How do I deal with trans father with Alzheimer?
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My father started transitioning in her late 30s when i was a teenager.She divorced my mother, started hormonal therapy, got facial surgeries them finally got srs surgery when she was 44.
She was happy for the next years and lived full time as a woman but it all came crashing down recently.
She was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer/Dementia after she turned 48 (2 years ago) and it has rapidly progressed despite monthly medical consultations and many different theurapeutical approaches.
Her recent memory is mostly ruinned,she remebers me and my sister as teenagers,she often thinks she is still married to my mom or that she is still working in her old job.
But the worst part is that she still thinks she is a man.Sometimes she completelly forgets about her transition,from the hormonal therapy to the surgeries.
Once or twice a week she will wake me up screaming that something is wrong with her,that she urinated herself while trying to pee standing up,that her penis is gone,that she has breasts and looks like a "transvestite".
She gets desperate and angry.I try to explain to her what happened in the last 10 years but most of the times she refuses to believe and becomes even more agressive and paranoid
While she often can accept that i am no longer a teenager and that she is divorced from my mom, she wont belive me that she transitioned and got srs surgery,oftem getting mad at me when i use female pronouns or reffer to herself as woman.
Its got to a point that I dont think i can tke care of her anymore and I am seriously considering plackng her in a retirement home equiped to deal with this.
Has anyone else gone through something similar?