I'm 9 months PP with baby 2 and been trying this whole time to correct my tilt, pt therapy included for a few months. Cannot get this tilt to go away!
photo 1 is how i naturally stand and photo 2 is when i properly engage lower core.
I look better than I did before 2 kids. But after starting weight loss journey post baby 1, I've gotten a case of the body dysmorphia. Before kids, I just didn't care. Now, I do care etc. My body has also changed A LOT in the last 5 years. First pregnancy, losing weight then gaining it back by first birthday, losing weight then back to baseline before pregnant again, now i'm 9 months pp. Nursing the entire time with no breaks so since march of 2022. I just feel like my body has changed so much so rapidly since my first pregnancy that my brain hasn't caught up?
My husband I have been together for 6 years. We have a 4 year old and 9 month old.
Sex has been an ongoing work in progress since our first was born. I had an injury that prevented me until a repair surgery around a year postpartum so sex was few and far in between that year (it physically hurt me). Admittedly, sex the second year after my son's birth wasn't great/often either. Our son was (and still is in our bed!!!!!!!!!). The last 2 years I feel satisfied with the amount of sex we have but my partner doesn't so obviously there is an issue. We were having sex 1-2/week (we were at every day pre kids which we were both happy with). Right now we are at once a week and it isn't working for him. I am just growing increasingly frustrated (and i'm sure he is too). I do want to have sex more (even though I am having low libido right now due to nursing), it is also something that I want but it really feels impossible ESP since we have a preschooler in our bed (which I have brought up to husband many times how he needs to be in his own bed at this point).
It really seems like however much I try it still isn't enough. It feels like logistically he doesn't understand that our time to have sex is limited. I am trying to understand things from his point of view? I try not to shoot him down, but at the same time he makes sexual innuendos in almost every conversation it feels (probably not true but it does feel like this). I do realize he has sex to unwind and I feel like I need to be relaxed to have sex. I'm currently picking between showering and sex:( It's hard and I understand it's hard for him and I want to try to work on this but it really feels impossible.
These last few months are the first time since my son was born that I actually feel myself. I have found a hobby I enjoy, I feel good about myself etc.
edit: other relevant info- I have been nursing almost this whole time. The preschooler is in our bed because my son has sleep issues (night terrors etc). The baby currently sleeps 8p-6am and back to sleep until 7am after a feed. The preschooler goes to sleep at 8pm as well. We have JUST started making the effort to go on dates once a month but my mother in law usually ends up staying the night... so sex after (which i want) isn't happening then either. I also had PPD/PPA after my son was born until he was about 2.5, then I was pregnant shortly after. This is our last baby. The first few years it truly was a lack of want on my end, but at this point I want to and it feels weird getting back into the groove of more often than once. week/ I feel a lot of pressure about it from my spouse and it bums me out ! And lots of the times that i WANT to, the kids are around and we can't leave the 9 month unattended /4 year old bangs and cries at the door. Only time that is available consistently is after the kids go to sleep which is then the only time my spouse and I have any time by ourselves or together.
tldr: husband wants more sex than i do. I also want more sex. we don't have the time (it feels)
My husband I have been together for 6 years. We have a 4 year old and 9 month old.
Sex has been an ongoing work in progress since our first was born. I had an injury that prevented me until a repair surgery around a year postpartum so sex was few and far in between that year (it physically hurt me). Admittedly, sex the second year after my son's birth wasn't great/often either. Our son was (and still is in our bed!!!!!!!!!). The last 2 years I feel satisfied with the amount of sex we have but my partner doesn't so obviously there is an issue. We were having sex 1-2/week (we were at every day pre kids which we were both happy with). Right now we are at once a week and it isn't working for him. I am just growing increasingly frustrated (and i'm sure he is too). I do want to have sex more (even though I am having low libido right now due to nursing), it is also something that I want but it really feels impossible ESP since we have a preschooler in our bed (which I have brought up to husband many times how he needs to be in his own bed at this point).
It really seems like however much I try it still isn't enough. It feels like logistically he doesn't understand that our time to have sex is limited. I am trying to understand things from his point of view? I try not to shoot him down, but at the same time he makes sexual innuendos in almost every conversation it feels (probably not true but it does feel like this). I do realize he has sex to unwind and I feel like I need to be relaxed to have sex. I'm currently picking between showering and sex:( It's hard and I understand it's hard for him and I want to try to work on this but it really feels impossible.
These last few months are the first time since my son was born that I actually feel myself. I have found a hobby I enjoy, I feel good about myself etc.
edit: other relevant info- I have been nursing almost this whole time. The preschooler is in our bed because my son has sleep issues (night terrors etc). The baby currently sleeps 8p-6am and back to sleep until 7am after a feed. The preschooler goes to sleep at 8pm as well. We have JUST started making the effort to go on dates once a month but my mother in law usually ends up staying the night... so sex after (which i want) isn't happening then either. I also had PPD/PPA after my son was born until he was about 2.5, then I was pregnant shortly after. This is our last baby. The first few years it truly was a lack of want on my end, but at this point I want to and it feels weird getting back into the groove of more often than once. week/ I feel a lot of pressure about it from my spouse and it bums me out ! And lots of the times that i WANT to, the kids are around and we can't leave the 9 month unattended /4 year old bangs and cries at the door. Only time that is available consistently is after the kids go to sleep which is then the only time my spouse and I have any time by ourselves or together.
tldr: husband wants more sex than i do. I also want more sex. we don't have the time (it feels)
My husband I have been together for 6 years. We have a 4 year old and 9 month old.
Sex has been an ongoing work in progress since our first was born. I had an injury that prevented me until a repair surgery around a year postpartum so sex was few and far in between that year (it physically hurt me). Admittedly, sex the second year after my son's birth wasn't great/often either. Our son was (and still is in our bed!!!!!!!!!). The last 2 years I feel satisfied with the amount of sex we have but my partner doesn't so obviously there is an issue. We were having sex 1-2/week (we were at every day pre kids which we were both happy with). Right now we are at once a week and it isn't working for him. I am just growing increasingly frustrated (and i'm sure he is too). I do want to have sex more (even though I am having low libido right now due to nursing), it is also something that I want but it really feels impossible ESP since we have a preschooler in our bed (which I have brought up to husband many times how he needs to be in his own bed at this point).
It really seems like however much I try it still isn't enough. It feels like logistically he doesn't understand that our time to have sex is limited. I am trying to understand things from his point of view? I try not to shoot him down, but at the same time he makes sexual innuendos in almost every conversation it feels (probably not true but it does feel like this). I do realize he has sex to unwind and I feel like I need to be relaxed to have sex. I'm currently picking between showering and sex:( It's hard and I understand it's hard for him and I want to try to work on this but it really feels impossible.
These last few months are the first time since my son was born that I actually feel myself. I have found a hobby I enjoy, I feel good about myself etc.
edit: other relevant info- I have been nursing almost this whole time. The preschooler is in our bed because my son has sleep issues (night terrors etc). The baby currently sleeps 8p-6am and back to sleep until 7am after a feed. The preschooler goes to sleep at 8pm as well. We have JUST started making the effort to go on dates once a month but my mother in law usually ends up staying the night... so sex after (which i want) isn't happening then either. I also had PPD/PPA after my son was born until he was about 2.5, then I was pregnant shortly after. This is our last baby. The first few years it truly was a lack of want on my end, but at this point I want to and it feels weird getting back into the groove of more often than once. week/ I feel a lot of pressure about it from my spouse and it bums me out ! And lots of the times that i WANT to, the kids are around and we can't leave the 9 month unattended /4 year old bangs and cries at the door. Only time that is available consistently is after the kids go to sleep which is then the only time my spouse and I have any time by ourselves or together.
I am a complete beginner (I have made 2 pairs of baby mocs with beadwork for my children's namings but that's it). I want to start beading for myself, and my family.
What are the best things to create over and over again to practice? My end goal is to be able to make moccasins with beadwork, earrings, medicine bags, maybe some patches.
I was using 1 needle method but I think learning the 2 needle method from the get go is the best idea?
I'm prairie band potawatomi so I would want to lean my beadwork that directions with the woodland florals etc.
How are we getting our designs on the interfacing? I'm not a good drawer. My mom knows some beadwork and has shown me what she can do.
edit: I would love to get good enough to be able to sell. I live an hour from the rez and live in a tribal college town. I am white passing so I feel a bit weird about beading things for regalia? I don't know. Imposter syndrome....
My direct family isn't really into beadwork, we are more into the sewing side. So there's limited people that are willing to show me irl.
I have a 4 year old and a 8 month old. I nursed the older until a day before he turned 4- the 8 month old is still nursing/solids ( no breaks in between nurselings).
I am just so tired. Yes, the baby still wakes at night but I am getting some solid stretches.
I really forget how much energy breastfeeding takes. Did anyone notice a difference after weaning? Or am I just exhausted because I have 2 kids? I cannot remember what it feels like to not be pregnant/nursing as I have been one or the other since June of 2021.
27F, 116lbs 5'2"
I am 8 months postpartum and still on miralax everyday. I'm still nursing (have been for over 4 years straight). My most recent pregnancy I either was constipated or diarrhea, back and forth the entire time.
I started getting awful stomach cramping after dinner/before bed and horrible gas late first trimester. I thought it was maybe just the pregnancy. Well it is still here....it's so bad. I cut out onion/garlic and a few other foods and that is a day and night difference (a week into this) and i'm working on getting 25g fiber from better sources (no protein bars/low carb tortillas) but from sweet potatoes, chia seeds, oatmeal, etc.
I think i'm having intolerances to fodmap foods combined with not enough fiber from the right sources/slow gut movement from hormones.
My doctor and OB were both no help- just said postpartum yay!
more relevant info: lift weights 4x a week, generally hit my body weight in grams of protein from lean meat, drink 100 oz of water per day, completed pelvic pt therapy as i'm done having babies (just for good measure)
I am 8 months postpartum and still on miralax everyday. I'm still nursing (have been for over 4 years straight). My most recent pregnancy I either was constipated or diarrhea, back and forth the entire time.
I started getting awful stomach cramping after dinner/before bed and horrible gas. I thought it was maybe just the pregnancy. Well it is still here....it's so bad. I cut out onion/garlic and a few other foods and that is a day and night difference (a week into this) and i'm working on getting 25g fiber from better sources (no protein bars/low carb tortillas) but from sweet potatoes, chia seeds, oatmeal, etc.
Any else go through this? I think i'm having intolerances to fodmap foods combined with not enough fiber from the right sources/slow gut movement from hormones.
I am 8 months postpartum and still on miralax everyday. I'm still nursing (have been for over 4 years straight). My most recent pregnancy I either was constipated or diarrhea, back and forth the entire time.
I started getting awful stomach cramping after dinner/before bed and horrible gas. I thought it was maybe just the pregnancy. Well it is still here....it's so bad. I cut out onion/garlic and a few other foods and that is a day and night difference (a week into this) and i'm working on getting 25g fiber from better sources (no protein bars/low carb tortillas) but from sweet potatoes, chia seeds, oatmeal, etc.
Any else go through this? I think i'm having intolerances to fodmap foods combined with not enough fiber from the right sources/slow gut movement from hormones.
I am 8 months postpartum and still on miralax everyday. I'm still nursing (have been for over 4 years straight). My most recent pregnancy I was either constipated or full blown diarrhea, back and forth the entire time.
I started getting awful stomach cramping after dinner/before bed and horrible gas. I thought it was maybe just the pregnancy. Well it is still here....it's so bad. I cut out onion/garlic and a few other foods and that is a day and night difference (a week into this) and i'm working on getting 25g fiber from better sources (no protein bars/low carb tortillas) but from sweet potatoes, chia seeds, oatmeal, etc.
Any else go through this? I think i'm having intolerances to fodmap foods combined with not enough fiber from the right sources/slow gut movement from hormones.
My doctor ofc wasn't much help :(
I am 8 months postpartum and still on miralax everyday. I'm still nursing (have been for over 4 years straight). My most recent pregnancy I either was constipated or diarrhea, back and forth the entire time.
I started getting awful stomach cramping after dinner/before bed and horrible gas. I thought it was maybe just the pregnancy. Well it is still here....it's so bad. I cut out onion/garlic and a few other foods and that is a day and night difference (a week into this) and i'm working on getting 25g fiber from better sources (no protein bars/low carb tortillas) but from sweet potatoes, chia seeds, oatmeal, etc.
Any else go through this? I think i'm having intolerances to fodmap foods combined with not enough fiber from the right sources/slow gut movement from hormones.
Night 1: did 3 ferber check ins and they made her absolutely hysterical. Pivoted and left her alone and she was asleep in 20 minutes (as the checks are just for the parents i've read). Habit wake at 11pm, she fussed on and off for about an hour, falling asleep and waking back up but eventually fell back asleep with no hard crying. Wake at 445a, fed and back to crib awake and went right to sleep. Woke her at 715am.
Night 2: Cried 90 seconds, asleep within 5 minutes. Wake at 445am, fed and back to crib awake, fussed for 10 min and asleep until 7.
night 3: 15 min crying and right to sleep after. She has started sucking on foot tag of her mom cozy sleep sack. Kinda cute, kinda sad. I don't know. Slept until 5:30am feed and wake at 7am.
night 4: \~25 min cry at bedtime :( woke at 10:30pm and did not attempt to self settle, let cry for \~30/40 min and fed. she got frustrated trying to fall asleep on me after feed so moved back to crib and she fell asleep in 10 min. feed at 5:30a, then up at 7am.
night 5: asleep in 14 min. woke at 10:50pm, screamed, ate and back to crib. woke up at 2:45, screaming and back to crib. woke up 530, attempted to self settle but eventually started screaming, fed and back to crib. screamed for 20 min until i got her, latched and immediately fell asleep.
She will be 8 months old on the 17th. her schedule is 3/3/4 with naps totaling around 2.5 hours, sometimes 3.
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I guess i'm asking for a schedule check? Am i expecting too much night sleep? Husband is going to start going in for wake ups after 30 min because obviously she demands milk from me. Or am i doing this wrong? Maybe night weaning? I'm just so sleep deprived and so lost. I have insomnia so when she sleeps early I cannot until about 12am. I've tried sleeping meds and they knock me out too hard esp if I don't get adequate sleep bc of having 2 kids.
Night 1: did 3 ferber check ins and they made her absolutely hysterical. Pivoted and left her alone and she was asleep in 20 minutes (as the checks are just for the parents i've read). Habit wake at 11pm, she fussed on and off for about an hour, falling asleep and waking back up but eventually fell back asleep with no hard crying. Wake at 445a, fed and back to crib awake and went right to sleep. Woke her at 715am.
Night 2: Cried 90 seconds, asleep within 5 minutes. Wake at 445am, fed and back to crib awake, fussed for 10 min and asleep until 7:05am.
night 3: 15 min crying and right to sleep after. She has started sucking on foot tag of her mom cozy sleep sack. Kinda cute, kinda sad. I don't know. Slept until 5:30am feed and wake at 7am.
night 4: ~25 min cry at bedtime :( woke at 10:30 pm and escalated for 35/40 min, no self soothing attempting. responded and fed, she got frustrated trying to fall asleep on me. back in crib awake/asleep within 10 min. feed at 5:30, back in crib/asleep till 7am.
She was very fussy this morning- she has congestion in chest/nose. Asleep at 9am until 10:40am. She usually has a 3/3/4 wake window schedule with naps totalingbetween 2-3 hours (varies by day because of the older kiddo).
Wondering how to proceed? Attend to her if she is escalating and not attempting self settling? I don't even know what to do for her schedule... nap 1 1:40-2:40? crib at 6:40? No idea. SOS.
Night 1: did 3 ferber check ins and they made her absolutely hysterical. Pivoted and left her alone and she was asleep in 20 minutes (as the checks are just for the parents i've read). Habit wake at 11pm, she fussed on and off for about an hour, falling asleep and waking back up but eventually fell back asleep with no hard crying. Wake at 445a, fed and back to crib awake and went right to sleep. Woke her at 715am.
Night 2: Cried 90 seconds, asleep within 5 minutes. Wake at 445am, fed and back to crib awake, fussed for 10 min and asleep until 7:05am.
She always slept 7p-7a with 0-2 feeds since 2 months with sleeping through the night more often than not. 6 mo sleep regression hit around 5.5 months and we never came out of it. It got worse every week despite adjusting schedule/nap length etc. She was so fussy during the day from waking so much during the night. I would feed to sleep then try to transfer. Obviously that didn't work for me anymore, it turned into a cycle of laying her down asleep and having many failed transfers. Sometimes she would lay down for an hour and wake and want to be held back to sleep, rinse and repeat. Then we started an extra feed at 11pm so we could get to bed but the transfer stopped happening so my husband would cosleep until 3am and I would feed and cosleep until 7am.
These last 2 days she has been a different baby during the whole day, much happier like she was before this all started. I felt like she was in an overtired spiral from crappy night sleep resulting into crappy naps w/ sleep associations. Right now, she's on a 3/3/4 schedule with naps being capped at 3 hours but they often get interrupted and she only gets 2-2.5 hours. After maybe another 10-14 days of this process at night, we are going to nap train because she is still contact napping. Our bedtime routine is solids, play while we clean up, milk, diaper/sleep sack, watch us help big brother get ready for bed, book as a family, sound machine and crib.
I'm so happy to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I know there could be an extinction burst but i'm happy so far! It's like leading a horse to water thankfully. It's going to take me like two weeks of solid sleep for myself to feel normal again. The mom guilt is also dissipating from letting her cry (I was so against, but I'm seeing results so I know it was the right thing to do for our family, even the 4 year old is exhausted)
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night 3: 15 min crying and right to sleep after. She has started sucking on foot tag of her mom cozy swaddle. Kinda cute, kinda sad. I don't know.
I was so against sleep training. This is our second kid and decided to try if sleep got bad. She always slept 7-7 with 1-2 wake ups. Somewhere about a month and a half ago she started waking at every transfer and wanted somebody to hold her cosleeping which ended up being my husband because if I had her she wanted to nurse and I didn't want to make that a thing. She's 7.5 months old. Contact naps, bf + solids.
Night 1: My husband did 3 ferber check ins and pivoted to full extinction as they ramped her up. She was asleep after 20 min. She woke up at 11pm and fussed for 45 minutes with a few minutes of actual crying but it was after she had fallen asleep and wake herself back up. She stayed asleep until 445am!! I fed her and butt in crib at 5, zero crying. I had to wake her at 7:15am.
It was like bringing a horse to water... sometimes she cries more than that between our 10-20 transfers in a night or trying pick up put down at bedtime...
If she was able to make it until 445am without a feed, is it reasonable to make that the earliest time I will feed her? We set a hard cap at full crying (not fussing) for an hour and a half for middle of the night wake ups. Is that reasonable?
I hope that was the worst night but I know any night in the next week could spiral. Any tips? I'm doing next naps.
She was always a decent sleeper, nurse to sleep then 2 feeds and slept 7/8pm-6/7am. I would feed her and put him back in crib awake and she would go to sleep (besides bedtime). Ofc we went through the 4 and 6 month sleep regressions but after the 6 month sleep regression (happened more around 5.5 months), we got a week or two of her usual sleep and then it's been worse than the NB phase since.
I've tried 3 or 2 naps, different lengths etc. As soon as her butt hits the crib, she wakes. If I can get her to settle in the crib she lasts about an hour. Last night she woke up 8 times. She refuses to cosleep! She wants me to be sitting up with her. I do nurse to sleep and nurse to sleep for one of the wake ups- but sometimes all I have to do is pick her up and she's back asleep.
What do I even do if she won't cosleep? We have been in this for about 3-4 weeks. She wakes even more when her dad has her which in turn wakes our 4 year old so i'm up even if dad has her.
i'm 7 months pp, i was talking to my MIL about needing to go shopping since i haven't in half a decade. i mentioned how it was pointless after my first birth bc i was 40 lbs from baseline then i lost it then got pregnant again. now im back at my usual weight but she said im sure the weight will come off faster since ur nursing but im already back at my usual weight .. 116 lbs at 5'2". I've worked out 4x at pure barre for 2 years and just switched to weight lifting 4 weeks ago.
That comment just really stung. No DR, did pelvic floor therapy since im done having babies.