u/ConclusionNaive9772

I have lived in my current apartment for 3 years. It is a shithole and a constant stressor and health risk. When my lease is up in November, I am sprinting away from this place. Some highlights from the past 3 months include an ongoing mold issue that can't be solved by cleaning, ventilation, dehumidifiers, and air purifiers (we're pretty sure its under the wallpaper), windows actively falling out of the frame when the wind blows too hard, and cockroaches. Management refuses to address any of it and its all been on us to try to manage.

Whenever I've made any comments to my neighbors, they defend everything and pretend nothing is wrong.

A few months ago we had a sewage backup into our apartments. They took 4 days to resolve it and refused to provide a cleaning crew for the active biohazard. It soaked into our wooden counters. It was awful. Mine and my neighbor's pipes flow into each other when this happens, and when I expressed frustration to them because we couldn't shower without flooding the other person with human waste, they just said the apartments are fine and maintenance is doing their best. I could literally smell the sewage when I walked past their door because they got the worst of it.

When we first started seeing cockroaches, we asked another neighbor if they had seen anything. They insisted that no, they've never seen a roach there. For one, we share walls and pipes, so I highly doubt that, and for two we have watched them run in through the gaps under our doors to outside. I am sure we are not the only ones dealing with them.

Its so small but it feels like I'm being gaslit about the quality of our apartments. Like I know it's probably pride or just bordering on bootlicking but how are people just accepting this?

Hi all,

I was laying down and trying to sleep but got a sudden stinging pain in my arm. It was very mild, but was sharp and did wake me up. Visually there is not much to post yet, but my skin is itchy and I have what looks like the tiniest pin prick of blood. I figure it could be bed bugs or fleas, but everything I read about bed bug bites suggests I wouldn't feel them until much later. I just wanted to know if anyone had any insight.

Hi all.

I work what is essentially a desk job. Around 2 or 3pm each day I start losing all motivation and focus. I've tried doing things like setting 50 minute timers, then taking 10 minute breaks when they go off. I've tried water and going for walks outside. I just can't get back to working. I get physically tired, but it's more so my brain is just demanding that I'm done for the day. Does anyone have any advice on how to keep any form of motivation and focus?

No matter where I work, someone eventually feels the need to comment on what I eat.

Not that I think it should matter, but I don't eat particularly unhealthy. My partner and I set goals for our health around nutrition each month and have since the start of the year. Since I'm fat, though, everything is worth commenting on.

Yesterday the culprit was an applesauce pouch. It was sweetened and had cinnamon. I get these because I am disabled and doing my best but I struggle to cook and eat sometimes. I got to hear about how sugar is killing us and I need to get unsweetened applesauce and add cinnamon and honey to it.

Again, it shouldn't matter, but my blood test results are fine. My glucose is normal. There is no reason I can't have a sweetened applesauce. The pouches are less than a cup too.

Its happened at multiple places with multiple foods. This is just the most recent. I'm tired of feeling like my food is a judgement of morals for the people around me who skip lunch every day. I don't want to have to hide in my car in a heat wave to avoid comment.

A few months ago I posted sleep study results and said that they were putting me on oxygen overnight instead of a CPAP. You all said there seemed like there was more to it. You were correct

I have ✨a tumor✨ (or potentially a mass of thyroid tissue) that has been compressing my trachea the whole ass time. Only found it because I developed a consistent cough and they did a CT scan

So while it was not a sleep related thing necessarily. There was in fact more to it than my doctors originally thought and my breathing while sleeping was certainly obstructed in some way

Hi all,

Just looking for anyone with similar experiences. We recently identified that I have either a tumor or a mass of ectopic thyroid tissue beneath my sternum. It seems like they suspect that it's ectopic thyroid tissue at the moment. I was just wondering if anyone had experienced any similar diagnoses or the removal surgery for it. (It seems to be pressing on my trachea and is 4.6cm in diameter, so I'm fairly sure they're going to remove it.)

Hi,

I'm posting here because I'm overwhelmed and confused.

I was diagnosed at 14 with kidney issues related to scarring (focal segmental glomerulosclerosis). Scarring was discovered in my lungs at 20. I have now discovered at 26 a thyroid goiter with heterogeneous nodularity. (I know that doesn't automatically mean scarring, but they can be related.)

Is there something that could cause scarring on multiple organs like this over time, or just anyone with similar experiences? It feels like too much to not be connected. Doctors have never listened to me and I don't know where to start to get an actual diagnosis. My blood test results are always fine. Where do I even go from here?

Hi all,

I just wanted to post to see if anyone else has had similar experiences and how things went for them.

I recently had a CT scan due to a consistent cough. It came back that I have a "masslike enlargement and substernal extension of the thyroid gland." It's 4.6 x 4.6cm and they also noted "heterogeneous attenuation/nodularity". In previous blood tests my thyroid markers have came back as normal (though I suspected something being off due to other health issues, and was actually about to demand a full hormone panel before this came back).

I don't know if anyone has experienced anything similar, but I'm really nervous. What are next steps? What were your experiences?

My dog has been in crate rest consistently for 2 weeks now. We are consistent with his pain management medication, and only really let him out to use the restroom and it's on a very short leash (he's 60 pounds so I can't lift and carry him unfortunately).

His back is still spasming when it's touched, and as we get closer to the 12 hour mark where he can have his next medication dose, he starts whining a lot. We know it's pain because none of his usual things-- bathroom, food, water, pets-- do anything to slow it down.

I obviously have a vet appointment scheduled, but I just need to ask people who have been through it-- is it normal for dogs to be in so much pain 2 weeks in? Everything I'm reading says by day 7-ish he's supposed to feel a lot better. Has anyone experienced this, and was your dog able to make a full recovery if so?

Edit for clarity: I'm aware that he needs to be crated for 8-ish weeks ideally! I just was asking about his pain level

Hi all,

I am AuDHD and have cPTSD. I am late diagnosed and tend to over intellectualize all emotions and trauma, but have no idea how to deal with them. I've been in talk therapy for years but I don't think it has really helped much, I attribute most of my improvements to medication and just stabilizing my life.

I was just wondering what others have found helpful in the realm of therapy types. I did also try EMDR but it was too activating to me and I ended up becoming unsafe.

My dog is a rescue. He was taken from a household where he was created 24/7 with exceptions for bathroom breaks. He is a 60 pound American Bulldog.

He is on full crate rest for IVDD. He can't handle it at all. I tried to go upstairs and leave him crated and checked our camera, and found him physically destroying the side of the crate with his teeth (American bulldog).

I am ordering a heavy duty crate but guys I'm desperate for tips. I feel like I can't leave the living room for more than 5 minutes unless my partner is home. I can't clean, or pee, or cook meals. I'm super overwhelmed and am terrified if I do this wrong he'll end up paralyzed. He's my best friend. I don't know what to do.

He is on trazadone, 2 muscle relaxers, and carprofen. I had calming music on the TV, blinds pulled and lights off. I was being as quiet as physically possible to try to let him rest. What else can I do?​​

Not officially sleep apnea, currently nocturnal hypoxemia. Being treated with an oxygen concentrator (which has monumentally helped my energy so far).

I need to take a somewhat emergency trip for a family situation. The only people I can stay with are regular heavy smokers. I do not have money for a hotel, so it's just not an option. Is it deeply unsafe to skip treatment for a night if I'm returning home the next day?

I live in a little block of connected townhouses. The walls aren't super thin, but its still apartment living and I still hear glimpses of my neighbors from time to time.

I've gathered from talking to the woman who lives next door that her, her long term partner, and her partner's son all live there. The son has extensive trauma from when he was in the care of his mother before moving in with them.

I acknowledge that I don't know what goes on behind closed doors. But from what I can see and hear, the son hates this woman. This week the cops have been called twice (its Tuesday) because when she tries to get him to go to school he gets physically aggressive and starts breaking stuff and screaming that he's going to kill her (verified by my ear on the wall at 8am). The dad is of course at work and the stepmom is just left to handle it all by herself.

It just sincerely sounds so fucking exhausting to take care of a child just for them to hate you. Some of the fights I've heard have also been her telling him to make his own sandwich for lunch (he's 10-12) and her "not letting him" see his mother (there is a court order due to harassment and theft).

I will be on the other side of the wall cringing in pity and drinking my coffee. Maybe with some noise canceling headphones on...

I recently got my sleep study results back. I do not technically have apnea (hypopnea index was 3.2, so not high enough for apnea, but my SpO2 dropped as low as 78% and I had about a half hour with 88% or lower).

My provider prescribed oxygen for overnight usage. I guess I'm just wondering what to expect. Any tips for adjusting? Will it help me feel better during the day?

(Obligatory I have been in trauma based therapy for 8 years, I go regularly.)

I know that its trauma and how I was raised and treated. But I can't seem to let go of my own shame and self hatred.

I work a social services job and am constantly thanked. I had a client this week tell me how even if I can't find resources for her it was everything to just have me talk to her and not be judgemental. I taught a budgeting class today and received positive feedback from a client who I didn't think liked the class (his hearing aide died partway through and I was worried he missed too much even though I was trying to keep him up via writing on a dry erase board). It doesn't touch me. It just feels like giving to others is the price I have to pay for being alive.

My partner loves me and tells me all the time that he's proud of me. My dog gets so excited when I walk in the door that he doesn't even bark, he yells. I know I am loved. But I still just feel like a waste of space. I'm safe and everything-- but I live everyday with the belief that I'm worthless and that there is something wrong with me at the core, or everything that has happened wouldn't have happened to me.

I'm so tired of hating myself. I don't know how to stop.

I have lived in my current complex for a little over 3 years. They, as a rule, refuse to fix things. It once took them over a year for a maintenance request. When we got roaches last year as a result of a neighbor's infestation, it took them 3 months to send pest control. You get the idea.

I was told yesterday that sleep study results came back and I need to be on oxygen overnight. The issue is that half of the outlets in our room don't work, and the only directly by our bed sparks and heats up until it shorts if its used. I reported this in August of last year, but here we are.

My partner and I have both called, I have put in a portal request, and I have emailed for confirmation. I have documentation of all of these. ​However, we are all aware that they're not going to fix it. My current plan is just escrow, but part of me is hoping that because its related to a medical need I could find a way to break lease. The buyout is insanely high so I can't just go that route. Any advice?