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So I’ll try to keep this short. I’m kind of lost on where to go next with my fitness journey and would love some advice.

I’m 4’11” and around 106–108 lbs. Growing up (and before this), I’ve never really been overweight or needed to lose weight. My main goal has always been to get more toned and build muscle.
I’ve been going to the gym for a little over a year, but I’ve only been consistently lifting for the last 6 months or so. I think I’ve made some progress, but lately I feel like I’ve hit a plateau and I’m not sure what I should change.

Current routine:
Lift 5x/week:
2 upper body days (sometimes with abs)
2 lower body days
1 full body day
StairMaster 50–60 minutes every day at level 11–13.
On the other 2 days I don’t lift, I just do the StairMaster and sometimes abs.
My biggest question is am I doing too much cardio? If my goal is to build more muscle, especially in my legs and glutes, should I cut back on it?

The only thing that makes me nervous is that I’ve been doing this amount of cardio while eating pretty much the same way for a while now, and my weight and appearance have stayed about the same. I’m worried that if I suddenly stop doing so much cardio, I’ll gain fat or end up eating above maintenance without realizing it.

I don’t track calories, and honestly I don’t really want to because I’m worried it could lead me down a disordered eating path. Right now I just try to eat an 80/20 balanced diet, and I think I’m around maintenance most days, with some days a little over and some a little under.

If anyone has advice on what you’d do in my situation, I’d really appreciate it. Social media has me feeling like everyone says something different, and I just want to figure out what actually works.

My ultimate goal is to build more muscle. If I need to lose a little body fat later to see the muscle, that’s fine, but I’m not trying to get super shredded or anything. I mostly just want to look stronger and more toned.

So I’m kind at a weird sport rn with manifesting my sp.

iv been manifesting my sp for the past like 5 months and have had little to no movement at all. But iv gotten to the point where Iv relized I don’t totally care abt my sp personally and really just want a bf and he just happens to fit my type to a t. That being said I wouldn’t be against someone new coming into my life that’s also my type but not him. At the same time I wouldn’t be against him becoming my boyfriend as well bc although we never had anything serious (literally like a 2 week talking stage) I still really did like him and kinda still do.

Dose anyone have any advice on what to do or gone through something similar? Should I focus on one of these Or can I be manifesting both? If I can how should I go abt it?

I hope this all makes sense because I’m honestly confused on how I fully feel…

Would also like to add I def need to work on my self concept some more speaking I don’t look super highly of myself all the time so if anyone has advice on that aswell I’d love to hear it.

So I’m kind at a weird sport rn with manifesting my sp.

iv been manifesting my sp for the past like 5 months and have had little to no movement at all. But iv gotten to the point where Iv relized I don’t totally care abt my sp personally and really just want a bf and he just happens to fit my type to a t. That being said I wouldn’t be against someone new coming into my life that’s also my type but not him. At the same time I wouldn’t be against him becoming my boyfriend as well bc although we never had anything serious (literally like a 2 week talking stage) I still really did like him and kinda still do.

Dose anyone have any advice on what to do or gone through something similar? Should I focus on one of these Or can I be manifesting both? If I can how should I go abt it?

I hope this all makes sense because I’m honestly confused on how I fully feel…

Would also like to add I def need to work on my self concept some more speaking I don’t look super highly of myself all the time so if anyone has advice on that aswell I’d love to hear it.

So I’m kind at a weird sport rn with manifesting my sp.

iv been manifesting my sp for the past like 5 months and have had little to no movement at all. But iv gotten to the point where Iv relized I don’t totally care abt my sp personally and really just want a bf and he just happens to fit my type to a t. That being said I wouldn’t be against someone new coming into my life that’s also my type but not him. At the same time I wouldn’t be against him becoming my boyfriend as well bc although we never had anything serious (literally like a 2 week talking stage) I still really did like him and kinda still do.

Dose anyone have any advice on what to do or gone through something similar? Should I focus on one of these Or can I be manifesting both? If I can how should I go abt it?

I hope this all makes sense because I’m honestly confused on how I fully feel…

Would also like to add I def need to work on my self concept some more speaking I don’t look super highly of myself all the time so if anyone has advice on that aswell I’d love to hear it.

Unfortunately I have to get a root canal next week caused by getting my tooth cracked in a sport,it not getting fixed and a cavity beginning to grow there. Iv heard that the actual procedure isn’t too bad with modern medicine but I’m still super anxious about it and guess don’t fully understand it. Will I go under anesthesia? Or is it just like getting a filling where the numb the mouth? Also super worried abt the recovery process honestly more than the actual thing. How long will I be “out of commission” I really enjoy going to the gym and wondering how long I’ll have to take off from it after I get it done? Anything anyone recommends to speed up this process and make sure it heal correctly? Thanks in advanced!

Going to try and short but I’m really looking for some advice and feedback.

For a lot of my teens years I struggled with keeping up with my dental hygiene even tho my parents did a good job at making sure we kept up with it. Surprisingly during this time I never got any cavities.

But Than in my late teens I began to heavily struggle with my mental health aswell has an eating disorder causing me it to become even worse. (On a good note Im in full recovery now and doing quite well with with that!)

Anyways in the beginning of this year I began to notice I chipped my tooth and some discoloration. To keep it fully honest I didn’t tell anyone bc I was #1 i was scared and #2 (sorry to to get super deep) but my mother had just passed away and didn’t want the focus on myself.

finally about 7 months from than iv been back to the dentist after coming home from college. But when there I found out that i have to get a root canal and have 5 cavities. I knew it was bad but not that bad and i genuinely don’t know where to go from here. i feel so gross abt myself that i let it get this far knowing for months i needed to go to the dentist. I also have to much guilt not only to myself but bc now my dad has to pay for the root canal. I’m also ofc super nervous about having to get that done in general.

Currently I thankfully was able to get one of the cavities filled already and have apts set up for the other ones has well but that’s not till next week and I’m currently writing this with major pain in one of them and what I think is swelling so now even more anxious abt this whole situation. (Im also out of town visiting friends atm so i cant call my dentist and go in tmr)

Again if anyone has any feedback, advice or have gone through t something similar I’d love to hear it i currently just feel so gross abt myself that i let this happen esp at my young of age. Im sorry how dramatic this is and I hope this all makes sense but thank you in advance if you can help.

So basically iv been in “recovery” for over a year but I’ll be honest over half of that has been quasi and Iuntil the last few months iv been sticking (somewhat) well to it.

That being said iv been steadily weight restored and even in sight overshoot for the past 8 months,have my period,and overall my labs are normal.

But my issue is I still have yet to FULLY gain my hunger and fullness cues back. They have definitely gotten better but still I seem to only be hungry in the morning and sometimes later in the day but most of the time i honestly feel super full hours after I eat.

It’s frustrating bc half the time when im having dinner or my snacks I have to basically force it down not bc of my mind (i actually wanna eat it lol) but bc I physically am struggling too. Also with fullness I find myself finding it difficult to sense when I’m comfortable full and that ends up with me slightly overeating.

Has anyone experienced something like this this lately into recovery ? I figured it would all be better by now. If anyone has any advice please lmk!!

Also would like to add in the beginning of my recovery I did have a team working with me but due to a relapse (caused by college) I kinda dropped them but HAVE recently started with a new therapist, and meeting with my new dietitian next week witch I plan to bring this up but just curious if anyone else can relate or did something that helped get said hunger cues back

So basically iv been in “recovery” for over a year but I’ll be honest over half of that has been quasi and Iuntil the last few months iv been sticking (somewhat) well to it.

That being said iv been steadily weight restored and even in sight overshoot for the past 8 months,have my period,and overall my labs are normal.

But my issue is I still have yet to FULLY gain my hunger and fullness cues back. They have definitely gotten better but still I seem to only be hungry in the morning and sometimes later in the day but most of the time i honestly feel super full hours after I eat.

It’s frustrating bc half the time when im having dinner or my snacks I have to basically force it down not bc of my mind (i actually wanna eat it lol) but bc I physically am struggling too. Also with fullness I find myself finding it difficult to sense when I’m comfortable full and that ends up with me slightly overeating.

Has anyone experienced something like this this lately into recovery ? I figured it would all be better by now. If anyone has any advice please lmk!!

Also would like to add in the beginning of my recovery I did have a team working with me but due to a relapse (caused by college) I kinda dropped them but HAVE recently started with a new therapist, and meeting with my new dietitian next week witch I plan to bring this up but just curious if anyone else can relate or did something that helped get said hunger cues back

**ment vacation in title lol

Going to try and keep it short but I had surgery abt week and a half ago causing me to not be able to lift for at least a week. It was a minor one on my stomach so my appetite/ diet was a little messed up for a few days but after a few days I was back to eating a 80/20 diet like i usually do.

Also shortly after my surgery I was able to walk and get my steps in.

Today I was able to go to gym and did the stair master and I found out that I’ll be cleared to start lifting again on Thursday witch in really looking forward too!

That being said when looking in the mirror i feel like I have lost all my progress iv made in the last 7ish months. I feel like my butt is so much flatter than before and that my stomach looks different.

Is this all just in my head or did I really loose the progress I have made within almost 2 weeks of not on my regular workout and eating schedule?? I’m honestly really stressed abt this bc next week I’m going out of town for another week causing me to be out of schedule once again and I’m worried how that will effect my body even more.

It’s frustrating bc right before my surgery I was starting to feel really good abt the progress I have made and was in such a good spot mentally. So Does anyone have any advice on this or gone through deleting similar?

Also would like too add I haven’t checked the scale bc it’s honestly not the best for me mentally and I like focusing on what I look like and feel like physically rather than the number.

How do you guys deal with bad body image days during recovery? Iv been in recovery for over a year,(tbh half of it being quasi until recently) but been weight restored and even a very small overshot for more than a multiple months now and have really recently started giving myselg food freedom. That being said these past few days Iv had the worst body image and i keep associating it with that fact that i went out to dinner,ice cream, had pasta and overall more foods than usual. These past few nights iv gone to bed so guilty and have to put one baggy clothes just to avoid looking at myself. It’s so frustrating bc like a week before this i was having really good body image days and don’t get me wrong during this whole recovery process iv had bad body image but I thought it was getting better but now idk… recently esp after this weekend it’s been awful! Dose anyone have any advice on this?

Hi so i honestly haven’t posted on here in awhile but iv been in recovery for over a year now. I’ll be honest it’s mostly been quasi with times of full recovery. Right now I have the best relationship with food,exercise and even my body at times than I have since my ed. That being said next week I’m getting a minor surgery on my stomach (not ed related ofc). Although they said the recovery is very easy I still will most likely be on a liquid/soft food diet for a few days. I’m really worried how this will affect my recovery. I’ll be honest my ed thoughts have been crazy due to it. Screaming at me that I’ll be sitting all day for a few days. But also thinking abt how I might lose weight and being happy about that. Anyways im really scared this will cause a relapse. Dose anyone have any advice on how to handle this??

I do have a therapist session like 2 days before which I plan on talking abt this but this is literally my second session which after having to get a new one due to insurance. Same with my dietitian I’m meeting a new one like a week after so I’m feeling overall very lost on how to handle this from what I feel alone.

Hi so i honestly haven’t posted on here in awhile but iv been in recovery for over a year now. I’ll be honest it’s mostly been quasi with times of full recovery. Right now I have the best relationship with food,exercise and even my body at times than I have since my ed. That being said next week I’m getting a minor surgery on my stomach (not ed related ofc). Although they said the recovery is very easy I still will most likely be on a liquid/soft food diet for a few days. I’m really worried how this will affect my recovery. I’ll be honest my ed thoughts have been crazy due to it. Screaming at me that I’ll be sitting all day for a few days. But also thinking abt how I might lose weight and being happy about that. Anyways im really scared this will cause a relapse. Dose anyone have any advice on how to handle this??

I do have a therapist session like 2 days before which I plan on talking abt this but this is literally my second session which after having to get a new one due to insurance. Same with my dietitian I’m meeting a new one like a week after so I’m feeling overall very lost on how to handle this from what I feel alone.

I’m going to try and keep it brief for y’all lol but I’ve been manifesting my sp for over 3 months now and have little to absolutely no movement.

In the beginning was so obsessed and in the feeling of wanting but eventually began to improve this mindset. I was much calmer,thinking abt him less, working on self concept heavily and even began to feel detached from it. But now after a month or two of this I’ve noticed recently I’ve fallen deep back into old thoughts,actions and doubts. I’m looking at his socials again, seeing if he has viewed mine, thinking about him more, overall falling back to the feeling of want.

Now this could be because I haven’t really been doing my thing methods lately like affirmations,subs,scripting like I was before but honestly before I fell back into this state I didn’t feel like I needed to and it all felt like a chore.

I feel like I mainly need to work on my self concept again bc half the time I question if I actually like this guy I if I just want him to reach out to me again because of the validation or idea of him wanting me….

I do fully believe in manifestation and I know at the end of the day it’s fairly simple and I must just decide it is done bc I have done it before with other things in my life. So I also know this mindset i have rn with my so is what is holding me back from a manifesting my him. but I genuinely am not sure what to do or how to improve this and I feel so lost.

Does anyone have any advice on this? I really would love some insight on what I should do further and get back in the mindset of already having it because deep down I would really enjoy him being mine.