u/BlackberryOk7416

Does anyone happened to know if there is a discord for first time trying to conceive ? If not, would anyone be interested in one?

Just like what the title says: someone who Im friends with reached out to me to talk to me about her gender disappointment. She is having a boy, and doesn’t want a boy. Not sure how else I can say wtf would possess her to talk to one of her friends going through infertility about this, but here I am.

Edit: I just want to say thank you for the kind words and the words of wisdoms. My friend has just reached out to me and apologized to me as she realized why I redirected her. I communicate very effectively with my friends. She just happened to forget about that boundary. Yes I was a bit frustrated when I wrote the initial post, but I have no ill will towards anyone.

I was wondering if anyone can post their before and after sperm analysis (post microsurgery) - we finally made it to day 90 (as of Thursday) in which I have a 11:30am sperm analysis.

My wife and I have this cycle to try naturally, and next cycle we will be doing IVF.

Just to give you the run down:

I had varicocele microsurgery on June 12th. My wife and I have been trying to conceive for almost 3 years and sadly she did get pregnant, but it ended up being a biochemical pregnancy. My wife already takes prenatal and so do I. We went through IVF last year October/November with a December transfer.

If we don’t get pregnant this cycle currently, we are set to start IVF again literally a year from when we first started IVF with hopefully a November transfer instead of a December transfer. My wife is feeling so anxious, and pessimistic. I completely understand.

I don’t know if I’m looking for supportive words or just advice on next steps. I feel having the chemical showed us something we have never seen before in the 3 years before, that implantation CAN happened.

This month has hit me harder than any month has.

Not just because it’s officially marked a year of trying with my fertility clinic, but because I realized next month is officially 3 years of trying.

3 years of comments like the most recent « You guys just need to relax, » as if we didn’t relax for 2 years before seeking medical intervention.

My friend recently gave birth, and I use to joke that I wouldn’t get pregnant until after she gave birth. Well, she gave birth and I’m still not pregnant.

I am finding moments where I feel envious seeing other people with kids, so sometimes I just write into my journal so I can manage my feelings. Sometimes, I just listen to music to figure myself out.

I’m just lost in this exhausting journey - and I’m finding my way back to myself, but it doesn’t take away from the exhaustion I feel behind infertility.

My husband and I have been actively trying for almost 3 years come August. Funny enough, I remember July 17th 2025 was the start of my husband and I’s fertility journey which also happened to be the day I started my period. The good news is I got a positive digital ovulation and LH test today so I ovulate tomorrow (yay!) the sad news is I know this cycle won’t work as much as I want it too.

It’s killing me knowing that it’s been a whole year of needles, exams and IVF. We are now back to trying naturally for another 6 months before we go back to IVF. I just am dreading another period and another cycle lost.

My husband’s family is doing a family reunion, but a lot of the things we are doing is water obstacles and I don’t feel comfortable doing any of it.

My husband is a fit young man - and so is the vast majority of his family attending (there is about 60-70 of them all coming together and the only one I have seen is my husband’s cousin). Other than his cousin, I’m the only plus size person attending. This makes me very insecure about me going and participating in any of these since I know it’ll be very noticeable. My husband mentioned the water sports like kayaking and doing the water obstacle courses and the fact I would need to bring a bathing suit - and I just don’t feel ready for that. (I also want to say I haven’t worn a bathing suit in almost 6 years) I don’t hate my body, I just tend to get insecure because last time I tried to do something with my husband, it was very obvious who the heavy one was.

Hi all,

Sorry to ask more questions, but I was just wondering if anyone recently went to Nantes for their OFII meeting. I’m here on a vie privée et familiale. I keep seeing others saying there is documents I need, but OFII stated I only need my convocation, my passport, and proof of French skills if I had it. Nothing else. I do have my prescription for my glasses, and my recent hospitalization. I’m on my second visa now here.

I also wanted to know, due to the heat wave, are the lines super long? (I’m going tomorrow where they it’ll be 41) 😭I was told it will take anywhere from 3 to 4 hours for the appointment. I booked my ticket for 5pm (to get back home as I live an hour from here) but my appointment is at 1:30pm so I wasn’t sure if that’s pushing it 😬

I, 31M, is having microsurgery this Friday as I have grade 2 varicocele on the left side. I know things can go either way as of right now, but I’m feeling hopeful.

I’ll update how everything goes in September when I get my sperm analysis done.

Current medical parameters: 1% Morphology, 10% Motility (5% are progressive), 99.1 million total sperm count, 24% vitalité

Hi all,

We have been trying for almost 3 years come August. We did IVF, and failed all 3 transfers sadly.

We got two new opinions, and his urologist said that the reason he believes we aren’t getting pregnant naturally is because my husband has grade 2 varicocele on the left side - and it’s causing the decline in his motility and has actually gotten bigger from when he first got diagnosed 10 years ago.

I’m just looking for positive stories of improved motility, and vitalité?

We did testing for me and I have come back clear

I have my exam on June 24th, and I saw they do an eye exam. I did an eye exam a in March, and got glasses. Should I bring the eye exam results so I can just skip that part of the exam?

I’m waiting to get my medical records from the hospital I use to go to.

Anyone else?

Looking for some insight:

I decided I didn’t want to test because I don’t think this cycle will be successful - and I have to skip my June cycle.

Anyways:

CD9: Ovulation Pains
CD10-CD12: Right Boob hurting
CD13: (something was nagging me, telling me I need to test - not sure why) Blaring Poisitive OPK
DPO 1: Ovulation pains
DPO 2: Ovulation pains

Anyone else experienced this ? This is new for me since yeah I’ve gotten boob pain before, but it’s usually AFTER I ovulate and I never had ovulation pains for multiple days in the row. Just the day of my positive OPK or day I am set to ovulate. This is definitely new of my cycle (especially since I haven’t had boob pain in months from progesterone)

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My husband is getting varicocele microsurgery on June 12th (which his amazing urologist stated he needed) which he believes is affecting his motility, morphology and vitality:

Current Sperm Analysis-

Total Sperm: 93.53 million
Total Motile: 10%
Motility Progressive: 5%
Vitality: 24%
Morphology: 1%

He is currently taking a prenatal that has carnitine, COQ10, Vitamin B6 B9 C E and Zinc (this is one just prenatal that was prescribed by his urologist)

I was wondering what was you all’s results when you had to use this. His count isn’t the issue, but every other number is below normal, so he is hoping that this will be the saving grace. We do have a suspicion he has DNA fragmentation but my country won’t test for it because they don’t see it as essential. His urologist wants him to use clomiphene citrate starting the day of his surgery.

31M

First Opinion: Grade 1 varicocele and shouldn’t affect fertility - asymptomatic

Second opinion (3 years later as we still haven’t been able to get pregnant): 3.6mm vein, still asymptomatic, high sperm count, T levels are normal, low motility and low morphology ( 5% and 1%)

We tried an embolization in December and they couldn’t perform it hence us seeing a second opinion. He wants to go ahead and do the surgery.

Any success stories or just appreciating some opinions on this to talk to him about next week before my surgery the 12th.

My husband is getting varicocele surgery in June, and since I have this cycle before it, we felt it might be better to just avoid doing any testing this whole cycle.

We have been trying for almost 3 years, and 3 failed transfers (via IVF) under our belt, we figured tracking wouldn’t make any difference this cycle. And for my June cycle, the urologist has already told us we will be on a at minimum 2 week break from any sexual activity - 3 weeks max if he is still in pain.

How did not tracking go for everyone else?

To explain:

I started having brown spotting May 8th
Full period: May 9th - May 11th (but the weird part is it was lighter then usual - like it filled a pad, but not the way it usually does)
May 11th when I wiped, I had a big blood clot - not huge, but bigger than a quarter - but then my period tapered off - I called my gyno who stated that although it can be a cause for concern, in this instant, she doesn’t believe there’s any concern
May 12th - no period in sight at all, used the bathroom in the afternoon and when I wiped I saw bright red/pink , then have intercourse with my husband and boom, I use the bathroom and see bright red
May 13th have another fun time with my husband and this time when I wiped it was dark red

I have never had this happened before. None of these are enough to fill a pad at all, like they aren’t even getting on the pad. It only shows up when I wipe. I haven’t had any pain at all except for the 8th where I had intense back pain, but other than that I haven’t felt anything.

My husband was told he had grade 1 varicocele years ago, and was told it wouldn’t affect his fertility - and since he had no symptoms, they should leave it.

Well, almost 3 years of trying and no baby. We did 3 different sperm analysis and although he has a decent count (68 million, 90 million and 116 million) his motility, vitalité and morphology aren’t good at all. (Motility 13% progressive, 11% progressive and now 5% progressive - Morphology was 3% and then the other two were 1% - vitalité was 30%, 28% and now 23%)

We have been told we had to do IVF by our RE and that was the only way we would ever have kids. If we wanted to continue naturally, we would have less than a 3% chance of it happening (we did an IVF cycle - 3 failed implantations). Well, we met with a urologist (a second one) because my husband went for an embolization and apparently it failed. The second urologist we ended up meeting with said he was a bit shocked by the push for IVF and the fact they failed to do the embolization. So, we are going in for a surgery to help remove the vein as it isn’t grade 1, it’s grade 2, and they should’ve done the proper research beforehand. They went off documents from his very first exam (4 years ago).

Well, my husband has been cleared for surgery on the 12th of June and I was genuinely wondering what to expect.