u/Grxmloid

So finally my friend and I acknowledged we would date if it weren't for being in a new friendship trio I wouldn't want to ruin..because romantic exploration can change everything and I don't know her well enough, not that I could ever be sure, how she will handle things emotionally if it doesn't work romantically / sexually...could we still be friends etc.

But friendship is more important than anything to me and I finally have some good people in my life, and this group means a lot to me and feels so nice to have a little crew of close girlfriends i talk to daily as opposed to separate friends. Also I currently don't have much of a sex drive atm for reasons, I've also been celibate for 3 years so sex is a bit foreign to me and I don't usually feel horny unless I've already been having sex so that's not overpowering me. We just happen to have a lot in common which is great, and are both reporting on the unsatisfying dating world and it feels odd when we know eachother is poly, kinky, and alternative which feels like a minority in our city but we are also both new/back in the dating scene

Do you have any words on navigating this?

So finally my friend and I acknowledged we would date if it weren't for being in a new friendship trio I wouldn't want to ruin..because romantic exploration can change everything and I don't know her well enough, not that I could ever be sure, how she will handle things emotionally if it doesn't work romantically / sexually...could we still be friends etc.

But friendship is more important than anything to me and I finally have some good people in my life, and this group means a lot to me and feels so nice to have a little crew of close girlfriends i talk to daily as opposed to separate friends. Also I currently don't have much of a sex drive atm for reasons, I've also been celibate for 3 years so sex is a bit foreign to me and I don't usually feel horny unless I've already been having sex so that's not overpowering me. We just happen to have a lot in common which is great, and are both reporting on the unsatisfying dating world and it feels odd when we know eachother is poly, kinky, and alternative which feels like a minority in our city but we are also both new/back in the dating scene

Do you have any words on navigating this?

when shes on or near me. she's a short hair domestic 11 year old. Its not usual for her, only in winter, she isnt showing any other telltale signs of arthritis. I'm going to get some bloods taken for her to see that's all in the clear. She would normally sleep in her igloo but I haven't washed it yet since she threw up of it lol. I worry about her and I want to help her be happy

I have diagnosed AUDHD and recovering from MECFS so i have fluctuating severity of brainfog which was impacting me today. I am really trying to implement skills and today as I was at a store with a friend being very distracted and excited about what I thought seemed like an item I'd been looking for.

I purchased it, it was $145 and i cant return it based on store policy. I missed details about it, I didn't go home to think about it first like i would otherwise tell myself to, do more research and critically think about whether it would actually be worth it, and now I am laying awake regretting it and feeling down on myself but to anyone who has ADHD you will know how frustrating it feels to not feel like a "proper" adult with moments such as these..

How do you deal with being in a similar situation? What do you tell yourself?

I need inspiration to help me forgive myself and not feel so alone even though this might seem really silly to some as I've been panicking. Work has been sparse this month, I cannot work much either. The adhd sub has rules I'm struggling to find why my post is immediately removed

I (30F) have diagnosed ADHD and recovering from MECFS so i have fluctuating severity of brainfog which was impacting me today. I am really trying to implement skills and today as I was at a store with a friend being very distracted and excited about what I thought seemed like an item I'd been looking for.

I purchased it, it was $145 and i cant return it based on store policy. I missed details about it, I didn't go home to think about it first like i would otherwise tell myself to, do more research and critically think about whether it would actually be worth it, and now I am laying awake regretting it and feeling down on myself but to anyone who has ADHD you will know how frustrating it feels to not feel like a "proper" adult with moments such as these..

How do you deal with being in a similar situation? What do you tell yourself?

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thank you to those making helpful suggestions. unfortunately I can't sell on marketplace as it's an intimate item

I'm tired of feeling hurt by any little thing and knowing that it's rejection sensitivity but because my mind is obsessive i ruminate until it turns to anger against the person

I have a friend, let's call her X, that's relatively new. I've tried twice to spend time with her 1 on 1 and it hasn't worked out. Yet, she is always willing to spend time with me if our other friend, lets call her L, is there. This is upsetting as 1 on 1 time is important to me to feel closer to the person and less like acquaintances in groups! The feeling is quite different/very comfortable with the L as ive spent alone time with her. I don't seem to be caring if X may just be nervous about 1 on 1 time...I'm more focussed on how it seems not nice

Recently X has been quite preoccupied with dating apps and has barely broken it off with her previous date before she sends a message she matched with my housemate, of whom I've said many stories about how they are an irritating, rude and self absorbed person. She is keen to give it a shot?

So firstly, I don't want my housemate to be any more involved in my life, but I am also pissed that X seems to give all this time to dating and not to hanging with me 1 on 1. Same goes for another friend who is going through so many changes and work is hectic and awkward (inconsistent start times) but keeps telling me he wants to hang out but it's been 8 months, yet he's started dating someone from an app just last month??

I am tired of people prioritizing romantic relationships!!!!!! I feel sidelined and exhausted that maintaining friendships is so damn hard.

I have no super close long term friends.. I have long term friends that are not super close, or one I love who lives overseas. I am trying with all the ability I have to work on my current friendships but I am still burning out and needing to cancel everything to just rest.

I want to date, and I really want to experience more closer intimacy with friends, and yet I cannot be consistent. It's been 3 years since I've been physically intimate with someone and i genuinely miss it now and feel like in itself it'll be healing. I'm recovering from MECFS and easily get burnt out still as I struggle not just to rehabilitate but generally manage my already chaotic audhd self.

How are you guys doing it? I have learned to participate when I'm imperfect, show up even if I leave early, be communicative about how I am and my needs, and I have wonderful understanding friends. But I still feel like I want more closeness; I do 1-2 or 3 spcial things a week and it's not enough. I am sad my job takes so much social energy im lowering my hours again to focus on my main goal of friendship, love and community