u/Inevitable_Mango9382

I  have been over weight but I have never been curvy. Bdd made me think if I lost weight I would finally be hot. Lost weigjt... Turns out my body is just not made to be hot bdd didnt dissapear but got worst. I still have tummy but have no ass or hips I feel manly and the cherry on top is that I found out my bf follows 3 channels of the same overweight girl who has huge curves. I feel horrible. I feel I will never be enough. I hate that he lies to me because he cant have those women

So I have battled a lot with body dismorphia because I was chubby as a kid. I thought that if I lost weight I would finally be pretty. Turns out my body is just made wrong. I wanst curvy when I was overweight so imagine now, no *ss no hips... I have suffered A LOT because of rhis and my condition specially because I dont have ass and feel manly and less than other women. Today I saw my bf is following 3 accounts of an overweight p0rn actress I say p0rn because she bassically does this. I feel so discusting and just inferior again her ass would weight the same as I do. I dont know how to act with him anymore I dont feel sexy or anything.

I have been over weight but I have never been curvy. Bdd made me think if I lost weight I would finally be hot. Lost weigjt... Turns out my body is just not made to be hot bdd didnt dissapear but got worst. I still have tummy but have no ass or hips I feel manly and the cherry on top is that I found out my bf follows 3 channels of the same overweight girl who has huge curves. I feel horrible. I feel I will never be enough.

I am going through perhaps one of the hardest trials of my life. My partner—my daughter’s father, the love of my life—is in the hospital fighting for his own life. We live in a country where the healthcare system is on the verge of collapse. I am only allowed into the hospital to drop off supplies, and even then, nothing is certain. We still don’t have a diagnosis; he has a severe infection. On top of all that, I have to keep going to work, taking care of the house and our daughter, and pretending I’m okay—but I’m at my breaking point. It’s hard for me to show vulnerability to my friends, so talking to them about this is difficult. The truth is, my partner was always my best friend—the one I’d tell these things to the only one with acces to my premium personality—and I’m terrified of losing him forever. I can’t take it anymore.

I'm redecorating my room and I want to have an altar because I feel like I need a space like that in my new room. The problem is, I'm not religious. My mom has an altar, but she believes in about 50 things at once, haha. I believe there is a God, but I don't know which one. I still pray, and I talk to Him. What could I put there for those moments? Or what would you put there?

It is so hard for me to make friends, to find someone who likes me and that shit idk if it is because I am deadly insecure and shy or just f*ing ugly and have a body made wrong.

No soy gorda, he adelgazado bastante pero no he podido bajar la barriga aun. :( ya no es grande ni nada pero no es plana y eso me hace triste me da ganas de llorar cuando me veo al espejo o veo chicas con barriga plana.

I don't think I really know myself, and I feel like I let other people's opinions dictate too much of my life. I wonder if constantly watching other people's lives—seeing what gets the most likes and all that—prevents me from discovering who I truly am: what I like, what really moves me, and so on. I also have a terrible relationship with my body; I tend to compare myself (and feel inferior) to almost every other woman on the planet. This constant comparison keeps me focused on how awful I am and stops me from valuing myself in other areas. I don't know—I don't want to delete my Instagram, but I do want to discover who I am for myself, rather than letting social media dictate it. Also how has been your experience quitting? Did u find more things about yourself?

I tend to have so much envy for girls that I think have a better body than me. I think my body is made wrong like my hips, legs and butt don't match my torso and not even in a good way (torso smaller than hips and butt) I am an inverted triangle. :( I see for example curvy girls that look good= envy I see skinny girls that look good on everything=envy... I even have this with my friends (which I so ashamed of). I don't know how to deal with it because when I get this envy, that is really often, I feel ugly outside and inside...

I have this thing where I go days doing things well in general, but then something happens and I decide to ruin everything. For example, I tend to binge eat when I feel bad. I've done everything right, but I'm stressed, and that's why I eat and eat and eat and eat without stopping. I used to do the same thing with cigarettes; now that I've been able to quit, it happens more with food, but I'm scared because I managed to lose 28 pounds and I don't want to gain it back. What do I do when I have the urge to just ruin everything? I mean, is there a cognitive way to destroy that urge to eat or smoke, or to just fall back into my bad habits?

I have this thing where I go days doing things well in general, but then something happens and I decide to ruin everything. For example, I tend to binge eat when I feel bad. I've done everything right, but I'm stressed, and that's why I eat and eat and eat and eat without stopping. I used to do the same thing with cigarettes; now that I've been able to quit, it happens more with food, but I'm scared because I managed to lose 28 pounds and I don't want to gain it back. What do I do when I have the urge to just ruin everything? I mean, is there a cognitive way to destroy that urge to eat or smoke, or to just fall back into my bad habits?

Para empezar, mi cuerpo tiene forma de triángulo invertido. Mi pecho y mis hombros son más grandes que mis caderas. Esto me parte el corazón porque, de adolescente, me diagnosticaron síndrome de ovario poliquístico, y desde entonces me he sentido como una broma de mujer. Ahora, la idea de tener forma de triángulo invertido solo refuerza este sentimiento. Mucha gente dirá: "Es el cuerpo de las modelos, las atletas, etcétera", pero no tengo el cuerpo de una modelo. Mi cintura mide 74 cm. A veces subo fotos aquí en Reddit, y no sé por qué he recibido comentarios que dicen que parezco una mujer trans. El último fue: "Se te nota el bulto". Esto me duele mucho. Siento que no soy una mujer, que no me lo merezco, y me rompe el corazón. No sé cómo afrontarlo.

No quiero la típica respuesta de "para gustos colores" porque es más el hecho de gustarme a mi misma de estar cómoda en mi cuerpo que el gustar a alguien más.