u/Intelligent_League79

I work with a wealthy Indian guy who’s a year younger than me and he’s friends with a bunch of other rich second gen Indians. All of them drop the N word constantly amongst each other. I don’t get why they think they’re cool saying it, they just look dumb as fuck. All of them talk about BMWs and Porsches that their parents paid for but they act like they worked hard for. They all say “type shit” and act 16 even though they’re all 23 years old. I’m very confused by the racist language mostly but they are very fucking annoying apart from that.

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My Indian immigrant (US citizen now) father is pro-ICE, MAGA, and pro-flock camera. I posted about this a while back but it’s just getting worse. He only watches Fox News and Sarah Gonzalez.

We had an argument yesterday about Mamdani and i mentioned how good a job he’s doing listening to people’s concerns and about the historic low crime rates that NYC has had. My dad said, “im shocked the crime is low with all the Woke protestors i wonder where they went.” I tried explaining to him that protesting is a right and that crimes related to these protests are a negligible fraction of the total crime in the city. He called Mamdani woke and a communist and he pouted like a toddler and said he “doesn’t give a shit.”

This morning I pointed out a flock camera and said that shit sucks. He said to calm down and that it’s helping catch criminals and that the CEO gave an interview saying the will never sell the data to non law enforcement people. I watch Louis Rossmann on YouTube so I know about right to repair, privacy, and the scummy things that these businesses do to make money. I tried explaining how these are tracking everyone, it’s creating a surveillance state, and it is being misused by police officers (the ones that have been caught.)

Then we talked about ICE. A US citizen in the airport terminal we were in last year in ATL just got arrested by ICE because he had the same name as a British criminal. No attempt to confirm his status or even ID the dude just immediately arrest. I just feel horrible because if they came after me, even as a US Citizen, I know my Dad would not have my back at all. He said he wants to join ICE but idk how far an unathletic middle age short guy would go in a law enforcement type job.

My Indian immigrant (US citizen now) father is pro-ICE, MAGA, and pro-flock camera. I posted about this a while back but it’s just getting worse.

We had an argument yesterday about Mamdani and i mentioned how good a job he’s doing listening to people’s concerns and about the historic low crime rates that NYC has had. My dad said, “im shocked the crime is low with all the Woke protestors i wonder where they went.” I tried explaining to him that protesting is a right and that crimes related to these protests are a negligible fraction of the total crime in the city. He called Mamdani woke and a communist and he pouted like a toddler and said he “doesn’t give a shit.”

This morning I pointed out a flock camera and said that shit sucks. He said to calm down and that it’s helping catch criminals and that the CEO gave an interview saying the will never sell the data to non law enforcement people. I watch Louis Rossmann on YouTube so I know about right to repair, privacy, and the scummy things that these businesses do to make money. I tried explaining how these are tracking everyone, it’s creating a surveillance state, and it is being misused by police officers (the ones that have been caught.)

Then we talked about ICE. A US citizen in the airport terminal we were in last year in ATL just got arrested by ICE because he had the same name as a British criminal. No attempt to confirm his status or even ID the dude just immediately arrest. I just feel horrible because if they came after me, even as a US Citizen, I know my Dad would not have my back at all. He said he wants to join ICE but idk how far an unathletic middle age short guy would go in a law enforcement type job.

Hello,

I’m a gay guy, 23M, and I work in IT in the Deep South making around $95K/year, started less than a year ago.

I live in jesusland and while I grew up here I just want to live somewhere I will feel comfortable being gay. My dream ultimately is to move to California because I’ve been and I know how epic and accepting it is.

What options do I have? The company I work for does have an office in SF. They’ve been heavily focusing and investing in their Deep South location though.

Thanks,
IL

I'm 23. keep having constant thoughts about the perceptions of gay people around me. How I'm lucky to be alive at the only point in history where a gay person could openly live their life and it be relatively normal in this country, and how even 30 years prior it would've been something too taboo to talk about.

I keep edging close to pursuing dating, but ultimately when it gets to the point of thinking about having sex, I must stop myself. I feel immense guilt number 1 violating my parents' trust by engaging in these activities. Number 2, I feel like i'm doing something wrong or bad, and I feel uncomfortable and shameful.

I perfectly content jerking off to erotica and stuff, and then continuing with my day. But the cognitive dissonance I engage in is getting harder to justify. People around me are getting girlfriends, getting married, and such. I live next to two guys who are my age and both have girlfriends. I'm sure my parents wonder when I'm going to get a girlfriend.

My Mom finds gay people disgusting, the act gross, and the image of two guys together appalling. My dad, idk what he thinks, he never talks.

I live by myself now, but I could never be openly gay because I'm not only scared of my parents and family, but I'm increasingly scared of what the world thinks of me. I'm well aware that my existence is criminal in other countries, sometimes by death. I'm also well aware that people in my state are not always very nice towards gay people.

I went on a date once and I was too scared to hold his hand in public. I don't know how to explain this but I feel deeply uncomfortable publically being gay because

- 1.) I feel like I'm on the frontier of social progress, like a company being on the cutting edge of tech, and it feels very uncomfortable.

- 2.) I'm scared of getting hate crimed, but I'm even more scared of stares and comments.

- 3.) I feel like what I'm doing is wrong.

- 4.) Commitment issues.

How do you work through all this shit?

I'm 23. keep having constant thoughts about the perceptions of gay people around me. How I'm lucky to be alive at the only point in history where a gay person could openly live their life and it be relatively normal in this country, and how even 30 years prior it would've been something too taboo to talk about.

I keep edging close to pursuing dating, but ultimately when it gets to the point of thinking about having sex, I must stop myself. I feel immense guilt number 1 violating my parents' trust by engaging in these activities. Number 2, I feel like i'm doing something wrong or bad, and I feel uncomfortable and shameful.

I perfectly content jerking off to erotica and stuff, and then continuing with my day. But the cognitive dissonance I engage in is getting harder to justify. People around me are getting girlfriends, getting married, and such. I live next to two guys who are my age and both have girlfriends. I'm sure my parents wonder when I'm going to get a girlfriend.

My Mom finds gay people disgusting, the act gross, and the image of two guys together appalling. My dad, idk what he thinks, he never talks.

I live by myself now, but I could never be openly gay because I'm not only scared of my parents and family, but I'm increasingly scared of what the world thinks of me. I'm well aware that my existence is criminal in other countries, sometimes by death. I'm also well aware that people in my state are not always very nice towards gay people.

I went on a date once and I was too scared to hold his hand in public. I don't know how to explain this but I feel deeply uncomfortable publically being gay because

- 1.) I feel like I'm on the frontier of social progress, like a company being on the cutting edge of tech, and it feels very uncomfortable.

- 2.) I'm scared of getting hate crimed, but I'm even more scared of stares and comments.

- 3.) I feel like what I'm doing is wrong.

- 4.) Commitment issues.

How do you work through all this shit?

Hello, I’m 23 and I made around $3K off options in the last month. I got lucky and I want to exit before the luck runs out. Should I invest this money in my IRA or my normal brokerage account?

For context, I’m starting a job in a couple months that pays $85K. I have an existing brokerage account with about $20K in it and an IRA with nothing contributed for the 2026 year yet. But it has a few thousand in it.

I just feel bothered by locking the money away where it can’t be accessed. Which is why I’m asking.