u/-JustAGirl99

Hello everyone!

My husband and I had our civil ceremony this past Friday. I’m super happy to be married to him, but I also haven’t been able to shake some intrusive thoughts.
I’m diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression, especially regarding relationships.
Every time there’s a major life event it triggers me and sends me into a downward spiral.
“did you just make a huge mistake?” “What if you get divorced?” “What if he doesn’t really love you?”
Getting married also was the first of many changes yet to come. We are moving across the world with the military in a couple months & it will be the first time in my life I’ll be separated from my family, which weighs heavy on me as well.
I haven’t found any good coping mechanisms that work for me. I know change is inevitable but yet I struggle with it so much & yearn for control. I’m really scared.
Does anybody struggle with the same thing & have any advice / coping skills that work for you?

Thanks in advance!

Hello everyone!

My husband and I had our civil ceremony this past Friday. I’m super happy to be married to him, but I also haven’t been able to shake some intrusive thoughts.
I’m diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression, especially regarding relationships.
Every time there’s a major life event it triggers me and sends me into a downward spiral.
“did you just make a huge mistake?” “What if you get divorced?” “What if he doesn’t really love you?”
Getting married also was the first of many changes yet to come. We are moving across the world with the military in a couple months & it will be the first time in my life I’ll be separated from my family, which weighs heavy on me as well.
I haven’t found any good coping mechanisms that work for me. I know change is inevitable but yet I struggle with it so much & yearn for control. I’m really scared.
Does anybody struggle with the same thing & have any advice / coping skills that work for you?

Thanks in advance!

Hello everyone,

I get married on Friday and I’m terrified. Leading up, I’ve been quite excited but now the closer we get to the date the more I panic. I have a history of really bad anxiety whenever something in my life changes, good or bad, so I think I can identify it as that.
My mind just keeps spiralling and these loud doubts are coming back. “What if this is a mistake?” “What if he’s not the one?”. I get these thoughts every now and again & my therapists traces them back to a need for control. And it makes sense, but I’m just so scared. Everywhere I look online I keep seeing the phrase “when you know you know” and I just don’t. But I’ve just always been bad with changes so idk. It’s just a lot that comes with it, we are moving across the world due to the military soon, so everything is about to change & this is just the first step.
I also don’t really do well with days where I’m the centre of attention, so that plays into it as well. I love my fiancé a lot and I hate feeling like this.
Please has anybody gone through something similar & can anybody ease my mind a little bit?

Hello everyone, this is gonna be a little bit of a rant, I don’t really have anybody to talk to about this, so I figured I’d take to Reddit.

My fiance and I are having our courthouse wedding this coming Friday. We planned for it to be very lowkey as we are having the “big” wedding in September, so it’s literally just going to be us two, my parents, my grandma & my maid of honour.
He is in the military stationed overseas right now which is why his family will “only” come to the September wedding.
We had initially wanted to do both the civil portion as well as the free ceremony in September but had to move the legal bit up, because of the military.

The closer we get to Friday the more I wish we had made a bigger deal about the courthouse wedding. After all it is the day we are legally going to be married. Im scared that the wedding in September won’t feel special anymore because at that point we will already have been married for three months.

I’m already so stressed out and anxious about Friday because I feel like I have such high expectations that now won’t be met. It kind of feels like I always feel on my birthday, if anybody know what I’m talking about. Like the day should be such a big deal and celebrated accordingly, but we are only going out for lunch & it feels like that’s not fitting for the occasion. I don’t want to sound ungrateful, because I know we have September to look forward to

I don’t know if anybody can make sense out of my ramblings, but I just needed to get it off my chest.