u/FreshBid538

I’m not sure how well the title explains my situation, but I’ll give more context. I (17F) have a friend I’ll call Kayla (I wish I could give an age, but she frequently changes it and lies, so estimated 16F). We’ve been „friends” for a few years but only got close for the past six months. The thing I’ve noticed a lot is that Kayla tends to say mean things behind people’s backs to me that make me extremely uncomfortable and are expressed so publicly and loudly that it becomes shameful to be perceived as involved with them. 

A few examples of this are racist slurs, homophobic „quips”, or comments about other girls’ bodies (including mine). Whenever something is brought up I always turn down the conversation and tell her to stop or tone it down (as I do not tolerate any hate on physical appearance and am on the LGBT spectrum myself). 

She usually just laughs it off and says “loveee you girl” as if I am joking. There is also a bunch of other things, but it is not relevant to this post. 

Recently I’ve drawn the line because she has started targeting these comments at my best friend (17F). She says things about her being “fat”, “letting herself go” and needing to work out, or that her hygiene apparently makes Kayla “gag”. Now, I don’t want to stoop down to her level, but I am very tempted to call Kayla out on her *own* hygiene (she smokes weed about once an hour and as a result the smell is strong and there is a general pungent, unpleasant aura surrounding her.. sorry), that she does not work out either, etc. 

I don’t know if these comments are projecting or just the result of being mean, but either way.. she should know it’s wrong and it’s appalling to me that she ignores my boundaries to express her opinion. 

Of course I would hate to do this because it would mean that she could flip the narrative onto me and say I’m being a bad friend but this is really my last resort since she consistently breaks my boundaries with her poor comments, and I especially can’t take it if it’s about someone I care about / love.

So, WIBTAH? :|

Id get ridiculed for mine so I choose to keep it within ao3…

Vent because I really don’t know who else to tell that would understand. If you see this you don’t have to read it
I just had what was possibly the most important exam of my life so far, to get into uni and all that. I have a separate room so this isn’t much of an issue, and before / after the exam I can actually bond with the invigilators a little and chitchat since I know them from other classes.
However. I do not understand the point of choosing a teacher who breathes, MOUTH WIDE OPEN, sighs every 3 sec, stifles their laughter at something on their screen, and sniffles throughout the entire exam. Surely somebody would notice this in general because of its degree, no..? I actually wanted to burst into tears it was so horrible. I asked if she’s sick or something several times and gave her several obvious looks but no. Nothing. Not even an attempt to be slightly quieter. I’ve had her before and it was the same story. I definitely did shitty on the exam and I can’t retake it so now I’m just crying because I can’t stand this stupid condition, I wish I was just normal and didn’t ball my fists at any human noise

Any suggestions? : )
I might be a mainstreamer here but I am a particular enjoyer of Silver Springs (or other songs where you can just scream the lyrics)

I’m genuinely so sick of being a woman sometimes, I just wanna be left alone. Even as a lesbian that gives absolutely no signals and pays no mind to men I’m still freaking nagged by these perverts that stop at nothing just to froth at the mouth and chase me (well, mostly figuratively). I can’t go out in something I like wearing without feeling the nastiness bubble in my organs when someone makes a weird comment or touches me. I hate how even when I tell them to stop, lash out or freeze and shake, they still touch me without respect for my thoughts or my interests or anything about me that isn’t physical, that isn’t something they can throttle and grab and handle like a “thing” that they are in control of. I wanna look good for myself and go out with confidence without gripping my keys in between my fingers “just in case” ever again

I don’t know if that one sentence from my past needs a tw for SA, but so be it

First time poster!
When I first hit puberty I had A cups for a long time so now I am still not used to C/D(?), according to whenever I got measured in the past 6 months. The thing is all of my bras are too wide and too shallow, including swimsuits..
My measurements (in cm)
Loose: 74
Snug: 72
Tight: 70
Standing: 82
Leaning: 90
Lying: 86

Hello piercing advisors! I have a nostril piercing as well as my basic lobes but I’ve been debating on getting either a navel piercing or a tongue piercing. Does anyone have either of those? How was the healing process? Which is more painful if my nostril stung like hell?

if whoever published the p1 paper prematurely is reading this I genuinely wish you all the worst from the bottom of my soul . I can’t believe we have to retake it bro

When I say pick up several jobs, I don’t mean due to a dire financial situation (although that is also an important factor, I guess). I mean, how come so many teenagers in the US become employed in their mid-teens as waiters, volunteers, shop employees? how is it not concerning or exhausting to work at a young age, and why is this so crucial to university applications and such? for example, in Europe (or at least where I live), it’s quite uncommon and teens tend to become employed in their late teens and get accepted to universities / colleges based on merits .

^ obviously I cannot speak for other countries where this might also be the case, I just hear about it primarily from the US.