u/BogSwog

i’m not sure if this is allowed but my new rat (she had a sister but she passed) gave birth around a week ago, the day before she gave birth she gave me a pretty nasty bite, i’ve been trying to bond with her but nothing i seem to do works, we are just now at the point where i can put her food in without her trying to bite me, i try sitting with her by her cage and feeding baby food off of a spoon but i still can’t pet her without her jerking around to my finger, i love her and want to give her the best life but i don’t want to stress her out, i wanted to try the bathtub bonding but i can’t pick her up at all to get her there, please help me

For context I just dropped one of my friends, we were friends for nearly 2 years and there was always some inconsistency’s.
To begin, she started our friendship by not telling me about her age. we met through a friend (17) so i assumed she wouldn’t be much younger or the same age as me.
Throughout this friendship she hated when i brought up her age even in jokes. At one point she was talking about how she can’t wait to grow up and get a job and move out, i simply told her that she shouldn’t rush into things and working is hard and draining, we moved on from this but she shut down and hung up on me, a few hours later she sent a huge paragraph about how I made her feel inferior since she can’t work and doesn’t like when I bring attention to her age, obviously i thought this was crazy because it’s impossible to just act like she’s older?? Regardless, i was respectful and told her the reality of it that I ofc did not mean to make her feel this way but that her age is her age and letting it affect you is a bit unreasonable and unrealistic to expect it to never be brought up.

Moving forward we had several instances where she made me feel disrespected or she just didn’t listen to me. I brought this up and she said she would try her best to be better and i accepted this but recently I was talking with my ex and found out he had talked with my other ex best friend and wanted to discuss with my friends how upset I was. Now this isn’t just some random guy or else i would understand my friends reaction but Ive had history with this guy for nearly 2-3 years so him doing that really affected me. It led me to get a temp ban from tiktok messaging and I wouldn’t be able to keep some of my streaks. As I am talking about how this situation made me feel in a groupchat with this friend and another, the other friend is responding and talking me through this, the bad friend decided to stop responding and only responded once I informed them that I had lost my tiktok messaging privileges. I kindly say “can we focus on the important stuff here?” and she says “ehh” as if what I am saying is not important, obviously with me already being upset this rubbed me the wrong way. I asked her if she was serious and that saying that to someone clearly upset is not right. My other friend ends up apologizing to me because I said I no longer wanted to talk. I then replied “you aren’t the one who should be sorry”.

I got no response from that and later on saw the bad friend posting on her story being on calls with people and then she texted in the same group chat where she had disrespected me without acknowledging what she had done. So I step away from that group chat and realized that she truly does not care about how I feel or listening to me when just a week or two before I listened to her cry over the most stupid thing but I was there for her and comforted her and she even thanked me for making her feel better.

This led to me unfollowing her on social media and just not talking to her since she showed no effort of being sorry or anything, Later I get a text nearly 21 hours after the fact of her saying “you’re right i’m sorry”, Now at this point a sorry will not fix this and i’m already set on not being her friend. So i said “right cause saying that 21 hrs later after posting on ur story and texting in the same gc means so much” and got no response.

Now today i get a text from her on several social media apps of her upset, here is what they said and what I said back.

Instagram:
Her- Weirdo how u gon Unfollow me and not remove me as a follower ?
Me- weirdo how you gonna be a bad friend after i listened to u cry over a loose tooth
Her- stfu
Me- you should have been a better friend, i listened to you cry over stupid shit 24/7 and you can't have enough decency to listen when i'm visible upset, you need to work on yourself before trying to call others names.

Messages:
Her- Fkn loser
Me- Don’t you have a loose tooth to cry over?

Roblox:
Her: Lucky I can’t talk to you crazy on roblox

To explain the loose tooth comment, a week or two ago she had texted me about how she was super upset because she felt her tooth was loose, upon asking her what had happened, she caused it by flossing with a rubber band, it was also only loose when she applied pressure so nothing serious or something that could lead to her losing her tooth.

I don’t think I did anything wrong considering I gave her a chance to apologize and realize what she had done. I’m just here to get a second opinion because I realize I can sometimes overreact but this fallout was long over due since she had disrespected me on several occasions and her sending those texts after solidified my decision.

For context I just dropped one of my friends, we were friends for nearly 2 years and there was always some inconsistency’s.
To begin, she started our friendship by not telling me about her age. we met through a friend (17) so i assumed she wouldn’t be much younger or the same age as me.
Throughout this friendship she hated when i brought up her age even in jokes. At one point she was talking about how she can’t wait to grow up and get a job and move out, i simply told her that she shouldn’t rush into things and working is hard and draining, we moved on from this but she shut down and hung up on me, a few hours later she sent a huge paragraph about how I made her feel inferior since she can’t work and doesn’t like when I bring attention to her age, obviously i thought this was crazy because it’s impossible to just act like she’s older?? Regardless, i was respectful and told her the reality of it that I ofc did not mean to make her feel this way but that her age is her age and letting it affect you is a bit unreasonable and unrealistic to expect it to never be brought up.

Moving forward we had several instances where she made me feel disrespected or she just didn’t listen to me. I brought this up and she said she would try her best to be better and i accepted this but recently I was talking with my ex and found out he had talked with my other ex best friend and wanted to discuss with my friends how upset I was. Now this isn’t just some random guy or else i would understand my friends reaction but Ive had history with this guy for nearly 2-3 years so him doing that really affected me. It led me to get a temp ban from tiktok messaging and I wouldn’t be able to keep some of my streaks. As I am talking about how this situation made me feel in a groupchat with this friend and another, the other friend is responding and talking me through this, the bad friend decided to stop responding and only responded once I informed them that I had lost my tiktok messaging privileges. I kindly say “can we focus on the important stuff here?” and she says “ehh” as if what I am saying is not important, obviously with me already being upset this rubbed me the wrong way. I asked her if she was serious and that saying that to someone clearly upset is not right. My other friend ends up apologizing to me because I said I no longer wanted to talk. I then replied “you aren’t the one who should be sorry”.

I got no response from that and later on saw the bad friend posting on her story being on calls with people and then she texted in the same group chat where she had disrespected me without acknowledging what she had done. So I step away from that group chat and realized that she truly does not care about how I feel or listening to me when just a week or two before I listened to her cry over the most stupid thing but I was there for her and comforted her and she even thanked me for making her feel better.

This led to me unfollowing her on social media and just not talking to her since she showed no effort of being sorry or anything, Later I get a text nearly 21 hours after the fact of her saying “you’re right i’m sorry”, Now at this point a sorry will not fix this and i’m already set on not being her friend. So i said “right cause saying that 21 hrs later after posting on ur story and texting in the same gc means so much” and got no response.

Now today i get a text from her on several social media apps of her upset, here is what they said and what I said back.

Instagram:
Her- Weirdo how u gon Unfollow me and not remove me as a follower ?
Me- weirdo how you gonna be a bad friend after i listened to u cry over a loose tooth
Her- stfu
Me- you should have been a better friend, i listened to you cry over stupid shit 24/7 and you can't have enough decency to listen when i'm visible upset, you need to work on yourself before trying to call others names.

Messages:
Her- Fkn loser
Me- Don’t you have a loose tooth to cry over?

Roblox:
Her: Lucky I can’t talk to you crazy on roblox

To explain the loose tooth comment, a week or two ago she had texted me about how she was super upset because she felt her tooth was loose, upon asking her what had happened, she caused it by flossing with a rubber band, it was also only loose when she applied pressure so nothing serious or something that could lead to her losing her tooth.

I don’t think I did anything wrong considering I gave her a chance to apologize and realize what she had done. I’m just here to get a second opinion because I realize I can sometimes overreact but this fallout was long over due since she had disrespected me on several occasions and her sending those texts after solidified my decision.

Back when i was in freshman year (14) a guy on snapchat messaged me (17), at first it was just an innocent friendship but he slowly started revealing who he was, i got attached because i was always never looked at or given attention by guys so this was shocking that he was showing interest in me, granted the interest was more sexual than anything and we ended up dating for a brief time, i broke up with him several times and we were on and off for about a year, we parted ways but recently we re added each other, this is when he revealed to me that he did the one thing i begged him not to, he texted my ex best friend and even went as far to send her money and plan dates with her and was telling me about a girl he was using for her body and in his words said he was “single handedly bringing back male toxicity”.

obviously i am upset and being less blinded by love i saw the flaw in this and decided i was going to be fully done with him. after blocking him and telling him what i really thought of him i was thinking about how he’s affected me for nearly 2 years and has gotten no consequences, so i went on facebook and texted his brother about what he did and he was not happy. i then get a text from my ex on insta asking me to “stop lying” to his family or he would call the cops, i told him i wasn’t lying and provided screenshot proof of stuff he’s said and done to me.

this changed his demeanor because he didn’t realize i had all of this proof. he went from accusing me of lying to gaslighting me by saying i was only mad because he didn’t call me, which is not true at all, im just tired of his BS.

I told him me telling his brother what he did isn’t grounds to call the cops and that it’s up to his brother to decide what he does with the information i told him and that there’s no point in texting me because it won’t take back me telling his brother.

there was also so much more he’s done but if i included all of it this would be pages long, i just needed to get this off my chest because i literally felt a weight lifted knowing that it’s not just me seeing how horrible he is.

So i recently just went through my first WLW rejection, i completely support her decision and im not pressuring her into dating me but i feel like she lead me on, i didnt just ask to be her GF out of no where, we’ve been calling eachother baby and love and playing games and having movie nights, just before i asked her, she said “goodnight beautiful” so you can see why i thought she had feelings for me too, am i right to think this?

my dog keeps getting her inner corner of her eye swollen and it’s poking out, it’s not constant but it keeps happening, she is also losing hair around her eye and keeps scratching at it.
we’ve took her to the vet and they thought allergies at first and just gave her eye drops but it persists.
i live in a rural area and the vet isn’t the best, we’ve had to take my other dog to the vet for skin irritation and despite going three times they couldn’t figure out what was wrong, i had to try at home remedies and i plan on going to another vet soon but was wondering if anyone had an idea of what’s wrong.
i hate seeing her like this 😓
for reference she is a small mutt around 17 lbs and about 3-4 years old
we suspect she may be chihuahua and some pittbull but no confirmation

i got banned from paypal for no reason and was not allowed to to dispute it. I successfully sold a build a bear and shipped out same day and got confirmation the person had received it, When i went to sell another, it asked me to answer questions about it such as when i had shipped it out and a tracking number which was not possible since the second bear was purchased at night after the post office had closed. After answering the questions i was banned. Does anyone know why this happened??