u/DueButterscotch2795

Before anything I just want to apologize for my bad English and grammar as it is self taught. Also all of this is a LDR

I'm f 24 (from Asia) , my bf M26( from Europe)

For context, I met JIm (not his real name obviously) around the end of 2025. When we met he told me about his partner dying from childbirth complications and how he's trying to be better for his kid since he's now a single dad. We started off as friends with benefits ( I was recently out of my serious 3 years relationship with my first ever bf ) so I figured sure, I mean he's a single dad surely he's wiser than others.

Fast forward a few months later his 'gf' texted me out of nowhere and there was a huge drama, turns out he lied about it all, he cheated on his then gf with me and his baby mama was alive... But the miscarriage was a real thing but with his then gf.

Anyways after that we cut off contact cold turkey, I had to attend therapy for a few months straight and stayed away from men in general cuz I feel grossed out by what I've done (unknowingly)

Anyways fast forwards he went to rehab, fixed himself with his issues and then he reached out and we started talking again. The first few months were somewhat better, he was honest and he apologized for what happened and has been honest with me ever since(this when we started dating) , his bad habits of disappearing for a few days still come back here and there but I decided to just let it slide after a lil talk, no one is perfect right?

This keeps happening back and forth for a year now and it was draining but I've come to terms with the fact that this is how he is when things get tough and I should love my partners even with flaws and all. I've grown attached to my boyfriend despite his issues, I mean sure he mishandles money and often goes missing for a few days but like I said no one is perfect right ? Maybe I'm okay with it because he said that this is very normal in a relationship.

But I also think I'm not the best partner for him too , sure I support him financially and emotionally and even sexually, but I do have my flaws, I'm very clingy and constantly want to hang out with him or text him silly stuff and memes, and I guess maybe that's very annoying for him. I draw us all the time whenever I miss him and I write him poems (not the best but they rhyme ?) it's not 24/7 but just maybe once a day?...like possible 2 h a day to just hang out and talk? And maybe do stuff together. . .

We fell into a cycle of "things were good, and then he randomly disappeared and I panicked" . This happened in the past before we started dating, which I shrug off as him being busy with his kid. But we already learned that he was with his gf back then .....

Ever since he came back this thought hardly haunts me but recently it made my skin shivers and my blood boils with anxiety, he's been hot and cold since the beginning of this month and as of now it's been 15 days of this, he said it's his family issues and one of his parents is sick however I constantly see him online playing vrchat... Aka the game he cheated on his girlfriend with... So now my brain is jumping into millions of conclusions and I feel like I'm going insane, I've been trying to call him and text him asking begging him for love and affections and maybe some reassurance but every time he replies or texts back it's always because he doesn't have enough money for basic stuff and everytime I helped out he would dissapeared again... I asked him if we're still together and nothing... And 2 days ago when he did reply to ask for more money(not directly) he said he was still my boyfriend. It made me happy but as you can tell, stone cold turkey yet again. I tried texting and calling him on discord and telegram but nothing!!! And yes he's still active on that fuck ass game.

Btw if I didn't pick up his call or answer his text when hes upset he'll distract himself or act cold or lash out on me, but he always apologizes afterward and I'd be okay with it cuz he said it's normal for a couple to argue.

Am I overreacting by freaking out and sending him messages and crying begging for him to reply and give me reassurance during this time? I feel like I'm overacting by being upset and needy and wanting things between us to be okay when he's struggling with the possibility of losing one of his parents, but I don't understand how he can be active and socialize on a game without even thinking of me .

I don't want to give up on him as I still deeply love him but I feel like this is driving me crazy

This is all I could remember for now but I will add more edits for updates. Thank you so much for reading all of this.

Before anything I just want to apologize for my bad English and grammar as it is self taught. Also all of this is a LDR

I'm f 24 (from Asia) , my bf M25 (from Europe)

For context, I met JIm (not his real name obviously) around the end of 2025. When we met he told me about his partner dying from childbirth complications and how he's trying to be better for his kid since he's now a single dad. We started off as friends with benefits ( I was recently out of my serious 3 years relationship with my first ever bf ) so I figured sure, I mean he's a single dad surely he's wiser than others.

Fast forward a few months later his 'gf' texted me out of nowhere and there was a huge drama, turns out he lied about it all, he cheated on his then gf with me and his baby mama was alive... But the miscarriage was a real thing but with his then gf.

Anyways after that we cut off contact cold turkey, I had to attend therapy for a few months straight and stayed away from men in general cuz I feel grossed out by what I've done (unknowingly)

Anyways fast forwards he went to rehab, fixed himself with his issues and then he reached out and we started talking again. The first few months were somewhat better, he was honest and he apologized for what happened and has been honest with me ever since, his bad habits of disappearing for a few days still come back here and there but I decided to just let it slide after a lil talk, no one is perfect right?

This keeps happening back and forth for a year now and it was draining but I've come to terms with the fact that this is how he is when things get tough. I've grown attached to my boyfriend despite his issues, I mean sure he mishandles money and often goes missing for a few days but like I said no one is perfect right ? Maybe I'm okay with it because he said that this is very normal in a relationship.

But I also think I'm not the best partner for him too , sure I support him financially and emotionally and even sexually, but I do have my flaws, I'm very clingy and constantly want to hang out with him or text him silly stuff and memes, and I guess maybe that's very annoying for him. I draw us all the time whenever I miss him and I write him poems (not the best but they rhyme ?) it's not 24/7 but just maybe once a day?...like possible 2 h a day to just hang out and talk? And maybe do stuff together. . .

We fell into a cycle of things that were good, and then he randomly disappeared and I panicked. This happened in the past before we started dating, which I shrug off as him being busy with his kid. But we already learned that he was with his gf back then .....

Ever since he came back this thought hardly haunts me but recently it made my skin shivers and my blood boils with anxiety, he's been hot and cold since the beginning of this month and as of now it's been 15 days of this, he said it's his family issues and one of his parents is sick however I constantly see him online playing vrchat... Aka the game he cheated on his girlfriend with... So now my brain is jumping into millions of conclusions and I feel like I'm going insane, I've been trying to call him and text him asking begging him for love and affections and maybe some reassurance but every time he replies or texts back it's always because he doesn't have enough money for basic stuff and everytime I helped out, and then we would dissapeared again... I asked him if we're still together and nothing... And 2 days when he did reply to ask for more money(not directly) he said he was still my boyfriend. It made me happy but as you can tell, stone cold turkey yet again. I tried texting and calling him on discord and telegram but nothing!!! And yes he's still active on that fuck ass game.

Btw if I didn't pick up his call or answer his text when hes upset he'll distract himself or act cold or lash out on me, but he always apologizes afterward and I'd be okay with it cuz he said it's normal for a couple to argue.

So am I in the wrong for crashing out and being deeply upset and think he's with another woman or that he planned on leaving me or ghosting me?

This is all I could remember for now but I will add more edits for updates. Thank you so much for reading all of this.

Planning to visit Koh Dach with the fam and we have no way of transportation there.

I went to the dentist to get my old fillings replaced today so I can put crowning on it. The doctor drilled my tooth and all that stuff, anyways 7hours after i was eating and was swashing my mouth afterward and a small piece of cotton fell out of that set tooth. I panicked and put it back in.

(My dentist did not mention anything about it before I left and it's too late to call them now)

Should I take it out? Or leave it in? (It tastes like chemicals...)

Thanks in advance! I'm trying not to panic

Recently chipped my tooth by accident like an idiot 😭 help lmao

[UPDATE]

I met someone on here a few weeks ago, who recently visited Cambodia and I offered to give them a free tour around Phnom Penh for a few days while they were here, things went smoothly the guy and his lads were friendly and respectful about cultures and stuff and was super fun to hang out with. Earlier today after one of our lil tours he asked if I wanted to be his "traveling gf". I was under the impression that they are all taken, so what the hell is a traveling gf??

Ps they are from Australia so maybe it's a slang?

Anyways! Thanks in advance !!

Sincerely an F24 who's very confused

UPDATE: wow did not expect to get this many attraction over a silly question. Thanks guys!

Also update, I reached out to him this morning to explained the whole thing and got some clarification and yes you guys are right that was indeed what he was hinting at but he was doing it in a joking way to test out the water. I explained to him how I'm not up for that and that I won't be showing them around anymore because now it'll be a lil awkward and he agrees, we both apologize to each other and that was the end of it.

As for some clarification, yes I am oblivious to this because I have never had this happening to me before (ever) especially when it comes to foreigners, I'm bellow average compared to a Cambodian girly so I never have to worry about anyone seeing me in that way. But I was a lil flattered ngl 🙂‍↔️teehee

I do free tours around Phnom Penh whenever I'm free for the sole purpose of sharing cultures and having a good time, Visiting PP as a tourist is not that fun from my pov as you will only go to the main attractions, I like showing people around town telling them stories and showing them to my favorite food places. Plus it's a win win, they get a free tour and I get to yap about stuff I'm interested in :DDD Bare in mind I'm still an amateur when it comes to this so that's why I'm not doing it for money.

My go to is "have I been using this for the past 2 years? No? Then trash" . But recently it's so hard to throw away stuff...

I feel bad for throwing them away because they hold small memories such as "oh this is from a friend, from my first this or that" but it's mostly just trash... I feel bad for wanting to throw them out but my room and loving space has become a dump at this point. I don't have any use for them but it's just hard for me to throw them out. Idk why I'm very new to this and only recently accepted that I may have been a hoarder like my parents

Edits!

Thank you so much for your kind words and advice 🩷 it helps me a lot through out my cleaning! You guys are so sweet I wish I could hug all of you. 🫂

Currently close by, gimme all ur recommendations idc if it's a pub or not 🍀

I have to leave my apartment for a full day due to some mites exterminations, was looking to stay and work/jounal at a cafe the whole day tomorrow (with buying food/drinks throughout the day).

Thank you in advance!

Also I've been to the places some of you recommend throughout the last few days, the food was great! You guys got some pretty good taste!

I recently got a promotion and I want to surprise my friend by replacing her motorcycle's outer shells. It's a pcx 2016 I believe. Her motorcycle is pretty beat up from years of riding. She's a really good friend and was always there for me. Does anyone know the price and where to go?

Thank you in advance!

I normally go to my favorite cafes but recently it's being filled with Steave (gangster wanna be teen) who sm*kes and v@pe inside the cafe. I know it's a public space but come on bro, inside an ac building??? Anyways! Any recommendations?

Thank you in advance!

No jokes, the older I get the more I truly wish I'm not part of the family. Everyone and I mean everyone! See when I was younger I was treated like shite! Physical and emotional and even sexual abuse! And I was told simply because they were having a bad day! Well I'm older now and I absolutely hated all of my family, my older brothers, my mum and my dad (sometimes) AND DEFINITELY MY UNCLES !!! The only person I don't hate is my little sister. I don't know just a small rant! Anyone else going through something similar?

Ps I'm 24 and I got kicked out at 18 while both my brothers still live with them until today

Like the title said, I'm close to turning 25 and I'm wondering if I should lose my virginity, throughout my whole life until now I've been doing nothing but study, work , make money and sleep. Pretty boring mondane stuff... Tbh I feel a little embarrassed for being a virgin at this age, the main factor is that men in my nations are all narcissistic misogynistic adult babies, so I never really bother with dating to begin with. Anyways I'm planning on visiting an island for my bday. Should I try and lose my virginity there?

I like the idea of saving it until marriage but at this rate and how some men are acting.... I don't think I wanna get married any time soon...

Is it me or is everyone's data draining faster than usual? I swear 15gb used to last me at least 3-4 days. Literally lasted me 1.5 days now like what? 😭 All is watch YouTube shorts and do research btw

Do you find yourself doing more feminine activity when you're living alone? I grew up a tomboy and rejected femininity, however after living alone I find myself enjoying girly stuff more often than not? Why is that?

Genuinely asking please don't be mad but all my jumping spiders are just jumping spiders who wander in my room and refuse to leave 😭 am I doing them more harms than good by keeping them in the enclosure and giving him maggots and fruit flies????