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Like the title says, looking to start needling my scalp to promote hair regrowth, any recommendations?

I’m starting 2.5 mg daily minoxidil in addition to dutasteride, and weekly estradiol valerate injections, possibly adding progesterone also. I want to start micro needling my scalp as well. Is it overkill to take both oral minoxidil and apply topically with micro needling or is it better to do both for maximum effect? Thanks!

Hey BWT, I have a human hair wig that needs to be cut and styled. I’m new to wearing wigs and I could use some maintenance tips as well. I’m also a trans woman so looking for an inclusive place. I’ve tried going to wig shops but they’ll only cut wigs you’ve bough from them. Any suggestions in any of the five boroughs are welcome!

I’m a trans woman getting laser on my facial hair. I had cynosure laser done on my beard after a 6 week break after a session with candela gentle max pro. The last candela treatment was super effective at zapping the five o clock shadow remaining on my upper lip and around the mouth. I feel like I’ve botched my hair removal, or at least, it’s not as effective as it could have been. This last time the tech assured me the cynosure laser was at a “strong setting” . I know the hairs come to the surface the first few weeks after a laser treatment so the shadow looks “worse” before it gets better. Still, I’ve been getting misgendered more often than I was so it’s made me doubt if I made a mistake trying the cynosure.

I guess my question is have I hurt my progress trying cybosure, how long will the shadow persist for after the session? Have any trans women seen good reduction of beard shadow after trying cybosure? Should I resume candela?

Sorry for the saga! TLDR: should I disclose to my client or not?

I’m dealing with a stressful work situation I need advice on and I know you all will keep it real with me!

I’m a late transitioner, started in my 30s. I don’t pass fully, I’m visibly trans. I’m scheduled for FFS later this year, getting laser and electrolysis, but still haven’t voice trained. Although I got a “miss” this morning, it’s a “being polite” thing rather than a “stealth” thing.

I’m working part time as a caretaker companion for people with memory loss. For a lot of reasons, this job is what I need right now. I’ve only worked with two clients so far, both cis women in their 80s. Long story short, I’m passing to my new client. At first this felt great, like the work I’ve been doing is paying off. I’m being validated, and being treated like a normal woman and not like an oddity.

The agency I work for has been fine about me changing my name, they’ve known I’m trans since they hired me, they’re “LGBTQ friendly.” I live in a blue city in a blue state.

The issue is, there are times when I need to accompany her to doctor’s appointments and sometimes to public restrooms. We’ve already had an instance where a Dr “clocked” me in front of her (went out of his way to refer to me as “he”) and she corrected him that I’m a woman. The Dr. referred to me as a woman after that.

I’m also not really comfortable being in the women’s bathroom as I’m not passing and I’m afraid of the potential for conflict.

After the incident with the doctor, I can tell this has placed some doubt in her mind about my “womanhood” and I feel some guilt about it.

After the doctor indecent, I’ve been so nervous I even went to a legal clinic to ask for advice from a lawyer. The lawyer basically said, you’re not required to disclose anything to your client, you’re not breaking any laws in the city/state by accompanying her to the rest room, your job can’t fire you for being trans. “Try not to worry so much” were his exact words lol.

But I can’t get over the feeling that I’m doing something wrong by letting her think I’m a cis woman. Everything is fine until I have to accompany her to a doctors appointment or to use a public restroom. I’m scared of having a confrontation with someone, someone whipping out their phone and trying to make a scene. We all see what’s happening on social media and the political climate is so hostile to us right now. I should be “safe” since I’m legally protected in my area but I’m still sweating like a wh*re in church when we get in these situations.

I like the job, I like being validated as a woman, the pay and schedule are what I need right now.

As far as I can tell, my choices are:

1. Disclose to her that I’m trans and see how she takes it. If she’s not comfortable with it, I can ask the agency for a new client.

2. Keep things as they are and let her figure it out on her own. Let her ask me if she wants to.

3. Be honest with the agency, tell them my discomfort with assisting her in the bathroom. I risk “raising the alarm” that I’m a liability or not able to do the job.

4. Ask the agency for a new client. This client has dementia and is known for being difficult, I can keep things vague, “things just aren’t working out,” move on to someone new before things get complicated. Cons of this, it takes time to be placed with a new client, I need income.

The irony of all this is that the client treats me how I want to be treated, just as a normal woman helping her out with errands and chores. It’s a nice part time gig while I transition/get my surgeries covered by insurance. I don’t feel I’m doing anything morally wrong or illegal but all it takes is one person to make a problem. I was so stressed after the last doctor appointment, I popped some anxiety medication and spent all weekend sleeping in bed. I shouldn’t have to feel this high level of anxiety just for being clocky and trying to do my job but this is the reality. Any advice is appreciated!