u/rarepinkhippo

Hi all! In the time I’ve followed this case, I have always had the impression that Kolker’s Lost Girls book was sort of the gold standard in both covering the background of the case, and telling a very human and sympathetic portrait of the victims. Kolker is obviously frequently cited in material about the case, and I’ve heard him interviewed a number of times. (I know that Jaclyn Gallucci is another journalist who was pivotal in drawing attention to the case and made a concerted effort to be extremely respectful to the victims as well, but my specific question is about Kolker and his book.)

I personally thought the book was fantastic, but obviously didn’t know the victims personally and have no connection to their loved ones. I always had the (apparently erroneous) impression that the victims’ loved ones liked Kolker and were happy about the book and its coverage.

But I feel like more recently, I’ve seen it mentioned by several victims’ family members and friends that they take specific umbrage with Kolker and think he misrepresented things in the book. I haven’t heard specifics, though, and am wondering if folks might know what specific aspects are in dispute or misrepresented? Not asking for any inside info or anything that families wouldn’t want shared at all, but if there are points that the families/friends feel that Kolker got wrong, I’m wondering if that would be shareable, if only so folks in this thread don’t keep repeating narratives from the book taking them as fact, if the victims’ loved ones feel they are wrong.

Hi all, I’m not an expert on TNR (trap-neuter-return for feral/community cats), but have started to TNR cats in my neighborhood over the past year or so. My understanding is that in much of the country, an eartip on the left ear is the accepted indicator that a cat has already been TNRed, but on the west coast it’s the *right* ear that gets tipped for whatever reason. That has been the case at the clinics I’ve brought cats to.

Now, a cat has started showing up at my place and looks very much like the *left* ear has been tipped, but I’m not sure whether any TNR clinics in the area tip the left ear. It could be an injury, but doesn’t look ragged at all, looks pretty intentional.

Does anyone know if any of the TNR clinics in the area tip the left ear? Thanks!

I know any benefit wouldn’t compare to Botox/fillers/etc. But do Frownies really do _anything_ that could have any ongoing impact? I feel like every time I use them, I notice a difference when I first remove them, but then it goes back exactly how it was very quickly. If someone were to religiously use them, is there any chance it would make a difference that lasts more than 5 minutes?

Hi friends! I’m sure like many of us, I am uncomfortable in bras and also uncomfortable *not* in bras, because I hate the feel of boob-touching-torso and the swoobs that result when it’s hot out. I’ve never really found a bra that solves for this, but would love people’s recommendations of (hopefully not super expensive) camis/tanks/etc. that fit all the way *around* your boobs. (I don’t know if I’m explaining this well but hoping folks will know what I mean!) Would love any recommendations of anything vaguely fitting this description that has worked well and been comfortable for you. Thanks!!!

Hi experts! I live in Southern California and have been trying to befriend the local crows (and other birds). I know folks say that crows like to dip their food in water, and it’s also going to get really hot in my area in the coming months. But I know crows are vulnerable to some illnesses (some crows at my old workplace died of West Nile some years ago, I haven’t heard of any current outbreaks in my area this year, but remain nervous about it, and now avian flu is a concern too, of course). Is replacing the water regularly enough (maybe letting it sit in the sun to dry in between), or if you’re doing more than that, how often are you doing that and what are you using to clean? Would love to put out some water for these guys but am just worried I might not be prepared for the upkeep. Thank you!

Hi friends! I will be so sad when Hacks is over later this month. I’m excited for Ted Lasso to return in August, but other than that I think it will be quite a while until new seasons begin for all the other current narrative shows I watch.

I like Shrinking, The Studio, Abbott Elementary, Rooster, The Bear, Slow Horses, White Lotus … what am I missing out on?

Thanks for any ideas!

Hi friends! I’m trying to remove some really heinous, painfully spiky weeds from my yard, and it reminded me that I’ve been on the lookout for very thick, strong gloves that aren’t leather. (A few years ago I thought I’d finally hit the jackpot with some gloves that were advertised as “synthetic leather,” but turned out to be real leather 🫠)

Has anyone found something like this that has worked well for you? Thanks!