u/zdboslaw

It was such a great experience today. So glad I went. Great vibes. Spent a lot of money, consumed great food and beverages and desserts.

Go next year if you missed this one!

Woke up in the middle of the night itchy all over.

Nothing seems to be helping. Before I went to bed, I used 2% ketoconazole shampoo all over for seven minutes. Then I put Cetaphil on.

When I woke up in the middle of the night I put on Aquaphor

nothing is working

I’m dying

It started as dandruff and then migrated to my forehead and now it’s in my armpits and the inside of my elbows and the inside of my knees

I’ve tried tons of the suggestions that I found online and I’ve seen a dermatologist NP online twice

I need a dermatologist MD as soon as possible and I need to try something different because nothing is working

Pray for me.

Woke up in the middle of the night itchy all over.

Nothing seems to be helping. before I went to bed, I used 2% ketoconazole shampoo all over for seven minutes. Then I put Cetaphil on.

When I woke up in the middle of the night I put on Aquaphor

nothing is working

I’m dying

Questions that come through my brain

how many dates has she been on since me

how many different men has she gotten on her roster

has she gotten serious on anyone

is she falling in love again

is she talking about marriage already with her new person

Is she seeing a new man every night

Does she miss me

does she think about me

does she have regrets

How quickly does she cycle through men really

Did her intimate life improve

I know I shouldn’t be thinking about her. I know I should be moving on. But I can’t help it- I’m stuck

This summer I set a goal to make some new friends. I am male mid 50s in New England.

I volunteered. I joined Meetup groups. I joined Meet5. I joined Stitch. I joined Timeleft. I joined nice to meet.

I am playing pickle ball practically every day and I’m working out at the YMCA almost every day.

I’m seeing live music a couple of times a week.

I have attended three social dinners with some of the groups mentioned above.

To be fair, I do have some new texting buddies.

But nothing has resulted in a friendship really. Most things I do alone I go home alone and I don’t have any new numbers in my phone afterwards.

What am I doing wrong? What worked for you?

Why is it so hard?

Edit: will try church next. I’m super non religious so UU most likely

I recall from my days of online dating that some of the apps used to have a feature just to make friends. Is this still a thing? Has anyone used it successfully?

This could be friends of either gender , non romantic just to have someone to hang out with.

I have not had a ton of success making in real life friendships through my hobbies or daily activities. I am pretty active with hobbies and interests and cultural pursuits, but none of it has led to new friendships.

Thanks in advance!

Would love a person (or more) to hang with Sat in Somerville.

Just an older suburbanite with a taste for city street life.

If they start talking about marriage/ living together / engagement etc very early, they might love you and think you are a catch. They might be sure that you’re their forever person.

BUT ALSO… this might be their standard operating procedure. They might do this with everyone. They might be in love with New Relationship Energy.

Be careful with your heart, fellow travelers.

End of May, my NP at my men’s health clinic recommended nizoral OTC shampoo for dandruff and dry skin on my forehead and temples. I also had dry irritated skin on my inner elbow joints and armpits.

I started out using OTC nizoral shampoo every third day for a couple weeks, then saw a dermatologist online bc the dandruff and dry peeling skin wasn’t improving.

She prescribed 2% ketoconazole shampoo MWF (leaving on skin 10 minutes) for two weeks. I’ve been on 250mg oral Terbinafine for two weeks plus 2% ketoconazole topical cream. But after two weeks prescription treatment, my dandruff still exists on my scalp and the dry flakes are spreading down my forehead. I look terrible and won’t leave the house like this.

I saw the dermatologist again and she says continue Terbinafine for 1 month and continue 2% ketoconazole shampoo as well. But I’m not seeing much progress.

How do I distinguish dandruff vs seborrheic dermatitis, psoriasis, contact dermatitis, dry scalp, and tinea capitis?

Should I be doing more? Doing less?

I also have irritated itchy patches inside my elbow and armpits.

What do I have? What should I do?

I’m not seeing any improvement after two weeks of the strongest treatment. The summer is sailing by.

End of May, my NP at my men’s health clinic recommended nizoral OTC shampoo for dandruff and dry skin on my forehead and temples. I also had dry irritated skin on my inner elbow joints and armpits.

I started out using OTC nizoral shampoo every third day for a couple weeks, then saw a dermatologist online bc the dandruff and dry peeling skin wasn’t improving.

She prescribed 2% ketoconazole shampoo MWF (leaving on skin 10 minutes) for two weeks. I’ve been on 250mg oral Terbinafine for two weeks plus 2% ketoconazole topical cream. But after two weeks prescription treatment, my dandruff still exists on my scalp and the dry flakes are spreading down my forehead. I look terrible and won’t leave the house like this.

I saw the dermatologist again and she says continue Terbinafine for 1 month and continue 2% ketoconazole shampoo as well. But I’m not seeing much progress.

How do I distinguish dandruff vs seborrheic dermatitis, psoriasis, contact dermatitis, dry scalp, and tinea capitis?

Should I be doing more? Doing less?

I also have irritated itchy patches inside my elbow and armpits.

What do I have? What should I do?

I’m not seeing any improvement after two weeks of the strongest treatment. The summer is sailing by.

End of May, my NP at my men’s health clinic recommended nizoral OTC shampoo for dandruff and dry skin on my forehead and temples. I also had dry irritated skin on my inner elbow joints and armpits.

I started out using OTC nizoral shampoo every third day for a couple weeks, then saw a dermatologist online bc the dandruff and dry peeling skin wasn’t improving.

She prescribed 2% ketoconazole shampoo MWF (leaving on skin 10 minutes) for two weeks. I’ve been on 250mg oral Terbinafine for two weeks plus 2% ketoconazole topical cream. But after two weeks prescription treatment, my dandruff still exists on my scalp and the dry flakes are spreading down my forehead. I look terrible and won’t leave the house like this.

I saw the dermatologist again and she says continue Terbinafine for 1 month and continue 2% ketoconazole shampoo as well. But I’m not seeing much progress.

How do I distinguish dandruff vs seborrheic dermatitis, psoriasis, contact dermatitis, dry scalp, and tinea capitis?

Should I be doing more? Doing less?

I also have irritated itchy patches inside my elbow and armpits.

What do I have? What should I do?

I’m not seeing any improvement after two weeks of the strongest treatment. The summer is sailing by.

Looking for games Sat Sun. Tried the four indoor venues online and found nothing suitable. Little help?

We ended our relationship at the Pickleball court. It felt calm and reasonable enough at first. We were both ready. She’d previously sent me a detailed letter listing many issues of our relationship. In the past, I’d always advocated for us to collaborate, communicate, and cooperate on making it better. This time, it felt like too much. At first things were calm and reasonable. But things shifted.

She started hounding me for one last fck. She said I owed it to her because I’ve been holding back on the “good dick”and she wanted the good dick that all my other women got. She knew my history and said I wouldn’t have had multiple multi year relationships if I couldn’t deliver the goods. (Our relationship was challenged in the bedroom, hence this hangup. )

I said no. It was a bad idea. It would be confusing and a pointless exercise. But I did ask to go to her place to retrieve my stuff - I had a lot of clothes there.

I went to her place, packed up my stuff. The whole time she was hounding me, begging, pleading, whining about getting that “good dick” that I’d been withholding from her.

She was persistent. She was insistent. She was in my face. It was crazy. I was scared by the unpredictability of what’s next.

I held steadfast and resolute. The break up feelings were sad, not sexy. And it felt very much lose-lose - if the goodbye sex was really good, then we might change our minds about breaking up or be more upset and if the sex was still really bad then we’re just going out on an even worse note.

Fundamentally though I just couldn’t make myself have sex with someone who thought so little of us and thought of the relationship. It doesn’t matter if she’s pretty or hot. Sex for me has feelings and emotions attached that matter. I couldn’t turn her from girlfriend to FWB in one instant. (I’ve done FWB before, but it was discussed and agreed that’s what it was)

I’m not sure what would have happened had I said yes. It likely would’ve gone haywire in some other unpredictable way. I’m not sure that’s what she actually wanted at that time. But it’s one hell of a final memory to take out of a 13 month relationship.

I can’t stay very long tonight, so I wasn’t going to buy a ticket. How close can you get just by like walking on city streets? Is this a thing people do – stay outside of the ticketed zone just to hear the tunes?

Looking for good physical therapy provider in or near Lowell, one that takes insurance. Personal referral better than random internet / AI query. TIA!

Looking for apartment or small home. What’s worked for you?

I was with a person. I thought it was my last person. I thought we were meant to be. She had a face I thought I’d be looking at forever.

Because I thought it was meant to be, and bc I thought we were a great match, I ignored a lot of red flags. I swallowed my misgivings. I let troubling incidents pass by, unresolved and undiscussed.

My biggest mistake was not sticking to my principles and core beliefs. They were issues early on with communication, kindness, and connection. I told myself “this is fine” when it wasn’t really fine.

To be clear, she wasn’t a bad person - she just wasn’t “my person” , but I kept trying to convince myself that she was.

If I get involved with someone romantically again, I am going to try like hell to keep reminding myself of my core principles and values.

There is no reward for making the wrong relationship last a long time. Don’t swallow important things just to keep the peace. It’ll all come out eventually.

ETA: thanks for the award u/kwhitesa !

A woman was divorced 25+ years ago and says she has been actively dating, but never been “in love” or had an exclusive boyfriend girlfriend relationship in this time. They say they prefer it light, easy breezy, and casual.

This surprised me.

Red flag for you?

ETA assume you are a man interested in dating this woman seriously with commitment and intention. And she says she’s willing to try.