u/Itschxnd

I was manifesting my SP who’s an ex, decided to drop it because I started feeling like why do I have to do all this? I deserve to be loved & chosen just naturally.

I had deactivated my IG to avoid 3D

I am also on a dating app but haven’t really talked to anyone or met anyone just coz I couldn’t really vibe and I wasn’t using it actively anyways.

Today I matched with someone and we instantly clicked idk how, we just got off the call (2 hours call),
We are going on a date tomorrow & here’s the crazy part:

He works at the same company as my ex and he is also from the same hometown as my ex (this is a foreign country for both of them so it’s genuinely like wtf??)

The coincidence is crazyyyy 💀💀💀💀

I’m mentally and emotionally in a chaotic mess

How am I gonna hold a calm peaceful space for 20+ people?!!

Please give me some urgent tips or mindset advise

Update: thank you guys! The class went great, helped myself to calm down as well🫠

I really wish I could tell you how much I miss you
How much I wanna talk to you
How much I wanna just be with you
How much I wanna be around you

I’m holding myself back because I know you don’t wanna hear from me and I don’t wanna bother you or ruin your peace.

I am far from perfect but I’m real..
My feelings are always genuine
I’d never hurt you intentionally
I’d never ever cheat or lie or anything

Even now I don’t want anyone else.. I had 2 guys ask me out this week and I rejected because all I wanted was for you to ask me out on a date and idc where as long as it’s with you 🥹

You said you’d at least be friends but you don’t even talk to me at all.. not that I wanna be friends with you because I can’t view you as a friend but I wish we could start over.. I wish I had handled my emotions better and communicated better..

My foundation is also with you😭
And you’d never pick yellow candy again for sure

Now I just need to manifest my person to make this happen please guide me

I used to be so in touch with my manifestation mindset but I’ve lost touch completely lately

- This is a regional role covering APAC (so u can imagine the volume and coverage)

-For almost a year we have had no manager (basically ever since I joined)

- Role cuts and resignations has left our team down to 2. We both are super junior to be left alone in this with no manager/senior

- All the workload has fallen onto us and we are essentially doing the work of 5 people. We are struggling to keep things afloat

-I’ve been staying up till 2-3 am working and also working on weekends to try to keep up

- Having multiple breakdowns a day, daily because of the stress and workload.

-Today my mind and body have both given up. I realised we’d always be “behind” in terms of work no matter how many hours we put in because more and more things just keep coming in.

Note: I am on a contract where if I quit earlier, I’d be asked to pay back the training fees that the company paid. I’ve Asked HR how much it would be because idk, chased them twice but HR refuses to answer. Even asked to move my training to another department until the end of contract but they don’t respond.

So I went to the kitchen and my mom randomly is like “there’s a proposal for you”

I thought she was talking about some investment/business idea. But no it was a marriage proposal.

So apparently this Muslim aunty recommended her this guy for me who’s a lawyer in Australia (it’s my dream country, I’m manifesting moving there)

I’m not interested because I know he’d be Muslim. So definitely not my type.

Me: I’m not interested
Mom: just talk no harm in talking
Me: I’m not interested
Mom: then? Are u never gonna get married?
Me: I’m not, I enjoy my freedom and peace😂
*walks out of the kitchen*

Universe, I take that back coz I do wanna get married and have kids but with the man I WANT🥲

I’m laughing at the fact that does she seriously think I’d marry a Muslim?? 😂😂 after knowing how much I hate this religion, hate being associated with it. What makes her think I’d wanna continue being associated with it or have my future kids be associated with it 💀

The delusion on her end is so real..

And it was so awkward coz we never talk about such stuff. I don’t share any aspect of my personal life with her. We don’t discuss it, we don’t talk about it.

A part of me wonders if my plans to go to Australia for my masters next year is what’s triggering her coz they’d lose any little control they have left over me. They’d rather have me married and move there than by myself. But I’d rather go myself lmao

I’ve realised I might have a deep rooted belief somewhere that whenever I love someone truly, that person leaves. Whether it was my grandmother who passed away or my ex whom I genuinely loved with all my heart.

I’ve not dated anyone since because I haven’t met someone who matched that same connection we had.

But I’ve also realised that the moment a guy starts showing consistent interest in me, it’s fine as long as I’m attracted to him too and it’s just flirting.

But the moment I start catching feelings, that fear kicks in & I’d start becoming distant. Because I feel like he’d leave at some point for whatever reason so why get emotionally attached and then get hurt later you know?

I want the kind of man who’d fight for me & take a stand for me (when it comes to family, religion etc) but at the same I have this impression that it’s so rare to come across such masculine men with a spine these days.

Idek where my beliefs come from and I know they are not healthy beliefs in order to manifest what I want.

But I also don’t know how to fix it or where to start

Just last night I was like “SP manifestation doesn’t work” because my ex (whom I was manifesting) got an arranged marriage. (I guess I had that fear which did manifest)

But anyways, I had an SP from 4 years ago, we both had a crush on each other but nothing happened. I haven’t seen him in 4 years.

The past few months, I was like “it would be nice to bump into him during lunch/after work in the CBD area” (CBD area is where all the offices are in my country)

Every once in a while I’d have this thought but I didn’t think too much about it. I was over the whole past story so 0 resistance I guess.

Today I stepped out of my office building and was walking when I saw him. He saw me. He said hi and smiled. I did the same.

I was like OMG NO WAY I JUST MANIFESTED THAT!

I guess this was universe’s reminder to me that manifestation is real.. even SP manifestation.

I guess I just loved my ex so much that I had a lot of fear around him choosing his religion/parent’s choice over me & that fear manifested🥲

But all is good I’ll manifest the world’s best husband♥️

Some days it just hits me out of nowhere like..

What’s the point of life even?

Employed ones are just struggling with having to go to work and dealing with how draining it is

Unemployed ones are struggling to find a job

Is this all there is to life here? Coz sometimes I genuinely start to feel like idek why I should stay alive.

Was manifesting my relationship with him to workout for 2 years..

But in the end he chose to go for arranged marriage..

And after that I dropped it. I don’t believe in SP manifestation anymore. I blocked him everywhere so I don’t get reminded of it and feel my heart break every single time..

But I had just created a new IG account for something I’m building, and his ID popped up in suggested accounts. He looks so happy with his wife and I’m happy for him even though it broke my heart all over again..

And I honestly don’t know how to move on.
I keep myself so busy
I’m working full time
I work out at the gym
I’m juggling like 3 different side projects outside work
I hang out with my friends and family

But moments like today make me realise I haven’t moved on.. and idk if I ever will.. and there’s not a single day that goes by where he’s not on my mind at at least one point during the day.

I’ve manifested everything else in my life:
My job, my trips, etc
But when it comes to this, I just feel so ugh pathetic

I last posted here asking for advice as I was nervous about teaching my first yin class because I come from a country where people are always rushing and productivity is emphasised. I was worried they would get bored holding poses so long.

I kept each pose for 2-3 minutes
I had one student who slept 😂 I had to gently go over to wake her up after the class ended and she came over to thank me later saying “thank you, it was so relaxing I slept”💀😂

The feedback was great, they all felt super relaxed and said my voice was so gentle.

As someone who experiences presentation anxiety, this has helped build my confidence so much 🥹

Thank you for the words of encouragement and tips!♥️

Sigh I’m getting so frustrated..

when I work from home, there’s always some or the other construction noise or airplane noise.

In office there are people who are always talking super loudly on calls so definitely no peace there either.

Today is Saturday and I can still hear construction noise outside my window, shouting “hello hello” and constantly knocking on windows along the building.

There is just no where to find some quiet silence.

No matter where you go out, it’s crowded.

I’m losing my mind😭

I end up staying up late coz at least nights are peaceful but then it affects my sleep.

Idek what to do anymore 😭😭

F26

Anyone looking to meet other Desis in SG and connect? I have created a telegram group where we plan fun hangout sessions.

Let me know if you’d like to join!

Age group Ideally between 25-35 .

I am gonna be holding a 45 minutes Yin Yoga session for women at my community centre. I completed my 200H teacher training 2 years ago but never taught anyone.

I’m a bit nervous but also excited as I LOVE Yin Yoga. I am just worried if people would get bored of holding the same pose for a few minutes?

Do you have any tips for my first session?

F26

I’ve been wanting to move to Australia since I first went there back in 2023.

Ever since, moving there has become my only goal. Idk why I feel so pulled to that country.

I’m a traveller & I’ve travelled to many countries but no other country has had that effect on me.

I was also dating someone I met in Australia (not relevant anymore)

In 2025 I quit my toxic job & went on a working holiday but couldn’t find anything and came back in 5 months coz I found a new job in my home country.

I’ve also applied for skilled migration but it’s way too competitive without work experience in the relevant industry.

It’s 2026, I went to Sydney this year.

3 years and I still feel so strongly about wanting to move there, wanting to settle there, have kids there.

I just feel so stuck in my home country and honestly just feel robotic day to day. Mentally and emotionally I checked out of this county years ago. I only feel alive and actually happy when I’m in Australia 🥹

I’ve manifested a lot of things in my life but idk how to manifest this.

A crocodile was spotted in our waters(Singapore), it was caught and euthanised.

I was so shocked because one of the things I love about Australia is how they love & respect their wildlife. Your beaches have sharks yet you guys go in but you understand that it’s a risk you choose to take by going into the water.

Even if sharks attack, I’ve never seen people blaming the shark or putting them down. You just accept it as an unfortunate incident.

I feel like they could have put a gps tracker on it & put warning signs around the beach the way you guys do it. Not going to the beach until the croc has relocated itself, won’t kill people.

Water bodies are HOME to marine animals. Going into their home and killing them is crazy.

“Put down in a humane way” THE PARADOX😭

Update: wow these comments have been so insightful & enlightening tbh! I had no clue.. whenever I went to Australia I always heard of a completely different view (what I shared) but then again I guess my source are biased.

F26 and I hate how fake I have to be at home

For context, The country I live in is super hot, humid & extremely crowded. When I take train to work in the morning, I’m already sweating because it’s packed & they barely have the aircon working.

Once u step out, it’s the same. It’s only cool in the office and at home if u turn on the aircon.

For this reason, I’ve started wearing a tank top and shorts to sleep at night. But when I wake up, I have to change into something else because I can’t walk around my parents like that? It’s so fucked up.

So I literally have to change into something else just to go to the shower.

They are fine with me wearing skirts as long it’s not above my knees but I can’t wear sleeveless or shorts (not even around the house).

I wear it outside anyways, I just don’t wear it around them.

Today I was so frustrated by the heat, so this morning I didn’t wear a cardigan over my sleeveless top. My mom saw but didn’t say anything.

When I came back after work, my dad was home and mom was like “what kinda clothes are u even wearing?”

Like wtf is the problem? It was just a sleeveless top. Not like some deep neck scandalous crop top & she’s a freaking converted Muslim. Yet she’s the one always going on and on about religion, commenting on my clothes, my food choices, etc like oh my goodness.. on the other hand my dad is so chill and he doesn’t say anything to me. We always have conversations about general stuff or work stuff & he’s just accepted that I don’t associate with this religion.

I hate how I can be myself anywhere EXCEPT at home.

I pray the man I marry is my “home”, around whom I can just 100% be myself🥹

If they ever ask me why I’m so against marrying a Muslim I’d literally be like “for once, I wanna be accepted for who I am instead of judged & controlled ”

F26

There was this house owner (M30) when I was living overseas & renting a room at his place. I was mentally in a very bad place that time & also lonely because I had quit my toxic job and moved to this country where I knew no one. I had no friends there. This was last year.

I was really physically attracted to him and he was too. We made out a number of times but I was

a virgin because I believed in celibacy at that time (I’ve had relationships but never had sex) . He tried to makeout with me multiple times even times when I didn’t consent & he would constantly try to coerce me into sex but I always refused. Honestly now I look back and idk what stopped me from moving out of that place.

I had already realised how manipulative he was when he would only come to me when he needed something from me & basically he would always try to take advantage of my kindness and helpful nature.

Anyways all that finally ended when I found a new job back home and came back. This was around May last year. We were in 0 contact since then.

In Jan this year he called me but I was overseas on holiday so I couldn’t really talk but I knew he wanted something from me otherwise he wouldn’t call me. So I didn’t bother calling back.

Today he called me in the morning, I was busy at my work. So I called him after and I literally regret. I was just being a decent human being. I thought he might have changed but no. He said he might be coming to my country and if I wanted to meet. Then he started saying I could always stay at his place if I came to that country again & I said yea as if I’d trust u. But it felt like he’s just offering because he wanted me to offer him to stay at my place when he’s here (I’d never) and plus I live with my family anyways. So now I feel like he only called me to see if he could get a free stay while he’s here.

What happened next was worse, he asked me if I had sex with anyone until now and I was like wtf? First of all it’s none of his business even if I had. And then he said

“YOU’RE LYING, I COULD FEEL IT THAT YOU HAVE, A MAN CAN TELL”

And I was just caught so off guard coz wtf??? He’s never even touched me there so idk wtf he’s talking about and I was actually a virgin.

He just didn’t believe that someone could stay single and not engage in casual sex? Like it’s not my thing. I’m not judging anyone who does, whatever suits u, it’s just not my cup of tea.

I only had my first time like a few months after I had left that country, and it was with someone I’ve been in love with for 3 years who was also my bf and we had genuine feelings and connection. He was the only one I’ve done it with because I wanted to, only with him.

I feel so disgusted for even letting a guy like that touch me. He’s literally a womaniser. He has no female friends because he literally objectifies & sexualises any girl over 18.

I love travelling solo because it’s so peaceful and convenient and he said “there’s no way u travelled alone, u definitely would have had some guy with u”

like wth???

I’m literally crying right now because I feel so horrible about myself 😭 I know his idea of me is not who I am because he doesn’t know anything about me. But idk why I’m so affected by it😭😭😭