Support / F4L / L4L group!

heyy I’m going to make a group for supporting each other . this means that everyone will like everyone’s posts and vice versa so that we can all benefit and support our accounts. dm me your user !!

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 4 days ago

First time trying 야채전 (Korean vegetable pancake) !! Any advice to make it better ?

I did it with potatoes onion garlic and zucchini! Tbh it was too thick even tho I cut the potatoes really thin

u/AbsurdAndAlive — 1 month ago

how to start in wichcraft as a spiritual person?

Hello, I need advices plss. So from a very young age around 6 i started seing things. Spirits, auras and feeling energy. Growing up i lost it a bit but became a bit spiritual. Last year i had an awakening if u can call it that way, i started manifestation and healing with energy. Im thinking of getting into wichcraft but for good reasons, i deeply believe in karma for me every thing you put out there will eventually find its way back to you. I need to be more connected with my third eye and intuition and i dont reall know how. Some people talk about mindfulness but idk. Any advice? And also any tips for protection spells as a beginner?

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 2 months ago
▲ 6 r/OSDD+2 crossposts

How bad was my childhood ? I can’t see it objectively or understand if it’s common or not (I’m a teen)

I have large gaps in my childhood memory and only started remembering some of these events around a year ago.
A maid who took care of me for much of my childhood was one of the main adults in my life. I was very attached to her because I spent so much time with her, she taught me Arabic, and she felt like a friend or older sister. At the same time, she was also frightening and harmful.
She would hit me and threaten me so that I would not tell my parents about what was happening even tho I was shaking and crying. 
She would deliberately scare me. For example, when someone knocked on the door, she would tell me they had come to kill me and describe what would happen. I would cry and shake while she laughed.
She made comments about how much I ate and shamed me around food. I also remember being given expired food that made me throw up while I said that I couldn’t eat that and cried bcs of how disgusting that is. 
She involved me in situations with older men that made me uncomfortable. She would make me look "pretty" for them and made me call them. I still do not fully understand what was happening, but I remember feeling confused and unsafe.
Outside of that, I also experienced bullying and emotional instability growing up.
Looking back, I think these experiences affected how I relate to people. I sometimes feel comfort in relationships where someone is mean, rejecting, or emotionally unavailable. I often feel safer when I know someone does not like me than when someone is kind to me. I have also struggled with derealization, intense emotions, self-harm, and confusion about attachment.
Even now, part of me still minimizes what happened and wonders whether it was "really that bad," despite knowing these memories continue to affect me.
I was also sa d by cousins but it was light so doesn’t count tbh

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 3 months ago

Nervous about hugging my bf for the first time !! 16F 16M

Hey guys!! Me and my bf have been together for around 1 month and he’s being really respectful but he’s too scared to make me uncomfortable like one day I told him to draw on my hand and he was shaking. He’s really cute tho.
Soo he told me by text how he really wanted to give me a hug and I said that id like that but when we saw each other he didn’t and I knew he felt nervous lol I could see it so I didn’t point it out. After he sent me a text saying how he didn’t have the courage and said next time you’ll have a surprise and he doesn’t want to say what it is but what’s sure is that he will give me the hug.
Now.. I’m nervous about it . Like I know it’s “just” a hug but it feels more than that as someone who isn’t really physical. Any tips? Cause I’ll know it’ll be awkward😭

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 3 months ago

this sounds unreal, but I "manifested" my boyfriend (literally down to his exact look).

I need to vent this somewhere because if I tell people in real life, they’ll think I’m delusional. But I genuinely, 100% feel like I manifested my current boyfriend.
All summer long, I kept saying to myself how much I wanted a guy who looks and acts *exactly* like Okarun. It wasn't just a vague idea; I had a super clear image in my head. I didn’t do any crazy rituals; I just kept thinking, *“It would be insane if someone like this actually existed in real life.”*
Fast forward to the first day of school.
I walk into class, and I meet this guy. And when I say he fits that exact description, I am not even exaggerating. He is tall, he has the *exact* same hair, the glasses... everything. The personality, the energy, the specific brand of awkwardness... it was like my brain copy-pasted him straight out of my thoughts and dropped him into my classroom.
I was actually so confused the first time I properly looked at him because the resemblance felt way too specific to be a random coincidence.
But it gets even more insane. I found out later that from *literally day one*, he started talking about me to his friends. Before I even really knew him or realized what was happening, I was already on his mind somehow.
From there, everything just flowed. We started talking naturally, spent more time together, and the whole thing unfolded without either of us forcing a single thing. No chasing, no weird mind games, no stress. Just… effortless.
Now we’re in a relationship, and I still can’t shake it. I spent months asking for a very specific person, walked into school, and met someone who matches it so perfectly that it still feels slightly unreal.
Call it coincidence, timing, or luck, but in my head? I’m sticking with manifestation because what are the actual odds of getting the exact hair, glasses, and height on day one?!
Has anyone else ever accidentally "thought" their exact type into existence like this?!

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 3 months ago

this sounds unreal, but I "manifested" my boyfriend (literally down to his exact look).

I need to vent this somewhere because if I tell people in real life, they’ll think I’m delusional. But I genuinely, 100% feel like I manifested my current boyfriend.
All summer long, I kept saying to myself how much I wanted a guy who looks and acts exactly like Okarun. It wasn't just a vague idea; I had a super clear image in my head. I didn’t do any crazy rituals; I just kept thinking, “It would be insane if someone like this actually existed in real life.”
Fast forward to the first day of school.
I walk into class, and I meet this guy. And when I say he fits that exact description, I am not even exaggerating. He is tall, he has the exact same hair, the glasses... everything. The personality, the energy, the specific brand of awkwardness... it was like my brain copy-pasted him straight out of my thoughts and dropped him into my classroom.
I was actually so confused the first time I properly looked at him because the resemblance felt way too specific to be a random coincidence.
But it gets even more insane. I found out later that from literally day one, he started talking about me to his friends. Before I even really knew him or realized what was happening, I was already on his mind somehow.
From there, everything just flowed. We started talking naturally, spent more time together, and the whole thing unfolded without either of us forcing a single thing. No chasing, no weird mind games, no stress. Just… effortless.
Now we’re in a relationship, and I still can’t shake it. I spent months asking for a very specific person, walked into school, and met someone who matches it so perfectly that it still feels slightly unreal.
Call it coincidence, timing, or luck, but in my head? I’m sticking with manifestation because what are the actual odds of getting the exact hair, glasses, and height on day one?!
Has anyone else ever accidentally "thought" their exact type into existence like this?!

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 3 months ago

I swear this sounds unreal, but I genuinely think I "manifested" my boyfriend (literally down to his exact look).

I need to vent this somewhere because if I tell people in real life, they’ll think I’m delusional. But I genuinely, 100% feel like I manifested my current boyfriend.
All summer long, I kept saying to myself how much I wanted a guy who looks and acts exactly like Okarun. It wasn't just a vague idea; I had a super clear image in my head. I didn’t do any crazy rituals; I just kept thinking, “It would be insane if someone like this actually existed in real life.”
Fast forward to the first day of school.
I walk into class, and I meet this guy. And when I say he fits that exact description, I am not even exaggerating. He is tall, he has the exact same hair, the glasses... everything. The personality, the energy, the specific brand of awkwardness... it was like my brain copy-pasted him straight out of my thoughts and dropped him into my classroom.
I was actually so confused the first time I properly looked at him because the resemblance felt way too specific to be a random coincidence. Like I saw him and I knew there was something. So I did the first step and I messaged him and it was crazy how it looked like we already knew each other and had so much interests in common.
But it gets even more insane. I found out later that from literally day one, he started talking about me to his friends. Before I even really knew him or realized what was happening, I was already on his mind somehow.
From there, everything just flowed. We started talking naturally, spent more time together, and the whole thing unfolded without either of us forcing a single thing. No chasing, no weird mind games, no stress. Just… effortless.
Now we’re in a relationship, and I still can’t shake it. I spent months asking for a very specific person, walked into school, and met someone who matches it so perfectly that it still feels slightly unreal.
Call it coincidence, timing, or luck, but in my head? I’m sticking with manifestation because what are the actual odds of getting the exact hair, glasses, and height on day one?!
Has anyone else ever accidentally "thought" their exact type into existence like this?!

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 3 months ago

16F / 16M - I overthink everything in my relationship and my body reacts in ways I don't control, and it's affecting how my boyfriend perceives me. How to fix my fear of intimacy and overall save this relationship?

I (16F) am with my boyfriend (16M). We go to the same school, so we see each other often, and we’ve been officially together for a short time, but we knew each other and had a talking stage for a while before that.

Before anything else, I need to say he’s genuinely a really good boyfriend. He’s respectful, kind, doesn’t curse, and he’s very thoughtful in small actions (like literally getting on his knees to tie my shoelaces for me). He treats me well and I don’t question his intentions at all.

Internally, I feel very attached to him. I like him a lot, I feel emotionally close to him, and I also want physical closeness like hugging or holding hands. In my mind, that kind of closeness feels completely natural.

The problem is that my real-life reactions don’t always match what I feel inside.

In person:

  • If his mood changes slightly or he seems a bit distant, I immediately start overthinking and worrying I did something wrong or that something is changing between us
  • I can spiral mentally even when I logically know it could just be normal tiredness or a normal day
  • When there is physical closeness or unexpected touch, my body sometimes reacts automatically by tensing up or pulling away slightly, even though I don’t want to do that and I actually like him
  • After these moments, I overthink how I must have appeared and worry I gave the impression of being cold or uninterested

Online, I’m much more expressive and relaxed. I talk normally and feel like myself. But in real life, I become tense without consciously deciding to.

I’ve also had feedback before that I can come across as distant or like I don’t like people, even though that doesn’t reflect what I feel internally. That makes me more self-conscious in the moment.

So I end up stuck in a cycle:

  • I care about him a lot
  • I fear being misunderstood or unintentionally pushing him away
  • My body reacts with tension or withdrawal in close moments
  • Then I overthink everything afterward

What I’m trying to understand is how to work with these automatic reactions in real-time so my external behavior can better reflect my actual feelings, especially during moments of closeness or unexpected interaction.

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u/AbsurdAndAlive — 3 months ago