u/threethirtyeninety

Will be there tomorrow and maybe weekend. Not sure yet. Anyone else?

I have a very small circle of friends, mostly by choice. But as people have gotten older and people grow apart, I find that circle shrinking expeditiously.

As a 25M and seeing what others my age are doing (going out, meeting new people, etc.), I feel like I’m seriously socially lagging. I work full time, my job is boring (project management), and my only real hobby is cars. Working on my cars usually takes up my whole weekend and I’m too tired by the time I get home to go out. I used to do a lot of camping/backpacking as an Eagle Scout, but haven’t gone since COVID.

Wondering if I should be concerned about not doing more social things or having more friends? I don’t usually initiate hangouts with people because I’m boring and I don’t want to be burden, and often avoid big social scenes unless I go with another friend. I feel like a real-life NPC lol. Should I be trying harder to push myself to go and do things?

Recently joined a team that’s working on a project that affects all 7k employees in our organization. They want to implement a change management model- which has never been done before formally in our organization- to try and better assimilate staff to the new scheduling system we’re implementing, with the intent of scaling the model for other change projects within our org.

There’s only two of us working on this change management aspect of the project and I feel lost. I’m thinking the “change network” of champions should be pretty thorough (at least one from each affected role and/or division within our org) so we can surface and address niche concerns as they come up, but not sure how many people we want to involve.

For you experts- any advice you can impart on structuring change management at an organizational level and what the ideal “change network” change management team would look like?

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!

Recently joined a team that’s working on a project that affects all 7k employees in our organization. They want to implement a change management model- which has never been done before formally in our organization- to try and better assimilate staff to the new scheduling system we’re implementing, with the intent of scaling the model for other change projects within our org.

There’s only two of us working on this change management aspect of the project and I feel lost. I’m thinking the “change network” of champions should be pretty thorough (at least one from each affected role and/or division within our org) so we can surface and address niche concerns as they come up, but not sure how many people we want to involve.

For you experts- any advice you can impart on structuring change management at an organizational level and what the ideal “change network” change management team would look like?

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!

Gen Z employee. I think it’s asinine how many management-level jobs in my organization require Masters Degrees and accept it as 2+ years of equivalent experience.

Most of my team holds Masters Degrees and some of them would need detailed instructions on how to screw in a lightbulb.

I’m not bitter towards Masters Degree holders, but I’m really not sure where the societal shift was that equated with having one to being a quality employee. Frankly, everyone I know that completed a Masters did so because they didn’t have a job lined up after graduation and wanted to extend the need to do so for a little while longer.

I know this is not everyone’s opinion and experience with Masters Degrees, so I’d love to hear any and all thoughts about Masters Degrees and their benefits. Considering how many places and jobs require it, I’m just thinking of doing an online program (like Western Governors University) but I’m really opposed to doing it just to check a box when I don’t see the appeal in it.

Looking to expand/rework my closet as a 25 y/o in the corporate world.

Below is a summary of my current work fit rotation and the issues I have with each:

Work Shirts- Oxford and Poplin J. Crew, Abercrombie, and Vineyard Vines short and long-sleeve shirts; Issues- I wear a Medium in all brands, but have way too much material left on all around the abdomen and on the arms. I have broad shoulders, so the shoulders fit just right, but everything else is too big. In contrast, J.Crew slim fit in medium is too tight, unfortunately.

Work Pants- J. Crew Straight Chinos; Issues- Wear a 29x32 in these, and they are too tight around the thighs and calves. I have bigger legs and despite being a “straight” cut, they’re one intense drying cycle away from fitting like a “skinny” on me

Shoes- Nike Killshots

Most of my closet is some variant of blue (gingham, stripes, solid, etc.) so also looking to get a variety of colors too. I was thinking about Lands End and Ralph Lauren shirts primarily, but Lands End seems to have quality issues and RL is pricey.

So any suggestions/advice you can give is appreciated!

Know someone walking in the engineering ceremony on Monday, but they didn’t get enough tickets for all of us. They would still like us to come and get together afterwards.

How long do graduations usually last? Any insight for the engineering ceremony specifically would be awesome, but just trying to get a general idea of the timing for any ceremony of a similar scale. Thanks!

Hello fellow GenZ- my work team just picked up an intern and my coworkers would like to insert “icebreakers” throughout our initial meeting with them on Monday.

I don’t really care for icebreakers myself, so I have no good ideas on what we could possibly do. Looking to gauge everyone to see what you might find interesting.

Thanks!

Hi, outsider here. My girlfriend’s brother is insisting there are two graduation ceremonies for him- one for his major on Monday, and then one for the whole school tomorrow. Is this true? Just want to confirm because most schools only do school of XXX graduations, and not whole school ones.

Thanks!

In high school, someone told me I was a DUFF- which has turned out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Not sure why everyone keeps me as an acquaintance, but is so tiring. Yeah, it takes me a while to lower my guard and open up to people, but it’s because people just drop me off as a friend without a second thought.

It hurts every time I find out that I care more about these “friends” more than they care about me. I’m 25 now and seeing everyone having their regular group of friends on social media is pretty sad.

I’m trying to put myself out there more to stop this from happening before I officially become unc, but it’s extremely difficult to find people naturally outside of work. For anyone else in a similar situation, how’s it going?

My E91 needs the center support bearing replaced. Going to replace the giubo while the driveshaft is out.

For anyone that’s done this job themselves, I’m wondering if it’s worth it to DIY- considering rust on exhaust + no lift + all of the meticulous care needed to take the driveshaft apart and whack on the CSB- or just pay to get it done (~$900 at my indie).

I’m not adverse to DIY, but it takes me a couple hours longer usually to do a job than others.

Thanks!

I want to put a funny sticker on my car please and thanks

Maybe it’s everyone deciding to RTO before the long weekend or everyone chose today to leave for their vacation, but I noticed a lot more drivers on the road this morning.

Leave earlier and save your sanity!

I’ve been in the closet since middle school, for family reasons. I’m 25 now, straight passing enough, and haven’t done any activities that allowed me to perpetuate the idea that I was gay (e.g. dating, hookups, clubs, etc.) out of fear of being outed.

This past weekend, I decided to go to a niche event sponsored by an LGBT-focused group that aligned with my hobbies (motorsports). I had lots of reservations about going, but my biggest fears were the judgement and potential bigotry I’d face by outing myself as an LGBT-community member by association with the sponsoring group. My internal homophobia was working overtime here, but I know how nasty people can be towards LGBT people from first-hand experience. I spent my teens suppressing anything that would lead people on to me being gay out of fear of being bullied- and here I was just willingly outing myself by being part of this group?

Well, this weekend came and went, and I’m happy to report that I had a great time with these guys. It was refreshing to see so much LGBT representation in a hobby I love that’s mostly straight-male dominated. It was also inspiring to see how comfortable these guys were with their sexuality in public- openly talking about being gay, drag queens, etc.- it was my first time being in an LGBT space where I wasn’t totally on edge.

Reflecting on this experience has been really tough for me. This weekend showed me that you could lead a normal life being gay, in that you don’t always have to be guarded in what you say/do to not let others on to you are gay. It’s also left me feeling hollow in realizing that even though I want to have a healthy relationship with my sexuality, none of the people I have in my circle know about this huge aspect of me, and I’m not sure I’m prepared to lose them if they find out and start from scratch. I don’t want to be alone, but I already feel so isolated not committing to the closet or being gay.

Not sure I had a purpose for this post other than to organize my thoughts. I’m mourning this weekend because it was such a great experience with people I could identify and let my guard down with, but it’s left me at an impasse for how I want to continue my journey as a closeted guy. This probably won’t reach them but a huge thanks to the guys that interacted with me this weekend and made me feel really comfortable in a space I’ve kept myself away from. Shoutout to all of you that have the confidence to live your truth, hoping I can get there one day too.