why and I told her that the doctor won't see me without using AI and I don't consent to AI so he won't see me, to which the doctor stated "that's not true!"

Luckily the receptionist said "okay doctor" so he walked away and then the receptionist notated my side.

I'm really proud of myself for not getting upset or emotional about it. I stayed calm.

EDIT: There's way too many comments to reply to individually, but, the question was not just consent for AI transcription (which I wouldn't agree with either. Use non-generative text to speech). It was for AI transcription *and assistance* which is definitely a no-no. The only difference between me and a "doctor" at that point is the legal right to prescribe medicine; and even then, my research would be from actual sources and not the planet-killing hallucinations and misinformation machine.

I do believe the doctor refused to see me since he said he can't do his job without AI and I won't consent to AI. It wasn't an outright refusal, correct, but it was essentially a refusal if he couldn't coerce me to agree.

It is a rural clinic too; there's at least a few doctors there, so hopefully my next one won't use AI or else will respect a "no." For a myriad of reasons I don't get along with doctors (or anyone) who can't take "no" for an answer after they ask me for consent for something I don't want and have articulated I don't want.

I'm just getting back into Sylvanians after not having played with them since I was in college, and after sorting through my collection, I realized that I have a few infants that are technically homeless orphans.

I notice that Sylvanians have a lot of babies now for sale from blind bags etc., so other collectors must have a lot of orphans as well.

In your collections, are you holding them all in an orphanage, or is it more of a foster family situation? Or are they like Victorian street children allowed to scavenge and roam as they please?

This is a serious question because I am going to build a bookshelf for my Sylvanians and I am trying to figure out the level of social services I'm going to have in my New Sylvania.

Sorry if this is not an intelligent question. I tried to find the answer but I could not.

I'm talking about 911 phone calls that originated from inside the towers.

In the case of Melissa Doi's phone call, for example, it was used in the Moussaoui trial and was released to the public redacted per her family's request.

I know there's also some 911 phone calls that were used in the trial that were never released per family request.

Obviously not all calls from the towers were preserved since calls from victims to families would not have been recorded, however, 911 records all calls to my knowledge.

Were all 9/11 victims 911 calls used in the trial, or only a select few?

If not all 911 calls were used in the trial, were they made available to the families? Or are they part of the documents that are held by the government as unreleasable? I know we have some knowledge of what is in those documents, I know that it has been confirmed that there are photos of the plaza during the attacks in the documents.

Was there ever an effort in the aftermath to distribute call recordings to families, or did the families such as that of Melissa have to seek them out specifically, or was it just fate that the only ones that got recordings of their loved ones given to them was those that had recordings that were used in trial?

I don't know if I'm crazy or not, or if maybe I just need to wait it out. I'm not asking for medical advice I'm asking for other people's experiences so I know what to talk to my own dr about

I've been slowly having my Guanfacine dose increased over the lsst month or so. On Tuesday I just got my dose increased to 3 mg.

My Dr said that it's supposed to last 24 hours. I notice that it's working really well for the first 6 or so hours then drops off as if I'm unmediated after that. I take it around 7-7:30 in the morning and then it seems like after lunch around 1 or 2 it's not working anymore.

The end of my work days these past few days have been horrible since it started off good then dipped completely.

How is something that's a 24 hour release not working right? I don't want to seem stupid asking the dr so I thought I'd get everyone's opinion first. Do I just need to maybe wait and see if it'll stop doing it on it's own, or?

Drives me up the wall when the soap gets to the end and people decide to water it down instead of replacing it.

When you do that, first of all the change in viscosity means that now instead of the soap gently coming out onto my hand it's going to miss and violently spray onto the sink.

Secondly that's just simply DISGUSTING that you are most likely not going to be using a proper amount of soap since I know you're still probably using one pump.

If you diluted it by adding an equal amount of water to the remaining soap, that means now you have to use two pumps instead of one pump to get an equal amount of soap. It's not saving anything, it's just spreading germs because you think "eh it's enough."

So then I have to throw away your nasty science experiment and put out a new bottle of soap, which you could've done to begin with instead of wasting time playing in the bottle then half-washing your hands and spreading whatever nasty is on them Everywhere.

EDIT: It's happening consistently in a work bathroom, not at home. We have fresh bottles of soap stocked all the time, so it's not a "get through the day" thing. I've asked them not to do it. It's because people are willfully disgusting and lazy and think for some reason washing with soap-flavored water is enough.