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so yes I know that this title might sound very odd to you , but I am soon to be 18 , and for last 2-3 teenage years I used to compare myself a lot a lot and in the process I was jealous of people / girls around me in every way like appearance , career, grades etc. , please don't judge but I really didn't want to jealous of those people like why? like if i see a pretty girl then I would be like but she has this flaw and then compare myself to her , which was very toxic tbh

so after being fed up from my mind , I reprogrammed my mind and today I just hardly ever compare myself to another person and even be jealous this is how-

so lets imagine my name is X and i compare myself to girl called Y , now I would see myself as Y like what if I was born as Y , then like every other individual I would want the best for myself like Y so why should I be jealous of Y when she is flourishing in life , because if i was her , i would be so happy for myself , this thing and mentality helped me put every individual on same pedestal and see everyone as normal human who wants good in life

now I thought about myself - my values , I realized that if a person's personality isn't good then I dont like that person regardless of good appearance / career etc. so I found the main factor - uniqueness in personality - each person carries one thats what differs them for me atleast

so regardless of crying or be comparative about my appearance or any other thing , I tried to be better in what can be changed like personality , style , attitude , and career , and accepted that yes each human has flaws , and every human wants to be happy in this world least , then why think bad or be comparative or jealous when we are striving for same thing -peace and happiness and love , definitely please criticize what is bad but all this actually made my toxic mentality , anger and jealousy emotions shut down , sometimes they come but again I think about above points.

regards.

so yes I know that this title might sound very odd to you , but I am soon to be 18 , and for last 2-3 teenage years I used to compare myself a lot a lot and in the process I was jealous of people / girls around me in every way like appearance , career, grades etc. , please don't judge but I really didn't want to jealous of those people like why? like if i see a pretty girl then I would be like but she has this flaw and then compare myself to her , which was very toxic tbh

so after being fed up from my mind , I reprogrammed my mind and today I just hardly ever compare myself to another person and even be jealous this is how-

so lets imagine my name is X and i compare myself to girl called Y , now I would see myself as Y like what if I was born as Y , then like every other individual I would want the best for myself like Y so why should I be jealous of Y when she is flourishing in life , because if i was her , i would be so happy for myself , this thing and mentality helped me put every individual on same pedestal and see everyone as normal human who wants good in life

now I thought about myself - my values , I realized that if a person's personality isn't good then I dont like that person regardless of good appearance / career etc. so I found the main factor - uniqueness in personality - each person carries one thats what differs them for me atleast

so regardless of crying or be comparative about my appearance or any other thing , I tried to be better in what can be changed like personality , style , attitude , and career , and accepted that yes each human has flaws , and every human wants to be happy in this world least , then why think bad or be comparative or jealous when we are striving for same thing -peace and happiness and love , definitely please criticize what is bad but all this actually made my toxic mentality , anger and jealousy emotions shut down , sometimes they come but again I think about above points.

regards.

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i dont wanna join college clubs in 1st year , due to some other plans and so can i join from 2nd year or not?and is it hard to get into clubs like..

so thing is I am kinda inclined towards research more than corporate , but i also want a life where i can pursue my hobbies like sports , guitar etc. which i left due to jee . I dont wanna compromise with the hobby part tbh , because i am also not so sure that i wanna do corporate my entire life , yes i dream about studying abroad , and have read 2-3 research paper regarding few things , please dont judge and guide...thanks

so thing is I am kinda inclined towards research more than corporate , but i also want a life where i can pursue my hobbies like sports , guitar etc. which i left due to jee . I dont wanna compromise with the hobby part tbh , because i am also not so sure that i wanna do corporate my entire life , yes i dream about studying abroad , and have read 2-3 research paper regarding few things , please dont judge and guide...thanks

so the thing is i got alloted csai in igdtuw - I have few doubts regarding some things , if youre from csai department , pls comment under this post if i can dm to ask you , it would be of great help thanks in future

hey seniors , i wanna take drop for jee , will turn 19 when i start btech , the only thing that holds me back is that will age matter in long term in career for a girl? because people from school or friends will complete their ba/bcom / or 3 year degree by 20 or 21 , so will i be too late? i wanna pursue research in some specific field in future , thats why i wanna try for better college next year so pls answer

please answer what i asked , dont demotivate , thanks

I am so done with how unsafe delhi is for women especially teenage girls like me ,So I had an exam a week ago for which i had to change line pink to magenta at lajpat nagar , the escalator was very crowded so i opted to climb stairs , then as i look upward , man who was like veery much ahead of me in escalator , his body turned toward me , phone toward me , where his head should be turned frontwards as he is going above and not backwards towards girl climbing stairs , I made clear 3 seconds eye contact and mouthed - video kyun banare ho?

then even afetr having very high cold and viral , i ran and caught up to him to confess why you recorded , he said - shaq hai apko ? i said yes firmly then put out my phone to record to his video , he turned his face away [ i dont wanna post , its traumatic ]

then he ran and climbed stairs before me , ran into metro , gate closed ....

2nd incident when i was 14 , returning from school , in uniform , 2pm afternoon , man comes in bike and tells me to sit on his bike and he will drop me home , and he was smoking something , and mind you that was very good area like residential posh area with many people around , i just made disgusted face and he went

but after all these and many more , I realize how much strong we women have to become to survive in this city , because we are the one who can protect ourselves , seriously no women is safe