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Curious to hear personal stories from men who used to be very emotional, intense, attached, or all-in on one person, but later became much more confident, detached, social, and comfortable with attention.

Some people call it “playboy confidence,” but I don’t mean being toxic or manipulative. I mean becoming more relaxed, playful, self-respecting, and no longer dependent on one person’s approval.

For those who changed a lot over time:

What shifted in your mindset?

What habits changed you?

Did fitness, social life, career, therapy, discipline, or quitting porn play a role?

Did you become more confident naturally, or did you intentionally rebuild yourself?

Looking back, what was the biggest turning point?

Just interested in real stories from men who went from overly attached or rejected to genuinely confident and self-controlled.

Hey everyone,

This might sound funny, but I first became interested in meditation because of Avatar: The Last Airbender. The idea of mastering energy, becoming more balanced, and entering a higher state always fascinated me.

Now I’m doing Dr Joe Dispenza’s work, especially Blessing of the Energy Centers / BOTEC, and I wanted to ask people who have gone from BOTEC 1 to the higher levels.

Did it feel like you were genuinely “leveling up” as you progressed?

Like, did your energy, emotions, intuition, manifestations, or ability to enter deep states become noticeably stronger with each level?

I know the “Avatar State” is fictional, so I don’t mean it literally. But did anyone feel like the higher BOTEC meditations made them more coherent, more powerful internally, or able to manifest/shift things faster?

Would love to hear experiences from people who have done multiple BOTEC levels consistently.

Thank you.

Hi everyone,

I’m trying to become more consistent with learning about the stock market and investing.

I don’t want to just randomly watch videos or follow hype. I want to build a daily loop of habits that helps me actually understand markets, companies, investing, and portfolio building over time.

For someone still learning, what daily habits would you recommend?

For example:

reading market news

tracking a watchlist

studying company financials

learning basic valuation

journaling market observations

reviewing charts

studying one investing concept per day

Also, is there any good YouTube channel you would recommend as a solid backbone for learning stock market investing properly?

I’m not looking for quick-money trading signals. I want to build real investing knowledge and discipline.

Thank you.

Hey everyone,

There are so many money manifestation, wealth affirmation, and abundance videos on YouTube. I understand the idea of changing your mindset, self-concept, and energy around money.

But my question is:

How do you actually bridge the gap between listening to wealth affirmations and seeing real financial results in your life?

For example, if someone is affirming wealth, abundance, success, financial freedom, etc., what should they also be doing internally and practically so it does not just stay as a fantasy?

Is the key to:

change your identity around money?

feel wealthy before the money arrives?

take inspired action?

build skills and opportunities?

stop obsessing over the result?

remove limiting beliefs around earning and receiving?

I’m curious how people here moved from “I’m affirming wealth” to actually seeing changes in income, career, business, investing, or opportunities.

What made the biggest difference for you?

Was it consistency, detachment, inspired action, nervous system regulation, self-concept, or something else?

Would love to hear real experiences.

For men who have experienced being falsely accused of something serious, what was the aftermath like for you?

I’m interested in hearing personal stories about what rebuilding looked like over time — emotionally, socially, professionally, and mentally.

For those willing to share:

What helped you regain your confidence?

What helped you stop feeling stuck in anger or fear?

Did your reputation recover with time?

Did you ever get closure, accountability, or an apology?

Looking back now, what changed you the most from that experience?

I’m not trying to start a gender debate. I’m mainly interested in hearing from men who went through something damaging and eventually found a way to rebuild their life, peace, career, or self-worth.

What did recovery look like for you?

Hey everyone,

I’ve been doing Dr Joe Dispenza’s meditations for about 2 weeks now.

In the beginning, I felt like I could immerse myself much more deeply. It felt easier to get into the meditation, feel the emotions, and become more present.

But now, especially when I’m trying to “become no body, no one, no thing, nowhere, in no time,” I’m noticing a lot of thoughts coming up. My mind feels more active, and I don’t feel as deeply immersed as I did before.

Is this normal after the initial phase?

Does this mean my mind/body is resisting the change, or is it just part of the process?

For people who experienced this, did you just keep going and eventually your mind settled again?

I don’t want to overthink it or judge the meditation. I just want to know if this is a normal stage and whether consistency is the main thing.

Thank you.

Hey everyone,

I’ve been doing a daily Dr Joe Dispenza routine and wanted to ask for feedback from people who have more experience.

My current routine is:

Morning: Tuning In to New Potentials

Before work: Gratitude / success affirmations

Afternoon: Tuning In to Your Heart

Before sleep: Synchronizing Your Energy to Abundance

Honestly, it is quite tough to maintain every day, but I am noticing small changes. In the beginning, I had a lot of very specific dreams and expectations. Now I feel more detached from many of them, like I’m not gripping so tightly anymore.

My questions are:

Is this a good routine, or am I doing too much?

Would you improve or simplify anything?

For those who stayed consistent, did the small inner shifts eventually build into bigger external changes?

Also, do you think there comes a point where, after enough inner work and alignment, things start unfolding more naturally and with less resistance — almost like the right opportunities, people, and circumstances start coming together?

I’m still taking practical action in real life, but I’d love to hear from people who have gone through this phase.

Thank you.

Hey everyone,

I’m doing Dr Joe Dispenza’s meditations, especially Tuning In to New Potentials and Synchronizing Your Energy to Abundance.

One big thing I’m working toward is a visa sponsorship job in the UK, and honestly it’s hard to stay motivated when I can’t see clear results yet. I’m applying, improving myself, and taking practical action, but the uncertainty still feels heavy sometimes.

For people who kept doing the meditations even when nothing seemed to be changing externally:

Did things eventually start falling into place?

How did you stop checking for results and just trust the process?

I’d especially love to hear from anyone in the UK or anyone who dealt with job/visa uncertainty while doing this work.

Thank you.

Hey everyone,

I’ve been doing some of Dr Joe Dispenza’s guided meditations, and I’ve also been looking into Buddhist meditation a bit.

I’m starting to notice some similarities — like observing your thoughts, not identifying with the old self, letting go of attachment, opening the heart, feeling love/gratitude/compassion, and becoming more aware instead of being stuck in the same emotions.

So I was wondering:

Do Dr Joe’s meditations have a lot in common with Buddhist meditation, or are they actually very different but just sound similar in some ways?

For anyone who has experience with both, what similarities or differences have you noticed?

Not trying to compare them in a negative way — just curious.

Hi everyone,

I wanted to ask this honestly and respectfully.

I have been doing Dr Joe Dispenza’s meditations, especially Tuning In to Your Heart and Tuning In to New Potentials, and I’m curious about something related to attraction, lust, desperation, and love.

Sometimes when I feel strong attraction toward a woman, I notice that the energy can become more lustful, needy, or desperate. It can feel like I’m wanting something outside of myself to complete me or validate me.

But from what I understand about Dr Joe’s work, the aim is to stop creating from lack and instead create from wholeness, love, gratitude, and the elevated emotions of the heart.

So my question is:

Has anyone used Tuning In to Your Heart or Tuning In to New Potentials to transform lustful or desperate feelings into a more grounded state of love, self-worth, emotional fullness, and healthy attraction?

Did these meditations help you stop feeling needy or attached and instead feel more whole, magnetic, and open to love?

I’m not asking about controlling another person or forcing an outcome. I’m asking whether changing the inner state from lust/lack/desperation into love/wholeness naturally changes what you attract in relationships.

For those who have experienced this, what shifted inside you?

Did you feel more loved from within first, and then notice more love, connection, or attraction showing up externally?

Thank you.

Hi everyone,

I wanted to ask this respectfully and honestly.

I recently started doing Dr Joe Dispenza’s Tuning In to Your Heart meditation seriously, and it has been about a week now. I genuinely feel that something has shifted in me.

I feel like I have healed a lot of past emotional pain, and not only trauma, but also parts of my personality — especially fear, insecurity, and old beliefs around love and relationships.

One thing that has surprised me is that I’m now feeling a strong inner calling to “level up” romantically. For most of my life, I had limiting beliefs around dating someone very attractive, successful, or high-status. I used to believe there would be more risk, more competition, more cheating, or more insecurity, so I thought I should aim for someone “safe” rather than someone I truly felt inspired by.

But after doing Tuning In to Your Heart, I feel like my heart is telling me to stop shrinking myself and allow myself to desire a much higher-level relationship.

The vision or impression I keep getting is quite specific: it feels like she is connected to the Bollywood world, maybe even a Bollywood actress or someone of that level, and I see myself in some part of the world living a much more expanded, confident, and successful version of life.

At the same time, I want to stay grounded. I don’t want to confuse expansion with fantasy, or intuition with delusion. I know inner work still has to be matched with real-world growth, emotional maturity, confidence, social skills, purpose, and action.

So my question is:

Has anyone here experienced their relationship standards or romantic vision expanding dramatically after doing Tuning In to Your Heart?

Did you start feeling called toward a partner, lifestyle, or future that previously felt “too big” for you?

How did you know whether it was genuine expansion, healing, and new identity — versus ego, fantasy, or spiritual bypassing?

I’d especially love to hear from people who felt their self-worth change through this meditation and then started attracting or pursuing higher-quality relationships.

Thank you.

Hi everyone,

I want to ask this respectfully, because I know this topic can be sensitive.

Has anyone here been doing Dr Joe Dispenza’s meditations — especially Tuning In to Your Heart, Tuning In to New Potentials, or similar heart/energy meditations — and later experienced an ex reaching out again?

I know many people may say that an ex is a “closed door,” or that we should not focus on a specific person. I understand that perspective, and I am not asking about controlling someone, forcing a result, or ignoring their free will.

I am asking more from a place of curiosity:

When someone changes their emotional state, heals their heart, stops living in lack, and starts becoming a new version of themselves, has anyone seen old relationships unexpectedly reopen?

For example:

an ex contacted you after no contact

an ex became interested again after you had detached

you stopped wanting them, and then they came back

the relationship healed naturally without forcing anything

you realized you no longer wanted them once they returned

I am especially curious if anyone was doing Tuning In to New Potentials and focused on becoming whole, loved, and emotionally free — and then the old person contacted them as a side effect.

I know the deeper purpose of the work is not chasing someone outside of ourselves. But I would genuinely appreciate hearing real experiences from people who have done the meditations consistently.

Did anything like this happen for you?

And if it did, what changed in you before they came back?

Thank you.

Hi everyone,

I hope this question does not offend anyone. I want to ask this respectfully because I genuinely value Dr Joe Dispenza’s work and I am currently doing his meditations myself.

A lot of the testimonials I have seen are very powerful — people healing emotionally, physically, improving their relationships, becoming calmer, more confident, getting better opportunities, or moving from a difficult place in life to a much better one.

But I have a question about very high-level ambition.

Has anyone here seen or experienced Dr Joe’s work helping with goals that are not just about healing or becoming more stable, but about achieving something extremely ambitious — for example:

getting into an Ivy League school or top global university

becoming highly successful in business

creating major wealth

building a very high-level career

becoming someone operating at an elite level in the world

I am not asking this in a materialistic or arrogant way. I understand that meditation is not a replacement for action, discipline, skill-building, strategy, networking, and real-world effort.

My question is more about this:

Can Dr Joe’s meditations help a person change their identity, energy, beliefs, nervous system, and emotional state enough to support truly extraordinary external goals?

I sometimes feel scared because I have very big dreams, and most testimonials I see are about healing, recovery, emotional peace, or moderate life improvement. These are beautiful and important, but I have not seen many examples of people using this work to achieve something like Ivy League admission, billionaire-level business success, or a world-class career.

So I would love to hear people’s honest views:

Do you think Dr Joe’s work can support goals at that level?

Has anyone here used the meditations for extreme ambition, wealth creation, elite education, or very high-level career success?

And if yes, how did you combine the inner work with practical action?

Thank you, and again, I mean this question with full respect.