Does anyone have any thoughts about her? I genuinely really like her non-dating content, but I do get annoyed by how much she mentions that she’s never had a boyfriend or kissed anyone.
She seems like a genuinely sweet girl, but I think she expects she going to meet someone and instantly be madly in love.
I’m curious if anyone else has experienced this after heartbreak, I’m no longer torn up about the relationship ending 9 months ago. I’m not even upset about the lack of closure I got from him. I cry occasionally about it but it’s more from “ i didn’t deserve to be treated like that”. I’m genuinely happy on my own. I’ve started grad school. I’m in the best shape of my life. I have wonderful friends and I’m making even more.
What i’ve realized is I’m totally content now. I always imagined myself falling in love and getting married, but the more I think about it, the less I want it. I was on hinge thinking I’d go on some dates, but realized I didn’t want to so I deleted the app. It’s a weird feeling because for so long I wanted that companionship and to be able to give someone love, but now I just want to pour that energy into myself, my life, and my non-romantic relationships rather than putting my effort into someone new.
Did anyone else go through this and eventually get the desire back? I’m not closed off from it, but I think I’d have to have someone show up in my life platonically and as of now there’s no one which i’m at peace with.
I’ve told the full story previously so I’m not going to rehash it now, but essentially I was with someone for 3.5 years who repeatedly ghosted. We were last in contact in January and a month ago I finally deleted the social media he actively posted on.
Right now, I’m doing really well. I’m in therapy, casually dating again, making new friends, trying new hobbies, and working on doing more things for me. Ever since I deleted social media I’m not thinking about what he’s doing or if he’s coming back.
My main issue is that I think about him a lot. Not in a I miss him way or a how could he do this to me way or a when is he coming back again way just I’ll see a song that reminds me of a time when things were good or when things were bad. I’ll see photos from before we met and I’ll think about how i didn’t know he existed then. I’m not trying to think about him, but things will just remind me of him.
Has anyone else been through this? How long did it take you to have a day where you just didn’t think about them at all? I’m annoyed because I don’t want to think about him. I don’t even really cry about him anymore but I want to fully move on and close this chapter.
Every time someone is interested in me, it’s never at a healthy level. i’ve had multiple men confess feelings for me after meeting me once. I’ve had a couple of guys confess to watching me for a long time before approaching me. There have been multiple times I’ve had to cut things off early on in a relationship because they’re just substantially more into me than I’m into them.
On the flip side, anyone that I’ve seriously dated long term or had real interest in tends to be very hard to read. I tend to go for guys who are more standoffish and may not show the interest and obsession typically get. In my one long term relationship there was repeated cycle of pulling away and coming back.
I’m just curious why people are drawn to me except for the ones i’m interested in.
Does anyone have any tea or thoughts on her? She’s been popping up a lot on my fyp lately
I’m 26 and I’ve had atrocious luck in dating. My last relationship ended 8 months ago and I have absolutely no desire to actively seek out a relationship ever again. I’ve never left a relationship not absolutely drained and find myself much happier and content single.
The older I get, the more I realize I want children but don’t necessarily care about a husband, so I’ve decided to give myself 2 years to let someone come into my life organically before I start trying to on my own.
My friends generally are very supportive of this decision. One of my close friends’ mom was actually a single mom by choice with her and then later got married and had 2 more children.
I’ve told my mom multiple times that I definitely want kids but don’t think I want marriage and every time she tells me I just need to wait for the right person and being a single mom is really hard unless you have the money for nannies.
I think part of her issue with it is that she was almost 40 when she married my dad and 41 when she had me, so she figures I should just wait it out too. It’s not very convincing to me since my parents aren’t and have never been madly in love. It just seems like they both settled for each other. I don’t want that in the slightest. I only want marriage if it’s my soulmate.
But I’ve always wanted to have kids when I’m on the younger side and I don’t want my timeline dependent on waiting for someone who may or may not exist. I’d way rather have a baby sooner and then get proven wrong about the marriage thing rather than waiting it out and still winding up in the same situation in 20 years.
It’s been 7 months since I got ghosted by my on and off bf of 3.5 years and I’ve been trying really hard to move on. I’ve developed new hobbies, I’ve talked to friends about it, I’ve started to exercise more, I journaled about it, and I started therapy.
I have him muted on social media so I don’t see any of his posts but yesterday I noticed he posted an instagram story. For whatever reason I got the urge to check it (I’d successfully made it a month without checking any) I tried not to but ended up checking on a third party site. It was him and his new girlfriend. It makes it harder to know he is capable of forming a relationship and it makes me feel like something was wrong with me how he walked away without letting me know that anything was wrong.
I feel like I’ve tried everything to heal. I have a lot of love to give and this feels like the worst grief of my life. It would’ve been easier if he got abducted by aliens or something because at least then he’s actually gone. With the way it is now I just have to accept that I’m never going to get an answer and he doesn’t feel guilty and that I run the risk of anyone sweeping the rug out from under me.
I genuinely feel like the only way I can stop thinking about him would be to a.) cut myself off from all internet access (i don’t think blocking would help since I watched his story from a different website) b.) end up with amnesia that makes me forget about him.
I want to heal and I want to meet someone new and fall in love with them but I just can’t stop thinking about what he did to me, so a new relationship or any intimacy at all terrifies me. It’s been 7 months and I feel like I should feel better by now but it’s very fresh feeling still. How did you all stop thinking about them?
It’s been 7 months since I got ghosted by my on and off bf of 3.5 years and I’ve been trying really hard to move on. I’ve developed new hobbies, I’ve talked to friends about it, I’ve started to exercise more, I journaled about it, and I started therapy.
I have him muted on social media so I don’t see any of his posts but yesterday I noticed he posted an instagram story. For whatever reason I got the urge to check it (I’d successfully made it a month without checking any) I tried not to but ended up checking on a third party site. It was him and his new girlfriend. It makes it harder to know he is capable of forming a relationship and it makes me feel like something was wrong with me how he walked away without letting me know that anything was wrong.
I feel like I’ve tried everything to heal. I have a lot of love to give and this feels like the worst grief of my life. It would’ve been easier if he got abducted by aliens or something because at least then he’s actually gone. With the way it is now I just have to accept that I’m never going to get an answer and he doesn’t feel guilty and that I run the risk of anyone sweeping the rug out from under me.
I genuinely feel like the only way I can stop thinking about him would be to a.) cut myself off from all internet access (i don’t think blocking would help since I watched his story from a different website) b.) end up with amnesia that makes me forget about him.
I want to heal and I want to meet someone new and fall in love with them but I just can’t stop thinking about what he did to me, so a new relationship or any intimacy at all terrifies me. It’s been 7 months and I feel like I should feel better by now but it’s very fresh feeling still. How did you all stop thinking about them?
It’s been 7 months since I got ghosted by my on and off bf of 3.5 years and I’ve been trying really hard to move on. I’ve developed new hobbies, I’ve talked to friends about it, I’ve started to exercise more, I journaled about it, and I started therapy.
I have him muted on social media so I don’t see any of his posts but yesterday I noticed he posted an instagram story. For whatever reason I got the urge to check it (I’d successfully made it a month without checking any) I tried not to but ended up checking on a third party site. It was him and his new girlfriend. It makes it harder to know he is capable of forming a relationship and it makes me feel like something was wrong with me how he walked away without letting me know that anything was wrong.
I feel like I’ve tried everything to heal. I have a lot of love to give and this feels like the worst grief of my life. It would’ve been easier if he got abducted by aliens or something because at least then he’s actually gone. With the way it is now I just have to accept that I’m never going to get an answer and he doesn’t feel guilty and that I run the risk of anyone sweeping the rug out from under me.
I genuinely feel like the only way I can stop thinking about him would be to a.) cut myself off from all internet access (i don’t think blocking would help since I watched his story from a different website) b.) end up with amnesia that makes me forget about him.
I want to heal and I want to meet someone new and fall in love with them but I just can’t stop thinking about what he did to me, so a new relationship or any intimacy at all terrifies me. It’s been 7 months and I feel like I should feel better by now but it’s very fresh feeling still. How did you all stop thinking about them?
It’s been 7 months since I got ghosted by my on and off bf of 3.5 years and I’ve been trying really hard to move on. I’ve developed new hobbies, I’ve talked to friends about it, I’ve started to exercise more, I journaled about it, and I started therapy.
I have him muted on social media so I don’t see any of his posts but yesterday I noticed he posted an instagram story. For whatever reason I got the urge to check it (I’d successfully made it a month without checking any) I tried not to but ended up checking on a third party site. It was him and his new girlfriend. It makes it harder to know he is capable of forming a relationship and it makes me feel like something was wrong with me how he walked away without letting me know that anything was wrong.
I feel like I’ve tried everything to heal. I have a lot of love to give and this feels like the worst grief of my life. It would’ve been easier if he got abducted by aliens or something because at least then he’s actually gone. With the way it is now I just have to accept that I’m never going to get an answer and he doesn’t feel guilty and that I run the risk of anyone sweeping the rug out from under me.
I genuinely feel like the only way I can stop thinking about him would be to a.) cut myself off from all internet access (i don’t think blocking would help since I watched his story from a different website) b.) end up with amnesia that makes me forget about him.
I want to heal and I want to meet someone new and fall in love with them but I just can’t stop thinking about what he did to me, so a new relationship or any intimacy at all terrifies me. It’s been 7 months and I feel like I should feel better by now but it’s very fresh feeling still. How did you all stop thinking about them?