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Asexuality can be alienating, but often I am glad to be this orientation. I was reading about the dangers of having sex and I am baffled why any woman would want to be sexually active. Bisexual and heterosexual women are at higher risks of getting STDs. You could also have an unplanned pregnancy because contraception isn't 100% effective, which could be awful of you live in an area with strict abortion laws. Abortion sounds uncomfortable too, but pregnancy and giving birth sound so traumatic. It also seems exhausting in relationships to have to compromise with different sexual drives. Life just seems a bit more simpler being celibate. YES I KNOW CELIBACY AND ASEXUALITY ARE DIFFERENT THINGS. If I was allosexual, I'd still rather cuddle than have sex because cuddling won't give you a disease?! Asexuality just makes me devoid of sexual attraction, which I'm grateful for because I have one less human being thing to have to satisfy. Also I'm not anti-sex I understand that most people on this earth are sexual beings, and that's okay, but they better practice safe sex at least. Unfortunately, it will be difficult for me to find a life-long partnership without sex being involved but I will try.

Okay, I know to be fruitful and multiply blabla BUT if you believe that you can bring an eternal soul into this universe via procreation while understanding if your child doesn't believe in god they are going to suffer in never ending torture WHY WOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? Wouldn't you be scared to death of indirectly causing your kid to go to hell? Well I guess they'll say it's all of god's plan right.

Every day I crave hugs and comfort. I want it to stop. It's even been appearing in my sleep, older women who treated me kindly throughout my life have been in my dreams to hug me like a motherly figure would. It's almost like my mind is mocking me. How can I be content with just me as my only support? Yeah, I have friends but I cannot feel attached to them emotionally, and I do feel guilty for that but I try to be there for them and treat them respectfully. How do I stop thinking about wanting a hug? It's insane how much I think about it. I think it's hurting me too because I feel sick constantly from my stomach, head, and I grind my teeth all the time so that hurts too. I don't even want to be loved, my body wants to be loved. I just want to stop thinking about it so I can have peace.

I've observed Christians are really concerned about sins and are constantly repenting. In reality, they are just very aware of their moral compass. (Called the "superego" in Freudian psychology) Technically I can also repent to my consciousness for over-eating sweets or not treating somebody respectfully. I can feel guilt for harming myself and others but there is a lack of feeling like I disappointed a higher power.

That's what I do in church when it's time to pray, I acknowledge everything I did that has harmed myself or others recently. It helps ground myself in reality. (Yes I still go to church because there is a group of people I go with whom I really like, they don't know I'm an atheist haha..I fear they won't like me anymore if they find out though.

When they say they couldn't have overcome an obstacle without the help of god, technically they are just relying on themselves and a placebo but attributing it to god.

It's really sad to see really, like give yourself some credit..

Uhh tell me if I'm onto something or just yapping I'm so out of it right now Lmao

(I'm not talking about Christians who are hypocrites and abuse their power or Christians who feel bad for being gay because homosexuality is not even a moral problem)

So I'm pretty sure I'm asexual, I feel repulsed to it, I don't feel sexual attraction, and I want to live my entire life without engaging in it. However, in my mind I have these fantasies (not sexual) about two people cuddling or kissing (made-up people), it's not me in the fantasy and the first-person isn't even the same gender as me. The problem is that these fantasies make me>!wet!<sometimes, particularly close to my period Uhhh? Why is my body doing this? Because I'm not thinking about sex and I don't want sex but this is clearly a sexual response? It's very uncomfortable tbh. I heard libido and sexual attraction are two separate things, is that it?

It's strange to go through life and identify with a name that has a biblical meaning just because your parents are religious and decided to name you that. I don't believe in god so it's just weird it's like being named Faith or Miracle when you've substituted blind belief for logic. The thing I like about my name is that if you remove one letter, it's the name of a rock and I really love nature so I feel like that would resonate with me better. I know many atheists with Christian names but I've never asked them if it was off for them to be called that. I could be overthinking it.. idk

Guess my shadow really did predict 2 weeks of agony. I thought it would be like during the end of June like it usually is. I'm going to go crazy I hate this so much I want it to stop hurting

I left Christianity around two years ago after I realized all the contradictions and moral issues in the bible. (and left the right for that matter) But my subconscious still responds how it used to for a split second. It's very strange because it contradicts how I actually feel about the given topics. Here are some examples:

If I see a gay/lesbian couple on a TV show I feel really uneasy for a second before thinking that I am really happy to see representation.

If I'm around somebody talking about their belief in jesus I feel safe - then I feel a bit distanced from them when I remember I have different beliefs. The opposite happens when I'm around an atheist, I'll feel annoyed for a second and then happily share that I'm also an atheist so we can talk about how silly Christianity is.

Have any of you guys also experienced this? Does it ever go away? I've been feeling guilty about it.

I'm 18 and I was raised as a Baptist Christian by two parents. 2 years ago I just drifted out of religion by a mix of apathy and reason. They have never forced me to go to church, they never asked me about my religious beliefs. The reason I want to tell them is that I have been going through some stuff and they always tell me to read the bible or fix my relationship with god as if that is the magical solution. I feel like they'd understand me better if I told them I'm an atheist.

I don't think I'd be good at explaining why exactly I left and I don't want to debate. Maybe I should strengthen my views about how the world came into existence/evolution etc.. before I come out?

They seem to suspect my lack of belief. My dad has told me that he doesn't really care if I am attracted to the same gender (I'm bi) but he would care if I was an atheist. He has expressed his frustrations about being a bad parent before when I have talked critically about Christianity. (as well as asking what I have been listening to) But he just seemed mildly disappointed.. not angry.

I don't really talk to my mom often so I don't really know how she'd react. She's usually the one that tells me to read the bible whenever I'm stressed out as a way to dismiss me. But whenever I question her religion she also just seems mildly annoyed.

I think they know I'm skeptical about it and don't have a personal relationship with "god" but I have no idea how they'd react if I said I didn't believe in any of it. I know they wouldn't evict me, but they might double down on enforcing religion like forcing me to go to church. But honestly, they'd probably not care too much, they are so busy with my younger siblings and their jobs to care about my beliefs. I just hate how Christianity has asserted that every one who isn't a believer is a rotten sinner who's going to hell.

I used to be extremely productive but over the past month I have been really depressed and unfocused, never really getting anything done all day. Lo and behold I got a shadow cluster today and so that means that I'm going to get a cluster period in the next few weeks. Do you guys experience any mood changes before your cluster period? Or is this just a coincidence. I know clusters have something to do with the hypothalmus.

"Are you depressed? Well it must be because you aren't praying enough!" It's like they use that as a cop-out instead of actually caring about fellow human beings. I'm tired of being told that following religion will solve all my issues, that I'm struggling because I'm not a good Christian. How am I supposed to play by their rules if I don't even believe in their religion?

I don't know why I'm worrying about this is stupid. (I have ocd) but I'm scared that once I have a relationship I'm going to turn into a sexual. I don't know if I have ever felt horny, the closest I've ever felt was like this very strong feeling of wanting to cuddle somebody I love. The reason I'm scared of being a sexual is well.. I could get an STD, sexual intercourse does not make sense to me, I don't want to get pregnant, and it's extremely gross. I have a huge appetite but if I hear about a description about sex or see a genital I cannot eat for like hours because I am so sick to my stomach. I've had a relationship before but all I fantasized about was cuddling them but what if that changes, I'm only 18??

For a while I have only crushed on guys who are either fictional or somebody I can never actually date/meet (like a celebrity). Every time I meet a guy my brain is like "meh". However, I have had crushes on women who I've been friends with or just seen around, I get so infatuated I think about them all day. I was in a relationship with a woman and I didn't know I could feel that intensity of love for a person. There have only been a few times where I have crushed on a celebrity/fictional character who was a woman though.
I'm not sexist-Guys are cool. I just don't know why I only crush on guys who I'll never meet.

Hi any other people turning 18 today?

I'm 18 and I really need to focus on my final work for high school-I want to quit coffee and entertainment from Reddit and Youtube for the month of May. I'm EST.. Just a simple check in the evening or whenever you want- and I'll make sure you are on track with your goals! Any takers?