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▲ 9 r/theories

Red-pill/manosphere actively makes boys/men into anti-social misogynists to keep them tuned in

Some have talked about how the red pill/manosphere teaches boys and men to limit themselves, but not enough people talk about how it's all an effort to make boys and men even more anti-social and less appealing to women so that it validates what the content creator is saying, thus they tune in more.

I don't know if a term for it exists, but there is such a thing where you change someone's personality or affect them in some way that causes you to become necessary for them. Closest thing I can think of is "grooming". An example of this is how dating apps are not designed to be good because they would lose interactions if they successfully paired people off and got them to delete the app. It's not an original statement to say that the whole red-pill/manosphere movement is one giant grift. Like everything far right, especially the government, it's meant to target people's fears and insecurities in order to control them.

Loneliness is happening to everybody, man and woman. Gay and straight. That will happen with society becoming a digitized late capitalist hell hole, especially following a devastating pandemic. But grifters tuned in to the way that otherwise harmless and innocent boys/men that they are entitled to companionship.

Women, for the past several decades, have managed to successfully navigate society without men. They do not need a husband to have a fulfilling life, or get something as mundane as a credit card or loan. Straight women still have desires for romance and sex, but they don't NEED it. If a man doesn't come into their life, oh well. It's not the end of the world. But for men, they NEED a woman. They need the prize of have a woman romantically and sexually. It's a confirmation of manhood. And grifters have capitalized on this in an age where everyone is lonely.

If someone legitimately cared about the distinct loneliness and insecurities that men face, they would kindly advise that person to look within. You can't control society or people's perception of you. Accept the possibility that you may never find a girlfriend or wife. What then? You invest in yourself, friends, and whatever family you do have. Go on vacation, start a business, become an artist, pick up a trade, etc. Life is more than just intimacy. And maybe by doing these things you can be less insecure and maybe even find a woman doing these things have a good relationship.

But the grifters have taught boys and men to do the opposite. It's women's fault. It's liberals fault. Its this conspiracy for women to take over. That women having equal rights (not more than men, equal) somehow means that men are no longer able to be with women. What was once promised to men (because women couldn't exist in society without a man), men have to now work for it. They don't implore men to improve in any meaningful way. They teach them to double down on their insecurities, entitlement, and anger.

And why would they do this? Some people might think this is a psyop meant to control the population and help with recruiting for ICE/secret police, but I also think it's full of grifters getting their customers hooked. The more you validate the feelings of these boys and men, the more they get addicted to tuning in. They want to be validated. And this is the closest these men will ever get to a community. Having a healthy community means being vulnerable. Not here. Vulnerability is masked in anger and hatred. I'm willing to bet half of these grifters don't even believe what they are peddling, they are just saying the right buzzwords to get views, clicks, likes, and donations. Monetizing internet personalities is causing people to become cult-of-personalities for the sake of monetary value.

So it's obvious that this is all a grift, but do you think they intentionally set out to make boys and men more angry and less appealing to women in order to keep coming back to them for advice and validation?

u/Hveachie — 12 days ago

▲ 403 r/thewalkingdead

Figured out the exact location/town of The Commonwealth in Ohio

I'm a guy that's obsessed with minute details like last names of characters, timelines (I was the one who figured out Monument Day was August 27, which AMC later confirmed), and exact locations.

For years, it has bothered the shit out of me that I couldn't figure out where exactly The Commonwealth was located. We got a handful of large establishing shots, the Commonwealth set was a backlot on Raleigh Studios in Senoia, Georgia; and on-location shots (like in 11x23, 11x24) were in Newnan, Georgia.

After some serious sleuthing (population, towns close to the West Virginia border because the Commonwealth met Eugene's group in Charleston), I have discovered that the Commonwealth's true location is Marietta, Ohio. Other than a fictious large building, there are key buildings in the Commonwealth's skyline that match that of Marietta's.

u/Hveachie — 1 month ago

▲ 1 r/majordepressive

Don't know how to get out of this year-long depression episode

I (31M) have been suffering from depression since high school. I also have autism, ADHD, and anxiety.

Some other background info: I was emotionally abused by dad and older brother, I've been bullied my whole life, I have been overweight my whole life among other body image issues, I am gay, and have never been in a relationship.

To keep a super long story short - from 2023 to 2025 I was emotionally abused by a coworker almost every day for the entire time. She fucked me up and my self-esteem. I made documented her treatment and reported her to admin. They interviewed the witnesses and went ahead and just told her about my complaint (against my wishes) rather than just handle the situation. She retaliated, like I said she would, and then they fired me instead (she's a 50 year old woman with 4 kids).

I was unemployed for 3.5 months and in the worst time of my life. I was so humiliated and betrayed. I seriously came so close to committing suicide. Time didn't feel real, anymore. I was disoriented and on auto-pilot.

Then, the miracle happened. I not only got a job, but I got my dream job. I've been here since October 2025 and it's THE BEST job I ever had. I have not had a single morning or night filled with anxiety about my job since getting this one. There's not a single coworker that is cruel to me. I am excelling more and more.

I have been living with my mom for several years, and we recently got a house that is just perfect. The best house we've ever had.

Objectively, I am doing great.

However, I am still pretty depressed. A part of my mind is still back in those months I was unemployed.

Granted I am still suffering the consequences of what I went through. I am recovering from the debt I accrued from being unemployed. The most upsetting is my weight gain. Since 2022, I've been on a weight loss journey. I went from 435 to 210. When I got fired, I instantly started gaining weight. Now I'm back to 350. It's embarrassing and devastating.

I recently got into my 30s and I've been thinking about my life. Despite the good things, I am not living the life I want. I want to be hot and going out and being desired and have relationships. Even if I lost the weight, I still wouldn't be hot. And even if I was hot, my options are limited given where I live.

And I think everyone is in the same boat with me regarding our political climate and the actual climate crisis. It doesn't feel like we're in a momentary lapse of awfulness, it feels like the beginning of awfulness that will continue for the remainder of our lives. It almost feels like the world is suicidal. I constantly ask myself "What's the point of trying to become hot, get in a relationship, build a life for myself if the world is gonna go underwater and whatever is left will be ruled in some horrific dystopia?"

I feel stuck from where I was a year ago, and I cannot get out of it despite my life changing almost completely for the better.

For those who are wondering:

I am seeing a therapist.
I am taking anti-depressant medication that also treats my ADHD.

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u/Hveachie — 2 months ago

▲ 2 r/sidehustle

Any reasonable side-jobs for just one day?

I (31M) have been at my dream job for almost one year now. I've never been happier, but it doesn't pay well (shocker).

I have the potential to become full-time, but right now I am 30.5 hours (with benefits and health insurance, thank god). It sucks because my schedule is SO WEIRD that it keeps me from seeking another job. For reference, I work at a library. I would love to work for another one, like a school library, but it would interfere with my current job.

Are there any jobs that aren't too stressful and strenuous that I can do for just one day? Out of all my days, Mondays are my true day off. I never work Mondays.

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u/Hveachie — 2 months ago

▲ 94 r/antiwork

Tell me about your most evil coworker

I (31M) had the misfortune of working with a truly evil person almost every minute, of every day, for two years. I want to hear your stories and we can share in our trauma together.

I'll go first. In 2023, I started work at a vocational school for teenagers. I worked in the front office. The frost desk secretary, Sally (51F), was the worst human being in my life. And I have an abusive father. Crazy thing? Sally was "best friends" (lovers) with my babysitter when I was a kid. This woman was in my childhood home.

So Sally was "nice" at first, but from Day One I knew she was trouble because she asked me a very personal question about my career aspects. It was 100% in bad faith, and I knew it was something she could use against me. And I'm not a paranoid person, I see the best in people. As time went on, Sally got increasingly mean. She was extremely curt and brash. And she wasn't like that with everyone else. She was also increasingly frustrated with me for not knowing procedures about my job - even though I was still training. And the person I was replacing was there for 20+ years. So, I'm not going to be AS efficient as the last person was right away. It got to a point where I was scared to ask her about anything because she would just be so frustrated. But then that caused me to not be as efficient in my job, and therefore make her even more mad that I didn't know how to do something. BTW this was only 2 weeks into my job. Less than a month in, I politely come up to her and ask if everything was okay because she seemed different, she went, "Yeah... I'm fine..." like I was wasting her time.

My confidence and self-esteem was consistently attacked by her. Whenever I did something, it was NEVER correct in her eyes. Even though there were times where I was correct. She would watch an interaction and say, "Why did you do that? Why did you say that? Don't you know how to do that?" She also eavesdropped on my calls and would so the same thing. She would ask me why I said the things I said, and questioned my knowledge. Again - I am NEW. And instead of calmly educating me, she just left me in the dark. And FYI, this wasn't after she had been nice. Not once was she ever nice about my onboarding, and barely trained me.

My job required me to be a lot of places. There was one particular morning where 1000 things went wrong at once. She had to know this because she worked with my predecessor (let's call her Jane), who did the same thing. There was going to be a fire drill that day so I went to a friend coworker to ask about how it will go, not socializing at ALL, and suddenly Sally comes in yelling, "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?? I AM ALL BY MYSELF, GET UP FRONT NOW!" She is not my boss, we are equals. My predecessor constantly came back to the workplace. Sometimes to train me, sometimes to hang out with her friends - Sally being her main friend. I saw how Sally was with her. About 3 months into my job, her behavior made me snap. I said that she was rude and unapproachable, and that she made no effort to make me feel welcome. I also said, "I'm sorry I'm not Jane", and she said that her relationship with Jane and her relationship with me were different, and that she wasn't doing anything. The mistreatment and gaslighting made me cry, and she reacted by saying that I was "just overly sensitive".

This behavior continued. Throughout the months, our office had the mail for all the employees there. She claimed responsibility for sorting the mail. When one of us is absent, it's expected that we perform their duties, as well. So obviously, when she's not in - the mail piles up. A couple of times I sorted them, I know how because I've done it before. I did it for a hospital with 10x the amount of boxes with no complaints. She said not to do them, but when she's gone people complain that the mail isn't sorted. I tried explaining this to her, but she wouldn't listen. About 6 months into my job, she comes up to me all sweet and gets in my face and says, "I have told you so many times to not do the mail. That is my job. I don't know where the disconnect is, but I've had a lot of people come to me complaining that you're messing up the mail. So stop." Friends and family I told about, including my mom who works as a HR rep, told me to start documenting months prior. I thought that was crazy, but that one interaction caused me to start documenting. Dates, times, interactions with exact quotes, and witnesses. On top of everything else, she was a shit-talker. She talked so cruelly about all our coworkers. Like nasty, mean girl talk. Not constructive, frustrated coworker talk. She spoke these things out loud in the front office. I've had the misfortune to overhear people talking badly about me, it hurts.

Her behavior got so bad she sabotaged my work. She kept important information from me. Our supervisor came in and addressed both of us that we needed to be more proactive, because my lack of info caused a lot of things to fall apart. Ten minutes later, Sally laid into me again and parroted the same words our supervisor used, as if she hadn't addressed BOTH of us. I asked my supervisor to speak with her about a very alarming issue, she and the assistant director of the school met with me in their office. I explained that for months, ever since I started, Sally had been mistreating about every day. It got to a point where I was afraid to come into work, her presence upset me that much. It was emotional abuse, on par with my father. My supervisor and assistant director (who I was very close with) expressed immediate concern. They were so sorry for me and asked that I write a letter to the director, with full support from admin. I wrote a email discussing the situation and sent him my log.

At first, the director was genuinely concerned. He said this behavior was not okay. He said that he would perform an investigation where he would speak to all the witnesses, and then discuss it with Sally. I begged him not to. This word gets thrown around a lot, but Sally is a diagnostic narcissist, like NPD. She would not be able to sit with this and reflect, she would retaliate. I told the director all of this, that she would know it was me. He said that she would know, but he would "protect" me against retaliation. I doubted it, turns out, I was right. So Sally had summers off, I didn't. According to my friend who worked with the director, he waited until the LAST DAY before her summer break to tell her about the investigation, and she YELLED at him and stormed out of his office. How she wasn't fired right then and there, I do not know. So the first day after summer, she comes storming into her office, goes right to her desk all red and tight-lipped. She completely ignored my "Welcome back, Sally!" She was mad... like she didn't cool down at all for 2 months. She spent the entire summer stewing and plotting her revenge.

She doubled down on her behavior. Everything she did above, times it by three. She was so mad. And I was stuck in the office with her. Later that semester, I get called into a meeting with my director who wanted to give me a "mid-year evaluation" - no one else gets these. In retrospect, he was giving me a PIP. All the things he was saying either weren't true or were greatly exaggerated - like one-off occurrences were treated as a frequent occurrence. In March 2025, the day before going on Spring Break, he calls me into his office to let me know that they will be speaking with me in a month to discuss my future employment because my performance was below expectations. What? And every single thing he said, the only person who would have any knowledge of these "facts" (untrue or exaggerated) could only be by Sally since we were the only two in the office with absolutely no one else near us. It was clear to me I was getting fired. I told him that Sally's behavior had worsened and that it was affecting my work, and she is retaliating like I told him she would do. He then says to me that "we all have got difficult coworkers. We just have to deal with it and keep doing our job." What the absolute fuck? A couple of months ago you said her behavior was abhorrent. A month later, he informed me that my contract would not be renewed.

So, Sally won. She spent all two years either trying to get me fired or to quit. You know what's crazy? For the fuck of it, I decided to google her name. She had been ARRESTED for third-degree domestic assault. That not only confirmed every single thing about her, but also how does a domestic abuser get a job with children? And what's really messed up? EVERYONE knew how awful she was and how she treated me. Whenever she wasn't in the office, people (even those who weren't on the witness list) said, "Don't listen to Sally, we all like you here. She's always been a pain to work with." Even a STUDENT said this to me. Jesus Christ, everyone knew. And yet I was the one getting fired.

When I was told I would not work there anymore, I immediately went to the school district's HR. I informed him of what occurred, he was surprised that this was happening. So my director never reported it, cool cool. It was a hostile work environment and I was being wrongfully terminated. He told me if I wanted to launch an investigation. Wanted to be done with this whole thing and not wanting to drag my friends and coworkers into this drama, I declined. He said that he would still raise this with the director's supervisor, as he was surprised this was happening.

At the end of the day, Sally was a massively unhappy person. She literally looked like Linda Tripp, this picture in particular. Not even trying to be mean. She was 50 and had 4 kids, two of them under the age of 8. She had a shitty ex-husband, her 18 year old son was arrested for a DWI and went to trial for over a year, she had a shitty boyfriend of 9 years and two children (he would call the work phone and she did not sound like she loved the man). Also, as I said before, she is not living her true self (lesbian). Well, now the director no longer works at that school. His replacement will be the assistant director who loved me and hated her, so good luck, Sally. Meanwhile, I am in my dream job. I am as confident as ever, I am killing it despite only being here for less than a year. Everyone here is so supportive. Have a nice life, Sally.

u/Hveachie — 3 months ago

▲ 2 r/u_Hveachie+1 crossposts

Copyright for Private Lip-Sync Event?

At some point in the future, I would like to reserve a small venue and invite my friends for a lip-sync contest on my birthday. I live in Missouri, so how would that work?

If I rented out, let's say, a cafe with a stage for the night and it's JUST me and my guests, and there is no charge to get into the door, would I still have to pay for rights to play it?

If that's the case, is there a blanket charge (one-time purchase for several songs)? If so, how much? If not, how much for each song? How would I go about purchasing it?

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u/Hveachie — 3 months ago

▲ 11 r/GayMen

Struggling with the reality I will never be desirable

I (31M) have never had any romantic experience (man or woman). Never been on a date, never been kissed, never had sex, never been in a relationship.

It's been hitting me the past year that I am just not desirable. I am rarely someone's #1 choice. The very few men that have hit me up I am just not attracted to, at all. It also really sucks because I live in Missouri. Thankfully, I live in a pretty big, liberal, gay-friendly city - but the only gay men are either 18-21 year old college students or losers like me who aren't able or are too afraid to leave this shitty state.

I've been overweight my entire life. My highest was in 2019 (24) at 465. By March 2024, I got down to 210. But I have steadily regained that weight back. From March 2025, I went from 235 to 345 (110 lbs. in over a year). It's hard as fuck to try to lose this weight - but it's hitting me that no matter what I do, I will still not be attractive.

I will still be balding (I plan on going to Turkey, but still), I have a meh-face, a flabby body, a smaller than average dick (it's not micro, but if a guy on an app asks for a pic, I'm getting blocked). It's just do disheartening. Like "what's the point?", you know?

And before you comment, please refer to my points below:

Yes, I know looks aren't everything. But we have GOT to stop pretending that they don't matter or aren't super important. If you settle for someone you find physically unattractive because you are afraid of being alone, you're just going to resent that person because you will be angry at the fact that they were the best you could do.
No, Instagram has nothing to do with this. I just live in the world. Most people are okay-ish. I am not. But it's even worse as a gay man. I am the ugliest gay you will see at the gay club or pride fest. I am surrounded by a sea of gorgeous men and it makes me want to kill myself.
Yes, I can change some of these things. But it still won't change the fact that I am not how I want to look. And that change is so fucking hard. It also doesn't help when you already feel so hopeless.
Yes, I know there is more to life than being hot/desired, but I want it. It's what I want most. I want to be that guy people stop and look at in the room. I want to have my pick of the love of my life, not dig through the clearance bin. I want to experience what quite a few gay men experience - active sex life, adventure, etc.

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u/Hveachie — 3 months ago

▲ 150 r/GearsOfWar

Interesting bit of visual storytelling in Gears 5

I was replaying Gears 5 and I noticed something for the first time in 7 years during the Mount Kadar lab level in Act 2.

I may be cornplating here, but when Niles betrays Kait and Del, they go to the control room to stop the cryogenic purge and lockdown. After that, the room behind them opens up. This used to be Myrrah's bedroom. You can tell because of the crib and toys (Reyna's) and you can find Myrrah's personal sketchbook on the desk.

There is a GIANT hole in the room. The only way out is through the tunnel in Myrrah's bedroom. At the bottom of it is this weird looking device. Turns out it's a tunnel boring machine.

What this tells me is that when Myrrah was realizing her power, and showed signs of disdain towards Niles and the scientists for "killing" her daughter, Niles went "holy fuck" and kept Myrrah away from the Matriarch. But at this point, she had already realized her power and commanded the Locust through the Hivemind to rebel.

The control room has one true entrance. Based on the iced Locust, they were trying to break in when the purge went into effect. Meaning, the Locust hadn't really breached the control room. What this implies that when the Locust rebelled, Niles went to the control room to lockdown Myrrah and the facility. While doing this, Myrrah personally fatally wounded Niles. She got locked in the room, so she used the Hivemind to have the Locust use Nethercutt's tunnel boring machines to break into her room and free her.

After she was freed, the Locust tried breaking into the main door access of the control room. Niles, dying, used the last of his life to lock down the facility and purge everyone inside.

u/Hveachie — 3 months ago

▲ 46 r/GearsOfWar

Theory: The Locust Hivemind and Swarm Hivemind are different

It's always been hinted at in the series, but it was finally confirmed in Gears 5 that the Locust were a hivemind. Myrrah's stem cells (combined with Imulsion and Sire DNA) made the Matriarch. The Matriarch was the source of the Hivemind. The biological component of the Hivemind is a genetic algorithm inside the temporal lobe. This was bestowed upon the Locust from which the Matriarch gave birth to. Myrrah was able to be a guiding force in the Locust. She could speak to them, sense them, and even control them.

In Gears of War 4, when the Locust had evolved into Scions and created the Swarm, the Hivemind was there again. Myrrah's consciousness survived in the Matriarch. She had enough presence to somewhat organize the Swarm and select a leader (the Speaker) to lead the process on turning Reyna into their Queen so Myrrah could be instilled and return. Once that happens, the Swarm are more intelligent and dangerous.

When Kait killed her mother and interrupted the process, Myrrah directed the Hivemind to Kait and mentally weakened her so she could become the Queen, instead. The journey leads to the Matriarch, which is what Myrrah wanted. She knew that she would be able to become a Queen again if Kait made contact with the Matriarch. When she did, Kait directed the Hivemind to Reyna instead of herself, resulting in Reyna getting resurrected with Myrrah's consciousness and becoming the Swarm Queen.

Act 2 of Gears 5 ends with Kait killing the Matriarch. Her exact words were "This thing's your link to me, right? Well get ready to switch off!" Once she does that, Kait is never again affected by the Hivemind. The thing is, that shouldn't happen. Niles said that the link to the Hivemind is a genetic component in the temporal lobe. To cut yourself off from the Hivemind involves damaging it, a mild lobotomy. But Kait didn't go through that, Niles used her to make a new Queen. So what gives?

Theory: the Locust Hivemind and the Swarm Hivemind are different.

Myrrah was in control of the Locust Hivemind. But as we see in RAAM's Shadow and Rise of RAAM that Myrrah is not controlling them. Rather, she communicates with them. In The Rise of RAAM, she asserts her dominance over RAAM that she will know if he tries to undermine her. And even though it's a Hivemind, the Locust really don't communicate with each other. As seen in written text, like the orders from Skorge to Gurst, they still require physical communication. Whereas in the Swarm Hivemind, they're all connected in a way where they can see and feel what everyone else in the Swarm is.

My belief is that the Locust Hivemind was a closed network, and the Swarm Hivemind is an open network. When the Imulsion countermeasure affected the Locust, it forced the Hivemind to evolve as well (since Imulsion was the reason why it existed in the first place). So instead of just one person controlling it, they all compel each other (but the Queen is still in charge). The only thing that bridged the old Locust Hivemind and the new Swarm Hivemind was the Matriarch, since she's the source of the Hivemind. When she died, that bridge collapsed. The only person left in the Locust Hivemind are Kait and whatever original Locust are left (like the ones in Mount Kadar, not the Scions). This is also why Reyna needed to be transformed. Her connection was in the old Locust Hivemind, so she needed to change into the Swarm for the new Swarm Hivemind.

So that's why Kait no longer has "access". The ability is there, but she needs to be transformed. I strongly suspect that Gears of War 6 will involve a subplot in which Jinn kidnaps Kait and transports her to a secret facility (New Hope 2.0) where she will be exposed to Swarm essence and slightly transformed in order to be reconnected to the Hivemind and act as a spy/assassin. Only it will backfire. But it could also be the key to winning the war.

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u/Hveachie — 4 months ago

▲ 127 r/CollapseSupport

Don't know how I can function with the world pretty much ending

I (31M) have had a complicated life. I feel pretty privileged, but it's been marred by autism, depression, anxiety, ADHD, and being overweight and gay.

I had a pretty traumatic year last year. I was a victim of emotional abuse in the workplace and was fired as a result of that. From the stress and depression, I gained over 100 lbs. in less than a year (and this was after just having lost 220 lbs.). I am now in my dream job. It pays shit, but it's worth it. I live with my mom so it's definitely easier. In that respect, I am beyond happy. I go to work every day in a good mood and come home the same way.

Despite that, my mental health is still not great. I am continuing to gain weight, I am unable to exercise. I have this dark cloud of depression in my brain and a blanket of dread over my heart. I've been trying to figure it out. A part of it definitely is because I gained so much weight. But after doing some searching I realized - I am still in this place because I am hopeless about our world.

Whenever I felt hopeless, it was usually because of a personal situation. Despite that, I never lost hope in the world. Not even during the initial Trump years (2016 - 2021) and the height of COVID (2020 - 2023). Things were bad, but there was this "it will get better, we will get past this" feeling throughout. Since 2024, that feeling has died.

I don't even know where to begin:

The techno-fascist oligarchs won. They are infiltrating every aspect of our lives with digital online I.Ds and pretty much threatening anybody who has a negative opinion about the state of the world, people like Trump, and places like America and Israel. As someone who is gay, autistic, and a far-left individual - I am terrified.
The climate crisis cannot be fixed. Scientists have been saying that the time to prevent this has come and gone. Damage done to our planet via climate change will take thousands of years to undo. It will only get worse, especially because of those techno-fascist oligarchs. There will be more floods, more storms, hotter summers, more wildfires, more climate refugees, more pandemics, and incredibly far-right responses to all of these.
The economy keeps squeezing us out of life. Everything costs something. Everything is now commodified. Things that used to be free are now costing something. Things that used to be cheap are now expensive. And because the techno-fascist oligarchs have A.I., it will be almost impossible to overcome this.

It's like, I don't know how or when - but the EVENT is happening. I just don't see a future for myself or anyone. It will be a miracle if we make it to 2050. Best case scenario? I'm free but all the enjoyable things about life are made inaccessible. Here's what can happen that I foresee:

Becoming homeless and losing everything, which in turns leads to either my premature death or being locked up - which is what they are trying to do because the U.S. prison system is legalized slavery
Getting rounded up for being autistic, gay, or just being a dissenter. I'll be placed in a concentration camp along with immigrants, people of color, queer people, disabled people, homeless and poor people, and dissenters.
I'll die in some cataclysm. There could be a civil war in America. There could be World War 3 that obviously ends in nuclear annihilation. There could be another pandemic because all the guardrails of health and research are now gone.

The worst part? No one is coming to save us. Techno-fascism is a GLOBAL trend. Pretty much every country is seeing a backsliding in democracy. This is a coordinated attack by the world's wealthy elite to institute a global oligarchy. They seriously want the world to end. They want to kill most of us. Those that are left will be their slaves.

I keep getting gaslit by people saying this will never happen, but I have yet to be proven wrong. Every single thing we are seeing in America is what I foresaw the NIGHT Trump got elected in 2016 and 2024. Nothing surprises me, except how it's permanently changed the world. Every generation feels like the world is gonna end, but this IS different. At least people in Nazi Germany knew that it was just a few select countries, and not the whole world.

And it also annoys me how people give massive cope resolutions like:

Join your local community!
Volunteer!
Partake in protests!

That is like pouring a glass of water into the ocean. It really does very little. It may have been possible 10+ years ago, but A.I. is making it impossible. We will be trapped.

Imagine a future where you are constantly being tracked and monitored by A.I., maybe even forced into getting Neuralink. Once the A.I. has decided you are a threat, they can have the police come get you or even send a small drone to kill you.

I just don't see a positive future. I don't. Things will NOT get better in my lifetime. I just don't see the point anymore. It's so hard for me to build a future for myself. One where I lose weight, find the love of my life, build a family, become a writer, etc. It's so nihilistic.

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u/Hveachie — 4 months ago

▲ 307 r/GearsOfWar

Interesting how far back the Hivemind goes

In Gears of War 4, we learn that the Locust evolved into Scions, created the Swarm, and operate as a Hivemind. In Gears 5, it's further revealed that the Locust were also connected and only the Queen can operate it. When playing these games, we get a POV of the Speaker and POV of Kait - whether she's controlling the Swarm or hallucinating. Both of these POV contain a cloudy frame in the screen.

I thought it was familiar and looked back. In Gears of War 3 DLC RAAM's Shadow, whenever Myrrah spoke to RAAM (and the Locust accompanying him), the frame would also have this cloudy effect. The way she speaks to RAAM with this visual and audio effect, and without an apparent ear piece like Delta, infers Myrrah is using the Hivemind to speak to RAAM's squad.

Which means when RAAM assassinated Kim in Gears 1, she was using the Hivemind to speak to him. "I am pleased with our progress, I understand they have located another squad."

u/Hveachie — 4 months ago

▲ 65 r/GearsOfWar

Interesting thing about Gears of War's timeline

As most people know, the epoch of Sera's calendar is marked by Emergence Day. Years before Emergence are B.E., years after Emergence are A.E., and the year of Emergence Day is 0.

There are several things that have come out that reveal what the timeline was before Emergence Day. For those like me who have the Gears of War 3 collector's edition, there are some goodies nearly all related to Adam Fenix. One is a certificate of the Octus Medal he was awarded after the Hammer of Dawn was used to end the Pendulum Wars, and the other is a revised Last Will and Testament after Elain's "disappearance."

On Adam's Octus Medal, it's dated on 5th Day of Bloom, '92. On Adam's revised will, it is dated '83 - 9 years before the Octus Medal. What else happened 9 years before E-Day? Elain's death. And several signs seen in Campaigns and MP maps show that they were in the 26th century. So E-Day was 2592. That's fascinating because Gears of War 1 takes place 14 years after E-Day, so that's 2606. What else happened in '06? The release of Gears 1.

Another interesting thing is if you adjust that to our current timeline, you'll get a sense of time on Sera.

Pendulum Wars begin - 1913
Azura constructed - around 1937
New Hope constructed - around 1942
Marcus Fenix born - 1970
Dom Santiago born - 1971
Siege of Anvil Gate - 1975
Elain goes missing - 1983
Battle of Aspho Fields - 1990
The end of the Pendulum Wars/E-Day and the beginning of the Locust War - 1992
Hammer of Dawn Strikes/Assassination of Ukkon - 1993
Evacuation of Ilima City - 2001
Fall of Ephyra - 2002
Lightmass Offensive/Operation: Hollow Storm - 2006
Lambent Battles on Vectes - 2007
Victory Day - 2009
Rescue of Fort Umson/Battle of Old Ephyra - 2034

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u/Hveachie — 4 months ago

▲ 242 r/gaybros

I would love a gay Silent Hill protagonist

As someone who loves Silent Hill and films that are like it or inspired it (like Jacob's Ladder), I think it would be a golden opportunity to have a gay protagonist.

I know - I know, it's very unlikely given our political climate (weirdly enough we probably could have gotten one 5 years ago). But I think it's something that would be worth pursuing. Especially since the sexual subtext is staggering.

I think we could have some creatures represent the repressed sexual desires manifest into pain, the "ideal" and unrealistic body goals in the gay community, the aversion to forced heterosexuality (i.e. vaginas), the fear of disease, and the overwhelming sense of dread that life will pass you by without being fulfilled by living your authentic self.

I would just love for us to have a AAA gay protagonist, the way lesbians have Ellie in The Last of Us.

u/Hveachie — 4 months ago

▲ 0 r/XboxSupport

Can I separate my account from my brother's email after 18 years?

In 2008, my older brother made my Xbox profile under his email. I've spent nearly 20 years doing painstaking progress on a bunch of games. To lose access on this would be devastating. I'd lose months of my life.

I've been wanting to do this for a while now, but I want to do it now because I'm pretty much going through a "divorce" with my brother. I'm trying to go no contact with him. Is there ANY way I can separate my account from him?

So for instance: Xbox account Hveachie is on BROTHER'S EMAIL. Can I keep my account and all my data and put it onto MY EMAIL?

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u/Hveachie — 4 months ago

▲ 3 r/selfesteem

I don't think I'm capable of accepting my appearance

I've got a whole swath of problems affecting me, but let's just focus on the physical ones.

I (30M) have been struggling with my appearance my whole life as a gay man. And it's a contributing factor as to why I've never had any romantic experience in my life (no kiss, no date, no relationship, no sex, etc.)

My weight - I have been overweight/obese my entire life. I was at my heaviest in 2019 at 465 lbs. and diagnosed with Type II diabetes. From January 2022 to March 2024, I went from 435 lbs. to 210 lbs. It was a miracle. But several horrific stressors in my life caused me to gain. In the past year alone (March 2025 to now) I have gained 100 lbs. I was 230 lbs. in March 2025 and now I'm 335 lbs. It's impossible to lose. It's already hard to be fat, but's harder when you're a gay man.

My face - I don't wanna post my face on here, but I hate it. I have a low chin and a super tall forehead. My face is too small for my head. My mouth is incredible narrow and lopsided. My nose is like a pig's. My skin is red and blotchy. Because of my face and weight, the closest celebrity I would compare myself to would be Paul Thomas Hauser. Some of you might say he's handsome, but again that's a somewhat better look than me, and also I don't want to look like that.

My hair - I've always had a tall hairline, but it wasn't until 2016 that it was brought to my attention that I was balding. I have a receding hairline and a bit of a crown. I'm in Class 3 of the Norwood scale. The thing is - I love my hair. At its peak it was full, wavy, beautiful. One of the few things that made me attractive. It feels like a cosmic joke that I'm losing the one beautiful part of myself. Since 2023 I've been getting hair loss treatment, but my derm fucked up for 3 years. Now I'm getting the full treatment (oral min. AND fin.), but I feel like the damage has been done. Shaving my hair is just not an option for me.

My penis - When I had lost weight, it was somewhat bigger. But it still wasn't what I wanted. I don't have a micropenis, but it's definitely smaller than average. I'm a bit of a grower, but it's not that big when grown. Before you say it - no I am not porn-brained. I would be perfectly content with a 5 inch. peen. I don't need 8 inches. But it's hard enough for a man that's unattractive as me, especially as a gay man. There is no hope for me dating because the two things gay men ask for are face and dick pics. And this is also devastating because it's one of the few things I cannot change. You can lose weight, get plastic surgery, get a hair transplant - but you can't make your dick grow other than losing weight (which still isn't much).

Before you comment, please read this:

There is more to life than being attractive. Yes, I know. And I do have other things in my life. But I want this. I want to like how I look. I want to be desired. I want to be that guy that everyone (men AND women, strangely) find attractive. I want to make heads turn. I want people to approach me. I want to be someone's first choice. And I also want to have my pick of a partner. My standards are not high, but I do have standards. I'm not going to settle for a man I find unattractive just because I am scared of being alone. It will just create bitterness.
See a therapist. I already am. I have seen two therapists in the past 9 years. Honestly it doesn't do me any good. So much of therapy is acceptance. I can accept reality, but I can't accept my feelings about it. I know I'm fat, ugly, bald, unattractive. I know this. But it makes me want to cry and scream that I am stuck in this body. You ever feel like a caged animal? That's what I feel all the time.
Delete your social media. Social media has little to do with this. Most people in this world are decent looking. There are a ton of men in my every day life that I think are at worst okay looking, mostly decent looking or even cute, and occasionally movie-star hot. And as a gay man, it's especially hard. I went to World Pride in D.C. last year. For every one ugly gay like me there were 10 hot, hot, hot InstaGays. I go outside and see a hot guy, and glimpse myself in a reflection, and I want to run and hide.
Go to the gym. I have tried. I cannot. Not only can I not force myself to love it, but I have never been comfortable with gyms. I don't like working out with other people. I don't like people watch me work out. I also don't like working out with regular gym guys who are so unobtainable hot. I make myself feel worse every time going to the gym, it ends up being a waste of money.
Shave your head and accept your baldness. No. Not only do I love my hair, but I know I will look horrendous shaved. And again, I have a problem with accepting my feelings about how I look. I am saving up for a hair transplant in Turkey. It will be one long, expensive, humiliation ritual but it will help a bit. I feel like people who give this are bald guys who thought they had no choice in saving and restoring their hair. Cope harder.
If you can't change these things, then just accept who you are and move on with your life. I cannot. I can accept reality. And I know - acceptance doesn't mean you have to LIKE it. But acceptance can breed complacency. And acceptance doesn't change the fact that I am stuck with these shitty genes and I live in a superficial world. A good comparison to how I would feel is a federal judge ordering someone to prick you with a needle all day for the rest of your life, and people tell you to just accept it. Would you?

I just feel broken hearted and hopeless. Why could I be beautiful? Why couldn't I? If God exists he has a fucked up sense of humor. I could have been beautiful. A different sperm, a different egg, a different configuration of genes. My brother got those. He's handsome, skinny, full head of hair. I just feel unable to accept my feelings about it.

u/Hveachie — 4 months ago

▲ 1.1k r/Hungergames

There's been a lot of talk of Suzanne doing another book on the 1st Quarter Quell since there was quite a bit of lead up to it in SOTR, especially regarding Plutarch's story. Very likely Plutarch will be 16 years old and a mentor to one of the tributes.

Anyway - I always found the idea of the 1st Quarter Quell hysterical. Imagine your district voting for you to die, only to come back a winner when they thought you were never coming back.

u/Hveachie — 5 months ago

▲ 6 r/navy

Full transparency: I (30M) am not in the Navy. Apologies for a glaring lack of knowledge of the Navy, on a subreddit for those who serve.

I am writing a historical fiction that's inspired by the numerous attempts by the U.S. Navy to discharge homosexual sailors, the main two inspirations being the 1919 Newport sex scandal and the 1981 "Friend of Dorothy" investigations. Supposedly straight rogue Navy personnel, private investigators, and NIS operators would honey trap gay enlisted personnel by seducing and performing sex acts on them.

As a gay man, while persecution of LGBT people and discharge for military personnel is a very serious subject matter - the story is intended to be a comedy (taking the piss at idiotic homophobes). My story is essentially a sex comedy about current and discharged gay sailors who are trying to protect each other and also exact revenge by intentionally seducing the undercover investigators and having the most ridiculous, insane gay sex before sending them on a wild goose chase with false leads.

At this point, my story is taking place at Naval Base San Diego in 1997-1998, with an epilogue in 2011. An over-looming presence in the story is "Don't ask, don't tell" (DADT).

If there are any current/former LGBT Navy personnel on here that served in the 90s, I had a couple of questions:

Were you always worried about getting found out?
Were you found out? Were you discharged? If so, how did they find out and what happened (what was the process of the investigation, discharge, aftermath of being discharged, etc.)?
Under DADT, was homosexual conduct a dishonorable discharge? What would happen to you in the 1990s if you were discovered to have been queer?
If you were discovered to be a homosexual, did the Navy try to get you to name names? Did you? And if you did, what was their offer to get you to cooperate?
Did NCIS handle homosexual investigations in the 1990s? If so, did you ever have an encounter with the NCIS (not undercover) investigating homosexuality? What was it like?
Did you have other gay Navy friends/boyfriends during DADT? If so, how did you communicate/hang out/date?
How did you approach people in the Navy who you suspected of being gay and wanted to befriend or bed? (i.e. are you a friend of Dorothy's?)
Did you ever have an encounter with an undercover agent trying to investigate you and others for homosexuality?

I'm willing to answer questions, and thank you.

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u/Hveachie — 5 months ago

▲ 1 r/Hairtransplant

So sorry if this kind of post floods this subreddit.

I (30M, American) have made the decision to get a hair transplant. It was around 2016 (when I was 21) that it was brought to my attention that I had a receding hairline. Not too long after, using my phone camera, I saw I was crowning, too.

I was an idiot and didn't think of getting hair treatment until 2023 when I saw just how bad my crown was after doing the two mirror trick. My dermatologist at the time was an idiot because she only gave me oral min. Didn't realize until this past year you also need oral fin. I'm on that now, but it means I spent three years on a treatment that still resulted in hair loss. At this point, in 2026, I would say I'm a 3V on the Norwood scale.

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It's depressing because I'm kinda an ugly guy, but the one feature that was good and I got compliments on was my hair. People, especially women (not that it matter, bc I'm gay), loved how full and luscious it was. It's still got some, but it's thinning. It's causing me a lot of distress. I'm ready to take the plunge and get a hair transplant.

So the question is - what are first steps?

Do I need to consult my dermatologist even though I plan on getting treatment internationally? Like how do I begin this journey? Do I just research until I find an actual good doctor in Turkey - one that preferably has an all-inclusive package of airfare, hotel, transport, etc.?

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u/Hveachie — 6 months ago

▲ 3 r/Hairtransplant

Disclaimer - I do NOT want to hear "own it! who cares?" about being self-conscious. It sucks when people look at you, talk about you, make fun of you. Especially if you're somebody like me. Also, if you aren't going to be sympathetic - do NOT comment. "Tough love" doesn't work on me.

I'm seriously considering getting a hair transplant. I have thick hair, medium-length (to my shoulders). I have a receding hairline, the front part of my hair is thinning, and I have a bit of a crown. I have been on Oral Min. for 3 years now, and Oral Fin. for several months now.

As a gay man, I have a lot of body issues. I'm fat, got a meh face. The one good thing I had going for me was my hair, but now that's going. From what I've seen, the hair transplant works and isn't THAT expensive for what it is (a round trip, intense procedure, possible hotel stay + aftercare coming in around $4k).

I have yet to even start my journey for HT, other than the fact that I want it. However, I struggle with two things.

1. I'm from Missouri. I can fly out of my local airport to O'Hare, and thankfully O'Hare has direct flights to Turkey and back. However, when coming back from my procedure - I will have to be at the airport in Turkey for at least 2/3 hours, get on a 10-11 hour flight, have a 1 - 4 hour layover in Chicago, and then fly home 2 more hours and stand in line for my luggage.

Again, I do not want to hear anything about "oh you will never see those people again!" I don't think I can stomach being freshly hair-transplanted in planes and heavily populated airports for 20+ hours. Like I almost get upset thinking about how embarrassing it is and the stares. Yes, I know I will probably never see any of these people again. And I know I will not be the only guy getting a hair transplant coming home from Turkey, but it still sucks. Is there seriously NO WAY to hide any of it? It's like a walk of shame that lasts an entire day.

In June 2025, I went to D.C. for my 30th birthday. On my actual b-day, I got pneumonia. When I flew back from D.C. to Chicago, I had about 2/3 hour layover. In that time, I think my flight moved gates 8 times. I am not joking. I had to go from one end of O'Hare to another. I was sick as a dog and couldn't breathe. If I have to go through that again, but looking like Pennywise with my bulging head and punctured follicles, I may self-immolate.

2. I work the service desks at a library. That means I am on the floor pretty much all day. I can save up SOME time off, but it will take weeks if not months for the initial "wounds" of the HT to go away. I will look red and swollen for a while. I deal with members of the community all the time.

I don't want weird looks or comments. Same goes for my coworkers. My bald spot and hairline is pretty noticeable. Like people know what my scalp looks like. Even if I didn't look like a tomato, they're gonna wonder why I suddenly have hair follicles. How do you handle an extremely public-facing job post-HT?

There is no amount of "owning" it. It fucking sucks. We shame men for balding, but then they're the butt of a joke for getting HT. Like it's an admission of insecurity.

Kindness will be appreciated. I know that's hard to find on Reddit, but just don't bother if you're posting a snarky comment just to get upvotes.

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u/Hveachie — 6 months ago

▲ 38 r/GearsOfWar

(Disclaimer: any anti-Gears 4/5 fans don't bother commenting unless you want an actual discussion instead of just saying "Gears post-3 sucks lolll")

Before Gears 5 came out, it was obvious that Kait was Myrrah's granddaughter, and the Swarm were targeting her because they need her body to act as their Queen so that they can grow as a species. I honestly thought Gears 5 would end sort of like Hereditary, with Kait assuming the role as Queen.

The series post-Gears 5 is not over. The developers have said that what happens in Gears of War: E-Day will affect the series story moving forward. What that might be is uncertain. But I do think the series is chronologically reaching an end (nothing more gets added after Gears 6, but there could be prequels like E-Day).

As we have seen in Gears 1, 2, and 3: you cannot kill the Locust. And that's accurate to most genocides. You can kill 99% of the targeted population, and you still wouldn't be able to kill all of them. It's just not possible, there will always be survivors. I believe the Mount Kadar lab genetic research that Del pulled in Gears 5 will hold the answer to stopping the Locust Swarm. Especially since the reason why they're still alive is a genetic evolutionary mechanism designed in them by Samson.

Queen Reyna is the new antagonist, except it's not her. Her body is being controlled by Myrrah whose consciousness has survived in the hivemind. If they could destroy Myrrah's consciousness, could the subsequent Queens have agency in how they lead the Horde? I think so. I think Gears 6 will be about how you can never truly vanquish your enemies. In your attempts to do so, it keeps wars going on. In addition, the populations of warring factions typically do not want war. It's the leaders who have something to gain. If it were up to the people, many would not war. Myrrah has a vendetta against humans who stole her life.

I believe the key to stopping the Horde will be eliminating Myrrah's consciousness and assuming role as Queen. Otherwise, they Horde will continue to evolve and exist. Kait still has her powers. Her ability to tap into the hivemind is still in her brain. It's just her connection to the Swarm via the Matriarch was severed. Samson said himself that being a Queen can be consensual (like Myrrah), or forcefully incorporated into the hive (like Reyna). The final boss will be Kait eliminating Myrrah from the hivemind. The Locust Swarm will continue to exist. Kait, being a human raised by humans and saw all the good humans can do will take it upon herself to show the Locust Swarm this way, that they could maybe co-exist. It wouldn't be a super happy ending, but it would be an interesting one that has a profound message.

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u/Hveachie — 6 months ago