u/Fair_Bar1139

For most of my life, I felt like an outcast, always rejected, always looked down upon. I blamed how I look and my body.

None of that touched the actual problem.

One day, I watched a Youtube video by Vinh Giang who talked about charisma, and how it can be learned like a skill. One thing stuck: the vocal image is more important than looks.

I grew up soft spoken with a distinct accent. I thought maybe that was what's holding me back. So I started recording myself talking, then listening back, over and over.

I used a Repeat Recorder App to continuously record and replay my voice while driving to work (handsfree). Also, inside the privacy of my car, I could awkwardly practice my voice freely.

I paid attention to my accent, my tone, and how I sounded like. Also, listening to my own voice again and again gave me the confidence and self worth.

It only took a few weeks when I realized people started taking me seriously. That constant feeling of being dismissed slowly faded. I was able to talk with much more confidence and weight.

Looking back, I spent years thinking the problem was my looks and my ethnicity. It was never that. It was my speech and vocal image.

I do a lot of presentations and sales. While driving I use the idle time to practice my speech and pitches. I record and listen back to my voice in a loop using an App called Repeat Recorder. It allows my to fully record and replay myself handsfree while driving.

I put my phone in a phone holder connected to the car window. Since the App loops between record and replaying handsfree, to stop it, I have to do just one tap (Since I don't want to record-replay my converation in front of the police). I only pushed the stop button in the App when the car was at full rest and was fully parked.

Why is the police still not happy with this?

Is a handsfree App still considered distracting the driver?