u/BartsNightmare_

That is about all, thanks so much, and sorry for the dumb question

Firstly, he's in his mid 60s, claimed he was in guatemala, and is now talking about the end times, the mountain of gold, Venice, and also about a bride that's been chosen for him. His main goal now is to end up marrying the orphaned bitch that was dropped on his door, and this ultimate goal and test was sent to him by God before his final mission. This orphaned child by the way is 25 years old. His idea was to send her off to a finishing school, train her, and then marry her a year later.. she'll be locked up he says.. and she'll learn atleast how to stay silent and become a lady.. he also speaks of karma alot.. speaks of coming here to this land to save humanity.. he ended up leaving the states anyways and settled somewhere closer to Israel.. but not Israel... I do have more stuff to say, I'm just unsure, and I don't wanna make it too long.

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To the 25/26 year old female, she sees and views him as a kind ans good person, often describing him as the sweetest asshole she knew, yet also describing that this person hurts and confuses her mind sometimes.. the female ended up working for this person, often seeing delivering what this person wants and needs either to him in person or to his house.. often seen listening to this person as well.. etc.

I need to add that the female does not despise or hate this person, rather she has an issue finding ways to be kind to this person, make this person feel light, and appreciated rather than angry or tired.. or maybe even burdened.. she also claims that she fears talking about him in anyway, specially this way. She fears bad things can happen. She fears losing him. And she fears that she is doing something wrong.

This isn't necessarily a sexual or open dating like relationship between them.

Such as trade school rather than a whole entire university. Trade school teachers for example engineering that can be sanitary engineering and taking care of plumbing.. mechanics.. and taking care of cars.. electrician.. wood work and carpenting.. and lots more.. for both men and women..

25F. Looking for perspectives from men please and this is about someone I've been working for in a small town/community. (And the reasons I'm asking other men, is because I'm not sure whether I can succeed in life anymore)

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I've learned useful things from him and occasionally do work for him, but over time I've started questioning whether this is mentorship or something else.

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He frequently criticizes my attitude, work ethic, finances, appearance, and life choices. Some examples:

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- He told me I have a "black aura."

- He said I look like "a vulture waiting for the next dead prey."

- He has described me as a loser, negative, and someone who came to town "like a leech on a dog."

- He often tells me I'm not doing enough, not listening, or making excuses.

- At the same time, he says he wants to help me, teach me, and has even made comments about marrying me one day because I'm "an orphan who was never taught properly."

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The confusing part is that no matter what I do, he seems unhappy with it. If I explain myself, I'm making excuses. If I stay quiet, that's a problem too. I've sat through hours of advice and tried applying some of it, but instead of feeling more capable, I feel less confident and more anxious around him.

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For the men here: does this sound like tough-love mentorship, or does it sound more like someone who needs to keep me in a position where I'm always being judged and trying to earn approval?

I need to add that this man came from the evangelical missionary background. I am also not spoiled, not the princess type, not the loud emotional type either.

25F. Looking for perspectives from this man (mid 60s) that I've been working for

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I've learned useful things from him and occasionally do work for him, but over time I've started questioning whether this is mentorship or something else.

He frequently criticizes my attitude, work ethic, finances, appearance, and life choices. Some examples:

- He told me I have a "black aura."

- He said I look like "a vulture waiting for the next dead prey."

- He has described me as a loser, negative, and someone who came to town "like a leech on a dog."

- He often tells me I'm not doing enough, not listening, or making excuses.

- At the same time, he says he wants to help me, teach me, and has even made comments about marrying me one day because I'm "an orphan who was never taught properly."

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The confusing part is that no matter what I do, he seems unhappy with it. If I explain myself, I'm making excuses. If I stay quiet, that's a problem too. I've sat through hours of advice and tried applying some of it, but instead of feeling more capable, I feel less confident and more anxious around him.

For the men here: does this sound like tough-love mentorship, or does it sound more like someone who needs to keep me in a position where I'm always being judged and trying to earn approval?

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If this is normal for men, I'm able to ignore this. Im not spoiled. I'm not the princess type. None of the rest.

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Ps. He came from an evangelical missionary background.

Everything everyone of you know, truly, both non Muslim and Muslim is fine

Say a woman was told that she'd be sent off to finishing school in Switzerland.. for survival, education, support, and many other reasons. She was told that she should with no choice given, because that way she will be saved, she will be found and given a man to marry and take care of. She will have her duties and job as the wife of the household. He will have money. She will and must be submissive. She won't need to be outside since she'll have a big garden to take care of. And she'll be working with the person (who had offered her this) after a year of finishing school. When she decides to stop working for him, she will be given a bundle of money and is free to live, as long as she also doesn't wanna get married. Much more was added yet it's better to summarise it to this point.

Now all of this does not make fuck sense to me and I need someone's serious and honest guidance and knowledge on this. You can text me. Ask me questions. So forth.

Why I'm asking ? Say a woman is sent off to "finishing school in Switzerland" because she was told this and told this because she needs to undergo important training before she's married off to "man with money/rich man" rather than the "local villager".. now these words are very specific and detailed which leaves me worried enough to confess, since anybody could find it, be following, etc, although I'd like to gather up more information, advice, and knowledge regarding this particular sort of topic based on its given scenario and description yet I do not know which sub reddit to go to for such confession..

Now this type of offer comes in waves.. it comes from someone who I understand himself was in a cult or program of some sort. From his language and way of speaking, he envisions a world controlled by karma, and agrees that an "orphaned child should be sent away to a man educated and good enough to take care of her".. etc

This offer comes in ways which is mixed between political, (very American and Jewish), very culty, somewhat sexual, somewhat misogynistic, and so forth.. so lost here.. I'm also in adult age and have met this person a year ago.

I was wondering if these are signs of an ex evangelical cult.. it ends with talks about finishing school in Switzerland, ends with verbal comments such as, "you won't have a choice to say no", "I'll visit you every 3 months to evaluate you and check on you", "you may stay up to a year depending on your behavior and if you can pass", "after that you'll work for me", "you're very lucky to be chosen for this", "To raise an orphan girl, educate her, and help her marry a righteous man is among the noblest acts of mercy" etc etc

At this point I'm not understanding anything... at all.. I was told that I'll be locked in Switzerland for 6 months atleast and if I opened my mouth I'd be beaten and taught properly

I want a phone holder possibly around my waist area since I don't need to carry anything else.. and I'm physically active using the bike, etc,

Pockets aren't a good idea, shoulder bags too big for a single phone, fanny pack (I'm not too crazy about)..

I'm looking for a different style and look.. mountain desert style as well

I'll mention the sinai

Enough to come up with a conclusion based on common sense obviously yes..? Well, unfortunately everything has come across as a lie.. it's becoming alot more complicated to learn what's actual and legit.. so many different options, different information, and also just hard to come across..