u/Imwhatswrongwithyou

To appropriately paint the picture, he is a very blue collar 20 yr grizzled firefighter tattooed head to toe with a RBF (but heart of gold) man. We are renovating the bathroom, and by we I mean he all by himself. So at the moment we only have a tub. I am the bath taker, not him.

Because of this, I am used to my big fluffy black cats bath time idiosyncrasies but my partner is not. My cat is obsessed with chewing on your hand when you’re sitting in the tub. To the point that he reaches in and physical pulls your wet hand to his mouth. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the middle of sudsing up. He is getting that hand.

He then chews chews chews, waits for you to dip it back in the water and expects you to let him chew chew chew again. Repeat unendingly. Sometimes he is so persistent that you can’t relax 😂. He also tries to drink all the water but that’s not so surprising.

So the other night, a few moments after the cat pushes the door open to let himself into the bathroom I hear this conversation:

Oh hi Mr Kitty!

What?

What are you doing? What?

This is what you want??

A long pause (while the cat chews)

That’s weird.

You’re a weird cat.

A long pause (again while he chews)

That’s okay….I’m weird too

And then they lived happily and weirdly ever after for about 30 minutes or so until bath time was over.

Such a nothing moment but I keep laughing to myself every time I think about it.

Our sub has really exploded over the last couple of years and we think a moment of explaining the concept and heart of justgals is important so that all of our new members know who we are here!

Just gals is meant as a place for women to be celebrated and allowed to just be human. This is a place for women to feel safe to not be sexualized or objectified in anyway. We don’t come together to vent our (justified) anger at the inequality and injustice we face as women toward other genders as a whole, there are other subs for that and they are valuable.

Here we focus on the joy of being women, of getting to know women, of the wonderful enhancement that women bring to our lives. We focus on the gals.

We believe that trans women ARE women and if you don’t agree with that, this isn’t the place for you. We believe that the men and non binary folk that stand up to their peers on our behalf are deserving of a seat at our table to celebrate with us. This is not a “man hating” sub or a “women’s only” space.

That being said, any non-woman participants need to understand that this is not the place for you to challenge women. This is not the place to compare yourself to women as a way to highlight your struggles as a man. Or present whataboutisms. This is not the place for you to give your opinion on our bodies or faces or makeup or appearance at all. No we don’t need to know why you as a man disagree with a post. Or why you as a man could run faster than the Olympic level athlete in the video and we especially don’t need to know that you as a man are attracted to the woman in the video and that you would sleep with her if you could.

In this sub, a video of a woman dancing is not an invitation to sexualize her. Or a woman in a bikini. Or on a fitness pole. Or kissing her girlfriend. Or anything else.

As long as that is clear, all are welcome to join the gals at the table to celebrate along with us!

It’s cinematically compelling, the script grabs your attention immediately and it doesn’t get slow. Personally, idk if I’m supposed to but I love the character of the woman the show is about. Also it was based on a true story. Check it out if you struggle with shows keeping your attention.

The crazy part is that I totally forgot it happened until something reminded me.

(I hope this part doesn’t count as breaking the dream
sharing rule. I just want to share how it happened!) I was talking to to strangers and I touched the beautiful not-meant-to-be-touched wall behind them saying “it doesn’t matter. It’s fake, I’m dreaming so I can do whatever I want.”

Then I realized it actually was a dreams and I could do whatever I wanted! So I started making deliberate choices… so cool!

Strangely though, it still felt like choices someone would only make in a dream, almost like the choices weren’t under my control idk how to explain it I’m still just a baby 😂

Then my cat woke me up and I was so so bummed.

I think my recent VR purchase is what made the difference and it’s interesting to think about the connection. In the dream I was able to recognize it as “fake” because it felt similar to playing VR games.

Anyway, just wanted to share cause I’ve never had that experience even with trying all the things that are supposed to work and I’m super excited about it. Maybe VR was a key I didn’t expect. Hopefully it will happen again!