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Hi all!
I’m a mom with a 6mo and 11yr old looking for a safe for swimming/shaded area on the Truckee River ideally closest to reno would be amazing or not tooooo far of a drive ?? Thank you so much !

My son is now 4.5 months old and rejects my boob 90% of the time. It’s been like this for the last two months. I’ve been almost exclusively pumping at this point. Seems like I’ve tried everything under the sun to get him to nurse like he used to. He only will take his bottle no problem. But thru the night he latches and gets milk as well as his first feed of the day upon waking up. I’ve ruled out a lot and saw a lactation consultant and she said she also thinks is preference. She also gave me the OK to stop giving bottles and just try that out to see if he will eventually accept my boob and just take it like he should. I pump around 25 oz thru the day maybe pumping 6-9 times through the day depending on what we are doing, and then he feeds anywhere from 2-5 times through the night. But these are short burst feeds lasting only a couple mins. I really… REALLY… want to exclusively nurse. Ugh. Hellpp

My baby last week would fall asleep if I just put him on his side with a binky in his mouth singing a lil song.. this week, Crying screaming wailing. FOR HOURS. I do everything and nothing seems to work. We are both crying at this point. He eventually falls asleep because he’s so exhausted. He’s changed, well fed, no gas(that I know of), changed scenery, trying all the tricks in our book of ways he likes to fall asleep but NO. This is for every. Single. Nap. And sleep at night time!! Wtffff am i doing wrong. I am so checked out at this point because my ears hurt my heart hurts and I’m exhausted from carrying rocking bouncing a 17lb baby. He might be teething but I do not see any teeth popping through and I use numbing gel to rule that out too when he gets super upset. I literally have no idea. Does he hate nap time because he just knows it’s going to be hectic and chaotic now? I’m scared I’m doing something wrong but I seriously do not know what to do. We are flying out of state in three days and will be out of the house for two weeks, and I’m sooooo scared he’s going to pull this on our travel day.

Azure for a boy.

It was on my list of names that I loved for months but I never practiced saying it out loud. It just sounded good in my head and felt strong and soft in my heart.
Then when I went into labor two weeks early and after I gave birth the nurses were like ummmmm you have a name or?????

So me being me I literally just chose the name on a whim, not even knowing the pronunciation that I wanted because I know it can go a few ways.

But “A-zoor” sounds terrible, “ah-Zuer” sounds good but is hard to pronounce. “Ah-zur” ? Ehh… Nicknames for Azure too?

It hurts my mouth trying to pronounce it all fancy each time and I’m worried I have to stick to this hard name that everyone will have a hard time pronouncing.

EDIT: Since many are triggered about this, I DO know how to pronounce Azure, and all of the versions of pronunciation that comes with this name. I love the French pronunciation best, but as a native English speaker, it doesn’t flow naturally to pronounce it this way. I doesn’t hurt my mouth to say, it just is “different”. But that’s what I wanted anyways for his name. I wanted a name with the letter A, and Z. A because my first name starts with an A, and Z because my sisters name starts with a Z. I also used my grandfathers name as his middle name. So family is heavily threaded into his name. I love the idea of not having a boring generic name for a boy. Thank you all for the kind responses and being just good people. We need more like you in the world!

I was reading a post about how this woman has a friend that laughed and explained that her baby is fine after letting him or her cry for hours. I was like??? Hmmm. Looking at it from a different perspective for me, I would 100% walk up to a young child or even an adult on the street crying uncontrollably and try to help them. But for some reason this is normalized to do this to our own newborns and infants after chucking them into a dark room after being on earth for not even a year yet ? And to add they don’t even know they are separate beings from their mother?! What the f is wrong with this world. People are so desensitized it’s disgusting.

Not screaming but wining and crying like he is hurt and or annoyed. He’s 4 months old. He always wakes up so happy but the last couple weeks he wakes up pissed and in pain maybe ?? Teething possibly ? 4 month regression ?! What could this be and can I do some trouble shooting to find what is causing the crying wake ups ??

My son is now 4 months + 1 week and he is rolling like absolutely crazy both ways. He still doesn’t know how to roll back onto his back 9 times out of 10. We co sleep on a firm queen mattress on the ground with the half dome bumper things that slide under the fitted sheet on his side of the bed. I sleep with the sheets right at my hips and one pillow shoved into my legs really low and the corner of a pillow under my head.
I have a sweater on at night to keep warm. Baby runs hotter than me so he never needs anything more than thin comfy Jammie’s. I always get into bed into a c curl but by the time we both wake up again he’s on the other side of the bed on his belly usually trying to crawl up the bed. I have my mattress shoved up against the wall and there’s no cracks or space at the head of the bed. I know that I can make some tweaks to make this more safe but not sure where to go for help. I just want to make this set up as safe as possible since he’s starting to become so mobile.
TIA !

Baby was on a nursing strike for the last two months and I'm trying to not have to pump so much and introduce more nursing sessions but it's quite obvious he wants it easy and would rather take a bottle.
I pump around 6 times a day and he nurses over night 2/5 times but it only lasts maybe 2-5 mins each session. Ever since the nursing strike/aversion started my supply started to dip and now it's lower than ever. I have two different pumps but it just isn’t working properly with pulling out milk efficiently. I don't want to formula feed as I know I can produce just enough for him because I basically pump throughout the day and he never seems unsatisfied or hungry or eats a lot at night.
I just want to get a stash going, how did you moms get the supply up after the dip ??

My boy is 16 weeks on the 1st and I’m trying to figure out what to do with our sleeping situation. He is kicking himself up the bed from being around the middle with me practically to the head of the board because his lil legs are so strong haha. Also he is mastering rolling from his back to his belly. He’s able to do it almost everytime he tries now. We usually sleep in the c-curl but I’m wondering if it’s too newborn for him because he always has his legs so stretched out I can’t even fit around him in that position. Is it safe if he sleeps on his stomach?? The weird part is that he doesn’t really know how to roll from belly to back really. Only does it here and there. But back to belly yeah all the time. And when he does go into his belly all he does is try to crawl and push himself forward but gets one arm stuck under himself. Wondering if I should change our sleeping situation to be even more safe for him. I have a queen size bed that I put onto the floor with bumpers the ones that go under the fitted sheet. Not sure if this is enough with him starting to roll and crawl.

Honestly I’m gutted. I loved breastfeeding my boy. I don’t know exactly where I went wrong but I started giving him more bottles because he really didn’t want my boob for a little bit (around 8 weeks old) and I thought oh.. I’ll just compensate and bottle feed pumped milk and nurse a bit until that phase is over. And it’s not over, It’s gotten worse.

He absolutely hates to nurse. Only when he’s half asleep or waking up or suuuuuper calm he will latch and actually feed. And when he does he calms down so much and really seems so happy.
I don’t know what to do but I already switched bottles (lansinoh) from advent. Got him the slow flow nips and he still doesn’t care he would rather take a bottle than breast. I pump enough to feed him durning the day so I have enough milk I know that’s not it. He ate a lil over 18oz of milk from bottles and breastfeed for about 15 mins total today since 6am and it’s 8pm. He’s 16 weeks tomorrow, around 15 1/2 lbs and 25 inches long. I think he’s gaining steadily enough to know I’m feeding him enough.

We bonded so much over nursing and I’m just feeling really sad and broken up about this. He loved nursing. When I was exclusively nursing and no bottles he would eat 18+ times in 24 hrs. He is a snacker by preference (I think?)
It’s still 10+ times even with bottles. But when I feed him he rarely drinks more than 2.5-3.5 oz per feed. I really wanted to nurse him until he was at least a year old. I have no idea how to reverse this bottle preference. I think i need to go see a LC asap to figure out if it’s just his latch or what.

Has anyone else experienced this and how did you fix it ?

Genuinely looking for a bottle that actually mimics a real nipple and I can use for paced feeding.

My boob obsessed boy literally slowly but surely started to reject my boob and only take bottles of pumped breast milk. I first introduced the bottle at week 6-8 because of a nursing strike. And now he’s back at it again but this time it feels different.
He will only latch and eat if he’s super tired or just waking up. He is so distracted at every single feed during the day it’s driving me insane because it takes a million hours for him to get a couple oz in. I’m sad because I love breastfeeding so much and I need him to get back into the rhythm of nursing during the day again because right now it’s looking like he’s nursing once maybe twice during the day and nurses in the middle of the night and that’s it. I know I have enough milk supply because I only pump before I know he will need to eat soon. I don’t have any back up milk in the freezer. If I offer my breast in the day he literally starts having a meltdown. Will he starve himself if I just stop pumping and feeding him bottles ? I seriously want to go back to just nursing 😭

My boy is 4 months old on the 1st and I seriously am sooo over the C-curl. I need to sleep on my stomach again badly to get comfy sleep. I also would love to have a pillow in-between my arms but I know that’s out of the equation for quite a while. He doesn’t really know how to roll from stomach to back unless if he’s on a hard surface and he can roll from his back to his side almost every try but still can’t manage to get onto his belly just yet.
So can I sleep on my stomach next to him!? Can I create some space between us yet or does he still have to be in my curl space ? He usually kicks himself up towards the top of the bed anyways but I always fall asleep in the proper c-curl position. Thanks !

Omg !! My almost four month old slept for 7.5 hrs straight last night !!!
The last 2 weeks he has been sleeping like actual shit. I thought he was broken for a while… naps are so bad.. but guess what ??? The days he only naps 20-30 min at a time he sleeps longer stretches. He got about 3 hrs total of nap time yesterday. And last night ? Almost a WHOPPING 8 hours. He can manage through the day with the shorter naps which let’s say a month ago he would be a complete wreck. I feel like a new person. I can’t even remember the last time I slept for 6 hours straight. I seriously think it was pre-pregnancy. So it’s always a give and take game that’s what I’ve learned having a baby. Can’t have good day naps but can have longer stretch of sleep. Can’t have good nighttime sleep if he gets in solid naps during the day. Also not to mention I notice he is lowkey sleep training himself somehow. When I settle him for sleep I usually always rock and bounce him to sleep but the last two or three days he demands to be let alone and fall asleep just rubbing his face and snuggling his face into the bed. When I pick him up and start to do the normal soothing he cries and then the moment I put him down he stops and starts soothing himself. I’ve never seen this before. He just wants me to be right next to him when he does this and watch him lol. Then he falls asleep. (To be fair this has only happened maybe 3 times during the day in the last two days)
But at night he literally just tosses and turns till he falls asleep again.
I have no idea what’s happening and it kinda is crazy how fast these little people change.
I know this might only last a week then get super duper bad again but we have to celebrate any wins we can get lol

My boy is going to be 4 months on the first and for the last week or two 99% of his naps and sleep is. Started with a false start around the 24 min mark he wakes up and cries and whines. I then usually try to save the nap if he hasn’t gotten much sleep by rocking or if I feel he needs to eat then I nurse him to sleep. It’s making me go crazy ! How long will this last and is it the 4mo sleep regression ??
He’s also waking up every wake at night by whining. He neverrrrr cries at night. Which had me thinking for a while something is wrong but nothing is wrong because when I pick him up or nurse him he falls right back asleep. He’s also totally preferring the bottle over the nipple which I hate because breastfeeding in my experience is beyond easier than pumping all day and getting bottles ready.. so how can I revert back to more breastfeeding and not him screaming everytime I try to offer the boob ??
I’m tired lol
Thank you

Wondering if anyone didn’t even experience a sleep regression at four months and what it looked like. My boy is 3.5 months old and sleeps 4-5 hours the first stretch it really depends on the day, and then after about 3am, he wakes up every hour/hour and a half until 7am. He also recently in the last week or two started whining when he wakes up super frustrated. Not enough to wail or cry like crazy he just seems mad and acts like he’s annoyed or something. This is how it’s been for weeks now. After 3am each wake up I usually have to help him settle by picking him up and just rocking him for up to 15 mins. I just am curious if it will just stay the same for a while and this is the sleep regression or???
Any tips on how to help him to settle without booby or paci in the middle of the night ?
Thank you !!

I feel terrible. I’m realizing that my babies latch does not transfer him enough milk per feeding which causes him to eat up to 20+ times in 24hrs if I don’t pump and give him bottles. he usually only feeds on boob for 4-7mins max and once and a while will go up to 15 but usually falls asleep after eating that long. He has a really shallow latch and I know this now, they never checked at the hospital which now I’m wishing they did. Pretty sure he has a lip tie but can’t get him in to see his ped for another month. Is it possible to help him learn to have a deeper latch when he’s nursing Eventhough he’s 13.5 weeks old ?? And how would I do that ?? Ugh