u/Careless_Wrangler_90

My husband of 4 years suddenly filed for divorce. Like he texted me on June 22 that he wants to separate and filed in two weeks.

He expected me to sign once I got the papers and wanted it “amicable, quick and respectful”. He doesn’t like lawyers and wanted to leave me with nothing.

However, I hired a lawyer who’s going after him for financial discovery, interim support requests, and contesting everything. The lawyer says it could take a year or so if the divorce remains contested.

Was it a good decision to get a lawyer? Or should I have just let it be?

Should I get a lawyer or not?

So we have been married for 3.5 years. Husband blindsided me with a divorce out of nowhere. He never provided me access to any financials such as credit cards, bank accounts, house is in his name only etc., while he benefited from my graduate student health insurance, subsidized housing (while renting his house), and my auto insurance. I supported him through his unemployment, his mental health episodes that required hospitalization and rehab for 6+ months (that was covered under my health insurance), helped him find jobs, and finally he got back on his feet. Unrented the house, got a high paying job, got sober, medicated etc.
I also sacrificed a year+ of my career for him as he didn’t want to move and supported him restabilize in his job and life, care-taking etc. He also stole our jointly filed tax returns from us when he finally got a job and I didn’t work for half of that year, claiming that it’s his money although it was jointly filed return.

Finally, out of nowhere he filed for divorce and served me papers. He wants to leave me with nothing claiming that he owns all the assets before marriage.

Since it was a relatively short marriage (3.5 years), no kids, no joint assets, I don’t know if I should get a lawyer or just walk away with nothing. Not sure what to do.

Are discards a bipolar thing? My husband with bipolar 1 suddenly discarded me out of nowhere, refuses conversation and filed for divorce. It’s been completely abrupt, sudden and confusing. Not sure what is going on.

Was it a discard?

So my husband of almost 4 years broke up over text. I was overseas seeing my sick mom for three weeks, we had plans to move to a different state for my job. We have had issues like fights here and there but nothing that was this bad.

The day I was supposed to return, he discarded me over text that he’s filling fof divorce and I need to move out. He told me his decision is final and there’s no room for reconsideration/reconciliation. I was shocked to say the least. Came back to him asking me to move out of our bedroom and find another place to live etc. Stopped communicating outside logistics etc. Filed for divorce. I had to move out without any chance at a conversation, talking. It’s been almost 2 weeks I stopped reaching out but still confused at what happened.

Few weeks ago my husband and I were planning a move, and now he’s suddenly discarded me out of nowhere. He says he filling for divorce and his decision is final. He’s not willing to talk, won’t tell me the problem (except BS reasons), won’t communicate with me, is completely cold like I have done something wrong, silent treatment, doesn’t want me around etc. asked me to move out or at least to a different room. Won’t share groceries with me. Won’t talk to me. not sure what’s going on. I haven’t done anything wrong. It’s all outta nowhere.

Ok since Saturn was in Pisces for a long time I thought we Pisces placements were suffering cos of that and since Feb things weee finally starting to change for us when Saturn moves in Aries.

Well I went thru hell during Pisces Saturn period, including massive financial and other constraints - finally around Feb 2026 things started improving for me and I got a job offer that was decent. I started going to the gym and started to feel better about myself.

Come April 2026 I got an amazing job offer that was honestly beyond my dreams and finally something seemed way better than they have in last 4-5 years or whatever. I also lost a lot of weight and practically looked my best in the recent past. So things stabilizing rifgt?

But no!!! Because I’m Aries rising and Venus, and Saturn is now in Venus. I realized maybe the way I was started to look so much better/focus on myself and interview confidently was because of my Aries rising and the focus on myself, and didn’t realize what my spouse was feeling. Apparently last few months he was feeling neglected and that I was cheating on him (cos I was going to the gym and taking care of myself after a long time of feeling like shit I.e. fat and unemployed) and while I was gone on a trip to see my family he blindsided me with a divorce. No questions.no interest in reconciliation. He thinks I’m cheating on him and decided to end the marriage. I looked at my chart. Saturn is conjunct/or near my natal Venus now!!! OF COURSE! So when the life finally started getting better, my relationships are at the lowest… Saturn just can’t leave us alone.

Ok since Saturn was in our sign for a long time I thought we were suffering cos of that and since Feb things weee finally starting to change for us when Saturn moves in Aries.

Well I went thru hell during Pisces Saturn period, including massive financial and other constraints - finally around Feb 2026 things started improving for me and I got a job offer that was decent. I started going to the gym and started to feel better about myself.

Come April 2026 I got an amazing job offer that was honestly beyond my dreams and finally something seemed way better than they have in last 4-5 years or whatever. I also lost a lot of weight and practically looked my best in the recent past. So things stabilizing rifgt?

But no!!! Because I’m Aries rising and Venus, and Saturn is now in Venus. I realized maybe the way I was started to look so much better/focus on myself and interview confidently was because of my Aries rising and the focus on myself, and didn’t realize what my spouse was feeling. Apparently last few months he was feeling neglected and that I was cheating on him (cos I was going to the gym and taking care of myself after a long time of feeling like shit I.e. fat and unemployed) and while I was gone on a trip to see my family he blindsided me with a divorce. No questions.no interest in reconciliation. He thinks I’m cheating on him and decided to end the marriage. I looked at my chart. Saturn is conjunct/or near my natal Venus now!!! OF COURSE! So when the life finally started getting better, my relationships are at the lowest… Saturn just can’t leave us alone.