u/Abolish_Disorder

I like to choose things for myself, and I take pride in my own decision-making. If I make mistakes, then I’ll know what NOT to do in the future, but I can be at peace knowing I didn’t make those decisions to please anyone.

When people give me unsolicited advice, I feel like this process is disrupted, and it annoys me. It bothers me even more when the unsolicited advice is something I’ve already considered or done.

That said, I admit that sometimes the unsolicited advice is valid, and I’ll begrudgingly accept at least part of it.

Especially as the >!headmaster of the DWMA!<, after the events of the manga.

What kind of main character would he create? Would the story take place IRL or in a fictional world? What themes would he explore?

I’ve read the descriptions of both Enneagram subtypes across various sources, and they sound very similar, as both tend to have an emphasis on “warmth” and planning to mitigate potential obstacles. I’ve tested as both in different Enneagram tests.

I definitely have both 1w9 sp and 6w5 sp in my tritype, but I’m not sure which one is “stronger”, as both subtypes have a focus on safety and stability, which I can relate to.

I can easily come up with worst-case scenarios but only feel relief if I take some sort of action to prevent them from happening.

Dignity is something that matters a lot to me, but it feels like a personal ideal that I can never meet. If I don’t speak my mind about something important to me, then I feel an immense sense of shame. I tend to be more at peace with myself when I say what I really think and feel, even if it causes some awkwardness. I actually don’t know which would be worse—to lack security and safety or to become a spineless hypocrite.

Have any other ISTJs had trouble determining which of these two Enneagram subtypes they were? If so, how did you settle on one?

I've tried downvoting on my phone and computer, but whenever I refresh, the downvote is undone. This has been happening across various unrelated subreddits. I tried clearing my cache and re-downloading the app, but nothing works. How can this be resolved?

I’ve noticed recently that when someone states an unpopular opinion or something critical, sometimes another person will come at them and accuse them of “projecting.” This has happened to me as well as other people online, even if I try to be respectful in my criticism.

Accusing someone of projection is such a lazy comeback. First off, you know nothing about the other person’s private life or personal struggles, so how can you know for sure if they’re projecting? It’s also a lazy way of debating, as you’re completely ignoring the content being discussed to attack the other person’s character. In other words, it’s an ad hominem wrapped in mainstream psychology speak.

Suppose Death the Kid is overcome with the Madness of Order as the new Lord Death and headmaster of the DWMA. How exactly would that manifest, “symptomatically?” Would he just be destroying everything that’s unbalanced indiscriminately, or something more?

I have so many examples. Just last night, I noticed that the WiFi in my home was completely down. This was a huge issue a few months ago, requiring back and forth phone calls between different customer service reps. Logically, I knew that this issue could be entirely different, and I was making assumptions that the internet was down for the same reasons as last time. Regardless, I made a note to myself to call customer service the next day. I even sent a few practice text messages to see if they were going through with no WiFi, cuz if they weren’t I’d have to step outside to send them. The next morning, the WiFi worked fine, and I realized I had come up with an entire plan for nothing. :/

I also find myself drafting emails or making a list of questions to ask in the future. I even schedule when I should send the email or when I should ask my questions. That way, when the time comes, I can just hit send or I’ll know exactly what to ask to get the info I need. Of course, things change sometimes, and I end up not having to use the drafts or questions I planned beforehand, making me feel like I over-strategized. :/

Do any other ISTJs have similar experiences or stories?

What do you think Death the Kid's leadership style is like as the new Lord Death and headmaster of the DWMA, after the events of the manga? How do you think he approaches attention from the public and the media about his decisions and personal life? How do you think he treats his supporters/fans?

If I'm not assertive and stay silent about stuff I care about, then I feel pathetic, cowardly, and spineless. I’d much rather speak up and sound rude than stay quiet and feel like a coward. This line of thinking is very pervasive, and I have a love/hate relationship with it. On the one hand, I feel good whenever I live up to my personal standard of “dignity”, but if I fail to do so, then I feel a lot of shame and self-hatred. I strongly regret all the times I didn’t speak up, and I wish I could redo those moments to restore my dignity. It’s like I have a “dignity monitor” on 24/7 that leads to a rush of dopamine when I maintain dignity (even at the cost of sounding rude or blunt), but showers me with shame if I don’t.

I’ve been on the receiving end of intuitive judgments a few times over the course of my life, and it annoys me every time, even when their intuition is wrong. It feels like the other person is trying to break into my inner world without my consent.

Just yesterday, my friend said her gut told her I was unhappy last year. This confused but also annoyed me because last year was one of my best years, as I had finally learned how to accept myself and be confident. I told her “your intuition sucks, to put it bluntly.” She laughed it off and said “sorry.” I felt bad afterwards because my response was kinda rude. However, I was still annoyed by her intuitive conclusion about me.

Has anyone else felt this way when on the receiving end of another person’s intuition?

What I like about written communication is that I can take time to think about what I’m going to say, and I will express it exactly as I intend to.

I dislike how I have to respond on the spot when speaking in person. If I am not at my best cognitively, I’ll either say too little or give too many details and then be annoyed with myself afterwards. There are also some things that I just need more time to process on my own, and speaking in person doesn’t give me the luxury to do that.