u/sugarcoochie

hi i'm wondering if you guys think there's any benefit to pursuing a minor? i'm a first-gen transfer student so all this college stuff is new to me :')

i've done a bit of research but haven't found enough information to conclude if a minor is worthwhile. i guess it varies on the person, but i figured i'd ask here in case theres a specific minor that might help me in some way after i graduate

EDIT: sorry forgot to mention, i'm a college junior and planning to go to grad school

is it just me or has chatgpt been incapable of writing a normal paragraph lately? every response looks like:

sentence.

break.

sentence.

break.

sentence.

break.

its like every line is a mic drop or something?? it's so annoying to scroll through. no matter how much i remind it or load it into memories to STOP using so many paragraph breaks.. it doesn't end 💔 it especially LOVES dramatizing the "it's not x, it's y" thing!

it's not x...

it's not even y.

and honestly? i don't even believe z would fit.

but a?

...a is the real winner here.

all of my chats sound like this lol i'm sick of it

i've posted about this therapist before already on here. i asked this sub if the therapist's policies sounded normal (just seemed sortve unprofessional and the stated boundaries were blurry). the comments said the policies DID sound odd and suggested i look elsewhere, but i went ahead anyway—famous last words. it was affordable, no other therapists were responding to my emails, and i needed someone to talk to ASAP as i haven't been doing well.

it's been working for the last few weeks, but i had a really weird session today.

usually i start each session by summarizing my week and saying what i did (that they suggested...) and how that turned out.

i've been having trouble making friends and many of our sessions are of me crying and venting about that. my therapist offers advice, i say what will work, what won't (& why), and what i'll try differently. we've had a good rapport the last few weeks so i had nothing but fondness for them

i think what went wrong today was that i misspoke and i think it upset them. what i said was that i wanted to "manipulate" or "use" people into getting my needs met, but how it sounds is NOT what i meant 😭 WHAT I MEANT was so that we have a symbiotic/mutually beneficial relationship where they get their needs met and so do i, without it needing to be a super intimate or fulfilling relationship. i clarified and i used the example of having a friend in class who always knows when homework is due, or a friend you only talk with at pilates.

i don't know if this was countertransference, but their demeanor changed and felt less friendly, even after clarification. it seemed like they were jumping to conclusions about my intentions, and when i was correcting assumptions they said "it feels like you want to argue with me"
... WHAT. at this point it felt like i was getting into a disagreement with a friend instead of a mental health professional??

they continued with "well, i dont really know what you want to work on here if i give my advice and you reject it everytime." like what the hell. they were using all or nothing statements, jumping to conclusions, and i was feeling really backed into a corner. it was the strangest experience i've had with a therapist.

and the thing is, i'm 25 and have already had multiple different therapists. it makes sense for me to hear repeat advice that i've tried out and hasn't worked for me, so i turn down the suggestions. today, that suddenly seemed like an issue for my therapist. i told them that i thought i had been taking their advice, and even though my progress isn't linear, i am still reaching out to people. and still, they wouldnt clarify what i was doing that didn't align with the advice they wanted me to follow. i felt framed as being super argumentative when it seemed like i was the only one who was deescalating the situation.

they changed the subject to dbt and i was confused, so i said "i thought i already have been using dbt skills?" and gave an example. but my therapist retorted with "i didn't say you didn't..." ????? how do i even respond to that 😭😭

it felt like everything i was saying was being construed as malicious or passive aggressive, when i was being genuine and responsive. i was paraphrasing something they'd said earlier in the session, and i kept getting a "yeah, i didn't say that..." and an awkward silence. ok then tell me what you did say? i'm not trying to misrepresent your statements to win a fictitious argument

i just wanted to vent and hopefully receive some kind words or validation that i'm not crazy in this being a weird exchange. i'm open to seeing my blind spots but it felt like their mind was made up about who i was in the situation. thankfully it was towards the end of the session.. ugh. so weird

hi! this is my second time using a menstrual cup (august period cup), and since i bought a cup applicator its been AWESOME so far. i just have some trouble getting it out 🫩

currently my vagina is fluffier than normal, so i'm having trouble grabbing onto the cup/breaking the seal to take it out. i tried using my pointer finger to press in on the lip of the cup, but its like my walls would form to fill in any space i created... it didn't unsuction until i put 2 fingers in (pincher style) to pinch both sides of the cup.

not only that but my vagina was so puffy that no matter how gentle i was, it felt like i was about to take chunks out of my walls trying to get my fingers in 😭 now i feel really sore all over my vagina. i think the cup was also suctioned to my cervix, so now it feels like a bruise

also what is the point of the little tampon style nub if you can't pull it out that way? i've seen stories of women getting vaginal prolapses from removing menstrual cups (i'm assuming without breaking the seal) and i DO NOT want that to happen to me.

what can i do differently??

i'm a female in my 20s and around the 210lbs range at 5'6, and it's getting worrisome for me. this is the most ive ever weighed!

i gained about 50lbs in the last 3 years as a result of stress, psychiatric meds, and loved ones enabling my bad eating habits. i have a major sweet tooth and i feel like that combined w my weight is putting me more at risk of developing type 2 diabetes and/or other health issues, so i'm getting pretty concerned

i have so much to lose before i'm at an average weight and i'm losing steam. im undoing all my progress because the goalpost seems so far and the scale isnt moving (and im def not gaining muscle lol). i don't know what to do, ive tried changing my habits and tracking calories but i overeat anyway and then feel ashamed so i stop. i have a walking pad and ive tried using my phone, my ipad, laptop, while walking to make it less boring.. but i have inattentive ADHD, so of course its still the most boring thing in the world to me and id rather do anything else. yes i'm on stimulants but it doesnt help me do things i already dont want to do. it feels like i could be doing anything better with my time (i know its important i just cant convince my brain it is enough for me to friggin do it).

i try doing any sort of work out whenever i have the energy, but i just can't stick to it. + the food noise has me in a chokehold and i just dont know if i can do this anymore man. i cant stop gaining weight, i feel so out of control

i tried to not eat during the day (so basically the OMAD diet) because 1) im a nightowl and 2) bc of how much i binge, i cant stop once i start. its hard if i wake up early though because then my stomach hurts and growls like crazy for hours :/

im so tired i feel so hopeless. i want to give up because i know every day that i make a bad decision (eating 3000 calories or not exercising for a week) its undoing everything that i already was torturing myself for. and i hate that it feels good to give up. i hate how good it feels to overeat and to not exercise. im becoming apathetic over time because it genuinely feels like there is nothing i can do anymore to improve my health. it was much easier to maintain 160lbs than it is to lose weight from 210. im so sad

hey all, i'd like to get some feedback from autistic women who feel like their special interest is in people, psychology, sociology, or even a specific person

i was discussing autism with my therapist and when asked about my interests, i mentioned that i'm rarely interested in anything besides being on my computer or phone. they hinted that my special interest may lie in psychology and people (pulled from past conversations) and i didn't know what to say!! i was speechless. my favorite thing to do is to be around people, learn about people, analyze people.. the antisocial portrayal of autism has really put me off from entertaining the possibility of having autism, and i always scored low on autism self tests because of this

what is your experience like if your special interest is people? what did that look like in childhood vs now? was there any negative aspects to having this interest? what made you realize this interest was different for you than for others (different as in not like general extroversion)?

thank you to anyone that comments!

EDIT: does anyone have an interest in people that is out of actual enjoyment in socializing with them and understanding them 😭 that is what i'm referring to! i don't relate to the antisocial/social aversion aspects of autism (like mentioned above) so i was seeking feedback from those who are interested in & seek fulfillment from other people, not in a detached way like a science project etc

i'm not even blackpilled. i just genuinely believe that being ugly and chubby has negatively impacted my ability to make friends my entire life. i'm 25 bro and still i can't make even casual friends. i grew up shy but INCREDIBLY friendly, thoughtful, and kind. i still am!! and the best i can get from people is cordiality, they dont want to exchange numbers or hang out or even sit with each other regularly at college.

i remember being in the psych ward after a suicide attempt when i was 17 because of body dysmorphia. i roomed with this new girl and we became friends, but then she had an exchange with a pretty girl and i was GONE. i had to listen to their "omg youre so pretty" "omg i was about to say the same about you!!" exchange, meanwhile i was there after i tried to kms bc i thought i was so chopped. insanity

i'm not even unpleasant to be around. i don't know if i'm undiagnosed autistic or just so socially anxious that my awkwardness makes me appear like i'm an alien in a skin suit. everyone in my life has told me that i need a bigger support system and it just feels like the blame is put on me.
i've tried social media, friend making apps, being friendly with people at college, no one wants to talk to me :/ i really try to put myself out there but jesus i'm 25 and it hasn't gotten ANY better

i'm gradually beginning to abandon engagement in complex critical thought because of how taxing it is on my brain. i don't mean normal taxing, i mean like it takes an hour to write a meaningful paragraph for something, & i'm depleted afterwards. ESPECIALLY since i began taking stimulants last year.

it's always been difficult at baseline so no there's nothing wrong with me medically. meds have made it worse, but not enough for me to warrant stopping them because i need the focus for college/my mental health.

i've never been able to have a conversation without stuttering, forgetting words/my place, trailing off. i try not to talk too much outside of scripts with strangers/acquaintances because my risk of fucking up the social interaction is too high.

idk if it's low iq, lingering social anxiety, or what. i have the capability, but if it's so hard to access... is it even there to begin with? thinking is like walking through a thick fog, knee-deep in mud. makes me not want to care anymore and just submerge myself in short form content forever.

i worry that i'll never be able to participate in intellectual discussions because of how hard it is to reliably recall words and mental connections. it takes me an unimaginably long amount of time to string a series of thoughts together that i've all but given up as a participant. i find myself envious of others' ability to articulate things that would take me centuries to get to. it feels like half of my brain's neurons have to rebuild associations whenever i want to express them. like the ground is crumbling from behind me with every new thought and i'm rebuilding connections that will only crumble again once i've gotten past them.

i want to work in the mental health field, i know how much value and insight i could bring to the table, but i don't trust myself to get it out.

:( pls tell me someone can relate

can y'all PLEASE hound me in the comments for not studying?? i need some TOUGH love because finals are next week, and i've done NOTHING. the anxiety isn't intense enough yet to push me into action but i can't wait :/

i've just been fuckin around all week & being as useless as i possibly can! my vyvanse is being wasted away on social media & games, AND i pay for that shit out of pocket ....

you know those study videos on youtube where a soldier or a mexican mom with a chancla comes in periodically to check on you [threateningly] & make sure you're staying on task? need that but irl

EDIT: i'm shocked by the people assuming the worst of my intentions and throwing insults in the comments. i thought it was a silly relatable post about how annoying talking to professors about accommodations is. i'd tag it as #funny to indicate unseriousness but there wasnt an option 🥲

this just happened today and after a couple hours i thought back to it like, wait.. she doesn't normally write so much in her emails.. and why is it formatted so crisply... then i remember the time she told us that she used chatgpt to sign a card for a coworker 😭

it stands out all the more when you know her first language isn't even English, lol. certifiably one of the more insane college experiences i've had

this is gonna be a bit TMI, so you've been warned...

since i've gained weight these last few years, its made it harder to do things like shower (so much energy exertion scrubbing down my whole body 🫩). i'm pretty medicated so fortunately the body image/weight gain stuff isn't a problem lol, its just the stuff that comes *with* it. i started new meds last year (vyvanse) and my god.. i sweat like a BEAST 🤢

if i'm damp for whatever reason, i need to stop moving & sit naked in front of a fan for what feels like 20 minutes. all the folds and chub retain moisture, so the entire showering/after process takes me like 2 HOURS.

i've resorted to avoiding activities in my day to day life as to not break a sweat... but then the dreadful shower day comes and i have to pull the trigger. i need to study for 2 exams tomorrow, but i can't since i just hopped out of the shower. i have underboob sweat that won't go away, need to T-pose for 10m for my pits to dry, and i cant put underwear on yet otherwise i'll be damp all day 😭😭

i just want to get out of the shower and have all the moisture sucked off my skin so i can go about my day. someone get me a leaf blower, this is a nightmare yall. idk how i'm gonna make it sharing a dorm when i transfer 🥲