u/DeCryingShame

Not sure if this is the right space for this, but here I go anyway. Windows is insisting on updating my Windows 10 computer. When Windows 11 came out, I tried updating but because it has a SSD and a hard drive combination, it wouldn't install. Or actually, it did install and I had to take it to the computer shop to get fixed because it became useless.

When I heard they were no longer going to support Windows 10, I figured I'd still be able to get several years out of it anyway. But apparently Windows is determined to screw up my computer?

Even after they said they were done supporting Windows 10, I've still gotten regular updates. A couple months ago I downloaded an update and it got stuck at 86%. I ended up forcing it to shut down and thankfully the computer restored itself automatically the next time I turned it on.

The request to update came back and I ignored it until it just went ahead and updated anyway. Same result. Stuck at 86% and then it automatically restored itself after I forced it to shut down. Only that time there were a few glitches that left me wondering if my computer would ever work again.

Now it is insisting on installing updates again. I paused updates as long as I could but now it is saying I can't pause again until I install the latest update.

What do I do? How do I get Windows 10 to do what they said they were going to do and neglect my computer from now on? Obviously, I'm not super tech savvy.

I'm disabled and live in government housing. They have cleaning checks every 6 months which I passed every time until a new woman started doing the inspections. She has failed me twice now (both times she's inspected my place) over fairly minor issues and this time is saying that if I fail again, I'll be kicked out.

Last time the house was clean except for two things: I was sorting through items in my living room and the dishes weren't done. The items I was sorting through were all in boxes around my couch. There was maybe ten small to medium boxes (I had just cleared out some closets and shelves). There were a lot of dishes, but they were all stacked in the sink and the kitchen was clean otherwise.

This time I got the notice when I was super sick and forgot the date of the inspection (I thought it was this coming Monday). It was on Wednesday which is the day I get my non-custodial kids. They are 3 teenagers who are all trying to catch up on end-of-the-year school work right now. Because they are growing teens, they don't grab a granola bar for a snack, they make themselves a small meal.

The inspector woman showed up just after they had all eaten their after school meals. Their backpacks, jackets, shoes and homework papers were all scattered around them as well as their dishes from the food they had eaten. There were a few other unwashed dishes but they had all been rinsed and stacked in a plastic bin until I could get to them that evening. Also, I had started a jigsaw puzzle which was on a table in the living room, making it look even more crowded.

She walked in the door and immediately said we weren't passing. I was a bit shocked because though it did look pretty cluttered, there was nothing that was unsanitary or hazardous in any way. And even though it was messy, you could still walk through each room, no tripping hazards, nothing blocking the doors, no trash except in the trash cans, etc.

I was even more shocked today when I got the re-inspection notice that said my lease will be terminated if I fail the follow-up inspection. Am I overreacting thinking that this is over-the-top? Should my housing really be in jeopardy just because my place isn't "company clean?"

I'm legitimately scared because I'm not sure if my place will be up to this woman's standard even if I do my best to get everything clean before she comes back next week.

I'm so heartbroken for my daughter. Backstory is pretty typical for the church: I married an abusive asshole and had way too many kids. When I started questioning the church, my marriage fell apart as well. My kids are about evenly divided between being overzealous like their dad or out of the church like me.

One of my TBM daughters turned 18 last year and was eagerly waiting to go on her mission. Then the age for women dropped and she immediately applied. She got her dream mission call and we were all overjoyed for her. Even though I would much rather have my kids stay home, I was still really happy for her.

Soon after she got the call she started having really bad panic attacks. She was really nervous about leaving her family and going so far away. I tried to be supportive but also told her that she should wait a little longer to go on her mission. I didn't expect her to listen and she didn't. She continued to prepare to go. I didn't blame her. She wanted that call so bad.

Without going into private details, she ended up having to delay the mission. I could see it coming. As I saw the choices she was making, I knew she was going to end up sabotaging herself and she did. She now has to wait several months to a year before she can go on her mission.

The most heartbreaking part is that she thought her dad and church leaders would be understanding but they aren't. She mentioned her brother, who was sent home early from his mission, and a few other young men she knows who were also disciplined. Her dad and their church leaders were far more understanding and lenient with them. But not her.

When her dad found out, he gave her a week to get her own phone plan and health insurance and told her to come get all her stuff that he has stored at his house. Her bishop is also being hard on her.

I'm so sad for her. The life she had planned has been upended and she's floundering. Even though she understands she's being treated unfairly, she's still so entrenched in the church that all I can do is sympathize. I can't explain how the church is sexist and that her worth doesn't depend on what these men think of her. I mean, I've tried to gently suggest it, but she just won't accept what I'm saying.

I really hate the church right now and what it is doing to my daughter. I'm holding my breath hoping that this will help her realize the church isn't true, but so far, she still believes in it as much as ever.

ETA: Wow, thanks for all the comments and awards! I really appreciate having you guys to vent to.