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An ode to Namma Bengaluru

I went to Subko The Craftery, ordered my food, paid my bill, and later looked at the receipt.

Under Customer Detail, instead of my name, I found:
“Little fat black shirt.”
Yes. That was apparently enough to identify me.
Not my name.
Not “the gentleman at table 12.”
Not even a simple order number.

What makes this worse is that someone had to consciously type that into their system. Someone looked at a customer and reduced him to “fat” because apparently basic dignity wasn’t part of the service.

If this were a woman and the receipt described her body instead of using her name,

I doubt anyone would call it a harmless joke.

Body-shaming isn’t funny just because the person on the receiving end is a man.

Subko, your staff can identify customers without humiliating them. Do better.

This post is a part of my final attempt to find my chocolate labrador lashley who was abandoned 5 years ago by my father. I will first post a short introduction before explaining lashley's story in detail.

About Lashley:

Chocolate Labrador Retriever

Nicknames: Boochie, Dachaley, Laboli

Distinctive white patch on his chest also known as bolo marks

Age when he was abandoned - 3 1/2 years old

Current age - 8 to 9 years old

Last known area: Domlur, Bengaluru (near Jogupalya, Indiranagar & Ulsoor)

If anyone living in Bangalore recognizes him, knows someone who might have adopted him, or have any information at all—even if it seems insignificant—please leave a comment or contact me through WhatsApp/call +91 8660826795

Detailed explanation of what actually happened & why he was abandoned

Back in 2021, during the COVID-19 pandemic, my family was going through a very difficult time financially and personally. Also during this time my father was suffering from severe chronic depression and other mental issues. After some time we had just moved to a new house, so my dad left Lashley to stay at my grandmother's house and claimed he would bring him to our new house. My father told me he would bring him to our new home once everything settled down. But few months passed by and this did not happen. During that time I used to visit him during the weekends. Some of the pics & videos i have posted here are during that time

So one day without my knowledge, according to my grandmother's account he claimed to take lashley for a walk and when he had returned lashley wasn't there with him. When he was asked about it he told her he had sold it or given it to someone but did not mention the specifics like to whom. When he came home he did not tell us about this. A few days later, my father took his own life at my grandmother's house. It was only then that we found out. During that time, our family was consumed by the shock, grief , funeral, legal matters, and everything that followed after my father's death so our thoughts were consumed by this and finding lashley wasnt at the forefront of our minds I also did not want to disturb my mother and other family members by bringing this up.

After some time we decided to search for lashley but had no idea where he went or with whom he was. We visited some well known breeders and rescue organisations but couldn't find him. Also found out that my father had also given away lashley's vaccination certificates & other things like prescriptions from the vets. So i had lost hope and finally decided that it was almost impossible to ever see him again. I loved him so much and wanted to be with him till his final years this was what made it so bad. I couldn't even see him to wish him a final goodbye before he left me. He was an extremely expressive and affectionate lab who always loved to be around me. I can't imagine how panicked and lost he must have felt after he was given away. He loved me like no other dog ever did. So I just suppressed those memories and went on with my life. But it just didn't work. For the past few months I have been feeling intense regret that I didn't do enough to find him, that I had in a way betrayed him. I kept dreaming about him regularly - both positive and disturbing dreams. So i finally decided I need to make a final and serious attempt to find him before he leaves this world. I want to be with him through his final years.

My search efforts will be both offline and online - I will visit every rescue organisation, veterinary clinics , breeders, pet boarding schools and kennels in my city. I will also be creating pages on every social media platform where I will be documenting and updating my search efforts. Even if the search fails i atleast get to preserve lashley's memories and get to tell his story to many. Hope this post wasn't too long. Thank you for reading

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There is a large amount of garbage accumulating in the narrow space between the apartment building I’m staying in and the neighboring building. I’m not sure who the garbage belongs to or who is responsible for cleaning this area.

The garbage is causing a very bad smell and attracting mosquitoes/insects, and it seems to be getting worse.

What is the best way to get this cleaned up? Should I report it to the municipal corporation, local sanitation department, or some other authority?

I don't think complaining to the landlord or building owner would do anything good because they clearly don't care.

I’d appreciate advice from anyone who has dealt with a similar situation. I’m mainly concerned about the smell, mosquitoes, and hygiene issue.

Is there any app or mail i cand raise complaint on?

Place: near christ University, Bharati layout, S.G. Palya

https://metrorailnews.in/15-years-of-bengaluru-metro-yet-traffic-worsen/

Metro delayed

Lack of pedestrian friendly infra

No RRTS, Suburban Rail delayed

Traffic worsen

Can Bengaluru become a commutation friendly place?

Hi everyone,

I'm Tejeswar, 27, an entrepreneur from Visakhapatnam, India. I'm currently recovering from severe depression and undergoing psychiatric treatment.

Edit: I’ve added some additional context below to clarify my situation, particularly why I’m currently unable to work and what the ₹5 lakh fundraiser is intended to support. I’ve also included supporting documents for anyone who would like to understand or verify my situation. Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to read, ask questions or offer suggestions. 🙏

This started around December 2024, and at first I genuinely didn't understand what was happening to me. My mood, productivity, routines, meetings and ability to function gradually collapsed. Over time, the condition became much more severe. I faced profound psychomotor retardation, making it a massive physical and mental struggle just to get up or communicate. Severe executive dysfunction crippled my ability to concentrate, make decisions, and execute the basic tasks I desperately wanted to do.

Ultimately, this caused a complete functional impairment in my daily life. After struggling in this state for a year, I required emergency psychiatric hospitalization and got admitted for intensive treatment at Cadabams, Bangalore.

I want to clarify something important: I didn't stop working by choice. At my worst, I desperately wanted to work, but I simply wasn't functioning well enough to do it, and was experiencing a profound loss of functional ability that made it phisically and mentally impossible. Losing the capacity to work was one of the most painful parts of this illness, especially because building businesses from scratch has always been a core part of my identity, and proof of my ability to execute.

After almost 1.5 years of being unable to work consistently, my savings were exhausted. My major hospitalisation and treatment were covered by insurance, thankfully., but insurance couldn't replace the income I lost during that period (which is very crucial for me and my family survival).

My sister is currently the only earning member of our family and supports my parents and me. She's done everything she can, but carrying the household while I recover has become extremely difficult.

Priot to this illness, i was financially independent, earning my own living and building things. My current situation is the result of being unable to work for a prolonged period (more than 1.5 years). I'm not looking for someone to carry me permanently, nor am I asking for a handout to fund personal spending. I am seeking a temporary helping hand, a support - a bridge to give me the breathing room required to fully recover my faculties, rebuild my momentum, and safely transition back into launching and running business operations while i get back on my feet rebuilding.

I am raising ₹5 lakh strictly as a temporary recovery and livelihood bridge, not as a hospital bill or ₹1.25 lakh/month personal spending/lifestyle. This amount will cover the heavy financial strain built up from a prolonged absence of income: essential living expenses, ongoing psychiatric care and medication, transportation, and relieving the intense pressure on my family, while I recover sufficiently in full prime shape and get back to work.

Currently, i'm recovering and things have been getting better slowly. While my recovery is moving in a positive direction, rushing back into high-stress environments prematurely creates a very high risk of clinical relapse. Based on medical guidance, I need a stable, risk-mitigated window of 4 to 6 months to solidify my health. This structured pause ensures I return in true fighting shape, fully equipped to handle work responsibilities and scale businesses sustainably without backward steps.

I am attaching my fundraiser link here, and i sincerely request you to please check and support my journey to recovery. If you can contribute, even a small amount would genuinely help me recover and rebuild myself to get back on my feet. If you can't, sharing this with someone who may be able to help would mean a lot.

ImpactGuru: https://www.impactguru.com/fundraiser/help-tejeswar-pasumarthy

I've put together my medical/supporting documents and additional information for anyone who wants to understand or verify my situation before contributing.,

Supporting documents: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/15XKJJ7bP4G3R3gz2mkeHFqWhYHHhF6RG

I'm happy to answer genuine questions openly and provide additional documentation where appropriate.

Thank you for reading and for giving me a chance to explain my situation. 🙏

(F-21) I go to a DECENT number of tech/builder meetups around the city and every time I do a headcount in my head there are like 2 or 3 women max in a full room

the last one I went to, I was literally the only woman under 25 there. there were maybe 50 people

a few weeks before that I met a girl at a completely different event who was building a small brand out of her hostel room. we ended up talking for like 20 minutes because neither of us really had anyone else to talk to lol

she said something that stuck with me: "I don't know any other women doing this here."

and I've heard basically the same thing from a few different women who don't even know each other

so yeah, trying to fix that in a small way

putting together a little meetup for women under 25 in Bangalore who are building something. doesn't really matter what it is

if this sounds like you, drop a comment and I'll take it from there 🍒

edit:
The struggle of writing a personalized post (getting downvotes) and making a Luma event, hunting for locations SOLO, and not being paid or incentivized in any way.

Is more work than someone pressing downvote and ruining the efforts that come from intentions to make women more visible. Please share this with the girls and your communities. I need this to reach the appropriate audience girls

edit:
unable to send everyone a dm, here is the luma link: https://luma.com/kjd9k6rk