u/Ambiguousrubix

If you follow an Instagram account and that user sends you a DM with link asking to subscribe to their YouTube, it puts me off but I don't know what to do to safely cut connection without causing drama, imagine I unfollow ,the person get angry and make up posts saying "they only followed to try gaining a following" or something, or if I block the same, in other words ...i want my DMS closed but can't , so how do I deal with this issue with drama getting bk to me?

Where to begin… i dont know which is the best part of reddit to post this in…so if you know which , l kindly ask for yr input.

So, i am male (out to my mother and sister as gay since early 20s, ) i am currently 31, unemployed, never really had a job, sadly live in a tiny town where i still have trauma with nightmares etc from bullying in school, although i am a little better now…live with my 65 year old mother, who works and she recently hurt her back , i believe she twisted some vertebrae, she has been in agony since, we however have a toxic relationship, argue lots, she now with this added pain that affects her spine is worse attitude wise , and i have to try just dealing with it…

She has tried kicking me out before due to arguments, where she has gaslight me, this pre her back pain situation, but continues at time, where she has mentioned going to my fathers…my parents divorced after years of abuse, my father still tries phoning but emotionally he is a guilt tripping , manipulative aggress man, so i just blocked her number a few months ago, yet it still weighs on my mind daily, but i legit want out…

My mother showed me the other day she only has 14K in the bank from bills, spending money on food, prices are insane and i live in a country in Europe with the lowest wages… my mother and family are conservative and guess what, this is the cherry on top, i have gender dysphoria…. Its a lot story but daily i am dealing with this in silence, its hell for me, but id destroy my family if i came out as transwoman, and i dont even know what id do, where i live there probably arent trans people, no therapist here could help me, i am constantly triggered by seeing relationships, men, cause i wanted to date for the longest, never have, fml i am 31 wtf… sometimes the thought of death seems peaceful, but its not true peace, i just cant with all this pressure…

I recently finished a course on marketing, i should be creating an online portfolio to showcase my skills, but i keep thinking of my identity, name, i pieced things together , why i didnt socialize in youth, cause i didnt feel comfortable with myself around others…i had to hide things and still have been all these years later, i need to talk, to vent, to evolve from this lifeless life, i am wasting so much of my life, and yet i cant , i dont have anyone to talk to, any resources, its a nightmare of a life,…

Today my mother started crying cause she had to pay 1K for exames she needs on her back to discover whats wrong, if she has bone cancer, she got inside the machine and started feeling claustrophobic, and couldnt do it, left the clinic mad at herself in tears, wtf…

On the outside it looks like i need to be the one to magically find a solution but i cant, i need someone to step in, but there is no one, this is hell…what do i do????

Why is my life is hard, i feel i was cursed at birth, why do i have gender dysphoria, i am also balding from male pattern baldness, finasteride pills to try and holt it cost 60 euros, thats lots…how am i..what am i to do? If i just came out once and for all, my mother would be devastated and id be bombarded with tears, questions and “god why have you done this to me” …how am i to position myself careerwise without a portfolio ,

Hi

So imagine whether upon a misunderstanding , or simply the other person being unhinged, you deal with another content creator who starts posting hate speech against you, insulting you and others start sharing it for drama entertainment, other than blocking what else can be done? Can you report someone from a different country?

What's your take? When you are alone, stressed and contemplating if legal action is worth it, especially financially but yet, there are posts of this troll calling you all sorts.

Hi guys

This question might seem basic , "well cause I like the topic/ things I create content about" absolutely and it's the reason I was a content creator for years, in my case also as someone who appreciates high quality visuals, I enjoyed working on photo editing and sharing my work,

however there came a time when I asked myself, I'm putting a lot of time, effort and hours into my hobby, my craft, and although I'm not expecting to get anything like money or fame from it, what exactly is the reason behind continuing to do this if it's not benefitting me in any way? When there are thousands, millions of accounts doing similar, so it's not like I'm sharing a new discovery, you love what you showcase and share, but ...

serious side is I am unemployed also, so I ask you all wholeheartedly, what is the reason outside of interest that causes each of you , and so many others to wish to be content creators? I'm a collector should I invest in turning my platform into a business? a shop? But I don't wish to sell the items I own...

and when it comes to follower numbers , what does having X followers actually give us? I had a few thousand and felt indifferent, cause although again, I liked what I created and shared, how was it adding to my life? just sharing this and happy to hear yr answers 🙂

Hi guys

This question might seem basic , "well cause I like the topic/ things I create content about" absolutely and it's the reason I was a content creator for years, in my case also as someone who appreciates high quality visuals, I enjoyed working on photo editing and sharing my work,

however there came a time when I asked myself, I'm putting a lot of time, effort and hours into my hobby, my craft, and although I'm not expecting to get anything like money or fame from it, what exactly is the reason behind continuing to do this if it's not benefitting me in any way? When there are thousands, millions of accounts doing similar, so it's not like I'm sharing a new discovery, you love what you showcase and share, but ...

serious side is I am unemployed also, so I ask you all wholeheartedly, what is the reason outside of interest that causes each of you , and so many others to wish to be content creators? I'm a collector should I invest in turning my platform into a business? a shop? But I don't wish to sell the items I own...

and when it comes to follower numbers , what does having X followers give us? I had a few thousand and felt indifferent, just sharing this and happy to hear yr answers 🙂

Hi guys

This question might seem basic , "well cause I like the topic/ things I create content about" absolutely and it's the reason I was a content creator for years, in my case also as someone who appreciates high quality visuals, I enjoyed working on photo editing and sharing my work,

however there came a time when I asked myself, I'm putting a lot of time, effort and hours into my hobby, my craft, and although I'm not expecting to get anything like money or fame from it, what exactly is the reason behind continuing to do this if it's not benefitting me in any way? When there are thousands, millions of accounts doing similar, so it's not like I'm sharing a new discovery, you love what you showcase and share, but ...

serious side is I am unemployed also, so I ask you all wholeheartedly, what is the reason outside of interest that causes each of you , and so many others to wish to be content creators? I'm a collector should I invest in turning my platform into a business? a shop? But I don't wish to sell the items I own...

and when it comes to follower numbers , what does having X followers give us? I had a few thousand and felt indifferent, just sharing this and happy to hear yr answers 🙂

Hi, so I’ve struggling for years now, and i have been unemployed for practically most of mu life, i recently finished a course in marketing , so NOW is the time for me to get myself out there and position myself in a field i am interested in and look for work, however i am in a conservative town and been trying to push away the feeling pertaining to my gender identity for years.

I am male biologically, i live with my mother who is in her 60s and she has suffered so much seeing me bullied, she has gone through hell too, and life keeps throwing things at her, now she is close to becoming crippled, and just…no one in my family is good, i am alpne in this when i need a therapist , i cant just not keep working , i lost my 20s etc, i need guidance and help and this is pure hell and i keep trying to research for stuff, then my brain and body just shut down and i fall asleep cause its all too much, i also - side note : am a content creator dealing with hate speech post about me by a weird unhinged person online just…yep, i am sick of being stuck in this situation, so many things trigger me , and as my mothers only son, i know this would kill her, its like a part of me wants to just explain it to her, but this will push her over the edge emotionally and also, even if i did tell her shed be like “right so what are you going to do now?” Alongside very uncomfortable questions like “you want to be a woman?” “You want to change your body, cut off your…” i really fking hate this to the point of feeling sui..cide would be easier, but at the same time wtf…i have lost out on a lot, and i know none of you know me in person, but i am truly decent, i try to be , but im also very very sensitive to these things and i am so scared not having answers, aid, and this affects me in other aspects, i understand why i didnt socialize a lot in life, cause i ddint feel comfortable as me around others, i came out as gay was bullying for being gay, have trauma from that , which passed onto my mother fml…

From the outside its like, there is always something with him…i get cyber harassed, in school i got bullied, i cant get a job like everyone else, i get depression, i just, i hate saying this…in my course i worked loads and produced some good stuff, i should somehow create a portfolio to add with some works on my cv to get a job, i feel 0 inspired, i dont wanna meet people as me cause i just dont wanna keep this going…i need expert help and guidance and where i live its not possible, also these situations are, if a mistake medically happens i am also screwed. I dont feel dysphoric about my body, but i know id prefer navigating life as female me, especially dating wise. That is a huge trigger for me.

To add to this my mother is always saying im a handsome guy etc, fml…

Hi, so I’ve struggling for years now, and i have been unemployed for practically most of mu life, i recently finished a course in marketing , so NOW is the time for me to get myself out there and position myself in a field i am interested in and look for work, however i am in a conservative town and been trying to push away the feeling pertaining to my gender identity for years.

I am male biologically, i live with my mother who is in her 60s and she has suffered so much seeing me bullied, she has gone through hell too, and life keeps throwing things at her, now she is close to becoming crippled, and just…no one in my family is good, i am alpne in this when i need a therapist , i cant just not keep working , i lost my 20s etc, i need guidance and help and this is pure hell and i keep trying to research for stuff, then my brain and body just shut down and i fall asleep cause its all too much, i also - side note : am a content creator dealing with hate speech post about me by a weird unhinged person online just…yep, i am sick of being stuck in this situation, so many things trigger me , and as my mothers only son, i know this would kill her, its like a part of me wants to just explain it to her, but this will push her over the edge emotionally and also, even if i did tell her shed be like “right so what are you going to do now?” Alongside very uncomfortable questions like “you want to be a woman?” “You want to change your body, cut off your…” i really fking hate this to the point of feeling sui..cide would be easier, but at the same time wtf…i have lost out on a lot, and i know none of you know me in person, but i am truly decent, i try to be , but im also very very sensitive to these things and i am so scared not having answers, aid, and this affects me in other aspects, i understand why i didnt socialize a lot in life, cause i ddint feel comfortable as me around others, i came out as gay was bullying for being gay, have trauma from that , which passed onto my mother fml…

From the outside its like, there is always something with him…i get cyber harassed, in school i got bullied, i cant get a job like everyone else, i get depression, i just, i hate saying this…in my course i worked loads and produced some good stuff, i should somehow create a portfolio to add with some works on my cv to get a job, i feel 0 inspired, i dont wanna meet people as me cause i just dont wanna keep this going…i need expert help and guidance and where i live its not possible, also these situations are, if a mistake medically happens i am also screwed. I dont feel dysphoric about my body, but i know id prefer navigating life as female me, especially dating wise. That is a huge trigger for me.

To add to this my mother is always saying im a handsome guy etc, fml…

Hi, i truly hope everyone reading this is safe and at peace.

I’m going to start by saying ive been making content for many years now, ive never once received anything from it , except feeling very proud of the work i did, i love taking photos of products and making commentary and review videos online, i created accounts on multiple social media platforms using my creator handle name, connected accounts on facebook, and especially instagram and youtube etc, they are public, and my main topics are in a semi-niche community, and i shared lots of information on said products, lost media , others have learned from my content etc, i have brought to the table: content, mostly kindness and contribution…i have showcased support to other creators in the space, given shout outs, and ive never received it back, which in itself is fine, however, all i wanted was simple human respect, no jealousy in my community, no crazy nonsense or drama or rudeness…and i have tried being respectful but honest too, then i recall this is the internet and simply being what i see as correct isn’t the same for all and people do not care about mental health…

I haven’t usually shown my face online, but during the times i have , i now regret that fear i always had, incase someone screenshot it, or has it saved, as i am now dealing with a content creator who seems to be starting out, adamant to grow, they are from another country and continent, and are obsessively stalking me online, they have made weird posts about ridiculous stuff when all i ever was, was nice to them, and when i finally made a post exposing their behaviour, after enough harassment was enough, they blew up, and started making full-on hate posts publicly about me, stitching photos of me on stuff etc, all of this is public on their account.

I reported this all and the websites dont remove any of it, every day i wake up to another instagram account posting about the drama, or a twitter post sharing the post i made exposing the creep and his hateful response…my accounts as a content creator are public, otherwise i wouldn’t get to share my work, if i made them private , i am sure id give him amo to post about, you see the paranoia and fear i now live in?

I have worked so hard behind the scenes on some really amazing images i was scheduling months prior to all of this , to post, im really proud of how they turned out, but now my mental health is really bad, ive been dealing with shit in my real life , deep shit i cannot even simply talk to a therapist too cause it costs money and i am in a conservative town, and content creating was my form of escapism, now i just…

i dont know, honestly i dont like the community i am part of, i wanna speak out , but if i do, if i message people i seem like a baby whining, or dramatic, so is silence my only option? Literally “suffer in silence” , i keep seeing hate posts about me that are completely defamatory, and i cant do anything about it , in person in real life, people are seeing me miserable, its even affecting my already unwell mother, and i am even suici-dal , so i just, i need human empathy and some words of wisdom…reddit isnt the best place either but its all ive got… :( now what do i do with the work i had lined up? And what of my online name that has now been linked to a psycho user , fml…

And i have them blocked, ive gone back and fourth mentally on if i should unblog and just ask for mercy that they remove the hate posts but i believe from their behaviour profile, that this creator will just mock it even more and then block me back.

I can’t see a way out, ive been stuck in this circle and there is so much going on in my life

I am unemployed, been practically most of my life, am now 31 , i have gender dysphoria (fml why couldn’t i just be born normal) i have dealt with in silence for years and tried pushing away cause i dont wanna fking deal with this, it will destroy my mother, and my life, i recently finished an online course i should be looking for work and positioning myself , networking but i cant fathom having to just keep pushing through kife miserable, i also am a toy collector ( i know…wtf am i doing with my life ) and a content creator for the fun of it for years, got a youtube channel and all, who now has a unhinged cyber stalker from another continent posting all sorts of absolutely ridiculous defamatory nonsense about me online, and its being reposted by other accounts like wildfire,

and speaking of my mother, she is in her mid 60s, i have a toxic relationship with her, and now she badly hurt her back and isnalready suffering extra, plus she suffers with me being negative all the time, which i just cant push away as much, i try to mask it but i cant, i hate my life, im always simply trying to somehow keep going but with no motivation cause i just never enjoyed truly being how i am, nor how the world is…

My father? Lives in a city hours away, one my mother wont stop mentioning cause she knows how hard it is for me to look for work where i am, but i dont even look for work, im so unmotivated and cant fathom having to act and be around people i dont want to , acting etc, i don’t speak to my father which is another thing constantly on my mind, and its cause he is a manipulative , conservative , old fashioned, aggressive motherfker i want nothing too so with, i wish he just died once and for all… i legit have no one i can talk to, and i know the internet is full of all sorts…so tell me, at my age, and seeing myself look physically more and more like him, and seeing my youth go more and more, why the fk should i stay alive?

I can't talk to anyone about this and i need to, but cant, not where i live, i am sick of just going on, i am sick of the internal conflict, how my life is truly a fking mess i never asked for, looking back at all the bullying, crap ive dealt with, reading this you’d never know how i have some skills but not enough to keep pushing through when all i know is misery, i came out as a gay guy but honestly i just feel so weird internally and having to try to explain myself, when all i wanna do is disappear, fml, fk my family, fk everyone, i am sick of the pain, the toxic arguments with family , being called egocentric , manipulative, etc… when i keep in silence, i cant just be in peace…

I can’t see a way out, ive been stuck in this circle and there is so much going on in my life

I am unemployed, been practically most of my life, am now 31 , i have gender dysphoria (fml why couldn’t i just be born normal) i have dealt with in silence for years and tried pushing away cause i dont wanna fking deal with this, it will destroy my mother, and my life, i recently finished an online course i should be looking for work and positioning myself , networking but i cant fathom having to just keep pushing through kife miserable, i also am a toy collector ( i know…wtf am i doing with my life ) and a content creator for the fun of it for years, got a youtube channel and all, who now has a unhinged cyber stalker from another continent posting all sorts of absolutely petty ridiculous unhinged nonsense about me online, and speaking of my mother, she is in her mid 60s, i have a toxic relationship with her, and now she badly hurt her back and isnalready suffering extra, plus she suffers with me being negative all the time, which i just cant push away as much, i try to mask it but i cant, i hate my life, im always simply trying to somehow keep going but with no motivation cause i just never enjoyed truly being how i am, nor how the world is…

My father? Lives in a city hours away, one my mother wont stop mentioning cause she knows how hard it is for me to look for work where i am, but i dont even look for work, im so unmotivated and cant fathom having to act and be around people i dont want to , acting etc, i don’t speak to my father which is another thing constantly on my mind, and its cause he is a manipulative , conservative , old fashioned, aggressive motherfker i want nothing too so with, i wish he just died once and for all… i legit have no one i can talk to, and i know the internet is full of all sorts…so tell me, at my age, and seeing myself look physically more and more like him, and seeing my youth go more and more, why the fk should i stay alive?

I can't talk to anyone about this and i need to, but cant, not where i live, i am sick of just going on, i am sick of the internal conflict, how my life is truly a fking mess i never asked for, looking back at all the bullying, crap ive dealt with, reading this you’d never know how i have some skills but not enough to keep pushing through when all i know is misery, i came out as a gay guy but honestly i just feel so weird internally and having to try to explain myself, when all i wanna do is disappear, fml, fk my family, fk everyone, i am sick of the pain, the toxic arguments with family , being called egocentric , manipulative, etc… when i keep in silence, i cant just be in peace…

Hi, first id like to ask everyone reading to put themselves in my position, i ask for some empathy and also guidance. I don’t fully know where to ask/ post about this, online i am getting no support whatsoever by others in my shared community.

Someone online is cyber stalking me, and has been posting hate stories on instagram about me, because weeks after enduring this unsettling behaviour, i finally broke my silence made a post exposing the entire ordeal and post it in our shared niche community…this person seems very unhinged , incredibly self centred, and online trying to be a famous content creator, using mean-spirited drama posts about me when we barely ever spoke at all..we had 1 mini conversation where they showed support and I said thanks, from there this absolutely insane petson has been calling me names on their account, when I exposed it , they started taunting me calling me a baby ..i have evidence about their behaviour and they live in another country..

Now, id like to reach out and talk about this to some other content creators in my space, i am a content creator also, and i do it just for my deep enjoyment , my real life is quite difficult, that is a simple way of putting it, i deal with a lot already and so i just really want and need some humane understanding cause i've never been rude or mean to anyone, in fact I have always tried being rather kind and helpful , and i dont deserve this behaviour.

I have reported this to the platform and nothing has been removed. I got the automatic "we haven't removed the content" even though it's hate speech, I'm thinking of going to the police but this is super embarrassing also to explain, and I type in English online but the country I live in isnt English speaking , What would you do in my shoes? I am LGBT and fear that I might get ridiculed by the police, but this person is posting my username editing my logo and photos with hate words and speech...

I first id like to ask everyone reading put themselves in my position, i ask for some empathy and also guidance. I don’t fully know where to ask/ post about this, online i am getting no support whatsoever by others in my shared community. Someone online is cyber stalking me, and has been posting hate stories on instagram about me, because weeks after enduring this unsettling behaviour, i made a post exposing it…this person seems unhinged , incredibly self centred, and online trying to be a content creator, using mean-spirited drama posts about me when we barely ever spoke at all.. i have evidence about their behaviour… they live in another country..

Now, id like to reach out and talk about this to some other content creators in my space, i am one also, and i do it just for my enjoyment , my real life is quite difficult, that is a simple way of putting it, i deal with a lot already and so i just really want and need some humane understanding cause i've never been rude or mean to anyone, i have always tried being rather kind and helpful , and i dont deserve this behaviour. I have reported this to the platform and nothing has been removed. What would you do in my shoes?

My head has been hurting and I've been feeling nauseous since a troll has been posting hate speech about me , including my photos, calling me names, taunting etc , I reported it to the platform many times, nothing..even made a burner account to quickly check on their newest stories, I want it removed ...

LOCATION: Europe. we are from different continents though.

Hi, this is a very painful situation , i did nothing to deserve this, the person is an absolute weirdo, they started acting weird, stalking my account, and when i made a post explaining that,  things escalated and thats when the hate train grew , 

Someone on instagram made hate posts about me, has been cyber stalking me, and i reported the posts that are now saved as highlights to remain on their account, and instagram responds with “this content wasnt removed but we still want to help”….

 no one in my online community is helping me at all, some still follow that person,… my mother is seeing how miserable i am at home cause this truly was out of the world experience ,and the person even taunts and mocks the post i made explaining the situation. 

If i post anything on my account they will see and mock me even more for explaining and asking for peoples help, but I am doing that cause of this , tbh  i think they are emotionally psycho from what they complain about and how they twist my words, I regret posting about the situation but I was dealing with it in silence for a long time and they kept stalking me, ...

If i did try a legal dispute which…mentally i am already in a lot of suffering, I'd wanna try resolving it but don't think you can rationalize with crazy, and a legal dispute they then would likely get my real name, and ..this person is in another continent.. it really hurts me 

 i get it , i am a nobody to you guys, but i have done nothing wrong at all, and in my community no one cares to help out or even reach out to ask how i am doing…

Hi, this is a very painful situation , i did nothing to deserve this, the person is an absolute weirdo, they started acting weird, stalking my account, and when i made a post explaining that,  things escalated and thats when the hate train grew , 

Someone on instagram made hate posts about me, has been cyber stalking me, and i reported the posts that are now saved as highlights to remain on their account, and instagram responds with “this content wasnt removed but we still want to help”….

 no one in my online community is helping me at all, some still follow that person,… my mother is seeing how miserable i am at home cause this truly was out of the world experience ,and the person even taunts and mocks the post i made explaining the situation. 

If i post anything on my account they will see and mock me even more for explaining and asking for peoples help, but I am doing that cause of this , tbh  i think they are emotionally psycho from what they complain about and how they twist my words, I regret posting about the situation but I was dealing with it in silence for a long time and they kept stalking me, ...

If i did try a legal dispute which…mentally i am already in a lot of suffering, I'd wanna try resolving it but don't think you can rationalize with crazy, and a legal dispute they then would likely get my real name, and ..this person is in another continent.. it really hurts me 

 i get it , i am a nobody to you guys, but i have done nothing wrong at all, and in my community no one cares to help out or even reach out to ask how i am doing…

Hi, this is a very painful situation , i did nothing to deserve this, the person is an absolute weirdo, they started acting weird, stalking my account, and when i made a post explaining that,  things escalated and thats when the hate train grew , 

Someone on instagram made hate posts about me, has been cyber stalking me, and i reported the posts that are now saved as highlights to remain on their account, and instagram responds with “this content wasnt removed but we still want to help”….

 no one in my online community is helping me at all, some still follow that person,… my mother is seeing how miserable i am at home cause this truly was out of the world experience ,and the person even taunts and mocks the post i made explaining the situation. 

If i post anything on my account they will see and mock me even more for explaining and asking for peoples help, but I am doing that cause of this , tbh  i think they are emotionally psycho from what they complain about and how they twist my words, I regret posting about the situation but I was dealing with it in silence for a long time and they kept stalking me, ...

If i did try a legal dispute which…mentally i am already in a lot of suffering, I'd wanna try resolving it but don't think you can rationalize with crazy, and a legal dispute they then would likely get my real name, and ..this person is in another continent.. it really hurts me 

 i get it , i am a nobody to you guys, but i have done nothing wrong at all, and in my community no one cares to help out or even reach out to ask how i am doing…

If a content creator is the victim of cyber stalking, of someone posting hateful things about them, and the social media websites where the posts are , wont take them down, what should someone do?

Someone on instagram made hate posts about me, has been cyber stalking me, and i reported the posts that are now saved as highlights on their account, and instagram responds with “this content wasnt removed but we still want to help”….