u/FlakyAd4771

Tengo 40 años y mi marido 52. Después de un año intentando quedarme embarazada, descubrí que tenía Hashimoto. Llevo unos meses tomando Eutirox, pero no tengo mucha esperanza en lograr el embarazo naturalmente con la edad que tenemos yo y mi marido.

My husband is going through a phase where he says I don't attract him like I used to, that he doesn't like my modest way of dressing or my reserved personality. He says he doesn't know what to do, that he's lost interest.
This afternoon he left the house for a few hours to run some errands, and when he got home we went for a walk to talk a bit about the matter, and a divorced friend called him. She called insistently, three times, until my husband finally answered. I couldn't hear much because she was speaking very quietly, but the conversation went something like this:

Girl: .......
My husband: What did you say?!!!?
Girl: .......
My husband: How can you say this?!
Girl: ......
My husband: Listen, I can't right now. You're putting me in a difficult position.
Girl: .......
My husband: I can't right now, I'm with (my name).
Girl: .......
My husband: To cheat? Should I tell I saw you at such and such a place?
Girl: .......
My husband: You're getting me into trouble, you know? Well... I'll try.

After hanging up, my husband tells me that this divorced friend of his (who I don't know) is seeing several men and wants my husband to send her a message as proof that she saw him somewhere at some unknown time, so she can show it to that man.

Then I asked him why she was calling so insistently, and he replied that he assumes she was impatient, looking for a friend to do her this favor, hence the persistent calls.

By the way, my husband had his phone's brightness very low, as usual, and at first, he turned the screen so I wouldn't see the woman's name that appeared on it. In fact, he got very nervous and almost bumped into another car's rearview mirror to prevent me from looking at his phone.

The problem is that during his explanation, he was quite calm, as if he were telling the truth. And this makes me think that either nothing wrong happened or he's a professional liar.

I've noticed that when I get home late from work and have to eat later than usual, or I skip a meal, my bad breath gets worse. Does this happen to anyone else?

*P.S.: I have high Lp(a) and somewhat high cholesterol problems.

I'm a woman, and I've never had an orgasm with penetrative sex.

I'm tired of seeing posts that recommend positions that stimulate my clitoris because they don't work for me. I don't feel anything, and after a few minutes, I start to feel like a doll who can't enjoy it, so I change positions so my husband doesn't think I don't like sex with him. Sometimes I try to stimulate my clitoris myself, but I don't feel anything. It's like it disconforts me to touch it there when I have something inside my vagina. Around the time of my period, I need lube, and I feel even less. Often sex is enjoyable and I feel pleasure, because the first few cm of the vagina have some sensivity, but I know there must be much more that I'm nlt quite reaching.

I'm starting to think the problem is me. I've masturbated by stimulating my clitoris since I was a teenager, often, once or twice a week. It took me many years to have a boyfriend and get married because I focused on my career, and I come from a conservative family. I feel like I've done a lot of damage to my mind by masturbating alone and even watching porn because now I don't get aroused with my husband.

However, if I'm alone and watch a porn video, I can feel aroused. The strange thing is that I get mentally excited by the idea of ​​a man penetrating me or kissing my body, and yet I experience all of that with my husband and I don't feel that tingling sensation that compels me to touch myself when I'm alone and leads to orgasm.
It took me a while to realize that the problem is my level of prior arousal, because if I'm not mentally aroused, it's impossible for me to have an orgasm with my husband.
I don't know what to do. I think I'm not comfortable with my husband, and I never have been, and that's the main problem.

Can you start to feel aroused when your boyfriend gets naked and shows you his erection? My boyfriend says I should feel turned on watching that. For this reason he believes that I am not attracted to him, he thinks that I consider him handsome but he has always felt that I am not sexually attracted to him. It has also happened with other women, who wanted to have a romantic relationship with him but were not really interested in sex but rather did it for fulfillment. And yet, with other women, he met frequently and they were capable of feeling sexual desire towards him for months.

The truth is that at the beginning of the relationship I felt more things, I loved when we kissed, I got nervous when I saw him, etc. But after 3 years, and so much time having to endure this problem, and having to relieve it by giving him oral sex, I no longer feel anything when I see his penis. I only know that every time he penetrates me it hurts like hell and we can't finish. Since I know I have this problem, he doesn't kiss me on the mouth either, although he never really liked kissing me because he said that was for teenagers.

Is it normal that I don't get turned on by seeing my boyfriend's penis or am I just not attracted to my boyfriend? Can I one day be like those girls my boyfriend met up with to have sex with?
Maybe those girls simply had more experience than me, or maybe they were getting excited thinking about the encounter they were going to have with him later? I feel like he wants a hot woman like them and I can never be like that, maybe because of my religious upbringing.