r/ask_transgender

Basically, I have just started testosterone. Hooray for me, I feel amazing! However, a small caveat is that I have started treatment while still living with very unaccepting and unsupportive parents. I am moving out in 3-4 months and figured that was a short enough time period to hide the effects. However, my facial hair is coming in STRONG. I've been two weeks on T and my mustache hairs have gotten significant darker on the edges and some peach fuzz is developing on my chin and jaw. Need help on how to effectively hide this until I can finally let it grow out on my own. Sucks given it's one of the changes I've been looking forward to the most, but you gotta do whatcha gotta do.

I am scared I’ll be stuck like this, I don’t mind being a pretty boy when I want to but I want to be the woman who’s always been me trapped underneath this skin.

It took me so long because I was afraid of my people disowning me, then it was drug addiction for years, now that I’ve been sober for 4 years, I’m ready. I have always been scared I wouldn’t be pretty, I said screw it, because honestly it’s going to kill me not to, even if I don’t transition good, but I kinda hope I’ll be pretty, that I’ll feel good about it.

My voice is 100 percent woman on command and beautiful, I go to the gym and do targeting fem work outs, I eat healthy and have an amazing skin care routine, I’m doing all the foot work.

Mother God please bless me with your beauty and grace, I will not squander your gift, I will not be an ugly woman inside, but be the light and love you’ve put into my heart over the years. I will be a good woman either way but being touched by your hand giving the gift of beauty and the movement of grace would make me so very thankful. I love you and I trust you and it’s in you mother I pray Amen

hii all, im 26 yrs

so im currently gender questioning and was wondering , when is too late to transition/go on hormones .

ive been wondering for sometime if I was a girl but not really sure if its what I actually am or want. But if I do, id like for changes to be like obvious/realistic in a way. like good fat redistribution etc.

how would I act to get the best results ?

also anyone else going through this journey or been through it and found yourself going on hrt?

id love to hear all your stories, maybe they could help me understand a bit about myself , or what to look out for.

all help, questions, or anything really is welcome.

and dms are open if need be.

Hi everyone, I'm... uhh, u know, let's forget the name for now, lol. I'm 19 yrs old & currently in community college, just kinda living life. But currently, I've been questioning alot about me, & for the past year or 2 | haven't really been ok. But let's try not to get fully into that & more into the meat & potatoes

Recently, I've been questioning alot if I'm trans, & it's starting to scare me, ngl. Awhile ago, I was only questioning if I was straight or gay. It took me a bit to fiqure it out, but I think I've come to terms that I'm bi But recently, I've come into the thing that I might be trans, & honestly it was after watching TADC finale. SOUNDS STUPID I KNOW. BUT BEAR WITH ME PLEASE LMAO. After watching Jax's whole storyline & later being confirmed that they're trans, it kinda made me iffy. Like, I related to it heavily, but idk why. just tried brushing it off, but the more i did it kept getting under my skin, I started dressing differently. I started trying on girl clothes that made me feel good secretly dressing, ofc. Honestly, I was doing abit of it even before I saw the finale, & I started doing it more and more, keeping it hidden

But even tho I did kinda like it and it made me happy I felt like what I was doing was wrong, not natural, & that no one would accept me if I was not my mom my family, and especially my friends, leaving me with no one. Leaving me... alone. So I just started to stop & push it away, as I felt like I could ruin my own life But when I did that, I kinda felt miserable. Pushing away something I liked doing, I just felt depressed

I had later told only one of my friends what I was going thru, but telling mostly about me being bi and not the whole thinking I'm trans thing, as I didn't wanna tell them too much. And he had told me that no matter what i was, he would accept me, as even if I was, I was still his friend. And it made me happy to hear that. But when we had a conversation with my best friend (different person btw) asking 'what if specific friends of ours were gay or trans,' then I came up in the conversation. And he said that if I was bi, maybe, but if I was trans, he would probably never talk to me again. Hearing that broke me, really. It made me feel unloved and uncared for, like our friendship is really nothing. I started panicking, having like a panic attack of sorts, but had to calm down quickly so he didn't question anything or look at me differently

After that, I immediately stopped & never brought it up to my friend or myself again, as I felt like I had too much to lose if I did. & now here we are. I feel so alone, depressed, started cutting my wrists... I just feel so uncomfortable in my own skin, like I don't belong here or belong in like my body. So I just wanna know, is something wrong with me?

Hi everyone, I'm... uhh, u know, let's forget the name for now, lol. I'm 19 yrs old & currently in community college, just kinda living life. But currently, I've been questioning alot about me, & for the past year or 2 I haven't really been ok. But let's try not to get fully into that & more into the meat & potatoes.

​Recently, I've been questioning alot if I'm trans, & it's starting to scare me, ngl. Awhile ago, I was only questioning if I was straight or gay. It took me a bit to figure it out, but I think I've come to terms that I'm bi. But recently, I've come into the thing that I might be trans, & honestly it was after watching TADC finale. SOUNDS STUPID I KNOW, BUT BEAR WITH ME PLEASE LMAO. After watching Jax's whole storyline & later being confirmed that they're trans, it kinda made me iffy. Like, I related to it heavily, but idk why. I just tried brushing it off, but the more i did it kept getting under my skin, I started dressing differently. I started trying on girl clothes that made me feel good, secretly dressing, ofc. Honestly, I was doing abit of it even before I saw the finale, & I started doing it more and more, keeping it hidden.

​But even tho I did kinda like it and it made me happy, I felt like what I was doing was wrong, not natural, & that no one would accept me if I was not my mom, my family, and especially my friends, leaving me with no one. Leaving me... alone. So I just started to stop & push it away, as I felt like I could ruin my own life. But when I did that, I kinda felt miserable. Pushing away something I liked doing, I just felt depressed.

​I had later told only one of my friends what I was going thru, but telling mostly about me being bi and not the whole thinking I'm trans thing, as I didn't wanna tell them too much. And he had told me that no matter what, he would accept me, as even if I was, I was still his friend. And it made me happy to hear that. ​But when we had a conversation with my best friend asking 'what if specific friends of ours were gay or trans,' then I came up in the conversation. And he said that if I was bi, maybe, but if I was trans, he would probably never talk to me again. Hearing that broke me, really. It made me feel unloved and uncared for, like our friendship is really nothing. I started panicking, having like a panic attack of sorts, but had to calm down quickly so he didn't question anything or look at me differently.

​After that, I immediately stopped & never brought it up to my friend or myself again, as I felt like I had too much to lose if I did. & now here we are. I feel so alone, depressed, started cutting my wrists... I just feel so uncomfortable in my own skin, like I don't belong here or belong in like my body. So I just wanna know, is something wrong with me?

I know this is going to sound crazy, but I’ve been on HRT for 4 years now and started at 24. I had seen a slight growth in my hips, nothing major, but recently these past two months I randomly got the idea to use our massage gun at work on my hip bones at max speed and I’ve seen a drastic change in shape and width. No measurements unfortunately but it’s very much noticeable. Is there any scientific backing for this working?

I am blind and I am also trans. I'm sure I'm not the only person with this combination of life circumstances, but I've certainly never encountered anybody else like me. Just wondering if anyone else in this sub read it also has this combination of things going on?
Certainly there are also quite a wide variety of ways to experience blindness or being transgender, and other aspects of identity like race or what country you live in are very significant to shaping every day life. I'd still love to connect, wondering who's out there ? 🦄👩‍🦯

I'm asking as a person who has lived their entire life trying to hide. I was subjected to death threats and mutilation from my father when he happened to find out that I might not be what he had in mind for his first-born "Son".

I'm older now (30+), and finally at a point in my life where I need to stop hiding or it's going to kill me. But, I have no idea how to go about any of this, or even if it's worth trying to. I don't believe I'll ever pass, or even if I want to. I just know I'm not the "me" that I've been wearing as a mask to get by.

Has anyone else ever went through something similar?

So the college I'll (17M) be going to offers a 19-day backpacking trip in about a month and a half, which I was very excited for... until I started thinking about all the things that could go wrong while I am trapped in the woods, days out from civilization, with strangers.

I will have no privacy and no bathrooms.

I also haven't decided how open I want to be about being trans. Once I tell people, I can't take it back.

There is also little information available online about the program, and emailing will out me.

Problems:

1. Do dudes piss in the woods together like girls go to the bathroom together? I'm going to buy an STP, but how would I even clean it?
2. I am 5 months into T shots. I'm kind of squeamish around needles, and my parents have always done them for me. I'm concerned about emailing the program leaders to ask if they could do it (two injections total) and about it possibly outing me. Gel isn't an option because I have no privacy or water. It also takes up a lot of room. I don't want to feel shitty because of hormone fluctuation or get my period back.
3. I'm so embarrassed about wearing a swim shirt. I watched a documentary about the camp that a student made, and there were so many shirtless, muscular dudes. I feel like it makes me look like a little kid. Tape irritates my skin really badly.
4. Is it okay for me to wear a binder all the time for 19 days? I will be sharing a tent and have a small chest, but I don't want to take any chances and have someone see. I wear my binder for like 10-12 hours a day and never have any pain or feel sore. The thought of wearing a sports bra makes me feel dysphoric. If I were going to wear a sports bra, it would have to be seamless so it couldn't be seen through my shirts.
5. We are flying there as a group, and my passport picture, name, and gender are pre-transition. I'm anxious about going through TSA or people seeing it. I will probably have my driver's license updated by then, but I might not.
6. What if I don't pass for some reason or get outed and they are transphobic? How should I even handle that? I'll be stuck with them.

I’m straight (unfortunately) dating while 32. I want to find a boyfriend- something serious monogamous. I’m using Hinge in London- where I think is probably the best city for dating for me in terms of my chances of finding a man who also speaks English.
The problem is with the family filter set to “Don’t want children” I hit a wall of “no more users in your area” within very few swipes. And this is central London.
I mean obviously the “wants serious relationship” + “child-free” man is probably rare. The men who leave it blank or pick “Don’t want children” tend to be the low-effort/casual or poly profiles.
I’m not sure how to go about the children subject with Hinge. I’m open to children but only if we have the financial means and we have help if we want to travel and such, but I lean more on the child-free side. Plus I assume most men who say they want children are probably just looking for a cis woman rather than the costly process of alternatives? So I have no idea how to approach this.

Im 17 but look like im 12 and female. Im planning on going on t this month w gender gp but is there a way i can get faster results?