Declares it fair and measured retribution for decades of canadian goose droppings
The souvlaki spot they had running out there was the best i've ever had in my life.. anyone ever have a wrap that compared to this joint? Unbeatable.. been chasing that dragon since they closed up
In Buddhism, speaking poorly of parents generates negative karma (unwholesome action) because parents are regarded as uniquely foundational to a person's existence and require deep gratitude. However, Buddhist teachings are realistic about toxic or abusive dynamics
The general Buddhist view on the relationship and speech toward parents is structured by core teachings:
The path to navigate this with skill involves higher mental developments that allow us to hold 2 opposing truths in our mind at once. Ie. Our kamma resulted in our birth in a harsh dynamic, but we were still innocent and are therefore worthy of compassion especially for what we endured even if we got it from no one and were conditioned by our abusers to believe we deserved all of it.. suffering is never okay to spread to anyone especially a child no matter how poor our behavior may have been, especially by a parent. It left a stain on our mental health and well being, which often results in toxic feelings thoughts speech and action that spread our pain to others despite trying to contain it often as best we could, sometimes it was too much and we spilled it onto others, even those we would love and care for... but no one has a chance at being better than this when raised in brutal and harsh environments and therefore we are still worthy of patience compassion and no judgment. the opposite of these, brutality, harshness is an unskilled tool that often only makes us worse, does not motivate properly us to be better without the model to show us how. Without these we get worse. With these we improve. poor treatment is not something a child can earn nor deserve from poor behavior. Our kamma may have brought this upon us because we have a lesson to learn around this. But this does not mean it is what we deserved. no suffering is ever okay. loving kindness, emotional support, security, empathy amd compassion are a necessary foundation to the behavior that was demanded of us. they did not hold up the9r own and insisted an impossibility was the bare minimum. This journey has nothing to do with "deserving" good or bad.. we require compassion and loving kindness to undo this damage we endured and to become better...
The shame pain and rage can be seemingly infinite given our proclivity for repression out of survival, once we finally uncover it.. it must be processed with skill. It wasnt just our parents who failed us. It was our society who has no place better. Our world who created this cruelty and put it into our abusers to begin with to spread to us. Our various guardians who turned a blind eye, and authorities who have a system that seems to offer only comparatively worse dispositions.. and finally ourselves for having the kamma that calls for enduring this.. but no suffering is ever okay. Especially not that of a helpless child no matter what we told ourselves in order to survive
The infinite shame pain and rage must be expressed assertively as compassion through wrath. It is an explosion of fire and lightning from the heart... not in aggression, not in violence nor vitriol. The rage from the beast must be encompassed with the child within that still loves them. So it can become a verbal articulation from the heart to cease and desist not just for our peace but for their own sake as well. This can take place within the heart. They do not need to be present.. and yet it still offers the release we need to get through this
It can take years after this but gradually we can feel less raw about everything. We can appreciate that they were only able to do this to us in this iteration because we did it to them in oir own ignorance which resulted in this experience... we can resolve what remains of our issues using concepts of past life karma and reincarnation in this sense.. we do not need to allow them into our life ever again or be vulnerable to their abuse but we can, from a safe distance, still feel compassion for how they cannot escape themselves are trapped in such a horrible prison of their own making and will find no peace in death but rather a form of us shared in others will become their parents and they will experience what we did... we can eventually feel gratitude.. they are the ones whos values aligned with ours and offered the portal for us to exist in this world and we overcame what they are going to have to endure their next iteration.. they may fail while we ourselves learned everything we needed ascend peacefully, with wholesome joy and freedom.. we can make it the rest of the way without all the suffering have yet to endure..
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We cant evolve as a species if we are leaving people behind. The intolerant right's biggest complaint is they are dehumanized because of their political leaning. Which aligns them closely to open racism. They would say they legally have more right to be here but feel we are choosing immigrants over them... their hate towards immigrants is a direct reflection of this and their insecurity puts them in a hierarchy, which isnt entirely their fault when their survival is at stake and especially when they are being manipulated by the elite so heavily.. we can only do our part by responding with compassion. Immigrants do take blue collar jobs. But how we respond is whats most important. If we cannot respond compassionately we should remove ourselves. If we have the bandwidth for it, we help them with wisdom. No one.. not even right wing ignorant racists should be made to feel left behind. That only makes these problems worse
This is advanced.. to engage hate with compassion. it can get thrown back in our face. we have to give ourselves compassion so we do not lash out or let a poor response fester in our heart when things go south.. we are the ones that need that good stuff when we've been wounded, first and foremost, especially of we were trying in earnest for their benefit.. what matters most in these is what motivates us. we have to be doing it for their benefit.. if we cant do that in the moment there is no shame in backing away. as long as no minority's being accosted by them at the time
this is more about planting seeds to help them/everyone.. we musnt expect too much all at once
We do not tolerate the intolerant.. we destroy the intolerant when we help them become more tolerant
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