u/Ilovehamcroissants

Went to buy more Fugglers for my son and spotted these and I couldn't stop sniffing them

Oof ok so where do I start? I'm gonna try to add as much context as possible without making this a long ass post. I wanted to add more text screenshots but I'm not allowed no more than 20 so I tried to fit in what I thought could provide enough details.

During the beginning of February this guy had asked for my number while I was with my son and I had told him I couldn't because I wasn't interested in dating at the moment. I had been single for 5 yrs and I felt it was best to prioritize my son and at the same time I had given up on looking for my person.

Let me add that before he asked for my number we'd see each other around town. We'd always stare at each other and there was always this magnetic attraction.

You'd think I would've given this guy my number right away after knowing all that but tbh I was overthinking everything. The what ifs. What if he ends up regretting being with a single mom. Maybe he can do better maybe he's better off being with someone who doesn't have kids?

Well that night after I didn't give him my number I was beating myself up for not doing so. I kept thinking shoot! I really feel drawn to this guy and I could tell he feels the same way. So I posted on AskMen how would a guy feel if a girl went back and asked him for his number after she said no. Lots of men chimed in. Some said there was no way they'd give her a second chance. Others said they would and that they'd be willing to understand if the girl had a good reason why she said no the first time.

I went back to the same spot where he asked for my number. For almost two weeks I would pass by the gym he worked out at. Til one night I spotted him inside and he noticed me. There was a girl asking for donations outside so I made conversation with her hoping he'd come out. Well within a couple of minutes he comes out and says hi to me and I took the opportunity to shoot my shot this time and asked if he still wanted my number. He said yes and that he had been hoping to run into me again to ask for my number because he could tell I was debating about it that night I said no since I was giggling too much and I kept giving him a flirty look. Which he wasn't wrong about at all.

Anyway this was on a Thursday Feb 12. That night after I gave him my number he texted me telling me he wanted to see me Tuesday which would be Feb 17. I didn't want to think much of it or feel entitled to a Valentine's date but there was a part of me that was thinking it would've been nice for him to take me out on a date.

The day of the date came and everything went well. I told him everything how I made a post on reddit asking for advice. I told him the reason why I rejected him the first time. He reassured me that I had nothing to worry about that my son wasn't an issue. That he knew what I came with and that it didn't stop him from asking for my number. He even talked about wanting kids of his own. Now I didn't really like that idea because I always said I'm one and done. But I thought hey maybe if this guy shows me he's consistent and I feel confident enough then maybe one more kid wouldn't hurt.

Even before we went out on a date I noticed his communication was slow. He'd take 6-8 hrs to reply back but I didn't want to sabotage this and thought maybe he really is busy. After the first few days of talking and going on our first date. The texts kept prolonging. He'd take 16 hrs, 24 hrs, more than 24 hrs to text back. That's when I started getting suspicious but I didn't want to assume without getting an explanation.

He told me that he had a really busy schedule because he'd go in to work around 12am and come out at 9am and then after work he'd hit the gym and run errands before starting on his side hustle which he start around 2pm or 3pm sometimes earlier and wouldn't finish until 8pm sometimes because he had 8-10 stores. He has his own business where he distribute convenience stores like liquors and 7-11 with merchandise.

I frequent one of the stores that he distributes merchandise to and I had asked the owner about him since I always stopped by to conversate with him and knew him for a while.

He told me that he knew who he was and that he once came in with a boy around my son's age. He even gave me the correct description of the car he drove. Showed me the business card with his name on it.

I confronted him about it but he denied it. He even convinced me that the store owner was jealous and making stuff up. Because I had previously told him that he'd always flirt with me and would ask for my number and ask if he could take me out for dinner and would tell me how he got excited everytime he'd see my face. But I never paid attention to him because I wasn't interested in an older man in his 50's.

Anyway I didn't press the issue anymore after that. I thought yeah maybe he is making shit up.

Well besides the prolonged replies. He also stood me up on dates...like 2 or 3 xs. We'd make plans to meet up at a certain time and he never showed up never texted me to let me know he wasn't going to make it. Until I'd start to confront him about it and then he'd apologize and said that he got caught up with work and that it was so busy he didn't have time to let me know.

I was already getting fed up with everything because it was the same shit again and again. So I went off on him telling him I couldn't do this anymore and to come clean if he had a girl. Of course he decided to end things because he was tired of me accusing him of things he wasn't doing.

The breakup happened on April 19 but the following days after that we were still texting each other here and there telling each other that we missed each other...I was in denial despite there being so many obvious signs. I made myself believe that maybe I pushed him too much too soon. That maybe that's why he wasn't making time to see me because he was looking at other options but didn't have the balls to tell me how he felt about me now.

I was feeling distressed I was spiraling because now I really lost him...so I told him that it was better if we kept it as friends I even suggested being FWB but he said that it would only make it harder for us.

Around April 29 or 30 he phone calls me and we talk for a while. After hanging up he tells me that he misses me and he missed hearing my voice. I thought omg yes maybe there's a possibility we might be able to workout things again. I still had a lot of feelings for him and couldn't get him off my mind despite everything.

MAY 1 Im passing by the gym when I see him come out with a girl. I immediately noticed her silhouette matched the same of the girl I had seen in his car. I was stunned I didn't know what to say or do. It took me a while to decide whether to approach or not. But I ended up going up to her and asking if she was his gf. I didn't come at her aggressive or anything like he claims I did. She just smirked at me and laughed and said...umm why?? And then proceeded to get into the car. Meanwhile he was telling me..."What do you want? Leave."

I didn't know what to do. I was hurt so I phoned up my friend and told her everything. Since I don't have Facebook or IG. We searched up on her phone for his socials. We didn't find much because they were all private except for his X account. We were able to see some of his replies and in some of them he mentions his son and how his son would win a grown person in a debate. Another comment he talks about how even with a busy schedule he can maybe squeeze some time to cheat on his wife.

That's when we were like ok we have to find out everything about this guy!

We searched him up on Spokeo, White Pages, Tru People search. Trying to find out who he lived with and trying to solve the puzzle.

I had given up on the search. I figured what good does it do if I already know who he is.

MAY 17 My friend messages me saying she saved one of the numbers that appears under one of the person's name who lives in the same house as him that comes up online. And that she kept getting her suggested on Facebook on people you may know and that she had pictures with a guy that looked like him. She sent me the pictures to confirm if it was him and sure enough it was

They had pictures with their two boys. Pictures from 2014 when they had their first boys baby shower.

On her page there were posts about forgiving infedility about how no matter what you do for him nothing you do will make him change.

This wasn't the girl I had seen him coming out of the gym with. This was the girl he had been fooling. The girl he had really been lying to.

Now it's not certain if they're still together because according to my friend her recent pictures are only pictures of herself. We don't know if they're on and off.

I want to reach out and tell her everything but I don't know if I'll only be adding more salt to the wound. I don't know if he'll retaliate out of spite. If he's willing to deny his kids who knows what he can be capable of doing.

All these feelings that I still had for him faded after finding out he's a worse POS than I thought he was.

It's been more than two weeks since we stopped dating and I can't stop myself from messaging him. He no longer wanted the relationship because he was too busy for a relationship but turns out he had someone already.

I can't bring myself to block him I just can't do it. And we only dated for almost 3 months but I fell for all his future faking. I've never felt or acted this way before for a guy

At one point I'd even joke to him that someone probably put a spell on me because I was always strict about never dating again and hadn't dated in 5 years. I claimed I'd never fall for a guy again and the day I saw him we were instantly drawn to each other. It was magnetic id feel a pull towards him

He'd laugh when I'd tell him that and be like well my sister can read your cards so if you want to know the truth you can go to her.

So I'm guessing he's using the fact that I brought it up to fool with me. But now I'm wondering if he's even serious.

So I recently started going to the park and at first it was only one squirrel who would get really close to me but never ate from my hand. I named her Ruby. I posted her in my previous post.

Now this one I believe is a different squirrel though because Ruby has a darker nose and her nipples are a bit more saggy

There were like 7 to 8 squirrels eating near me but I couldn't get a video cause they kept running away when I'd pull out my phone.

Haha but this lil cutie pie kept coming near me so I can give her walnuts. Haha I think she was trying to play with me because she kept sneaking up from behind me as well and would run when I'd turn my head 😆

My son went to grab one of his Fugglers and was like, "I have the perfect present for you mom. A Fuggler for Mother's Day! ❤️ Lol

There were other squirrels around but they were too skittish. This pretty girl was taking all the peanuts 🥜 😆

Lol I actually like how they shoot their shot by starting the conversation with something related to In-N-Out.

I really wish I'd give someone a chance but

I'm so fucking full tho..Now omw to watch the Michael Jackson movie.