how to do eyeliner like this without it smudging after a few hours ??!

how to do eyeliner like this without it smudging after a few hours ??!

NOT ME!
found this on tiktok. im 32 and still wear huge wings and I know I need to minimize my makeup now that i've gotten older (and I want to!) This is exactly how i'd love to do my eyeliner but it seems impossible to have it not smudge. I learned the incredible tip from here about mascara primer and tubing mascara and now that never smudges or gets under my eyes.

also for anyone that does do this look, please, what eyeliner do you use!!!!

u/thecoolestbeanaround — 5 hours ago

I feel so bad eating around other women.

TD;LR: I make other women insecure about eating and it breaks my fucking heart.

no one except my doctor and my husband know i'm taking it. I lost 60 lbs from lifting and healthy eating back in 2022, and after a depressive episode last year I gained 28 back. I am so happy this medicine exists, truly, but I personally have a sense of shame for myself taking it. it's not fair or ok. it's one of those things where it's like, I love seeing other plus sized people and I find them beautiful but nooo not myself. to note- there is NOTHING WRONG with taking glp-1 and I would never ever judge anyone for taking it.

like many women, i'm a victim of the 2000's skinny epidemic and it's been in my head ever since. that's something im working on in therapy. i've also always had a complicated relationship with food and my body like many/most people have.

anyway

i've recently met this new group of gals. for context, not that I care AT all, none of them are considered skinny.

I have seen this one girl specifically who's a sweetheart who kinda subtly "monitors" (not the right word choice but ya know) how much i'm eating and stops when I do, sees how much I fill my plate and will put some back. it genuinely kills me and I feel so bad for her as I know what's going on in her head cause i've been there too. she never says a word, doesn't even have a judgmental expression. and no this isn't in my head, my husband agreed after the whole gang hung out once.

i've never experienced bad symptoms on it and am still able to drink and eat whatever I want just in smaller portions, which is good. last night we were all hanging out and eating pizza and cake and I took 3 slices, and when no one was looking I put 1 and 1/2 of another in my napkin. I was eating a standard size cake out of a bowl and tilted it up so no one could see I was nibbling it. like I wish there was a way when I was with these gals I could eat a hefty amount.

this is probably a dumb post and doesn't make any sense. just needed to vent/share.

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u/thecoolestbeanaround — 7 hours ago

I feel so bad eating around other women

EDIT: this is now the second time i've posted on here and both times the comments have been really harsh in one way or another, as i've noticed on other peoples posts as well. I appreciate the ones who understand my experience and where my mental block is. to be honest, what i've learned from a lot of GLP-1 subs is many of yall can be mean when it comes to being compassionate about other people's experiences. most people on this drug have a complicated history with food, dieting, body image issues. not that it matters, i've only been on it for a month and the reason I said they aren't conventionally skinny is because we are all around the same size. if yall have never experienced what it's like to be in "competition" with other girls when you were younger regarding weight, consider yourself lucky.

EDIT 2: i've never been asked if im on it, nor has it ever been brought up in the group, ive only been on it for a month. if it was brought up, sure id tell them. i'm not hiding it. I think it's a weird take that some people feel like they should or have the need to preach it from the rooftops unprompted.

TD;LR: I make other women insecure about eating and it breaks my fucking heart.

no one except my doctor and my husband know i'm taking it. I lost 60 lbs from lifting and healthy eating back in 2022, and after a depressive episode last year I gained 28 back. I am so happy this medicine exists, truly, but I personally have a sense of shame for myself taking it. it's not fair or ok. it's one of those things where it's like, I love seeing other plus sized people and I find them beautiful but nooo not myself. to note- there is NOTHING WRONG with taking glp-1 and I would never ever judge anyone for taking it.

like many women, i'm a victim of the 2000's skinny epidemic and it's been in my head ever since. that's something im working on in therapy. i've also always had a complicated relationship with food and my body like many/most people have.

anyway

i've recently met this new group of gals. for context, not that I care AT all, none of them are considered skinny.

I have seen this one girl specifically who's a sweetheart who kinda subtly "monitors" (not the right word choice but ya know) how much i'm eating and stops when I do, sees how much I fill my plate and will put some back. it genuinely kills me and I feel so bad for her as I know what's going on in her head cause i've been there too. she never says a word, doesn't even have a judgmental expression. and no this isn't in my head, my husband agreed after the whole gang hung out once.

i've never experienced bad symptoms on zep and am still able to drink and eat whatever I want just in smaller portions, which is good. last night we were all hanging out and eating pizza and cake and I took 3 slices, and when no one was looking I put 1 and 1/2 of another in my napkin. I was eating a standard size cake out of a bowl and tilted it up so no one could see I was nibbling it. like I wish there was a way when I was with these gals I could eat a hefty amount.

this is probably a dumb post and doesn't make any sense. just needed to vent/share.

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u/thecoolestbeanaround — 7 hours ago

I always think being pale means people don't notice...until yesterday

I just started wearing shorts again last summer. I had been told by a few close people that I asked that because i'm pale my scars aren't noticeable unless you're looking at them. until yesterday, when I was hanging with a new group of friends sitting down near a bonfire. I didn't realize how obvious they look especially when i'm sitting. the guy next to me was staring for way too long and finally awkwardly got up and made conversation with someone else.

if you were looking at my legs at a glance does it pop out? i've always hated how pale I am but i've always thought the one redeeming factor was that my scars aren't as prominent as they would be if I was tan.

u/thecoolestbeanaround — 12 days ago

how to clean these steam mop heads to get them white again? or are they permanently this color after use

this is the third steam mop i've owned over the years and I cannot get these pads white again after their first use. I steamop our apartment every week. as far as cleanliness of floors, we do have two cats but we don't wear shoes in the house so it's not like they are incredibly filthy. I always pre-rinse them before putting them in the washing machine and washed with hot water. I tried using bleach too, spraying with oxiclean before throwing them in, and nothing works. Are these just meant to always say kind of stained forever? 1st & 2nd pic is unused 3rd is after I do half of our place

u/thecoolestbeanaround — 14 days ago
▲ 971 r/unexpecteddcc+2 crossposts

I'm a pet groomer & park next to my clients- is this sticker offensive?

I have a cat themed car- cat stuffed animals in my rear window, cat ears that go on my side mirrors, cat stickers everywhere, cat headrest, etc. just tons of cats. anything that can be decorated in a car is cats.

I got this sticker and I think it's hilarious, but my husband said it's not professional considering my parking situation at work and that clients park next to me.
I know the humor may not be everyone's cup of tea, but does anyone think the older generation would be upset about it? I'm primarily a cat groomer, and I feel like most cat people would be like "yeah, I get it". but idk now i'm overthinking it

u/Dobgirl — 25 days ago

I caught my handyman secretly snapping a pic of our fridge calendar

I think that was a very reasonable response to seeing this in a customers home

u/thecoolestbeanaround — 1 month ago
▲ 1 r/AskVet

Cat with seemingly incurable ringworm. please help

Hi vets,

I’m looking for insight regarding a chronic feline ringworm case because I feel like I have exhausted nearly every option and am unsure where to go from here.

I have 2 Persian cats, both UTD on vaccines:

• 2-year-old neutered male

• 2-year-old spayed female

The female was purchased from the same breeder as my male and began dealing with ringworm shortly after I brought her home approximately 2 years ago. Unfortunately, it was then transmitted to my male cat as well. I believe she was born "broken" for lack of a better word. her father and her sibling from the litter have died.

Both cats have undergone extensive treatment including:

• oral antifungals

• topical therapy/lime sulfur

• shaving during treatment (just female)

• environmental decontamination and isolation protocols

• care through a dedicated ringworm treatment facility for two months in complete quarantine

• evaluations by multiple veterinarians and specialists

Most recently:

• Wood’s lamp exam was negative/no obvious active lesions seen

• however, PCR swab still came back positive

My veterinarian has mentioned possibilities such as an immune-related issue and is now advising me not to focus heavily on the positive PCR alone, which I am struggling to understand after such a prolonged course. He is essentially recommending monitoring and seeing what happens at this point. this is a scary thought as I've already had my house completely cleaned multiple times down to throwing away a brand new $3,000 couch, their expensive cat tree, hiring professional cleaners.

He also briefly mentioned a ringworm vaccine, which I had never previously heard of, so I am curious whether anyone has experience with that in chronic/refractory cases.

I’m hoping for professional insight regarding:

• How common is persistent PCR positivity after aggressive treatment?

• Can PCR remain positive from residual fungal material or colonization?

• How do dermatologists differentiate active infection vs chronic carrier state?

• What dermatologic or immune-mediated issues are most commonly associated with chronic recurrent ringworm in Persians/Himalayans?

• Have you seen similar cases eventually fully clear?

• What diagnostics would you prioritize at this stage?

• Is there any legitimate role for dermatophyte vaccination in cats like this?

Emotionally and financially I’m honestly at my limit with this situation. At this point I have even begun considering surrendering my female because I genuinely do not know how much more I can realistically handle, I feel like I’ve been throwing money at it for 2 years without getting clear answers, and I’m simply trying to better understand what realistic next steps and outcomes may look like.

my life savings is completely drained. these cats are my whole world but I have actual PTSD due to the whiplash trauma of this whole ordeal. They have spent a majority of their life in my guest bathroom which is heart breaking and kills me, but i'm scared to touch them. i'm a professional hair stylist too which makes me nearly scared of interacting with them. Their groomer who is my friend already got ringworm from them once.

Thank you very much for any professional insight or experience.

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u/thecoolestbeanaround — 1 month ago

has a landlord ever made you pay for repairs? (illinois)

husband is red, landlord is green. the handyman she uses is in purple.
for reference we have lived here since 2020. she rented it to us "as is" and I know she regretted it. the only thing she renovated was the floors, got someone to do it cheap and the doors wouldn't even shut they were so unevenly done.
I say regret it because every appliance was atleast from the 90s if not earlier. over the course of the first year, our fridge, dishwasher, washer AND dryer, water heater, and garage door all needed to be replaced/fixed. like, literally day 1 our freezer didn't work, it was like she never even checked. there was an entire week we had to wash dishes out of our bath tub because she kept hiring super cheap handymen.

after that, we've needed small repairs, like maybe twice a year- window sealant, broken shower head, kitchen sink sprayer. she installed these absolutely horrid bathroom light fixtures that literally needs to be disassembled to change the bulbs- so the handyman does that. which is kinda funny because alongside the floors that was the only other thing she replaced before we moved in.

anyway, this is the first time she's asked us to pay for a repair and said it's been a courtesy she's paid so far. she seemed to shut up when I showed her the illinois law where only wear and tear is our responsibility- which not only do I not know how can that even be proved with a broken shelf, but just like everything in the house it was installed horribly. we're shocked it took this long to break.

she is paying for the repair, but i'm just curious, do landlords do this? make their renters pay? she's an old foreign lady who seems pretty clueless on how to be a landlord. like we had to suggest to her to use zelle for rent, we used to have to send a check lol. so it's not like she's an old pro at land-lording.

sorry for formatting, on mobile

u/thecoolestbeanaround — 1 month ago

what's y'all's thoughts on human euthanasia for mentally ill people?

ever since I learned about the girl in europe who had physician assisted suicide who suffered from BPD (I have it too) I've always wondered therapists thoughts on it.

I asked my ex best friend is a therapist and believed in human autonomy and if someone is depressed enough they have a right to take their own life and I agree with her too. but i'm assuming that's not the norm, right? cause don't therapists preach that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. i've feared asking my own therapist cause I dripping the S word can get you locked up at a psych ward.

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u/thecoolestbeanaround — 2 months ago
▲ 3 r/OCD

OCD & Chat GPT is ruining my husbands ability to work through his obsessive thoughts

My husband has struggled with OCD his entire life, i'm no stranger to mental health as I have BPD. we've been together 14 years and he's gone through different....seasons of OCD, he calls it. huge hypochondriac when we first met. then "chemicals" in everything. then it was germophobia (his hands were red and raw daily because of handwashing so much). then decision fatigue (spending 4 hours picking which vacuum to buy on amazon)

within the past year he's been on an insane chat GPT kick. up until a month ago I used it too (I know, I know, that's why I stopped) but no where near as frequent. and jokingly one day in bed, we swapped phones to see what we would ask it. mine was stuff like "causes of burning smell in carpet cleaner when turned, how to fix it" & "Cellulite massage effectiveness" and his was...exactly what you'd think.
"do I have mold poisoning" "does this email from my coworker sound like they hate me" stuff like that. and it was hundreds and hundreds of searches in this vein. as as you know, AI is designed to agree with you and/or validate you.

what he struggles with the most is reassurance seeking- but if you've ever dealt with this, you'd know that it does not matter what I or anyone say, he doesn't believe it, yet he still asks. he has timer blocks on his social media apps but I cannot convince him to put one on chat gpt. but the thing is, he knows it's a problem and he relies on it. it's gotten to a point where I can literally tell when he pulls it up after we talk about something and he's immediately asking it something, even if I can't see his phone.

idk if there's advice for this, or if there's anyone on this sub who's joined it who doesn't have OCD but have a loved one that does. it's fucking heart breaking when he spirals. yesterday was a whole day of both of us being tired so he was convinced he had carbon monoxide poisoning. tried getting him out of the house or distracting him and he would not get up and instead just stared at a wall and/or on that godforsaken app.

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u/thecoolestbeanaround — 2 months ago

how 'accurate' is the show the pitt?

I don't work in the field and have only been to the ER once for a suicide attempt so my experience there is hazy. how accurate is it? the pace, the chaos, the characters, etc.

also curious about the situation with langdon stealing pills and not getting fired or dana (charge nurse) putting nicotine patch perscription under her insurance but giving it to a coworker who's insurance wouldn't cover it. I'm curious if that type of stuff is common or happens

beyond those two things, is the rest of the show accurate?

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u/thecoolestbeanaround — 2 months ago