u/Dismal-Chocolate9193

hello, I just want to see if anybody has been in my same position or have any advice for me not to feel like such a shitty person. Have you guys ever lied kind of for no reason? I started involving myself with my best friend and we had came to to the conclusion that we were gonna be endgame, and we had been friends for a really long time that just happened to end up being lovers and I was kind of doing my own thing before we had both agreed we were in this relationship, turns out I had chlamydia for months without knowing and I was sick all the time, I blamed it on him and his ex girlfriend, (She also was texting me telling me they were still hooking up a few weeks prior) So I genuinely thought it couldn’t have been me so I involved more people (his ex) than i should have but anyways, I kind of lied on the timeline where I was messing around when he had gave me multiple opportunities to tell him the truth till this day we’re not talking anymore and we’re not friends anymore, but I just feel really guilty and I’m just asking myself hard questions. Why did I lie when I wasn’t even involved with him and he was with his girlfriend at that time? Now he thinks I cheated during the time we were dating because when I had hooked up with the guy who gave me chlamydia, I had tested too early and it came back negative so months after turns out i was sick all the time because I ended up positive after all. I feel like everything kind of backfired on me and I know I shouldn’t have lied, but in the moment of finding out I reacted and blanked out of my end i was drunk and i genuinely forgot i was on BS and when i sat back and thought I was just scared of losing someone and backtracking my timeline of what i said that it couldn’t have been me because I wasn’t sleeping with anyone now because I did a small white lie It just bit me in the ass. I lost someone I really cared about and I’m really grieving them a lot and it sucks. I lost a friend of six years and yeah, he told me I’m an evil person because I’ve been around his daughter and that I have a big lesson to learn and I get caught up in my lies… I don’t know I just feel really guilty about it. He’s now with his girlfriend again, But yeah he thinks I was disloyal and dishonest, which dishonest yes but to an extent like I keep telling myself, I can walk away knowing that I did my best, even though I suck at communicating and I never cheated, but it sucks that he just has this altered perception of me he told me he doesn’t even know who i am and that I don’t think can ever be fixed, he completely blocked me out of his life changed his number, moved, new job and cut off the friend group like I’m just baffled. but in the end of the day I’m trying my best to move forward and really work on communication. I think I just get scared when I’m confronted and I really didn’t know how to handle the situation, I laugh in awkward moments and I also didn’t want him to really know my past. I’ve been going through a lot and with grief and I feel like I was on BS just kind of having “fun” and escaping… I guess I just didn’t also want him to think of me a certain way just because he had already had stuff to say about my body count and I would joke about being outside & i got really defensive when he jokingly said he went through my phone at night and I have nothing to hide but I’ve never been through someone’s phone so I don’t expect someone to go through mine because nobody have never went through mine and i have never deleted anything.. I just think going through phones is like a disaster waiting to happen you’re gonna get upset about something whether it’s from years ago and if he would have just asked, I would have said okay but he was trying to ragebait me too but I just handled this relationship all wrong but I also think I just saw him as being such a close friend that I felt I can joke. I don’t really know but I feel like looking back if I would have just told him yeah I slept with someone a week before we got involved. We would’ve been able to work it out or something. I ruined something so beautiful it he was there for me in the darkest times of my life with grief and we both knew what it was like to lose a mom. How do I move on knowing I had it so good ):

hello is everyone supposed to take it at a certain same time every day because I kind of take it whenever I just have the chance to eat and that varies it’s not really like a set time for me. My doctor said I can take it at any time as long as it’s just once a day, but I’m seeing people on here saying that they take it at the same time every day so now I’m wondering if that’s why I’m feeling like caca every day I’ve been throwing up and I’ve just been super dehydrated, but I also recently just upped my dose to 50 mg so maybe that’s what it is.

hi, I wanted to come on here and see how many people use dove soap and if they’ve ever had a reaction to it after using it for so long? I’ve always used dove soap to wash down there, I have never had any problems but I feel like lately the only thing I can pinpoint is the soap irritating me in my outer vulva. I’m experiencing a lot of redness dryness and some cutting that’s making it hard to wipe and pee without burning. I don’t think it’s a UTI. I think it’s just my pee happens to come in contact with the tears. Has anyone else experienced this? I thought it was because I got a sugar wax, but I feel like it’s been 2 1/2 three weeks I should probably go to the doctor but honestly it’s such an inconvenience… I’ve been managing it but it seems like it’s going back to square one constantly /:

Any tips or suggestions? Off topic but…

Also its my golden year turning 23 in october.. I wanna skydive but don’t know if i wanna skydive in hawaii or oceanside my og plan was to skydive in oceanside on my bday and drive back down to la to hang with my family since my birthday lands on a friday but im seeing videos of the viewpoints in hawaii and now i wanna experience that but i would be going by myself (never done that before) my only conflict is i would want to skydive on my bday i know it doesn’t matter when i do it but it makes it so much more special but i also would like to spend the weekend with friends so maybe fly back on my bday or that saturday? but i know hawaii is expensive also and yes im having strangers decide for me

hello, just writing in. I know they count every income we get can I open a savings account or a Roth IRA, CD Account or something along those lines without having it counted or am I still following the rules with having these type of accounts? I just wanna invest in my money. I save cash just because I don’t wanna count it against me. What should I do, any advice?

Hi it’s my birthday in October im thinking of goimg to Honolulu, how is the weather, is there any budget friendly tips and hotels or recommendations of places we can stay at? Thank you!

I I tested negative in March and my usual checkups by then tested positive recently in the beginning of June for chlamydia. I’m just wondering how could this have happened. I’ve never slept with anybody else since Jan. could I have gotten a false negative in mid March? or could I have been asymptomatic? I don’t know. I’m just super confused. My boyfriend didn’t sleep with anybody else I know for a fact. I feel disgusting and he doesn’t believe me. 22F

Hi! I was just wondering if there’s any way I can have someone live with me due to my mental health?

I am a 22(F) I was dating a 23(M) just recently found out I was positive for chlamydia. So disappointing I had got tested a couple months ago. It was negative and recently came back positive. I confronted him and at first he believed me and apologized that he gave it to me through his baby mama. I approached the situation, very calm and kind of awkwardly laughing I would say looking back I seemed very guilty but this is my first time having to tell someone i have something and you cheated and it isn’t me. I also am learning how to communicate and i feel some things maybe have been misconstrued. I’m not really sure what was said, but he had came back and told me that he believed his baby mom and that she wouldn’t have cheated on him while they were together, she would say stuff that implied her cheating but he said later on that she just says stuff for a reaction and swore up and down they have not hooked up since we began to be a thing… She said that I gave it to him and he gave it to her and to conclude my point then he was cheating??! she was texting me some crazy stuff as well saying that they were still hooking up, which honestly raised a few red flags, which is why I had that feeling to go get tested also I’ve been feeling very weird in my body like something was wrong. I don’t know why but i kept apologizing like if I did something wrong thinking that I had a false negative or something months prior. he believes her and doesn’t believe me even though I have proof of test that I did take three months ago and now, I don’t know what are the chances that I did have a false negative and I just didn’t know I had it and spread it? or she was definitely doing her own stuff and she just gets a free pass because she’s the mother of his child. I feel disgusting. I feel ashamed. I feel like this is all my fault and I also feel manipulated into feeling like it is me. He ended up ghosting me and they’ve been with each other ever since. I feel like i am the villian and i never got proof if they were clean or not, Im just sad if it was me i feel like shit i didn’t even know i had something and wish i would’ve been smarter, I texted my previous partner for a piece of mind and im still waiting on results but i am almost positive it will be negative as well. I also don’t want my name bashed around either.

TL;DR I got ghosted for confronting i have an std and i feel manipulated into thinking i spread it when i have negative lab results before my new partner. Chances of having a false negative? Just need a piece of mind, Also I took this leap of faith to talk to someone with a child, we have the same friends and i don’t want my name bashed around that i did something but then again people will see he is back with her. Are people really this grimey?

Hi everyone!!! Please someone help me I found an airtag in my car and Im here making a police report but i doubt there will be a lead, What can i do to try to find out who did this ? I used to have a customer that i suspect but im hoping they are able to view the cameras where i was to verify the person. Any advice ???? Please thanks

Hi everyone!!! Please someone help me I found an airtag in my car and Im here making a police report but i doubt there will be a lead, What can i do to try to find out who did this ? I used to have a customer that i suspect but im hoping they are able to view the cameras where i was to verify the person. Any advice ???? Please thanks