u/Enough_Commercial224

To get straight to the point- how do you go on living life as usual when everything around us is anything but real?

Everything around us is marketing, including people. We are not really ourselves, we want to impress others and exaggerate (or simply lie) and we just don't know who or what is real or fake.

I now spend most of my time alone, I can't recognise muself and I sometimes even miss the person I once was, oblivious from it all. I was at peace and I could be around people easily and even enjoy socialising, without needing to pretend or asking myself "is this person being authentic?"

Or even worse when it comes to professional environment, networking is the most forced thing one has to do to move up the ladder.

Yes, we will be always seeking to be in smaller communities, mostly out of fear and making sure we have some sort of security. But, what has the world come to? People say a lot of things and mean none of it all, there is no essence.

I'd appreciate reading about your personal experience with this and I'd be grateful for guidance

To get straight to the point- how do you go on living life as usual when everything around us is anything but real?

Everything around us is marketing, including people. We are not really ourselves, we want to impress others and exaggerate (or simply lie) and we just don't know who or what is real or fake.

I now spend most of my time alone, I can't recognise myself and I sometimes even miss the person I once was, oblivious of it all. I was at peace and I could be around people easily and even enjoy socialising, without needing to pretend or asking myself "is this person being authentic?"

Or even worse when it comes to professional environment, networking is the most forced thing one has to do to move up the ladder.

Yes, we will be always seeking to be in smaller communities, mostly out of fear and making sure we have some sort of security. But, what has the world come to? People say a lot of things and mean none of it all, there is no essence.

I'd appreciate reading about your personal experience with this and I'd be grateful for guidance

Or are we better off as friends? What's your experience so far with them?

I am hyperindependent, I know how to regulate my emotions and have been through things where I had no choice but to raise above struggles and did not let them destroy me. Yet, I do seek someone who has reached my same level of depth, but I want to work on myself to understand if I'm doing something wrong when getting into relationships (I will leave when I understand they do not have the things I provide) or I just want to understand if I simply have not find the one.

I end up leaving all connections that are good, but not good enough for long term commitment. Some lack emotional intelligence, others are just immature who have no objectives in life, no ambition, no idea on how to communicate like a grown up without getting into manipulative behavior.

Am I seeing relationships the wrong way? Am I not supposed to find someone who is there for me as I am for them?

Or is it just a matter of being comfortable with one another? What if I need the other person to be on the same level as me when it comes to emotional support (therefore highly emotional intelligence) and someone who knows how to communicate and who is not wishi washy and all over the place?

I refuse to have one of those relationships where we are just comfortable with one another and just repeating the same things all the time.

These are many questions, but please ANY advice in terms of changing the way I see relationships and constructive guidance would be greatly, greatly appreciated. Otherwise I will probably end up alone, which I really don't want, despite being comfortable with myself I still want to have someone to share my happiness with and be there for them to and viceversa.

I'm not referring to cheesy things. I'm referring to those things that made you realise they were mature, stable, trustworthy.

Something factual and not emotional that made you think "yes, this is the person I can be with long term, for the rest of my life, and become the best version of ourselves together" and how long did it take realise it?

I keep seeing people complaining how Aquarians are distant, detached, do not give a fuck, avoidant or whatnot.

Truth is- Aquarians need a lot of time to open up. They are naturally very rational and cool headed, yes, but that does not mean they do not feel emotions intensely.

If you complain about them not showing emotions, well let me tell you the harsh truth- THEY DO NOT TRUST YOU!!!

When an aquarius really trusts you, they will show and communicate openly their emotions and how much they care for you.

I say men because I haven't dealt with virgo women so far but the immature men really got to learn how to be humble.

Have you also experienced this?