u/Amazing_Goal_8003

Appreciation post for the unbridled joy of Lying Down sometimes. Maybe its a little lie down, maybe its a full flop...whatever floats your boat

I'm unwell and have spent the entire day appreciating the fact ive laid down after having to be stood up

Made me realise how bloody underrated lying down is

I want to send some snacks over to my friend in the US, from the UK.

What non perishable are safe to send/won't get confiscated once in the US?

I assume Royal Mail won't be the cheapest/best - can anyone recommend a reliable courier for this?

Thanks

I've been abused, manipulated and used so often in my life its pretty much my only experience of humanity.

After having to flee, I had kinda given up. I was so sick of being easily used and targeted that I put a big wall up, became very selfish and guarded. I would chat with people, be friendly, but everyone was at arms length a safe distance away and I was difficult to be around at times.

A DV support worker said to me "you are lovely, and you have a right to be lovely. Don't let anyone dull your sparkle. If they try to take advantage thats their problem, their issue, not yours. Stop letting other people dictate your life"

So, I decided f*ck it. The brick wall is lonely, and maybe shes right... I am lovely and I like being lovely, because kindness is something I respect most in other people. And when youre lovely, you find other loveliness along the way.

Have people thought im an easy target? Yep. Have they tried to use me? Yep. But I used my words, or ghosted them depending on the situation and put those boundaries firmly in place.

What I've been left with is some of the most overwhelmingly positive experiences of my life, I've met other people who are genuine kind souls. When I go to a group, everyone says hello and asks how I am. If I need help, people help. Like it's a completely different world to how I've grown up, been living and I like it.

But most importantly, I like myself. And I'm proud of who I am. I'm far from perfect - I've got a sharp tongue and a short temper at times. I get so angry my blood boils when I think of what my ex did. I'm human, but I like who I am most of the time.

I know a lot of us are good souls who end up being trapped because we cared, we tried to help, we were selfless. It can be really hard to marry that natural loveliness with staying safe after abuse, its completely normal (and kinda useful) to have a big wall up. But theres another way, that let's us be us.

So I just kinda wanted to reach out and say its okay to still be lovely. It's okay to care, to be selfless, to help *when people deserve it* and if it makes you feel happy.

I hope this can be helpful 🙂

So I've always eaten reasonably healthy - I try to cook a couple of times a week and use the leftovers etc. But I am *terrible* for snacks, sweet things, little treats. Often I won't eat all day, then just grab a slice of cake or something to get some calories. Or sugar, so much sugar. Commitment and mental load is also a significant issue.

I've tried dieting, I've tried healthier eating, I've tried meal plans and just nothing sticks. I just cannot commit to any of it, and im starting to wonder if its an ADHD thing after all.

Anything I eat, I have to make. I cant afford to buy pre prepared food or healthy snacks. The mental load of prepping 3 f*cking healthy meals a day is just so overwhelming. Plus snacks!!!

I'm just desperate to make some lifelong changes, im not particularly overweight but im definitely not healthy. I just want to look after myself better

How do you guys commit to eating well? How do you commit to meal prep and so much time spent cooking?

How do you keep up with making the food interesting all the time?

Please help, I really want to do better!

Sorry if this post is not allowed but due to worsening health issues I need to be closer to family in Longtown, but am having trouble finding a suitable property for my needs there. There is so little available and anything suitable is sold before I can even blink!

There seems to be more properties in and around the Scottish Borders, but I do not know the area well.

I need to be within 45 mins of an A&E department and 2 hours of a major hospital that can treat spinal injuries.

Due to said spinal injury, ideally I need to live somewhere that has flat/gentle hills for the most part. A town at the bottom of a hill, with some walks that are accessible for example.

Not bothered about a specific location, but some community spirit and access to "things to do" would be ideal

Any advice is really great, thank you 😊

Been considering an auction property but due to needing a very specific property - my search area is really wide.

The usual apps (RM, Zoopla etc) aren't always up to date with auction properties and its labour intensive to scroll through all the main auction houses individually when youre searching the whole of the UK.

Just wondering if there's a "one stop shop" for auction and repossession properties?

An app like Rightmove, but only for rough old properties that need a quick sale!

Calling all music geeks who have small heads/small faces ...

Can you help me find a pair of good quality, but small over ear headphones?

I have an inexplicably small/narrow face despite being built like a brick shithouse. Most earphones, hell even some airpods just look ridiculous 🤣

I have a pair of Sennheisers that I'm looking to replace with something less bulky. I listen to a real range of music so a good all rounder with excellent spatial sound I think. Must have noise cancelling.

Happy to spend a reasonable amount, but nothing crazy

So here's your that's enough Reddit for today post

A few days ago I wondered whether a person who died of a severe infection (Sepsis) would have a body that decomposed faster than someone who died of heart attack/something non bacterial?

I feel like the answer is yes, based on a rudimentary understanding of biology and far too many crime dramas.

But after several days of this intrusive little thought plaguing my brain, I just have to know

Looking at my ideal property and am seriously considering putting in an offer. For some reason I can't upload a photo here so I'll have to descrive its position as best I can

Its located on a quiet, secluded street and the property suits my needs exactly. However, its not far from a major A road

I am unfortunately the other side of the UK to this property and theres already a lot of interest - so Im considering making an offer tomorrow - and suring that up with a viewing when I can get up there next week. The demand is so high ive already lost 4 properties due to delayed viewings (im so so far from where Im buying) so yeah Im considering doing something crazy like offering before viewing 🤣

The A road is a main route, but is 3 streets away...what do you think noise levels will be like? I appreciate I have to go see for myself but anyone living in similar proximity please help

Edit: apologies I didnt explain myself very well! Id be making an offer purely as a way of showing Im serious and persuading the seller to at least wait a week for me/let me view before accetping an offer from someone else. I've lost 4 properties because they sold within a few days and I just couldn't view them that fast.

Hungover and Hot. Manaved to make a cheese.toastie and a brew but that's about it for the day 🤣

I'm having an old film day - so far I've watched The Pink Panther and Fate Takes a Hand in a binge spurred on by my accidental drunk discovery of Dial M for Murder on iplayer last night

What are you guys doing? What films old or new are you watching today?

What’s Hadston like? The crime rate seems really high on paper but someone mentioned it could have been caused by a couple of “really bad eggs” vs low population density. So serious crimes per population looks higher than it really is?

I’m moving over from West Cumbria to be closer to family but am not familiar with some of the smaller towns here. Any advice on where to avoid in general is very welcome!

I’ve seen a Dipper and a Wren in the space of one week. That is all.

Lifelong ambition to see a Wren, bonus of a very unexpected Dipper

Happy chappy

Trying to screen cast my iPhone to my new Bush TV

I’ve downloaded the app the iPhone suggested, I’ve downloaded (and paid for) the app that Bush suggested

Had the most success with the second screen mirror app - it’s picking the TV up fine but just *will not connect*

WiFi is super fast, very reliable and the TV/phone are clearly aware of each other but refusing to go on a date 🤦🏻

I’m just wondering what protection the Renters Rights Act offers against Landlords selling up.

I know it’s almost impossible to be evicted now but is there anything to stop the Landlord selling up part way through my tenancy? If he decides to sell 5 months into a 12 month lease, where does that leave me legally?

I’m looking for places to live in West/North Cumbria but don’t know the area particularly well.

Around Carlisle (?) and towards the coast is affordable but I have some inflexible criteria due to health issues unfortunately.

Appreciate this is a long shot, as Cumbria is mountainous but any recommendations based on the following will be greatly welcomed and very much appreciated ❤️

* Within 30-45 mins drive of a major hospital

* Knees & back are f**ked so areas with gentler hills or flat-ish parts

* Strong community/groups to join/people to meet

I know this is a long shot but just…thanks 😊